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About: Jewish, Libra, Slytherin, INFJ, College Graduate, Genderqueer, They/Them Pronouns. This is a random blog filled mostly with reposts about subjects that interest me like science, animals (mostly cats), taxidermy, queer stuff, ect.

[vet-and-wild]

Hello! I want to start by saying I understand if you don't want to answer this/ are unable to! I have a general exotic animal medical-ish question. For context, I'm a veterinary assistant (in school to become a tech) and work in a small animal general practice hospital that occasionally sees rats and rabbits for surgery (usually spay and neuters). We've also done a few mass removals from rats and they generally do well and recover uneventfully. However, we've had one or two patients who just won't leave their incisions alone and repeatedly chew them open. My question is, what is the best way to prevent a rat from being able to reach and chew out it's sutures without impending its movement? We're already tried making shirts and tiny e-collars with paper cups and are still stumped. Thanks!

Yeah rats are pretty notorious for messing with stitches. X ray film is great for making e collars for tiny creatures. It's flexible enough to shape it but firm enough that it wont just bend or get ruined with water. Be VERY careful with e collars though. Some rabbits won't eat, and I've seen some rats suffocate even when the e collar isn't tight. Some of them seem to get so stressed they legit get cyanotic. You can also grind the incisors down to the gums since they'll grow back. It doesn't stop them from eating and really doesn't hurt them as long as you don't irritate the gums. I've started doing this more after having a rat in an e collar drop dead, but I also used e collars on rats a ton of times with no issue. Sometimes we will crush up a tablet of metronidazole in water and put the paste around the incision because it's super bitter and nasty. Pain control is the other big thing. If they are in pain they will mess with it.

[what-will-they-do-next]

Thanks for the quick response! These are definitely some tricks that I'll keep in mind and bring up to my coworkers if we have any tricky rat patients in the future! It's not a common problem for us but when it's come up we've just been stumped and I thought it couldn't hurt to ask someone with more experience!

[justsomeguycore]

i’m biased obviously but i kind of think we shouldn’t pathologize fear of driving. like unlike relationship building and hygiene and things like that, driving is nowhere near a natural part of life and i don’t think it’s irrational to fear doing it. people also have different skill sets and abilities, some people will just simply never be able to feel safe operating a car like in the same way that some people will never feel safe performing surgery on someone. that’s an extreme example but you see what i’m saying, like, we have normalized driving as something that everybody does so it seems like a symptom to not want to do it. but driving is not actually “normal” in the sense of what is innately required for a healthy human life vs what is a learned expectation ykwim

[willowcrowned]

Maybe it’s just because I’m Jewish but I do truly believe that life gets ten times better when you learn to complain cheerfully

[willowcrowned]

I think a part of it is that it lets you acknowledge that something sucks, which is actually really good in a culture that wants us to pretend that everything is fine and we’re soldiering through all the time. Like, no, my grocery bag breaking and spilling all over the floor is not fine. I’ve had a long day and I’m really upset and on the verge of tears because I can’t handle one more thing and pretending like it’s fine only means breaking down later.

But if you let yourself complain, if you let yourself swear terribly and creatively, and you stare down at the bruised vegetables like they’ve personally disappointed you, and you make yourself smile because this is really just so, so stupid, you feel a little better. There’s a power to acknowledging that something sucks and making yourself feel better anyways. There’s a power to going “and THEN my bag broke, and it’s like—seriously? my day was bad enough” and doing it with a smile.

You shouldn’t have to pretend things are fine when they aren’t. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to smile through things that make you feel terrible. But if you can make yourself laugh by staring down at some strawberries that have decided to revolt, and give them a lecture on why they’re just terrible, really, and that makes you smile—then maybe that’s a good thing.

[sirfrogsworth]

I tried.

Again.

Misinformation is also a virus and our country is just as infected with it as it is with COVID-19.

