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[renthony]

Gen Z is great, I’m glad they’ve already started calling out a lot of shitty things that millennials have done.

But some of them are edging into “ugh it’s so cringey that adults still like having fun and engage in fandom content” and I resent that I apparently have to give up all my interests and joys because I’m already considered decrepit at age 26.

Fight the power, kids, but Jesus H. Christ do not fall for the idea that life ends at 25 and everyone older than that is past their prime.

[renthony]

And to clarify, I don’t say this because some teenagers made me feel bad or something, I’m saying this because the idea that you have to live your life to the fullest and do everything you want by the time you’re in your mid-twenties has left me with debilitating depression, anxiety, and inferiority issues. It’s the same with most of my friends.

Life is long, y’all. You have so many more years left to live. You don’t have to cram a century of possibility into a quarter of that time. Adults need and deserve silliness, fun, and play just as much as teenagers and kids do.

[kviralingvisto]

[thehmn]

If you want to learn more about the history of the police and systemic racism in America, may I suggest the podcasts Behind The Police and Behind The Bastards?

The reporter (or “hack and a fraud” as he’d call himself) Robert Evans dives into the history while Jason Emmanuel Petty aka Propaganda reacts to new information or elaborates on the things he already knows about.

It’s very informative and entertaining. They both get angry, sad and laugh at the absurdity of it all. So far they’ve done three episodes but plan on doing six in total. I highly recommend it. They look very serious in the photos but they’re very chill and funny guys to listen to together.

[wetheurban]

Instagram.com/wetheurban

[autismandstuff]

[blogbunnyrabbit]

[decabus]

this meme made me realise that other people apparently know how to show empathy without personal anecdotes 

[some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat]

… how…. please teach me

[idontknowanymoreaaaaaa]

I’m pretty sure none of us will get answers but please…if someone knows the secrets to showing empathy without personal anecdotes please speak up. We need answers

[lil-tumbles]

(Me (adhd + autism) can show empathy, but not sympathy. For me, it’s like I do the exact same thing, but as well as showing empathy through anecdotes I show sympathy through empathy).

[dragoninhumanskin]

@decabus @some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat @messynogenderpotato

I have somethin I guess? I’ve been the Support Friend for most of my life so I managed to get it down to a formula. TW: dog death

1. Ask Questions

This is mainly to keep them talking, that way a) they feel like they have a confidante in you, and b) the pressure is less on you to Say Things. In fact it shouldn’t be about you Saying Things at all, it should be you figuring out where they’re at and trying to understand.  E.g. “My dog died, I miss him.” Ask questions, and when they start talking, let them talk. “What was his name?” “How and when did he die?” “Tell me about him.” “What was he like?” “What’s your favourite memory of him?” “When did you first meet him?” “Did you teach him any tricks?” Again the point is to keep them talking, the questions are just to get them on a roll. If you’re worrying about what to say next, listen to what they’re saying and ask details of what they’re currently talking about, or mentally prepare your next question.

2. Listen

Let them talk. The more you listen to them talk, the more they feel like it’s okay to talk to you. If they dwindle off, ask them something else to get them talking again. Upset people usually have a lot to say.

Every now and again you can throw in little sentences like “Wow, what a bitch!” “Aw, so sad.” “What the fuck? Why?” just to prove you’re still listening and following, and haven’t wandered off into space.

3. When they’re done, give it back to them

It’s a technique called mirroring. Sum up whatever you heard in short form - if they’ve talked for half an hour about the little details of their deceased pet, say something like “It sounds like he was a very good boy/sounds like he meant a lot to you/sounds like you will miss him.” It’s been known to make people dissolve into a sobbing mess, because this is the part where you prove you’ve done your homework, you listened, you care, you get it.

