I swear, I swear I tried HARD to be that "neutral" part of the fandom that everyone exclaims is the best instead of getting involved in unnecessary drama.
The only way to be neutral in this damn fandom is to not like Zutara and being indifferent to Kataang, because otherwise, you'll get eaten alive.
I couldn't go into any KA video that I found cute because there would be a group of annoying rats announcing to everyone how much they dislike ZK and how KA is a thousand times superior; imagine liking both, liking ZK more than the other, seeing a funny KA video and wanting to see the comments, only to see a whole debate section about why the Zutarians should be executed.
Every time I tried to interact with the KA part of the fandom, all you could see were comments insulting your ship, and incidentally, insulting those who ship it (that is, including you).
Convincing yourself that maybe Zutara shippers are probably a toxic community and you decide to be "the cool one" or "the exception", and not make a fucking difference because the problem they had was not the intensity or toxicity of the community that they complain so much about, they are simply pissed off that you don't prefer their ship.
"If you ship Zutara, you are a <r word>"
"If you ship Zutara, I automatically hate you"
"If you ship Zutara, you hate Katara"
And the list goes on and on.
And already tired, you decide to explore that toxic community that everyone talks about, only to discover that Zutarians are only as atrocious as they are described, when you try to insult a whole group of people without any consequences.
Imagine entering that community, believing they are just like the other ones and realizing that no matter what ships you show them, no matter what opinion you give, no matter what criticism you offer, they won't jump on you to make you retract your words. If they know you messed up, they'll give you a gentle pat and explain why the stupid thing you said was wrong, without insults or mockery. Just a community that accepts you as part of it and offers you charity and constructive support.
I have never had a problem with a Zutara shipper IN MY LIFE, because unlike kataangers, they don't care about what you ship, they don't notice that you uploaded a video of your favorite ship and decide to give you the death penalty for it.
Yes, yes, those who write "Zutara better," "Zutara should be endgame," "And still she chose Aang" on KA videos are annoying, I know, people have told me that too. It's just that I don't throw myself on the floor and clutch my chest as if it were the worst insult that anyone has ever said to me in my life, nor do I create accounts to incite hatred and harassment just because a 12-year-old didn't like my ship. I just ignore it or respond with a simple "both are good" "no need to compare" and the discussion ends right there, because practicing courtesy is clearly not in the k//taanger dictionary, and Zutarians don't have the complexity that the world owes them something because their ship is canon, so don't insist on fighting.
Obviously, if you respond to the "zutara is better" comment with "cry about it, fucking 《slur》" you're going to start a fight, smartass. And that person will have to respond with the same violence; nobody is harassing you, you're getting yourself into that situation.
And that's why avoiding fights with Katangers is much harder, because it doesn't matter if I want to apply that blessed courtesy, it doesn't matter if I respond to the comment "Zutara is not canon, you delusional btch" with "I only ship for fun, I'm not looking to fight 😞" because the average response I'll get is a testament of pure hate even when I can't bend down any further to kiss their feet.
I cannot be neutral, or "make a difference" if my mere existence makes you foam at the mouth.