Bunk thinks he is perfectly innocent publicly posting his bad information. That he is not harming anyone. But he has influence over his loved ones and his friends and maybe even strangers that see his nonsense.

He is a potential superspreader of misinformation.

And that is dangerous.

It's clear he did almost no research. It's clear he is basing his opinions on scraps of information he heard god knows where. And yet he speaks with authority and freely spreads his thoughts without a care that what he says is actually true.

[thefrogman]

Links from the exchange...

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/coronavirus/in-depth/coronavirus-vaccine/art-20484859

https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/nejmoa2035389

https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/69/wr/mm6950e2.htm

I usually try to post fun happy things here, but I think it is important to see these conversations. Maybe you can improve upon what I did in your own personal debates. I know trying to convince people is difficult and frustrating, but we must try to stop the spread of misinformation. We need to get through to those friends and family members who have been duped by the likes of Tucker Carlson and other hucksters.

[cranquis]

Saving for later now

[doberbutts]

Hello! Sorry if this ask is a bother - feel free to ignore. So recently I’ve come to terms with maybe being a trans man (or transmasc at least) but I’m well, well past puberty and my body is unfortunately very feminine. I’ll never be able to bind for a passable flat chest and I can’t afford the surgeries. I’m worried that if I try to transition now, it’ll be too late, and I’ll just look in the mirror and see a woman *pretending* to be a guy. Is there anything I can do? I’m so discouraged.

I'm almost 30 and pre-everything. If it's too late for you, then it's also too late for me. I don't think that's a good train of thought, and it's easy to doom-spiral when caught in dysphoria like that.

I won't post them here because I don't believe in violating people's privacy like that, but on FB there are some top surgery groups where you can see the results of people of all ages and genders and body types as well as the types of surgeries offered on all of these and that may help you see what can and cannot be done for you. Additionally the group I'm in discusses how to convince insurance to cover your surgeries if you feel you will not be able to afford them, and how to manage dysphoria while you wait.

Additionally like. You only owe yourself passing if that's how you want to do things. I personally want to pass so I owe it to myself to give it the best try I can. But unless that's you, you don't owe anyone passing. Learning to love yourself and love the body you will have is a crucial part of medical transition, because not everyone is built the same, and not everyone has the same results even if they followed the same path. You may need a therapist to help you with this- I would suggest doing some deep research into trans-friendly therapists or therapists who are transgender themselves.

[fledgling-witch]

The Evidence:

The Magic School Bus can time travel

When asked, Ms. Frizzle denies that she “knows everything”

However, Ms. Frizzle always knows what her students are up to, knows the answer to every question they ask her, and never shows fear even when in extreme mortal peril, as if she’s experienced this all before

Although we know she was in a rock band called the Frizzlettes and was a Shakespearean actress, Ms. Frizzle’s childhood remains mysterious

Ms. Frizzle is EXACTLY the sort of person to travel back in time to teach herself, and is in fact the most likely fictional character to do so

Nobody is ever named “Valerie Frizzle” at birth

Ms. Frizzle dresses queerly and laughs at her own bad jokes

A lot of the series is about Arnold learning to take chances, make mistakes, and get messy - that phrase is more or less targeted at him as a student

Ms. Frizzle looks a lot like a grown-up Arnold

[featherless-wings]

Holy shit???????

[sistertaxon]

She literally has a giant storeroom full of barrels of pickles because she loves pickles so much what more evidence do you need

[fledgling-witch]

[the-dark-aquarian]

What relation do pickles have with the transgender community?

[nentuaby]

One of the medications used in hormone therapy for trans women (spironolactone, which counteracts testosterone) has the side effect of, putting it crudely, making you have to pee all the goddamn time. That causes dehydration and loss of electrolytes.

Pickles and pickle juice turn out to be a fairly convenient and flavorful way of satisfying an electrolyte craving. Those who’ve been on spiro a long time can develop a nigh-spiritual bond with ‘em.

