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[tranthony]

youve been a bad *remembers youre plural* people

[zocomi]

They're trying to forceplural me! Haalp

[zocomi]

Oh OK, thanks! :) yay!

[phleb0tomist]

it’s such a basic part of the reality of disabled people as a whole but it’s STILL so hard to get ppl to understand that some people will simply die without 24/7 care. their care is not for comfort, it’s not for fun, it’s literally a matter of life and death. “if their care was taken away i’m sure they’d learn to suck it up like the rest of us!” – something ive heard time and time again. no they wouldn’t, they would die. they HAVE died. they continue to die as cuts are made to welfare and health. why is this so impossible for people to grasp.

[ellaandtheocean]

Humpback whales breaching: gorgeous, majestic, graceful, embodies all the strength and beauty of the ocean

Minke whales breaching: I will launch myself out of this ocean like a f***ing surface-to-air missile to seek and destroy my enemies

[gallusrostromegalus]

I remember an interview with a guy that did the camera work for nature documentaries and he said that baleen whales like these guys were the scariest things to shoot because “They’re the size of a train, they can suddenly appear out of nowhere in dark or murky water and they don’t make a goddamn sound. I was absolutely sure that one of them was going to hit me and well, ‘that’s all folks!’. Gave me a lot of perspective on how I handle myself when filming smaller animals now.”

[a-book-of-creatures]

Fin whales breaching: sea serpent

[fleshdyke]

levitating minke whale

[plaguedocboi]

Sperm whale breaching: wjaht the fuck

[necronatron]

I have a feeling I have already shared this, but please, take the contribution of the northern right whale dolphin.

The humble eyebrow

[charnel-grounds]

James Hutton, “Thee Devouring Teeth of the Sky,” 2022

[xx-k1tsun3-k1d-xx]

very telling that even if you’re not allowed to view content related to self harm/suicide/eating disorders due to not giving up your ID on the uk internet you will still be shown relentless ads for weight loss drugs and fad diets showing unrealistic/AI generated bodies and unhealthy methods and time frames for weight loss that can only be achieved by starvation. oh and also so so many gambling ads. relentless ads for gacha and gambling services. almost like it’s not actually about protecting kids at all or something

[disabilityreminders]

There is a kind of grief that comes with constantly having to decide whether something is worth the energy it will cost you.

I think a lot of disabled people carry that grief quietly.

[starryk1sses]

I hate delayed amnesia so much. I’ll go through a whole day thinking I’m “fine” and fully present, and then hours later it hits me like—wait… I don’t remember anything from today. It feels like my whole day just slips through my fingers.

I’d like to think I’m staying relatively co-conscious with our other alters/fragments, but then once they leave, I lose nearly—if not all—of the memory afterward. It’s so disorienting.

[mariahinbooks]

[systemprojects]

System App - PluralSpace

Not to be confused with Plural Space, which is a different project.

A system app created by Drex!

PluralSpace has customizable member profiles, with front tracking and custom statuses. Alongside the ability to register a profile as a fronting status, create relationships between members, and view them on a relationship map!

The app also features journal entries, poll creation, an inner system chat, and in-depth analytics on your system, from fronting frequency to journal entries and poll responses!

If you would like to support PluralSpace, you can access the alpha website here. To learn more information, or follow updates, you can read through their website, share feedback on their dedicated page, follow their twitter, or join their discord (18+)!

[picatchu]

outfit for when you have an unimaginable amount of misunderstandings every day

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the first funeral

[transiting]

don’t make other people’s decisions for them. apply for the job you don’t think you’ll get. let them decide if you have the skills they’re looking for. tell that person you like them even though you think they’re out of your league. let them decide if they like you. stop trying to predict and control everything. bring what you have to the table. let the rest go.

[andantegrazioso-deactivated2018]

Confidence is not ‘they will like me’, it is ‘I’ll be fine, or even better off, if they don’t’.

[cutecipher]

peoples desire to not see people irl who they deem ugly is a fascist impulse.

[cutecipher]

people are allowed to exist without being attractive to you.

[hearthfire-heartfire]

😞 there were literally laws designed to prevent disabled people from appearing in public called "ugly laws" or "unsightly beggar ordinances" btw

[snow-nose]

a note, if that's ok, because people bring these ordinances up all the time, which i do also do and it is important to do so, but homeless people are so often left out of the discussion when they are the main topic

i've been reading the ugly laws by susan schweik, which is a free ebook in multiple places, and i really recommend it. it talks about the ableist, classist, and racist foundations of the ugly laws, and how they were used to enact ableism, classism, racism, and misogyny, and reinforce white supremacist beauty, gender, social, and moral standards. they stood alongside laws against crossdressing, for instance

