i'm setting pen to paper again @wholesalesoftie - Tumblr Blog

I feel like a lot of people have grown up with instant access to people because of social media and technological devices and it definitely shows.

There seems to be expectations on people answering quickly and a lot of “they didn’t answer for an hour so I’m going to make them wait longer”.

I just want to put a friendly reminder out there that you don’t need to be there to respond to someone right away all the time. It’s okay if you’ve burnt out and need to step away. It’s okay if you can’t answer those messages right now. Please prioritize you and step away when you need to.

On the other side, if someone isn’t responding quickly, it doesn’t mean it’s a personal attack at you. It doesn’t mean they don’t care. They could be busy, burnt out or just not in a headspace. They honestly might not want to talk to you right now and it doesn’t mean they don’t care. And yes, sometimes you see them on other social media and not replying to you and it’s important to remember that they still might not be up to talking because it’s a different energy for them or they just don’t want to right then. And that’s okay.

hey btw moved to @cherried-softie <3

#i love this account and cant bear the idea of losing it but also i feel so stifled #this is mostly for any mutuals i hadnt already followed on it which im gonna get around to #or anyone who follows me and still wants to for whatever reason #anyways its mostly courtesy cause i still have this acc on my phone and wanna move #love you all but bye bye #gently laying this blog to rest amongst flowers #please interact w my other acc tho cause im hopefully going to be way more active again when ive switched over on my phone probably #yeah okay bye

lil-reminders

reminder that it’s okay to not use every last bit of energy you have in a day. you don’t have to push yourself to your absolute limit.

lil-reminders

reminder that it’s okay to still feel bad sometimes even if you’re doing “better.” it’s okay to feel out of control when things are going “right.” and it’s okay to still seek support even if it doesn’t look like you “need” it.

bloody-angel-cake-deactivated20

you are your own guardian angel. why hurt the thing that watches over you?

wholeheartedsuggestions

doing your best doesn’t mean you have to work until exhaustion. doing your best doesn’t mean you have to give it 100% all of the time. doing your best can be working until you’ve hit your limit and then respecting your limit.

recomvery

You're not supposed to fight against your feelings. Don't push them away, don't surpress them. Rather, think to yourself: "This feeling is painful and I don't like it, but I will allow myself to feel what I am feeling. It will eventually get better. Feelings are not forever. I am gonna feel this feeling intentionally for a while, then I can distract myself. My feelings are valid and allowed. I am not at war with myself. I don't want to numb myself. I will be happy again soon. There is a time for everything".

smiles-advice

maybe you’re not up to having a good day, so just have a day.

stay alive, wake up, breathe. eat and drink and rest.

just exist.

have a day.

yenshu-deactivated20240911

Don't allow others to consume you. If they don't call, go to sleep. If they don't message you, put away your phone & have a good day. If they are distant and refuse to tell you what's wrong, go home and do something fun. You live for yourself first. They are secondary.

lesbiankermit-moved

stop trying to find yourself and start creating yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!

glowcowboy

we’re gonna be ok btw

glowcowboy

it’s ok if you’re scared. or tired. or unsure. or one million billion other complicated emotions at once. but i’ve decided things are going to be ok anyway. and i will hold that belief close to my heart no matter how scared or tired or lonely or depressed or one million billion other things i am. i will hold onto that. and if you’re scared, you can hold onto me. we can carry each other through

resiliencewithin

Shit is going to happen.

Your friend is going to ghost you. You are not going to get the job. Your car is going to break down at the worst time. Your boss is going to have unrealistic demands and deadlines. Your basement is going to flood.

Life hurts.

No matter how recovered you are. No matter how stable you are. No matter how much you excel at using your toolbox of strategies.

Life hurts.

You are not going to go through it being a happy little bean all of the time.

So, don’t put that pressure on yourself.

If you do, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. You’ll fear that you’re slipping, experiencing a setback, losing your recovery, when the negative emotions come.

Instead, the more you heal, the better you get at coping with this all too painful thing called life, the less hard those moments will hit. Oh, they will still hit, they will still suck, but they won’t suck for as long or as much. You’ll see the other side of them and know happiness is waiting there for you again.