[bff0f7]

so can we start hunting down white liberals now or what

[adamtheredbeard]

The full picture is even more heart breaking after you open the uncropped version. Just a heads-up, it's rough

“The Roman Catholic Parish in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan was just grafitted.”

[afronerdism]

Nah let’s post it. Let’s feel it. Don’t look away.

[doobiebenson]

[butch-bakugo]

I notice alot of my followers on here skipping these posts just to mess with my lgbt ones, suspiciously the white popular ones.

Heres a not so friendly reminder, as an lgbt metis person, i dont give a single fuck what your blog is themed or if this is too painful for you to look at. Reblog this post. Reblog this post with the sources of the 751 children who were found.

Your compliance and silence as well as the compliance and silence of your ancestors is what allowed these schools to open and kill first nations children. The children of MY people.

Dont follow me if you cant reblog this post or the one with sources to your political blog or your most popular blog. Add trigger warnings if you must but if your political blog is only focused on the harms you personally face like being lgbt then you need to see some bigger pictures and stop being afraid of angering your racist mutural or actually saying some shit about racism. If you can reblog some antifa graphics or add blm to your bio to be a surface level ally, you can reblog some sources on the genocide first nations people faced and still face today.

They were CHILDREN.

They were murdered in cold blood.

[nerdygaymormon]

“Untitled” (Portrait of Ross in L.A.) is a 1991 piece by Felix Gonzalez-Torres in the collection of the Art Institute of Chicago. It’s a spilled pile of candy. 

The pile of candy consists of commercially available, shiny wrapped confections. The physical form of the work changes depending on the way it is installed. The work ideally weighs 175 pounds (161 kg) at installation, which is the average body weight of an adult male. “Untitled” (Portrait of Ross in L.A.) represents a specific body, that of Ross Laycock, Gonzalez-Torres’ partner who died of AIDS in 1991. This piece of art serves as an “allegorical portrait,” of Laycock’s life.

Visitors are invited to take a piece of candy from the work. Gonzalez-Torres grew up Roman Catholic and taking candy is a symbolic act of communion, but instead of taking a piece of Christ, the participant partakes of the “sweetness” of Ross. As the patrons take candy, they are participants in the art. Each piece of candy consumed is like the illness that ate away at Ross’s body.  

Multiple art museums around the world have installed this piece.

Per Gonzalez-Torres’ parameters, it is up to the museum how often the pile is restocked, or whether it is restocked at all. Whether, instead, it is permitted to deplete to nothing. If the pile is replenished, it is metaphorically granting perpetual life to Ross.

In 1991, public funding of the arts and public funding for AIDS research were both hot issues. HIV-positive male artists were being targeted for censorship. Part of the logic of “Untitled” (Portrait of Ross in L.A.) is you can’t censor free candy without looking ridiculous, and the ease of replicability of the piece in other museums makes it virtually indestructible.

[queen-mayhem]

Funny how when countries ban paid surrogacy, surrogacy almost completely disappears. It's crazy. It's almost like women don't actually want to be living incubators for other people.

[sneggleblech]

Do y'all understand that there are a ton of things no one would do if they weren't being paid, but are willing to do for money?

[queen-mayhem]

You take that thought and run with it, as far as it'll take you, sweetie.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[secretlymagneto]

I would like you to consider: Synagogue Architecture (spanning many places and many eras of history)

Look at them!! Stunning! Amazing! Beautiful!!!!! And these are the ones left standing, I can’t imagine what the many many others that were lost could have looked like.

[progressivejudaism]

Israel’s top court recognizes Reform, Conservative conversions

* * *

In a dramatic decision, the High Court of Justice rules that people who convert to Judaism in Israel through the Reform and Conservative movements must be recognized as Jews under the provisions of the Law of Return, and are thus entitled to Israeli citizenship.

The decision culminates an appeal process that began more than 15 years ago, involving 12 people who converted to Judaism in Israel through the non-Orthodox streams. The justices note that they had withheld issuing a ruling to allow the state to handle the matter, but the state had failed to do so.

