circling

𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘫𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘢𝘭 𝘳𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵

[woundcare]

— 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘳𝘪𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱.. ⚀ ⚁ ⚂ ⚃ ⚄

[weltenwellen]

Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

[attainablerecovery]

Because traumatized people often have trouble sensing what is going on in their bodies, they lack a nuanced response to frustration. They either react to stress by becoming “spaced out” or with excessive anger. Whatever their response, they often can’t tell what is upsetting them. This failure to be in touch with their bodies contributes to their well-documented lack of self-protection and high rates of revictimization and also to their remarkable difficulties feeling pleasure, sensuality, and having a sense of meaning.

“The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk

[weltenwellen]

Judith L. Herman, Trauma and Recovery

[attainablerecovery]

"Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves."

“The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk

[puppyenergy]

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[weltenwellen]

Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

[onecells]

What maltreated and traumatised [people] need most is a healthy community to buffer the pain, distress, and loss caused by their earlier trauma. What works to heal them is anything that increases the number and quality of a [person’s] relationships. What helps is consistent, patient, repetitive loving care. … For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that ‘unless you love yourself, no one will love you.” … The truth is you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved or are loved. the capacity to love cannot be built in isolation. … Before they can make any kind of lasting change at all in their behaviour, they need to feel safe and loved.” — Bruce Perry in The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog

[weltenwellen]

Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

[subsystems]

“Complex trauma is also known as developmental trauma in that it is trauma that is chronic, pervasive, and it happens early in development from, say, birth to teens. Many people who have what we call complex trauma have had many years of trauma; mostly we’re talking about child abuse. I think complex trauma also covers other issues like war and political torture … but mostly we use it to think about people who’ve been abused and neglected as children… . Emotional neglect can lead to a pretty profound disconnection from yourself; depersonalization, depression, a sense of purposelessness. It can be pretty severe.”

Kathy Steele, a leading expert on dissociation & trauma, explaining what complex trauma is. (source, 10:15)

[woundcare]

— Rebuilding Shattered Lives: Treating Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders. [James A. Chu]

[weltenwellen]

Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

[weltenwellen]

Jonice Webb, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

[mental-health-healing-blog]

“Childhood trauma can affect a person so greatly because of its prescence in the time of developmemt. Events that would normally change a person become embedded in every fiber of one’s identity. It is this time of life which is so crucial to your entire future. This is the unique nature of C-PTSD, which doesn’t merely change a person, it creates them. It builds every trait, interest, and understanding of the world with this toxin. Nothing is unaffected or unaltered because all there is to alter was created by the trauma. Moving forward is not moving back to before the trauma, it is in every essence a rebirth and reeducation of life itself. To move on we can not erase, because to erase trauma’s effect we in theory erase ourselves.”

— Understanding Childhood C-PTSD (via ughptsd)

[woundcare]

— The Emotionally Absent Mother, second edition: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect. [Jasmin Lee Cori]

[weltenwellen]

Catherine Gildiner, Good Morning, Monster: Five Heroic Journeys to Emotional Recovery

[snorlax-and-co]

“Many survivors say, “I don’t remember anything,” without realizing that they are remembering when they suddenly startle, feel afraid, tighten up, pull back, feel shame or self-hatred, or start to tremble.”

— Janina Fisher, Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma