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[probablynot404]

life tip whatever dumb ass name you get siri to call you is what your iphone automatically signs your emails as. i have been applying to jobs for 2 months as queef.

[itsaubreylmfao]

[filmeditors-deactivated20230605]

#OH MY GOD OH GMY GOD OH MY GOD NO N ONO NO NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOO #HOLY SHIT #I HAVE BEEN APPLYING TO JOBS AS ANAL DESTROYER

[lbyrinth-deactivated20210324]

FUCK

[badkidgorgug]

This post actually deserves a “reblog to save a life”

[figmentforms-the-human]

This actually happened to an unfortunate lab tech i knew a few years ago. “Sir Fuck-O-Saurus” had a hard time with employment.

[silly-jellyghoty]

As if i needed one more reason to say fuck no to any and all apple producta and software

[detective-dr-curious]

Okay unironically SIGNAL BOOST

[alpacasandravens]

Gilgamesh Thena qpr supremacy

[a-walking-fandom-reference]

if people could respect aroace people for 5 seconds and not turn us and our canon characters into discourse that would be like super cool

[ghoulfriends]

[aromanticduck]

TV show writer: I have made a romance.

Me: You fucked up a perfectly good friendship is what you did. Look at it. It's got amatonormativity.

[overcaffeinated-aro]

yall the point of aros speaking out about amatonormativity is not to shame you for wanting a romantic relationship. it’s not to shame you for having a romantic relationship be an important goal or milestone for you

it’s simply to say that specifically a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is not wanted by all, and should not be an expectation for all or even most in our society. it should not be a legally incentivized status, it’s frustrating when it’s the only thing people talk about regarding your favorite media, and removing even a single word from the definition creates a type of relationship that is heavily scrutinized

it’s ok to want that kind of relationship. however I also think it’s important to think about why. if it’s something you want simply because it’s expected, because you don’t know what else you’d do or what your life would look like without it.. maybe that’s something to explore. and if you determine that it’s something you truly want. that’s ok

[slowlyshytheorist]

My good people, I give you: Amatonormativity.

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/2021/06/07/wheelchair-scooter-damage-airplane-flights/

[nightingem]

people have no idea like. how devestating this is. so many wheelchairs are custom made and repairing them is hellish, if they’re in a state to be repaired. most wheelchair users do not have the financial means to replace them, and SSI asset limits mean that if they’re on disability it’s a ridiculous set of hoops to even crowdfund past 2k to repair or replace.

airlines need to be held accountable for this in a major way. they see fucking over disabled people’s lives as more profitable than fixing how they handle wheelchairs. and i mean like, actually ruining lives, taking away comfort and freedom that they worked so, so hard to get. people take their lives because of this.

[p-artsypants]

^ yes to all of the above.

But also like, how do you lose a wheelchair? I could understand them getting on the wrong flight, but it’s not like they’re going to fall behind the conveyor belt. If they’re labeled, shouldn’t they be able to get them back? I’m so frustrated!

[mermaidyarn]

Again how do you lose them? Didn't they use them to get into the flight?

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

For the umpteenth time (does anyone ever check the notes?) airlines lose luggage all the time. But for those of you who clearly need more detail, here are actual things that have happened with wheelchairs.

1. The airline tells the wheelchair user at the check-in desk they have to transfer to an airport chair and then never takes their chair to the plane.

2. It gets left on the jetway.

3. It gets left on the runway.

4. It gets put on the wrong plane/sent to the wrong airport.

5. It gets put on the right plane but instead of returning it to the door of the plane, the airline sends it down to the baggage carousel and someone else takes it.

6. It gets put on the right plane and returned to the door of the plane and then while the disabled person is waiting for the whole plane to unload the airline just gives their chair to a random person/lets a random person take it instead of checking to see if the person taking it is the one who owns it.

[motherfucker-somewhat-limited]

On that last point, when you say "gives it to a random person", do you mean they give it to a different disabled person, or just really let any old person grab it like they would one of the cheap folding chairs the airport offers to help people get across large terminals?

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

Both.

[ID: Reblog by @pagerunner “Never forgetting the time Julie, her mom, and I few to NC. And when you use a chair, you get on first and get off last. (On this freakishly narrow chair they strap you on while they put the actual chair - with your name on it - in the cargo, like a stroller.) And when we finally get off the plane, Julie's chair isn't there. ANOTHER PASSENGER SAID IT WAS HIS AND THEY JUST. GAVE IT TO HIM? IT HAD JULIE WRITTEN ON THE TAG. And then there were stewards trying to track down the wheelchair thief, and Julie's stuck on this tiny, foot-wide chair until they finally show up the guy is angry she's "taking it away from him". Worst travel day.”]

[ID: Reblog by @liraelclayr “Frontier Airlines GAVE MY WHEELCHAIR AWAY to somebody. They told him it was an airport wheeIchair, even though there was a very large neon orange tag on it with my name on it, and it looked nothing like the wheelchairs in the airport. I was incredibly lucky to have gotten to the guy in time for him before he got away with it. He was a minute from getting away in a taxi. I will never, ever use Frontier again, and I tell my friends not to use them either.”]

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

[ID: Comment by @anywaybulletjournal “People who could or would steal something like that … 😰”]

[ID: Comment by @miranda_alfaro_ “I traveled from Richmond back to DFW my hometown this weekend and American let someone steal my wheelchair and transport it to another terminal. No one stopped anyone and thank god they found it but I was stranded for 2 hours I was so angry.”]

Just a reminder that this happens every day to wheelchairs users.

[buh-no]

This happened to my great aunt the last time she traveled before she died.

She is forced to "check" her chair and it has her name on the back rest on both sides after a previous incident and her phone number.

She has limited mobility but she could walk for brief periods of time that she usually saved for specific times and has a walker and cane. She happened to have her cane with her at the time.

They sit her on the plane and proceed to TAKE her cane from her even tho it was collapsible and she put it in her lap.

Thy wouldn't give her her cane to go to the bathroom and no one would help her to go.

They forced her to piss herself because of this and she still had another 3 hours before she could get off.

No one would help her, employees or passengers

They wouldn't give her the cane back and wouldn't bring her an airport chair for another hour so she could get off the plane

They lied straight to her daughters face about where she was.

They finally gave her a chair to get off the plane but still refused her her cane

They gave her chair to someone else

That person eventually called her while she was waiting for her daughter to be escorted to her so they could go home and actually gave her chair back, the airport broke the other person's chair.

THEY STILL REFUSED TO GIVE HER CANE BACK.

TSA was called for a suspicious person which was her crying, piss covered, and alone by the plane exit. They yelled at her until someone else finally got involved and helped her.

When she finally got her cane back, it was broken in 4 spots, where the pieces click together and the handle. You had to actually try to break it and it was purposeful.

Someone tore the embroidered cloth that had her name and number off the back but left the one that actually touches the person. Meaning someone did it intentionally.

Fuck the airport. Fuck airlines and their employees. They treat disabled people horribly and intentionally sabotage their mobility devices.

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

https://www.forbes.com/sites/lakenbrooks/2021/11/08/disability-advocate-engracia-figueroa-died-after-an-airline-damaged-her-wheelchair/amp/

Disability Advocate Engracia Figueroa Died After An Airline Damaged Her Wheelchair

Engracia Figueroa, a prominent advocate for disabled people, died on October 31st at the age of 51. Many people mourn her loss, and they arg

Engracia Figueroa died as a direct result of injuries sustained when United Airlines destroyed her wheelchair.

[avonamor]

Also, reminder that the aroace community shouldn’t have to fight this hard to see one singular piece of representation in mainstream media. Us non-aro/ace individuals are witnessing this fight from a place of privilege, and while we can (and should) empathise and support, we will never truly understand how difficult this is for the aroace community.

[likeaspeedingarrow]

Yelena Belova is CONFIRMED Asexual in the comics. "I'm not anything" is a phrase I myself have used in the past and I've also heard others use it. It's an easy enough description to use.

"But nothing was said about her being Aromantic"

It's important to note here that while the split attraction model is useful especially when someone is not both Aromantic and Asexual we are NOT required to use it.

Using Asexual as our singular identity is just as valid a way to say we're not attracted to anyone. Just as Bisexual is a valid way to say that you are attracted to multiple genders.

In an interview her creator specifically said that she wasn't likely to "follow Nat's romantic path"

"But this is the MCU not the comics, things could be different"

The fact that you feel like you can say this when you would likely be up in arms if someone tried to say the same thing about a gay or lesbian character in the comics says a lot. It's aphobic and really shitty, stop it. Get over yourself and give us the same fucking respect.

"But it's only fanfiction/headcanons/ a ship what harm are we doing"

It's erasure. Erasure of an identity that's important to so many people, erasure of an identity I needed as a kid when my 10 and 11 year old classmates were kissing each other and dating, as a teen when I sat in my sex Ed class wondering why I was uninterested even as all my classmates were filled with nervous excitement.

Erasure of an identity that has practically no mainstream representation.

Representation is vital for all LGBTQIA+ identities, Asexual included, it saves lives.

And Yelena is great rep something Asexuals and especially Aromantics have been denied time and time again in mainstream media.

"Some AroAce people get in relationships"

Yes, they do but using this to justify a ship especially if you aren't aroace yourself or haven't done adequate research by talking to aroace people about their relationships. It can come across as though you think that finding your "ship" is what makes a human. This isn't the case and it dehumanises people like me.

Bottom line: please respect us and Yelena. She's already a badass.

[shrinkthisviolet]

...okay, since someone brought up the recent Devin interview, I’m going to address that. Mind you, this is from Monday, December 13th, 2021, so this is the most updated info we have.

