Yes Means Yes - Consent Based Education

 A group of students at the University of Alberta aiming to get consent based education into the Catholic school curriculum.  

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Watch: This is who and what is really at the root of rape culture

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[spicyjared]

PSA.

Harassment is harassment, no matter what age you are. If you groped his or her butt, or slapped it, as a joke or a dare, or without consent, that’s harassment. If you grope her breasts without consent, that’s harassment. If you touch anybody in places they wouldn’t like to be touched, or places which would be inappropriate without permission or consent, that is harassment. It doesn’t matter what age you are. You could be an adult, or a teen, or even an elder. Harassment is harassment, people. Get that into your heads. It isn’t just something to make jokes about. It’s a crime.

[whitewidowwillow-deactivated201]

Friendly reminder that the way my body is clothed does not give definition to myself & or my consent.

[lovethefutureisthine]

petition for fairy tales where the refusal to kiss the sleeping princess because it lacks consent actually awakens her and saves the day

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[yesmeansyesyeg]

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A job well done, definitely a great blog. Followed back most definitely!

[thegreatsapphicvein]

Is Complimenting a Woman Sexual Harassment?-Feminist Fridays

[profeminist]

"Cat Call" by Ursa Eyer (Source)

"Here’s a short comic about my personal experiences with Cat Calling. Keep in mind, this is a very VERY vanilla version. I kept out all the super horrible and gross stuff because, I’m hoping this gets my point across. This comic is only meant to illustrate my history with this upsetting part of our culture."

[themarysue]

A comic on cat calling through the years. So to speak.

[quicksilverwracked]

Honestly the “hey sexy” “look at those tits” started at 12 for me, so yeah I’d say the ages are a bit out, otherwise v good.

[sexetc]

Street harassment is never okay. Reblog if you agree.

[yesmeansyesyeg]

Consent. Affirmative Consent. Consent Education. And why it’s important.

[mysharona1987]

[geekandmisandry]

Myths about Male Rape

“Men can’t be raped by women, they always want sex.” This is absolutely bullshit for a very obvious reason. Men are not sex robots, they are individuals who can consent to or deny a sexual encounter for any number of valid reasons. Do not deny them their autonomy with this bullshit.

“Well you can’t really be raped by a woman because a man needs to have an erection.”

Arousal is not consent. Erection is not consent. Hell, erection isn’t even always arousal. So far as it has been explained to me some guys get them for no damn reason at all. On a bus, in math class, waking up in the morning. An erection is not an indication of consent. 

“Well if he had an orgasm then he was clearly into it.”

As stated above, arousal does not equal consent. But following on from this point the lack of knowledge about ejaculation is astounding. Male ejaculations are a spinal reflex. Men can absolutely be forced to have them. Sexual intercourse is not required for a man to ejaculate. A man having a seizure can get an erection and/or ejaculate. Is he asking for it? No.

“Men don’t feel violated if they are raped.” Utter rot. While gendered social conditioning may have an impact on the way we deal with these issues, we are all still people and regardless of gender can have varying reactions to traumatic events. 

“Men being raped by women is funny, it’s a source of comedy.”

No. These films and TV shows and jokes about male rape, from movies depicting prison rape or a woman raping a man as a hilarious event or a joke to tell, it’s not funny. The invasion and victimisation of a person is not funny. The removal of their consent is not funny. If you think it is funny then you may need to check yourself, because there is nothing funny about being raped. 

Do not add to the victimisation of rape victims, do not view media that seeks to tell you that their pain is a funny anecdote or a throwaway comedic one-liner. Do destigmatise male rape, believe the victims and support them whenever you can. 

[thebipolarvirgin]

This woman just explained consent with the most perfect metaphor

Let’s break it down, shall we?

If they are unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people can’t answer the question, “Do you want tea?” because they are unconscious.

If you say, “Hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they um and ahh and say, “I’m not really sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then — this is the important bit — don’t make them drink it. You can’t blame them for you going to the effort of making the tea on the off chance they wanted it; you just have to deal with them not drinking it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch them drink it.

If they say, “No, thank you,” then don’t make them tea. At all. Don’t make them tea, don’t make them drink tea, don’t get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don’t want tea, okay?

They might say, “Yes, please, that’s kind of you,” and then when the tea arrives they actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea. They did want tea, now they don’t. Sometimes people change their mind in the time it takes to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And it’s okay for people to change their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink it even though you went to the trouble of making it.

If they are unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people don’t want tea and can’t answer the question, “Do you want tea?” because they are unconscious.

Okay, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes, but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they are now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and — this is the important bit — don’t make them drink the tea.

If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it and then passed out before they’d finished it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat.

If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it and then passed out before they’d finished it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away and make sure they are safe.  Because unconscious people don’t want tea. Trust me on this.

If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last Saturday, that doesn’t mean that they want you to make them tea all the time. They don’t want you to come around unexpectedly to their place and make them tea and force them to drink it going, “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST WEEK,” or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST NIGHT.”

And that’s how you do that. The genius of this metaphor basically exposes everything — EVERYTHING! — that’s wrong with the unevolved dinosaurs who think the issue of consent is a complicated one. It’s not. It’s tea. Freakin’ brilliant.

Bonus? It also works on kids. Just replace tea with ice cream. Though we suppose that works for adults, too.

[mysharona1987]

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A Woman Is Posting Feminist Messages Written On Period Pads All Over Her City

[doctordachshund]

Important sticker I saw downtown

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[yesmeansyesyeg]

I did a show once with a female comedian. She got on stage and the first thing that happened is some idiot in the front yells, ‘TAKE IT OFF!’ If you’re a dude, never yell, ‘Take it off’. Unless a woman has placed a tarantula or a scorpion on one of your shoulders, there’s no reason to yell, ‘Take it off!”