Let Me Have My Box, Thanks

Icon by mudocat. Science, nail polish, and femme.

[wrenchesabound]

Hello there 💕

You can call me A.

34, She/her, cis(n’t?) stone/high OFOS femme lesbian, white, chronically ill/disabled, fat. Lucky enough to have one of those rare, taller butches over 5’4”.

TERFs/RadFems/GCs/Gender Crits, SWERFs, racism, antisemitism, zionists, anti blackness, homophobia, lesbophobia, and general non terf related transphobia are not welcome here, and minors/ageless and pro-ED/ANA blogs will always catch a block. If you make it hard to find explicitly trans (especially trans women and trans lesbians) supportive posts on your blog you’re going to get blocked.

This blog welcomes trans women and non lesbian sapphics, however I firmly believe being a lesbian means not being attracted to men.

(Please respect DNIs on posts)

Also if I see shit making fun of or questioning stone identities or butches/studs/masc sapphics on your blog, you will get blocked. I have zero time for people who can’t be respectful of boundaries, sexual or otherwise.

I’ve been here on this blog for over a decade on the same handle. It’s not explicitly a theme blog of any sort, and there will be nsft stuff here. I personally don’t follow back if you’re under 23 but I don’t mind if you follow me as long as you’re over 18.

I have some of my major tags below. I tag kind of inconsistently- sorry!

#Femme posting for femme identity/femme thoughts. My post about what having longer nails as a femme means to me is tagged here.

#Not femme posting is the stray things I have longer thoughts about but aren’t related to being femme. Right now I am several Big Sads ™️ and so you might find some stuff on grief and loss there too.

#my face is what it says on the label!

I have a weird and niche job! Sometimes I post about it under #death work and #death work adjacent. If you have questions you can ask- I’ll likely answer as long as it’s not too revealing.

Mutuals are super welcome to send me a DM. I’m kind of shy but I’m pretty friendly.

Anons are welcome and my ask box is open. Be nice and behave yourself and we’ll have a great time.

[nkogneatho]

telecom service providers in india are getting orders from government to shutdown our internet. they might also mass delete the posts and videos online. i know this is not the content you followed me for but please raise voice for the people in india if you can. if you find any posts about the brutality that the police inflicted upon protesters, people seeking legal or medical attention, people needing donation for sanitary pads, food, water, masks, etc. on twitter or instagram, please share it. it's my humble request. this is our last day. they're applying emergency alerts and new rules from tomorrow but today we are standing here in rain raising our voices and we will continue to do so.

[sickest-saddest-worldliest]

Censorship Tracker: Live list after New Delhi protests

Indian authorities block and restrict online content documenting police violence at Delhi’s Jantar Mantar protests.

[goldcrescent]

My new pet peeve is people completely misunderstanding the term Male Gaze and making the term female gaze based entirely on that misunderstanding

[goldcrescent]

the white boy of the month pushing his hair back and reading poetry for the camera is not the equivalent of the dehumanization of women in visual media by way of presenting them primarily as vessels for sexual gratification

[fuckthisshit-ugh]

please read this even if you're not indian. especially if you're not indian.

you've seen the jokes. india is "dirty", indians are "everywhere", why don't they fix their own country. ok. let me tell you why, and what's happening right now while nobody's watching.

first, the history you skipped: britain ruled india for two centuries and drained it. economist utsa patnaik's research estimates around $45 trillion in today's money was taken. the india that got independence in 1947 was one of the poorest countries on earth. every "why is india like this" question starts there. you don't get to profit off a robbery and then mock the crime scene.

now, what's happening RIGHT NOW:

in may the question paper for NEET leaked. that's the national medical entrance exam. over 2.2 million students took it. cancelled. years of studying, families' savings poured into coaching, gone overnight because someone sold the paper. students died by suicide after. these were kids who wanted to be doctors.

and out of that came a protest movement. a gen z group called the cockroach janta party, started by a 30 year old named abhijeet dipke, got 22 million instagram followers within DAYS. they've been doing a sit-in at jantar mantar in delhi demanding education minister dharmendra pradhan resign.

and then there's sonam wangchuk. if you've watched 3 idiots, he's the real engineer the character was based on. built solar schools in ladakh. invented ice stupas so himalayan villages have water. spent his whole life on education. he's 59 and he's been on hunger strike for 17+ days now. reporters went to see him this week and he was too weak to talk. and the troll armies are calling him "anti national" and "foreign funded". a man starving himself for other people's children. that's the thing here, anyone who asks a question is suddenly a traitor.

it's not one incident, it's everywhere you look:

• infrastructure worth thousands of crores failing within months of the ribbon cutting. tunnels collapsing in regions where heavy rain is a guarantee, not a surprise.