Yes, I understand that Devin said that Yelena’s sexuality was up to interpretation, but what else did she say?:

“Later, when I had lived with [Yelena] a little longer and someone asked me if she might be ace, I thought that actually made a lot of sense for her. But there are two strong caveats to that. The first is that Yelena is Russian... Yelena may not have been exposed to terms like “ace” and “aro.” Yelena, remember, not only works for the State, she was essentially raised by them. If she has thought to question her sexuality at all, I feel pretty confident that she’d keep her conclusions to herself.”

Hmm okay. Still not disproving that Yelena is aroace. In fact, highlighting why she would’ve said “I’m not lesbian, I’m...nothing,” because she wouldn’t have known the word for being aroace. Let’s go further:

“I mentioned two caveats to my answer, though, and here’s the other one, which is actually the most salient issue in all of this: I do not own Yelena Belova. Though she sprang from the imagination of JG Jones and I, she is the property of Marvel Entertainment...I have absolutely no control over Marvel’s decisions for her in the future. I like the idea of her being ace and hope they go with that, but despite my 20+ years writing comics, there isn’t even anyone there I can mention that to.”

Ah. This is the big one, right? We don’t know Yelena’s MCU sexuality. It’s very possible that Disney won’t make her aroace. But until they decide one way or the other, don’t you think we should go with the wishes of the actual creator? Don’t you think we should refer to her actual canon comic dialogue on the matter?

[rubinhexe]

ok so I'm really not up to date with the mcu but I noticed that a lot of aros are speaking up against ppl shipping an aroace character (which they're totally right about!). anyways, some aros however claimed it takes their representation of aroaces in relationships away, which is also a good point.

HOWEVER. the thing is, when alloros write canon aro characters in relationships, they don't write them as aro. they write them as allo. as someone with full on romantic attraction.

THIS IS ERASURE.

I'm all for aros to write aro characters in relationships. hell yeah, get some diversity! after all, not all of us romance-repulsed or prefer being single. we're not monolith, and I'd love to learn more about other people's aromantic experiences.

but writing a canon aro character as alloro just to make them “shippable” (which, let's be honest, way too many allos do), is erasure and stays erasure.

[kirianthedivorce]

Absolutely losing it at this Reddit post

And the update

She buttered Jorts

[anoonzee]

The outrage summed in a perfect Tweet:

[ramblesfromaniangallagherstan]

[lgbt-tiktoks]

Caption: [So here’s something no one’s gonna tell white asexual and aromantic kids. Most of your fears for your future are rooted in capitalism and white supremacy. American white supremacy and American capitalism created this essential need for the nuclear family. And this idea that that is the only place you can get your care and resources and love.

That’s why so many of us are worried about who’s gonna take care of us if we’re elderly or disabled. It’s why we struggle to find single person housing. It’s why it’s not seen as normalized to have close relationships with your family and friends. There are so many examples around the world and throughout time where that was not the norm.

Where community care, community love, and community support was the expectation and the norm. And American white supremacy and American capitalism actively destroyed that. So maybe its time for us to start giving platforms to the BIPOC LGBTQIA folks who’ve been saying from the beginning that their liberation will free us all.]

[berryburrie]

I hate that people will only find value of an aroace character if they can fall in love and have sex too.

I hate the blatant arophobia I see when people are defending their ships (“They’re asexual! They can still date like ‘normal people’” or some other variation).

I hate the erasure of the aromantic part from the aroace identity in favor of seeing a romance.

I hope I can live long enough to see aromantic representation in media without people only seeing value of their character as someone they can ship with.

I hope I can see openly and happy aromantic characters in my favorite tv shows, movies, etc. in the future, much like I’m seeing the shift of positive queer allo representation today, but I worry that is a pipe dream with how openly aphobic some people can be.

[arotechno]

i don't go here (here being marvel) but i will say this, as a more general statement:

the problem with alloros shipping aro characters is not that there are no romance-favorable aros or arospec people in relationships. the problem is that the vast majority of alloro people use this as an excuse to overlook the aro identity.

an aromantic being in a ronantic relationship does not suddenly stop being aromantic; it doesn't suddenly stop having any effect on their life. in fact, most aro people in relationships or who have been in relationships that i've spoken to would tell you that their aro identity directly informs the way their romantic relationships work.

it's the same as when people used the "well it's a SPECTRUM, maybe he's demiromantic" excuse with jughead. like, no, actually, you don't get to use arospec identities as a free pass if you're not going to actually treat the people who claim those identities with respect. it'd be like if someone came onto me, a non-partnering aro, and was like "aromanticism is a spectrum, why don't you just try it?" like, yeah it's a spectrum, that doesn't mean i occupy all points along that spectrum at the same time.

aro people's identities are not your playthings, and you don't get to co-opt partnering and romance favorable aros' experiences for the sake of your own convenience if you're not actually going to treat the portrayal of those experiences with respect and dignity. you don't get to pick and choose which aro experiences are most palatable to you based on, like, what the hot new ship of the week is.