but the ugly laws were actually more complicated than "they would arrest people for being visibly disabled". they were an excuse to remove homeless people from the streets, especially homeless people who either were visibly disabled/visibly different or who "claimed to be", and i put "claimed to be" in quotation marks because the people who wanted them off the streets more often didn't believe they were really disabled, however, some homeless people really did fake disability for money, and those people still didn't deserve to be arrested or demonized for it. other ways they justified pulling homeless people from the streets, besides sowing doubt and suspicion, were that they would argue that they were doing it for their own good, "taking care of them", or later that they were doing it for the good of the middle class, abled public; "they're all deceitful, violent criminals with bad intentions"

so while visibly disabled and visibly different people who weren't homeless and couldn't hide their disability would be subjected to them too, visibly disabled/visibly different homeless people were the primary target. they didn't expand to visibly disabled and visibly different people at large until later, and specifically in the context of freak shows. they didn't want people being exposed to disability in what was, for that time, a more positive light. you, as an abled person, could show people that their children would be born disabled if they didn't brush their teeth, or display a disabled, visibly different child as an interesting medical subject, but you couldn't, as a disabled person, display yourself and then solicit money for it either

also, most importantly in my opinion, ugly ordinances were spearheaded and pushed by one christian organization who were viciously against people giving financial aid to the homeless, and saw disabled and homeless people as gene pool pollution. they were white supremacist eugenics enthusiasts who encouraged states to pick up ugly ordinances, and even sent them after specific homeless people. there was even an ugly law that targeted just one man, a homeless, visibly disabled black man named william jasper franklin

i just want to provide more context

[psychoticallytrans]

When do callouts work?

Callout posts and harassment campaigns are a cornerstone of how Tumblr moderates itself. This is in good part because the moderation Tumblr actually does ranges from useless to targeted at minorities. If you feel that someone has done something wrong, the only guaranteed way to get results is to do something yourself.

It is very easy to get them rolling. Tumblr’s format rewards spreading information and is great at preserving it. When it comes to art, memes, and writing, this is fantastic for creators. When it comes to callout posts, it means that they’ll be around for months, if not years. Anger, as many social media algorithms have found, is great for engagement.

Even if the purpose is strictly to inform, the problem is the number of people who see it. There are going to be people who are going to look at the information and go “This person needs to be punished, and nobody is going to do it. So, I’m going to be cruel to them.” This is partly because of Tumblr’s known poor moderation. It’s also because a good number of people see causing harm to someone who hurt others as just, and therefore causing that harm as righteous.

Even if you agree with that view of justice, there’s a big issue here. That issue is that the vast majority of callouts are going to result in the person being called out being hurt far beyond what they actually did. Even that assumes that they hurt anyone in the first place, which is not always the case.

So, if things are that lopsided, no callout posts, right? Just block and move on in order to minimize harm.

Not quite. There is one narrow and rare category where I would say they are actually important.

Serial abusers who are actively trawling for victims are the exception that proves the rule. Callouts that show that this person is not safe and that you should watch out for them can actively work as harm prevention.

But like I said, that’s a rare and narrow case. I have seen maybe five callout posts out of hundreds, thousands if you count individual accounts on mass blocklists, that actually fall into that category. Those don’t work because they cause harassment campaigns. They work because their value as a warning exceeds the risk to the person targeted.

That’s it.

Unless something fits that narrow and rare category? Don’t make it, don’t spread it. Even in that category, don’t harass them, because that drives remaking faster and allows them to access new unaware victims. The best way to minimize harm is to avoid causing or inciting it wherever possible.

[bottom-growth]

the problem with having an exception to the rule is that it incentivizes people to (knowingly or unknowingly) force their situation to fit the exception. people escalate, trying to paint their enemies as serial abusers who really deserve it this time, for sure. mostly this manifests as finding a bunch of small things their target did, and painting them as a related pattern of abuse. if you have a hammer (callout post) everything looks like a nail (serial abuser who deserves to be ostracized).

this is the origin of cancelling/callouts, and has always been how they have operated.

[psychoticallytrans]

This is true. You do have to view them with skepticism and look for what actual proof exists that this person is a danger to other people. Like I said, very, very few callouts actually meet the bar. I include the exception in good part because incorrect blanket statements tend to lead people to dismiss a chunk of information as a whole.

[worldwidewet]

I'd argue that it doesn't work in the cases of serial abusers either, because it actively funnels people their way and invites cognitive dissonance and an us vs. them mentality.

I have seen people who both get more stuck with their abusers because they end up having to defend both themself and the abuser from cruel "vigilantes" and having this prove to them that when the abuser tells them the world wants to hurt them, that is true, and, people who end up seeking an abuser out because they felt bad for them or thought they deserved someone in their camp or even because they had low self worth and wanted someone to hurt/punish them (self sabotaging by seeking out a known abuser)

I don't think I have actually seen an accurate callout where this did not happen.

It is also less prone to working on genuinely powerful people who have more opportunities to do harm.

So, yeah, my opinion is that we can't use this exception to the rule because it is not going to work either. Legislation to protect victims of online abuse is probably a better route to go, but it also takes hard work over long time with imperfect results.

Protecting victims and giving people resources to take care of themselves and get out, on top of dismantling hirrarchies and power structures, often works a lot better than attempts to get rid of individual abusers.