• youth unemployment near 10% for ages 15 to 29, 13.6% in cities. in a country of 1.42 billion where more than half the population is young.

• only about the top 3% of indians earn above 10 lakh a year. meanwhile billionaire wealth keeps ballooning and the headlines celebrate it.

• manipur burned for over two years. an ethnic conflict, tens of thousands displaced, and the prime minister barely said the word manipur while it happened.

• journalists raided. critics' houses bulldozed. activists sitting in jail for years without trial under laws like UAPA. our press freedom ranking has cratered.

• even the petrol is a fight now, ethanol blending pushed through while drivers complain about their engines and get no straight answers.

and through all of it, the PM, who came to power on religious polarisation (americans, sound familiar?), travels abroad for photo ops and has not held one single open press conference in over a decade. not one.

what i'm asking:

if you're not indian: share this. our media mostly won't cover any of it because the big outlets are owned by the same billionaires the government serves. the only reason wangchuk's fast is getting any coverage is people refusing to look away.

if you ARE indian: speak up even if you're comfortable. especially if you're comfortable. join the protests. add to this, correct me, translate it. staying quiet is a choice when nothing in this post touches your life.

india is not "dirty". india was robbed, and it's being robbed again, from the inside this time. but it's also the country where a 59 year old will starve for strangers' kids and 22 million young people will rally behind a party literally named after cockroaches, because cockroaches survive everything.

we can still save her. but only loudly.

reblog. share. don't scroll past.

[hiddurmitzvah]

Ever heard of a Black Wedding held in a cemetery to ward off plagues? Or the Schulklopfer knocking on windows to wake the people for morning prayer?

Here’s a sneak peek at two work-in-progress illustrations from our "Jewish Folklore of Eastern Europe" zine! 📖 Help us bring these forgotten stories to life by supporting the project.

We are getting so close to our goal! 🎯 Remember: by backing a reward, you are actively pre-ordering your own physical or digital copy of the zine.

Jewish Folklore of Eastern Europe Zine by Bence Illyés - Indiegogo

Beyond the Golem and the Dybukk lies a forgotten world of jewish magic. This 40 page, fully illustrated zine unearths the lesser-known creat

[hiddurmitzvah]

Just a reminder:

You can still donate to the project and get a copy of the zine as a reward!

[syrenki]

i went to the intersection of the sacred and the profane and everybody knew you

[embroiderycrafts]

A microscopic view of the cross section of a pine needle - hand embroidered in pearl cotton by M-Rage on reddit.

[thefemmesith]

URGENT NEED FOR MEDS/FOOD

Hi, gays! I spent ALL I had ($350) on my mother's eyes (after 2 surgeries she needed a 3rd, done July 10). My back and leg pain have become worse and more often. We both have chronic health issues. Living on benefits means bills keep happening thanks to emergencies and pure survival. We couldn't prepare, as most of us disabled/financially struggling people can't save money for long.

I know lots of us struggle, so if you can't donate, please share? Thank you! More info under?

Kofi / p@ypal/wise is: [email protected]

$0/300

My mother is 77 years old, she struggles with things "normal" for her age: high blood pressure, cholesterol, trigliceridi, anxiety, sleeping issues, back hernia, allergies and eye problems. I deal with chronic back/leg/feet pain and migraines (also chronic dermatitis, severe anxiety, depression, ocd, possible borderline, and vitamin deficiency to which I need supplements). That being said, we take 10 + meds a day:

Captopril, Losartana, Hidroclorotiazida, Puran t4, Sivastantina, Melatonina, Clonazepam, Duloxetina, eye drops, allergy creams, vitamins (omega 3, vitamin D, b12 and iron), powder replacements + diapers and common painkillers

Benefits + what I make with odd jobs leaves us with more or less $700 monthly, where $300 alone goes to rent, and we can't pay everything else (utensils, medicine, groceries) with only the remaining $400. We end up prioritizing house bills to keep a roof over our heads, but that means food and other necessities are tight.

Working is hard when I deal with daily pain and need to take care of mom. We live in Brasil, my currency is BRL (1 USD = 5 BRL / 1 € = 6 BRL).

Apparently people have bad things to say about those struggling, as if people who "e-beg" do it for fun, or as if it doesn't cause us anxiety when we know something important to us depends on the kindness that might not come. I have seen posts directed at me even. Your lack of sympathy/empathy is your problem and says more about you than about me. To anyone who has helped (donating, sharing, starting a conversation) thank you. Bless you all.