4. If you really want to offer a solution, ask first. You can just skip this step altogether tbh.

Only when someone has finished talking about whatever is upsetting them, ask if you can help. “Can I offer some advice?”  Now is the time for SHORT anecdotes. Short. It’s not about you sharing your story, it’s about them getting advice. Remember they don’t have to take your advice, again it’s about them and their emotions, and they know themselves best. “When my dog died, I did this. Would that help?” “I read somewhere about doing this. Maybe try that and see how it goes?”

Hope this helps y’all. The TL;DR of all this is basically listen, and prove you’re listening.

[idontknowanymoreaaaaaa]

Thank you!!!

[sgo-resources]

That explanation really is so good!

[comment-tube]

[one-time-i-dreamt]

Imagine how these babies are feeling right now, this is INHUMANE

[lesbianstimsarchive]

Gay Prismatic Shard

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[jenshuriki-inactive-deactivated]

im not native American so saying Dolphins are my spirit animal is offensive? can someone NOT WHITE explain it to me?

[wiisagi-maiingan]

Spirit animals are a sacred part of a select number of Turtle Island/North American indigenous cultures. What they actually are varies from culture to culture, with some communities seeing them as the same as clans/dodems/totems and others seeing them as actual spirit guides that vary from person to person, but they’re always vital parts of their cultures and a huge influence on how many Native people interact with their communities and spirituality.

People don’t just decide that something is their spirit animal. It’s either something you inherit from your family (some tribes are matrilineal, some are patrilineal) or something you learn through a specific and traditional spiritual ceremony, often involving a spiritual leader, Elders, and your ancestors. It’s an extremely important and serious thing to undergo and learn, and not something that anyone takes lightly. Many Native people don’t know their spirit animal because they don’t have access to those resources or have lost their knowledge of their family’s clan and their duties in their tribe.

When non-Native people use our terms, like spirit animal and totem and powwow and all that, in ways that are incorrect, they’re directly contributing to the same culture that turned clans into the “Native American zodiac” and has homogenized our cultures and communities. It’s using our sacred beliefs and practices and traditions as fun aesthetics without any of their history or meaning, while real Native people suffer from continued cultural genocide, racism, and trauma (both personal and intergenerational).

(Just to be clear, before anyone else brings it up, spirit guides and animal guides are present in tons of cultures. The difference here is that “spirit animal” and “totem/dodem” are terms specifically associated with Turtle Island cultures, and other communities and belief systems have their own names for their guides. If you are talking about this sort of thing in a spiritual or religious context, please just use terms like spirit guides, animal guides, etc.)

If any other Native people have anything to add or correct, please feel free.

[mukhannath]

theres this awkward disconnect when well meaning whites use genders from other cultures as an argument for respecting nonbinary ppl. 

like if you are saying “other cultures have these 3rd genders so thats evidence nonbinary is real thing” that doesnt really work because those genders arent nonbinary, they exist out of the context of the western gender binary, theyre part of a different system of genders. cant be nonbinary if theres no binary to begin with. 

but if you are using this as an argument for “the gender binary is a western construct thats been pushed on other cultures and also is completely arbitrary and thats why you should respect nonbinary people” then THAT is a prfectly sound arugment.. 

[lesbianpeachs]

THANK YOU it’s so fucking difficult to get this through people’s heads.

[astrodidact]

Washington Post climate reporter Andrew Freedman noted Sunday that if the reading is confirmed, it "would be the northernmost 100-degree reading ever observed, and the highest temperature on record in the Arctic, a region that is warming at more than twice the rate of the rest of the globe."

"On Sunday, the same location recorded a high temperature of 95.3 degrees (35.2 Celsius), showing the Saturday reading was not an anomaly," the newspaper reported. "While some questions remain about the accuracy of the Verkhoyansk temperature measurement, data from a Saturday weather balloon launch at that location supports the 100-degree reading. Temperatures in the lower atmosphere, at about 5,000 feet, also were unusually warm at 70 degrees (21 Celsius), a sign of extreme heat at the surface."

The World Meteorological Organization said Sunday that is "preliminarily accepting the observation as a new extreme" as it conducts a more thorough review of the Verkhoyansk reading.