The ruling constitutes a political bombshell, since it punctures the longstanding Orthodox monopoly on officially recognized conversions in Israel.

Most of the petitions were launched in 2005, the court’s president, Justice Esther Hayut notes, and the court repeatedly postponed a ruling to enable legislation on the issue.

“We refrained from issuing a ruling in order to allow the state to advance legislation on the issue,” writes Justice Dafna Barak-Erez. But since people’s “rights hang in the balance” and no such legislation is advancing, the court has decided to issue its ruling.

The ruling is by a majority verdict, 8-1, with Justice Noam Sohlberg dissenting.

[guerrillatech]

[dea-certe]

So many of my family members are dealing with this. And they’ve found that the company has made opting out of auto pay damn near impossible. The place where it used to be on the site has changed, calling results in getting disconnected, when they finally found it on the site, it “times out” when they try to cancel….its just a fucking mess.

We got lucky. I’m like 80% sure we have a rate cap because I haven’t seen it spike and I’ve been watching it fairly closely. But I’ve got aunts, geandparents, friends who have had their entire paycheck taken for electric bills when they barely had power for 3 hours over the course of 5 days. Money they needed to replace food gone bad, to fix water damage, to make car repairs, all gone to a bill that shouldn’t even exist because they didn’t even have power for 3 days.

[saiyanqueenreads]

Friendly tip from a long-time bank employee…  If your money is on autopay directly from your account# or card, you can put a STOP PAYMENT on that shit!  But do it at least 3 days before it is due to be pulled from your account.  There may be a $20-30 fee for it, but that is much better than a power company trying to pull hundreds from your account and overdrafting you.

Also, if they already pulled a ridiculous amount of money from you… if you believe that the charges are for power that you did not use you likely can file a dispute with your bank.  If you lost power tell them about that and say that services were not received, or if there are sudden new previously not disclosed fees you can state that the price is different than disclosed. Those sorts of reasons should keep banking systems from messing with the account itself, as it would do for a fraud claim.  Filing a dispute against your power company might not get you your money back, but it MAY.  It may also allow the bank to waive a stop payment fee if you fear a second round of hiked rates.  Just ask the banker about that before filing the stop paymen as some systems will ONLY waive the fee if it’s done DURING the dispute process…. 

But!  You have to remember that the stop payment is there until YOU remove it.  While some banks may remove them after 6 months, or 1-5 years…. it will be your responsibility to remember to reestablish your payment relationship with the power company, and you’ll also then need to let your bank about it when you want to start allowing payments to process again so they can remove the block.

And for those worried that it might somehow look shady: No, the banker will NOT think you’re trying to pull a fast one.  The banker is 10000% likely to be on your side when you explain the situation and ask them questions. 

If this information helps even one person then I’ll consider it a wonderful use of my time to type it out and post it.   Y’all stay STRONG!!!

[glumshoe]

one time I was eating a lox bagel at the airport terminal and a guy near me started freaking out and yelling into the phone that “this kid is eating FISH on a BAGEL can you BELIEVE IT?!” sir this is the traditional way to eat a bagel in America; get with the program

[good-enemy]

More proof that america is an elaborate hoax

[glumshoe]

#i. actually do not believe you

wait which part? that bagels with lox is traditional (it’s Yiddish) or that some Americans have never heard of it and think it’s a really bizarre new way to eat a bagel?

[lyrslair]

I… had to look this up and am now mad I had never heard of this before what the FUCK you can get SALMON on BAGELS and nobody fucking told me?

[superspiceybois]

now i love fish but on a bagel? heresy

[glumshoe]

But a bagel is just… bread! There are lots of different kinds of fish sandwiches with other types of bread. Even McDonalds sells Fillet’o’Fish. Lox on bagels with cream cheese (and onions and capers) has been probably the #1 most popular bagel dish in America since long before bagels became mainstream outside Jewish-American culture. Anywhere that sells bagels with toppings typically offers them with lox. And it’s good! It’s sort of a “once a year treat” for me for sustainability reasons, but it really is like… the definitive bagel dish. 

