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they-might-be-ultramen

My roommate just showed me this and I’m gonna die

#um?????

anxietyproblem

zero-two-ten

this site has one setting

jenroses

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record. And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons.

kittydorkling

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

bogleech

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

jenroses

excuse me, I know how to remove a reblog from the chain if I wanted to.

mple-selhnhh

What part of your morning routine takes the longest?

Finding the will to live.

#me

otherwindow

a dim and grim fantasy tavern but the drinks are very colourful and fruity with little umbrellas & curly straws

#lotr #yes

slowheart

me, as a spy: ok gotta be quiet gotta be sneaky my joints: *crack*

#ME

parrishsrubberplant

The last three digits of your current follower count is the Dewey Decimal Classification subject on which you must immediately give a 15-minute presentation.

How would you do?

smallnico

#Design and decoration of structures and accessories #umm #time to take my skill of pulling knowledge out of my ass to the test I guess

valtsv

#ME

bunjywunjy

Bunjy, do you have any fun/cursed facts about sturgeon? They are my favourite fish

sturgeon are probably responsible for most of history’s “lake monster” sightings around the world! these giant fish do sometimes cruise around just under the surface, and from a distance their primordially scaly spines can look like some kind of fantastical serpent, or something.

“STAY OUT OF THE WATER”

these freshwater fish are generally huge, sure, but some individuals have been recorded as north of 20 feet long, which is frankly ridiculous.

add that to the fact that a single sturgeon can live for more than a century and you’ve got a lake-monster hypothesis!

(or sometimes “jesus christ how did a shark get into the Great Lakes?”)

sirius170103

Holy fucking Jesus, that thing could eat me whole and still have room for dessert!

bunjywunjy

WELL LUCKILY(?) FOR YOU, sturgeons of all sizes are bottom feeders that rely on a diet of shellfish, crustaceans, and tiny fish that they vacuum up out of the muck. they don't even really have teeth- a sturgeon couldn't bite you even if it wanted to.

and when I say "vacuum" I am, perhaps, speaking more literally than you are comfortable with! behold, the mouth of the sturgeon:

they literally just cruise along the bottom and Hoover up anything remotely edible that seems like it might fit in their face! HUGELY uncomfortable to look at, but not dangerous.

*muffled wet slurping noises*

yessirree, if a sturgeon wanted to do you in it would have to resort to beating you to death with its mighty tail, like god intended.

(which might happen if you try to harass a big one! these things have a SEVERE amount of muscle, and a sturgeon legally can be counted as a blunt weapon)

sploosh

virtualways

odin-n-out

Decadent

as-warm-as-choco

i rediscovered the purpose of this site

#mood

homo-sex-shoe-whale

What do you think of trans women? Personally as a trans woman I think there are no words in the english language to describe how amazing we are

I think you're great and trans women are always the best at choosing names??? I met a trans woman once whose name was Aphrodite. Straight up. Killer name if you ask me

homo-sex-shoe-whale

More details about Aphrodite: I met her and her girlfriend in line for an LGBT club the Christmas before the pandemic. She was so stunning. She was tall, her bone structure was like that of a Greek statue, and she had this gorgeous long curly hair that just looked so healthy and shiny. I've never seen healthier looking hair in my life. Her makeup was subtle but unmistakably glittery. She approached me to tell me that my eyeshadow was gorgeous and asked me where I got it. Inside the club she then told me I was the most beautiful woman on earth and vanished into the night.

joyflameball

I don’t think you just met a trans woman I think you met the actual fucking Aphrodite

homo-sex-shoe-whale

And I will never forget her.

joyflameball

This means Aphrodite is a trans woman

homo-sex-shoe-whale

She's Latina too since I'm Brazilian and this happened near my hometown!

Aphrodite also spoke just.. so calmly. Like she knew without a shadow of a doubt that eventually everything was gonna be ok. She gave me a feeling of peace.

When she told me I was beautiful she didn't just go "OMG YOU'RE SO PRETTY". Instead, she approched me at the bar inside the club, looked at me for a few seconds, smiled fondly, twirled a piece of my hair not flirtatiously, but like a grandmother who hasn't seen their grandchild in ages, and said to me in Portuguese "você é linda de parar o coração" (aka, "you're beautiful enough to stop a heartbeat"), gave me another smile, and then disappeared- never to be seen again.

rat-of-the-sky-on-fire-deactiva

No you literally met Aphrodite

lucky-fallen-angel

If y'all don't think Aphrodite wouldn't come down as a trans Latina to make all the others swoon and try to step up their games, you don't know Aphrodite...

#bless #mythology