"100°F about 70 miles north of the Arctic Circle today in Siberia. That's a first in all of recorded history," tweeted meteorologist Eric Holthaus. "We are in a climate emergency."

Read more:

https://www.commondreams.org/news/2020/06/22/scares-me-says-bill-mckibben-arctic-hits-1004degf-hottest-temperature-record

'This Scares Me,' Says Bill McKibben as Arctic Hits 100.4°F—Hottest Temperature on Record

"100°F about 70 miles north of the Arctic Circle today in Siberia. That's a first in all of recorded history. We are in a climate emergency.

[midiport]

[tolstoyevskywrites-deactivated2]

Important ideas to consider when creating characters who are black and indigenous people of color. (x)

[lindsaychrist]

this is so fucking funny…

[iconicpopstar]

where’s that post that’s like “men think life is a movie and you’re girl #3″

[lesbian-toddhoward]

an asparagus looks on in horror as their four adopted children encourage his tomato husband to commit mass suicide

[westieronto]

How most people with invisible illnesses are treated by health care “professionals”

[thefemcritique]

The Golden Girls didn’t fuck around

[pardonmewhileipanic]

pls watch

honestly i really appreciated this scene when I first saw it bc it took me like two years to get a diagnosis for what’s wrong with me

[mttheww]

Dorothy:  Dr. Budd?

Dr. Budd:  Yes?

Dorothy:  You probably don’t remember me, but you told me I wasn’t sick.  Do you remember?  You told me I was just getting old.

Dr. Budd:  I’m sorry, I really don’t–

Dorothy:  Remember.  Maybe you’re getting old.  That’s a little joke.  Well, I tell you, Dr. Budd, I really am sick.  I have chronic fatigue syndrome.  That is a real illness.  You can check with the Center for Disease Control.

Dr. Budd:  Huh.  Well, I’m sorry about that.

Dorothy:  Well, I’m glad!  At least I know I have something.

Dr. Budd:  I’m sure.  Well, nice seeing you.

Dorothy:  Not so fast.  There are some things I have to say.  There are a lot of things that I have to say.  Words can’t express what I have to say.  [tearing up]  What I went through, what you put me through—I can’t do this in a restaurant.

Dr. Budd:  Good!

Dorothy:  But I will!

Dr. Budd’s date:  Louis, who is this person?

Dr. Budd:  Look, Miss–

Dorothy:  Sit.  I sat for you long enough.  Dr. Budd, I came to you sick—sick and scared—and you dismissed me.  You didn’t have the answer, and instead of saying “I’m sorry, I don’t know what’s wrong with you,” you made me feel crazy, like I had made it all up.  You dismissed me!  You made me feel like a child, a fool, a neurotic who was wasting your precious time.  Is that your caring profession?  Is that healing?  No one deserves that kind of treatment, Dr. Budd, no one.  I suspect had I been a man, I might have been taken a bit more seriously, and not told to go to a hairdresser.

Dr. Budd:  Look, I am not going to sit here anymore–

Dr. Budd’s date:  Shut up, Louis.

Dorothy:  I don’t know where you doctors lose your humanity, but you lose it.  You know, if all of you, at the beginning of your careers, could get very sick and very scared for a while, you’d probably learn more from that than anything else.  You’d better start listening to your patients.  They need to be heard.  They need caring.  They need compassion.  They need attending to.  You know, someday, Dr. Budd, you’re gonna be on the other side of the table, and as angry as I am, and as angry as I always will be, I still wish you a better doctor than you were to me.

[jennytrout]

Reblogging for any of my mutuals who’ve ever dealt with Dr. Budd.

[dovekiss]

The most comprehensive link to donations, petitions, resources and information. Silence is compliance in violence.

[luckcat-deactivated20240730]

A list of misinformation that’s being spread, please check that things are true before you repost/reblog them

A playlist of 56 videos that are all donating their ad revenue to causes related to the black lives matter movement