[satellite-slickers]

I have never seen someone eating fish on a bagel in my entire American life

Yes a bagle is bread but so it a hot dog bun or a pizza crust or hardtack

I would be willing to kill god for the crime of eating a hotdog on a bagle

[brehaaorgana]

Okay here’s the DIFFERENCE though: fish has always been eaten on bagel. Jews invented bagels. Jews then put fish on bagels. Then the concept was introduced to America. Your ignorance of traditional ways to eat bagels as invented by the people who invented bagels is just a sign that A) you haven’t paid attention in many/any bagel shops in this country and B) you don’t know any Jewish people at all

Ship is right. This is a definitive way to eat a bagel.

[periwinklepromise]

I used to work at a bagel shop. We definitely sold lox bagels. But yeah, so many people freaked out about lox even being an option, and they would say shit like “why can’t they just eat bacon/ham/sausage like how ~normal~ people eat bagels.” And I think that’s a related issue. I think lots of people hating this lox stuff would still be willing to put bacon and egg and cheese on a bagel, because THAT’s a ~normal~ way to eat a breakfast bagel. But if your community doesn’t eat pork, you need a different normal.

[brehaaorgana]

yeah it’s um. not great. I’m not sure if microaggression is the right word, but also bagels were invented as a result of antisemitism,[1] so having [some] gentiles be like “why can’t they eat bagels like NORMAL PEOPLE?” is really…baffling. how often is it that a community makes a food which is popularized in such a way that the traditional community literally can’t eat it?

Like, American immigrants create hybridized cuisines/dishes all the time, and over time they become “different,” and often anglicized. Over decades this often becomes the non-ethnic-ethnic food, like “Taco Bell.” Right? But Jewish food…not only becomes mainstream, but popularized as explicitly non-kosher (with bacon) and then further so very popularized that way that people think it’s wrong or abnormal to eat Jewish food non-Jewishly. I’d be interested to know about like other examples of this. 

[1] Here’s an article from the Atlantic which covers a book that discusses the history of the bagel moving from rounded bread baked similar to a pretzel, to what we know as a bagel:

Going back a bit, at the same time Germans were making their way to Poland, so too were a good number of Jews, which is where my ancestors would have gotten involved. In that era it was quite common in Poland for Jews to be prohibited from baking bread. This stemmed from the commonly held belief that Jews, viewed as enemies of the Church, should be denied any bread at all because of the holy Christian connection between bread, Jesus, and the sacrament. Strange though it sounds, Jews were often legally banned from commercial baking.

The bagel as Jewish food really came of age during the era of Polish history known as the “Nobles’ Democracy.” While intolerance and conflict reigned elsewhere, Poland was probably the preeminent country for tolerance, acceptance, education, and understanding. Unlike almost every other country in Europe, Poles identified themselves as citizens of their country rather than of any divisive framework based on religious, ethnic, or linguistic origins. This mindset created the environment where Jews were first allowed the opportunity to bake, and then sell, bread – of which bagels were an integral part.

The shift started to take place in the late 13th century. Balinska refers to the breakthrough code that came from the Polish Prince Boleslaw the Pious in 1264 that said, “Jews may freely buy and sell and touch bread like Christians.” To quote Balinska, “This was a radical step, so radical that (in reaction) in 1267 a group of Polish bishops forbade Christians to buy any foodstuffs from Jews, darkly hinting that they contained poison for the unsuspecting gentile.” At some point, the theory goes, Jews were allowed to work with bread that was boiled, and they created the bagel to comply with his ruling.

The Secret History of Bagels

[reapergraves666]

I think alot of it is that, especially in the deep south in my case, there’s just no major jewish population and all we have to go off of is either the media, or someone else’s interpretation of Judaism

[brehaaorgana]

that’s where I, and I think OP, are confused though? like, I’m from the southwest in AZ, we had 39 Einstein Bagel Brothers locations. granted, that is more than some of the deep south/south PER state, but there are at minimum at least one chain that sells lox in most southern states. 

This is the Einstein’s count: Alabama 7, Georgia 25, Louisiana 4, Missouri 17, Mississippi 3, North Carolina 19, Florida 81, South Carolina 7, Texas 80, Virginia 21, Tennessee 14. 

Now just like, to be clear, compare to: NY has 9 locations, Vermont has 1, New Jersey only 2. So clearly Einstein’s is not just correlated to high Jewish populations because if that was the case, there’d be like 80 in New Jersey too. 

Einstein’s, I would argue, is representative of this whole issue - NJ has only two stores, probably because actual other bagel shop options are available, and some of them kosher, even. But places with way less Jews have more Einstein’s shops precisely because A.) jewish communities already had other options and b.) they became gentilefied (gentrified + more goyische) and will serve pepperoni pizza bagels and bacon to the masses. 

But they also still serve lox. 

this is where I’m baffled. 

[magnetoisright]

I don’t think we can call Einstein Bros. “gentilefied” when they were goyish from the beginning. Remember awhile back when the owners, who are German, had to apologize for their…grandfather(?)’s profiteering from the Holocaust?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/history/2019/03/25/german-billionaire-family-that-owns-einstein-bros-bagels-admits-nazi-past/

That’s the only comment I have other than just bafflement that people haven’t heard of a bagel, cream cheese, and lox.

[hero-israel]

This was a wild ride.

[sosuperawesome]

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[sickbitterandcoveredinglitter]

I don’t think healthy people every really get chronic illness.

I have a friend I know from when we were both 6. She is the only person living nearby and so she saw me go from walking through limping to wheelchair on a daily basis. I keep her updated on my health even tho we rarely hang out anymore. She was gonna come over yesterday and I had to cancel. She asked if I can’t hang out later that day. When I said i won’t feel better later, that if I feel that bad in the morning later will only get worse she got annoyed and “joked” that I’m just finding excuses. And I was surprised, she knows all about me being disabled after all? So, a bit taken aback, I told her it’s a normal thing for me.

“But you got the diagnosis now, aren’t you better?? I thought you’ll get better now”

She was honestly surprised and it made me realize a thing. They don’t get it. They don’t get that getting diagnosed only equals benefits like welfare or parking spot for us, and sometimes better pain meds but that is just like pushing luck. That it’s a forever thing. That that one day we felt good a week ago was just a bright spot and doesn’t mean we won’t need our aids anymore, cause chronic illness is not linear and will make a great comeback in next four hours, and the next good day is planned on when we’re 70. Cause when abled people are sick, they get better. And our illness is just an excuse for them. And when we say we will never get better they think we’re being dramatic and pessimistic. And I don’t think they’ll ever get it, cause to get it you need to live it. And I want my friends to stay healthy and not go through hell.

[sickbitterandcoveredinglitter]

This is definitely okay to reblog and abled people are encouraged to reblog cause maybe it’ll help others understand

[sickbitterandcoveredinglitter]

Hello it’s me Lexa and this post is relevant again as I just had the Legit Same Talk with someone and I exhausted my number of fucks to give

[beka-tiddalik]

Oh my god I literally had this conversation with my mother an hour ago.

Mum: “So yeah, I was thinking that when I come down we could do visit an art gallery or a museum or something.”

Me: “I’ll have to see if I’m up for it, I’ve been going through a rough patch. I might not have the energy.”

Mum: “But you love art galleries.”

Me: “I know. What part of ‘it hurts to walk long distances now’ is hard for you though?”

