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I'm deleting the tumblr app off my phone, it's taking up too much space and I'm just so low rn. My cat died last night right in front of me and I'm really not handling things too well. I'm not going to delete the blog or anything as I might come back in a few months but really, I need to let go of politics, even if just for a while. I've come to accept that focusing on this blog and the reasons I set it up in the first place just add unnecessary stress to my life. Also deleting all the pics I have up of myself, dunno why but the idea of not being able to remove them later is stressful bc i have no use what the password is or which email I used to sign up. I might be back, might not. See y'all or whatever. I'm out ✌

#lemon #haitus #maybe abandoning the blog

beautiful-wildlife

klubbhead

I MUST GO!

#lemon #can someone photoshop him onto a penny farthing??

blogging-at-your-funeral

lessdanthree

what drugs were they on when they made this

meanmisscharles

Cab Calloway rotascoped!

badgyal-k-deactivated20190901

Whoever thought of this was drinking absinthe

protectblkwomen

Thanks, Now I have nightmares

brunhiddensmusings

this was long before cartoons were ever thought of as ‘for kids’, the target audience of this one was roughly 20-40 betty boop cartoons featuring cab calloway singing, yes, but slang has changed so much you dont realize he was singing about opium, sugar daddies, death, weed, sex, booze, and gambling back when gambling was nearly as tabboo as sex and drugs. ‘minnie the moocher’ where cab calloway is a dancing walrus is specifically about someone who does literally everything on that list but die

most of the animation studios had their ‘thing’ to make their animation stand out, disney had fluid motion linked with quality music, warner brothers had top notch dialogue with carefully crafted facial expressions, MGM had comedic timing down to the individual frame that no live action comedian could dream of achieving, terrytoons had the budget of a ham sandwitch and a fistfull of nickels fleischer studios however had authentic jazz and heavy toned subject matter, often crossing the line of what we think of as ‘cartoon violence’ into realistic

#lemon #Fleischer

great-tweets

I am simultaneously impressed and terrified.

anjieluvs-deactivated20221031

I refuse to believe this isn’t actually Rocket

uncleromeo

“talented mom” is either an incredibly talented practical effects designer or a furry with a lot of free time.

a-lemon

1000% a furry but I'm proud of her :)

#lemon #unrelated

foulserpent

please train yourselves into seeing severely brachycephalic breeds like persian cats whose faces are pretty much concave and cant breathe or groom themselves properly as the ugly results of selective breeding without care for the animals wellbeing that they are

a-lemon

No offense but calling those animals ugly is yuk, they're adorable and I love them but they still need to be bred out of existence. Like pugs are adorable as shit but that doesn't mean I think they're totally chill bc they're not. They're suffering. Idk man being mean to these animals bc humans fucked them up just don't feel right to me. Not trying to have a debate I'm just airing my opinion. Breed them out of existence but don't view them as less than you're Labrador bc they have fucky faces ✌

#lemon #unrelated

saybyebus

Me: Being a trans man doesn’t give me an excuse to engage in fragile masculinity. I need to get a grip on things and not let gender dictate what I can and can’t do.

Also me : My winter coat and my vitamin bottle both say “women’s” on them and I CANNOT HANDLE IT

warmbrightedits

I REALLY wish it was more accepted that trans men can be masculine, and that dysphoria can’t be ignored just because you’re ‘woke’ about social roles. Gender DOES dictate what I can and can’t do. I would rather die than wear a dress ever again. I hate wearing feminine makeup. I was forced to be girly throughout my childhood and adolescence, and the pain of that experience caused me to live as if I were watching my life play out from a distance, performing to a standard I didn’t understand and could never consider natural to me. My brain is male. My body is not, and I am undergoing surgical procedures and hormone replacement therapy to remedy this. All of these memes about ‘toxic masculinity’ with regard to trans men trying to avoid dysphoria, and being unapologetically masculine, are somewhat insulting. I shouldn’t have to justify not wanting to engage in feminine activities by explaining my history of dysphoria and familial rejection, but I seem to need to whenever I see one of these memes come across my dash. I respect women, I have gotten into fights trying to protect female friends from being harassed by strangers, I am attracted to femininity and consider it very beautiful. But femininity, when applied to me, is extremely uncomfortable.

If a trans man can disassociate femininity from dysphoria, and do things like wear dresses or makeup, then good for him. But (and this is something that has been apparently disregarded by tumblr’s newest brand of toxic femininity) that is not the norm among transgender men, nor has it ever been. We are men. Some of us are gender non-conforming, but most of us are not. Most of us are masculine.

Masculinity is not inherently toxic, and wanting to avoid things explicitly labelled/understood to be ‘women’s’ products, is not evil or misogynistic. I understand that this is probably not something that OP was suggesting (and I empathise with OP’s point), but I feel like this sort of insecurity around not wanting to appear toxic just for being masculine, needs to be addressed. Tumblr will bend over backwards for trans women who want to be feminine, but when it comes to trans men being masculine, suddenly we’re bombarded with cutesy attitudes and being called ‘boys’ at the age of thirty.

This is a larger issue that stems from the glorification of femininity and the demonisation of masculinity.

If you want to avoid products and things labelled ‘women’s’, then do it. It’s fine. You’re pursuing your own comfort, and not hurting anybody. It’s not wrong. It’s not bad. Be proud to be a man.

warriormale

Toxic Masculinity is an outgrowth of the concept of Manliness as defined by the Consumer Culture, the dominant culture that we live in.

The Consumer Culture promotes Manliness as “appearance”. To be Manly, you must “appear” Manly, which means you must “buy” it.

To be a “Man” you must buy the right clothes, the right car/truck, the right place to live, the right education, the right body (very muscular, in many cases drug induced) and even the right life partner.

