RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE 10000X EASIER
ONCE YOU UNDERSTAND THIS!!
Relationships are like the laws of atoms on a molecular level. The traits you present socially, constantly get absorbed by the people around you.
How does water start to boil? More molecules are moving faster rather then slower, thus finally settling at an equilibrium of a faster pace.
Alright with those two ideas in mind, let's brake this down into my theory of molding the perfect relationship.
When I was a freshman in highschool I was into smoking weed heavily. When you do something so repetitively by nature it becomes boring. I developed what I thought at the time to be an ingenious way to smoke weed I called the trap Olympics. All it was, was a series of games involved with the illigal activity to make it more appealing to my colleagues and myself. We called ourselves "Trappers," or "trap Olympics." Those were the two phrases that destroyed a quarter of the generation in one city in Utah, and eventually Utah itself.
I consider myself a type of connector of people. (as referencing "The Tipping Point", by Malcolm Gladwell.) You might consider the term similar to, buisness man of human interactions. At the beginning of my sophomore year, I knew not a soul for 30 miles in every direction. By the end of my sophomore year in the same place, there was over 50 people speaking with the same slang and tone as me starting with Trapper, most even developed my slight accent! Every one of those people became more of this certain fun outgoing spirit that was somehow the exact same in each. The exact same feeling and aspiration kinda like a fictional character from a Seth Rogan movie, but each as well was a different soul. Some of these people grew up in million dollar families, some grew up in this city without even a family and barely knew how to speak English. The only 2 real similarities these people had was, 1) within 2 years of age, and 2) they were my friends.
Sounds fun right? Squad goals right? Super popular right?
It seemed to be and this is the factor that took Utah county down with it. It's the comfort factor. The only way to get a point or idea into someone's head, (kinda like Inception) is to tear down every barrier they have get them completely defenseless and then and only then will someone consider it. (Somewhere in the book Art of War) we were all at such ease and peace, and every single toxic trait and ideology slipped between the minds of the youth like water through the smallest crack of stone. To sum it up me going to the skate park with a bowl of weed after my first day in at that school resulted in over 80 drug addictions, 20 families destroyed, hundreds of crimes, and 4 deaths.
Think back to what I said in the beginning about water temperature. It doesn't matter how many particles or people are moving at a constant frequency or rate in life. If there is a strong enough atom, idea, or thought on a different frequency, it will change the tempo of that particular group of atoms; or the ways of life of a whole generation.
If you want to have the perfect relationship, both people involved with that interaction have to understand and live up to their best morals and traits that make them, the best them. Both parties have to understand themselves and what they want perfectly before hand or everything they know will change.
If you can both manage to stick to each others code of life, my theory is both parties will loose all negative traits of their person and become the strongest most efficient people they could possibly become. Only together can we grow, And only together can we fall.
