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i cum way harder when people mix in my they/them pronouns in bed

i was thinking about group sex when i wrote this and didn't stop to consider how it might apply in a one-on-one scenario LOL

faemorrigan

im realizing very fast that people do not in fact know that sometimes things in stories suck on purpose and it sucking is the point

faemorrigan

"this story is misogynistic!!"

>looks inside

>about the pressures of societal misogyny and how its bad

vetchtibbles

despite everything, it’s still you (derogatory)

vetchtibbles

wait hey man wait whoah hey

cytherae-rubin

queerspacepunk

not to be all "these two words will change your life" or whatever, but I promise you, programming in "good catch!" as your response to people correcting you/pointing out errors or whatever removes so much friction from interactions, and comes with a delightful happy meal toy of "not hating yourself so much for making mistakes"

madgastronomer

I use "I stand corrected" a lot. The mild silliness of the outdated language makes it work for me.

knitmeapony

I had a high school science teacher who would say "if you admit you're wrong and change your mind..." and the whole class would respond back "... you aren't wrong anymore!"

And when a kid would assert something incorrect In class, he wouldn't tell them they were wrong, he would help lead them to the right answer and then when they admitted/ accepted the new information, he'd say "now we're both right! Nice work!"

For a bunch of gifted kids whose identity and reputation often was staked on knowing more than most people, it was a great safety valve. No shame in making a mistake, because if you accept it you have learned! Now you are smarter! It always made me feel better.

tiixij

discourse from the year 2043: getting a song stuck in your head is immoral because it takes money away from the artists that would get paid if you were actually listening to it

idk-my-aesthetic

Spraying this post with dodgeball repellent

grungekitty-77

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

grungekitty-77

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

theonion

In a discovery that increased doubt about the popular diet trend, a study published Thursday by Columbia University researchers found that intermittent fasting was no more effective than conventional eating disorders. “While abstaining from food for several hours has gained far-reaching acceptance in recent years, the evidence suggests that it produces comparable results to any of the many eating disorders already in wide use,” said lead researcher Dr. Harold Morgan, urging those thinking about starting a regimen of scheduling meals to alternate between periods of extreme calorie deficits and non-fasting to consult their doctors about which specific eating disorder was right for them.

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dogpuppy

maykitz

>see bird creeping up and down a tree trunk >look it up >common treecreeper

can't make this shit up

hitboxesonstockimages

this your man?

majalha

Remove the hitbox render from my son at once he will not be participating in your fighting game, you bastards

hitboxesonstockimages

Ma’am your son just hit me with a meaty divekick crossup

wowhead

if dwarves were real they would say mine your own bismuth

chaumas-deactivated20240115

messaged a guy on fb marketplace about some drawers and he was like “your offer is less than what I paid for it” yeah man that’s how used beat up furniture works