[thefemmesith]

UPDATE Jul 15: $40/350

In need of this for: mom's check-up rides after surgery (one every week!), Uber money to all exams and other appointments, anxiety meds AND food. After bills are paid we'll have ONLY $70 FOR GROCERIES. Obviously, $70 won't feed us 31 days. Not counting needs for this month, that have not been met since we don't get enough donos. Please, if you see this and can share or donate, any amount helps.

Check under for all the exams we must do.

[thatsbelievable]

[metrotransitposter]

Minnesota: please vote in this primary election.

I am begging you and your fellow MN voters to vote in the August 11th Minnesota primary election so we can have Peggy Flanagan as a senator instead of Angie Craig who voted to empower and support the federal agencies that have invaded and occupied our state and continue to harm our communities.

Please please please show up for Peggy so we don’t get stuck with ICE and AIPAC Angie.

[thehardveneer]

Early voting is open! You can find info here!

[luriaaan]

[swilkas]

people dont need to be sober and drug-free to deserve food and shelter and kindness imho

[themardia]

https://www.wusa9.com/article/money/personal-finance/recalls/bacteria-recall-canada-dollarama/507-27a1f502-a213-43c8-b44e-162ecb92bf67

FYI for anyone who lives in Canada, there is a recall of garlic powder sold in discount stores and online due to the presence of some nasty sounding bacteria.

From Bluesky: “The spice, sold by the Heavenly Spices brand, was recalled by Dollarama. Contamination by the bacterium Bacillus cereus, a microbe causes intense vomiting and diarrhea.”

[odd-maid3n]

[knight--error]

[therobotmonster]

[kuvaton]

[acepalindrome]

I checked to make sure it wasn’t AI, and I’m happy to say it’s a real bench in Zaporizhia, Ukraine!

[bisexualshakespeare]

[ID: photo of a park bench shaped like a book. The top is the spine of the book and it curves like the cover and several pages are bent. / end ID]

[sicheslavchyk]

And they are right in front of the central library

Man i love Zaporizhzhia

[ukraine-mentioned]

[existentialterror]

Sometimes I’m looking for something online - often “how to” articles - and I want to filter for - like - a website that was clearly built in 2010 at the latest, which may or may not have been updated since then, but contains a vast wealth of information on one topic, painstakingly organized by an unknown legend in the field with decades’ worth of experience. I don’t want a listicle with a nice stolen picture in a slideshow format written by a content aggregator that God forgot. I want hand-drawn diagrams by some genius professor who doesn’t understand SEO at all, but understands making stir-fries or raising stick insects better than anyone else on this earth. I don’t know what search settings to put into Google to get this.

[greenjudy]

thank you for articulating this cri de coeur for me

[jumpingjacktrash]

ngl these days i’m just happy when it’s not a video

[averixus]

search.marginalia.nu is the search engine you want!

The search engine calculates a score that aggressively favors text-heavy websites, and punishes those that have too many modern web design features.

This is in a sense the opposite of what most major search engines do, they favor modern websites over old-looking ones. Most links you find here will be nearly impossible to find on a regular search engine, as they aren’t sufficiently search engine optimized.

[ashby-santoso]

“It is a search engine, designed to help you find what you didn’t even know you were looking for. If you search for “Plato”, you might for example end up at the Canterbury Tales. Go looking for the Canterbury Tales, and you may stumble upon Neil Gaiman’s blog.

If you are looking for fact, this is almost certainly the wrong tool. If you are looking for serendipity, you’re on the right track. When was the last time you just stumbled onto something interesting, by the way?

I don’t expect this will be the next “big” search engine. This is and will remain a niche tool for a niche audience.“

[ms-demeanor]

i clicked around for a few minutes searching various things and I now have two fourteenth century pie crust recipes and an apple filling recipe i want to try, so thanks!

[ms-demeanor]

it has been twenty minutes and I am deeply in love with this search engine.

INCREDIBLE. I *do* want to know how to test Windows 95 for Y2K Compliance and I am glad that someone is still hosting step by step instructions for that.

[workfornow]

tl;dr: search.marginalia.nu for the old or old looking and just plain serendipitous stuff that google or Duck duck go are gonna not find/bury on the 20th page. For perfectly good reasons, but …

[existentialterror]

My absolute favorite part of having made this post - other than causing people to be introduced to this site - are the people in the tags/comments talking about their interests and stuff they found about their hobbies.

Good luck out there surfing the cyberweb, you crazy cats. I love the shoelace website too - Ian’s Shoelace Site [link], unless there’s another. My personal favorite old-school site is Alysion’s string figure collection [link].

[wizardnaturalist]

a book should be $5 a little drink should be $2 and museum access should be free and all hours