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

I routinely have people well aware of my disabilities/chronic illness congratulate me on how I “seem to be doing so much better these days!” on a good pain/energy day and then basically try to stage an intervention a week later on a bad one. “You seem to be on a decline lately, I’m just concerned you’re not taking care of yourself!” And then a week later on a good day again congratulate me on how I really seem to have improved and must be making a real effort to keep on top of my health, with no irony or self-awareness whatsoever. The narrative of “getting better” is so ingrained that healthy abled people will ignore massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to apply it where it makes absolutely no sense.

[birdkeeperklink]

And this belief in “getting better” is actively harmful because that’s how we get shitty things like people having their benefits “reviewed” and taken away because it’s been ten years and they’re not going to the doctor “enough.” They don’t need to get constant treatment after they know what they have, but that doesn’t mean they’re magically cured or just “not trying”!!! It means they’re ill, they’re always going to be ill, and going to the doctor every week isn’t going to change that (not to mention it’s expensive af)!

I see this in my job much more frequently than I should (we help people fight benefit denials and occasionally get back benefits after these “reviews”). Sometimes it’s justified - the person went back to work - but more often, it’s not, it’s just that some worker somewhere decided that this person or that person should be all better by now, and that’s just not how chronic illness works, so ending this idea that chronically ill people will just get better would help put a stop to shit like that.

[rosslynpaladin]

They cannot comprehend that we do not control our health. In their world, when people are sick it’s because they caught it from someone else, and if you stay sick it’s your fault for not taking care of yourself. They cannot fathom a  world where you can 

do everything right and still be sick. 

“don’t let your disability define you! Fight! INspirEd! Taking back my life from Cancer!” This narrative is everywhere in Able culture. If you JUST tried harder you’d get better. THAT is what they live and believe.

Therefore to them if we are “still” sick or “Sick Again” it’s because WE did something wrong. They can’t comprehend a world where you can’t Earn health as a reward for performing purity, kale and yoga.

[roach-works]

people who got lucky don’t want to acknowledge how absolutely, terrifyingly random the whole world is and how little we can actually control our circumstances. thin people really think they just ‘eat better’ than fat people. the rich really think they’re better with money than the poor. and abled people really, really do not want to face up to the fact that you can do everything right and the universe just doesn’t fucking care and you can get arthritis in your twenties, or chronic fatigue syndrome basically whenever, or maybe your legs just stop working and no one will be able to tell you why.

don’t have a pithy conclusion here. just, listen to people when they tell you what’s wrong with them. goddamn.

[humans-are-seriously-weird]

Yo what is up with men always being intimidated and freaked out when they find out I have survival skills? Genuine question here.

This guy was flirting with me and he went “I love deep woods camping, but dont worry, I’d never expect someone like you to come. You’d hate it.”

To which I happily replied, “oh that sounds like a blast! I prefer a tarp and a sleeping bag over a tent, and I’m excellent at starting fires with flint and steel!”

And homie looked soooo uncomfortable. “I usually bring small rations, then hunt for most of my meals. You know, skinning animals and stuff. I doubt you’d enjoy that.”

He seemed mildly taken aback when I mentioned I have no qualms filleting a fish, or helping to carve up a deer if needed. He then said, and I QUOTE, “Sorry, I dont think I could date such a manly woman.” And left.

Sir, I will go and build a camp with my bare hands, and I’ll do it with pretty pink lipstick on.

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

My guess is that you were meant to be intimidated, or at least overawed, by his Manly Prowess™️.

He most likely didn't actually want to go camping with you (which is his loss— you sound great to go camping with!), since he tried to say that you'd hate it and then, when you established that you wouldn't, brought up the idea of hunting and skinning animals in what sounds like an attempt to gross you out.

The 'correct' would probably have been to swoon with admiration and then start twittering on about how brave and strong he must be to survive out there, when a delicate pretty creature like you couldn't possibly do it. He'd then get to play the role of the Big Strong Man without actually having to do anything.

Instead, you revealed that you're not only into camping, but quite possibly better at it than he is. He realised that he couldn't boast his way into getting the upper hand in this relationship and bailed.

You dodged a bullet.