You must “look” Manly.

The Martial Culture, the culture of the fight gyms, promotes Manliness as “earned”. Fighting produces and nurtures Manliness. Manliness is not about “appearing Manly” but rather the ability and willingness to fight. Appearance is not important at all.

Manliness includes fight skills, a trained and conditioned body and most importantly the Moral Virtues of Humility, Integrity, Selflessness, Self Control and always showing Respect.

Manliness is truly moral.

Fighting makes Men Good!

The Consumer Culture’s version of Manliness has no morals. It is morally bankrupt. This is why it is often labeled as “Toxic Masculinity” because it offers the opposite of the Moral Virtues of true Manliness.

Arrogance instead of Humility.

Lying and fake news instead of Integrity and always seeking the Truth.

Selfishness and self absorption instead of true Selflessness.

Lack of Self Control instead of true Self Control and Discretion at all times.

Constant displays of disrespect instead of always showing Respect for people, places and things.

So, my message to all Men, including trans Men is:

Always seek and cherish true Manliness!

Train and fight!

WarriorMale

thestarsareundecided

If you want to be a man, or show manliness, all you must do is be willing to fight for what you believe in. To bear combat and burdens for what you believe in.

To care is human. To nurture is human. But to engage in open combat is masculine, while to engage in subterfuge is feminine. And both are necessary.

warriormale

Manliness is the ability and willingness to fight.

Manliness includes fight skills, a trained and conditioned body and he Moral Virtues of Humility Integrity, Selflessness, Self Control and always showing Respect.

Women also train and fight, sharing in our Manliness.

WarriorMale

dashaibo

Wow, my dude, way to absolutely not understand a complex issue.

archivedtdp-deactivated20240111

@warriormale, thanks for going full on transphobe here as well as full-on sexist. None of that is what masculinity is for starters, not even in your idea of “consumer culture” - way to go full of Gillette. More than that though, us trans guys have a serious medical condition that leads to an intensely high suicide rate, depression, and often times anxiety disorders so we kind of do this thing where many of us can’t actually do feminine things because it makes our gender dysphoria worse and MAKES US WANT TO KILL OURSELVES. Holy shit, how can you say something so ignorant, bigoted, and full of yourself?

warmbrightedits

@warriormale While I’m assuming this was a miscommunication of sorts, I’m a bit confused about the point you made when you reblogged my post. I was making the point that engaging with feminine items and being forced to wear feminine clothing/products can be really hurtful to trans men, due to the mental illness of gender dysphoria (which we cannot control), but you replied saying that buying masculinised products was pointless and redundant in being manly. I’d like to understand why you took a conversation about the importance of masculine items and products for trans men, and made it about consumerism and how it is an apparently insufficient form of masculinity. The fact that we populate our lives with masculine items and aesthetics is a reflection of a life we’ve fought to live, and that masculinity is not fragile or toxic; which is exactly the point I was trying to make. We have earned this life. We have earned the right to be men, and live comfortably, as opposed to being forced to be feminine (as so many of us were during our childhoods).

“Appearance is not important at all,” is actually the opposite of what I was saying. Appearance is central to our most of our lives, because gender dysphoria is a diagnosable, medical, often lifelong condition that we can’t control without some drastic measures– which is why we get surgery, we take hormones, we risk losing everything in order to live our most authentic lives. 

I agree with @the-defiant-pupil and @dasha-through-the-snow to some extent, but I’d prefer that you get a chance to understand where my perspective was coming from. This was a conversation about the importance of appearance, not the trivialisation of it. Our need to be masculine is not toxic.

The way we present is nothing to do with consumerism.

To my knowledge, you’re not a transgender man, so I consider this an opportunity to learn about transgender manhood, and how central dysphoria is to our lives. Appearance is important.

Also- ‘to engage in subterfuge is feminine’? That just sounds plain sexist.

warriormale

First off, my sincere apologies. I am truly sorry that I offended anyone. That was not my intent. Not all all.

I, like many people, are learning about gender dysphoria. I was not aware that its a serious medical condition that requires treatment. I apologize for my ignorance of this.

Many Men message me with suspected medical conditions and the very first thing that I tell them is to seek professional help, from a licensed clinician. I am very careful not to “play doctor” since I am not a physician, nor pretend to be. I’m just a fighter.

All I can say is that we fighters welcome all Men, including trans Men, to train with us. We don’t label anyone.

Many Men train to heal. They get the support of other fighters when they train and share their lives with us. We are always grateful for this.

Gender dysphoria is a serious medical condition. Thank you both for helping me to understand this and educating me on this very complex topic.

Trans Men are ALWAYS welcome here and are always welcome to train with us.

Again, my sincere apologies.

WarriorMale

a-lemon

@warriormale is incapable of transphobia or discrimination of any sort, it was just a misunderstanding/lack of knowledge on the subject and he took the correction, as he does, like a true man. Mad respect for warriormale.

#lemon #warriormale

thebestoftumbling

grizzly bear having a swim

bananashemmo

I’ve been laughing for ten minutes straight

dlubes

Bears are so weird I always forget they exist. They’re like dog humans

kaldicuct

He did a belly flop.

#lemon #bears are just big dogs

feministism

alldudsnostuds

a-lemon

I thought that was pretty obvious, those guys are fucking crazy.

#lemon #incels

southernsideofme

See how this works NOW?

officialrussianchaosagent1-deac

Here’s a tip I learned from an investigator who would make sure people’s tweets couldn’t actually be deleted. Tag the President in it. Any tweet in which the President is tagged no matter who the President is be they past or present (Their official or personal account) are literally LOGGED for historical context. So even if the person deletes the tweet? It’s not actually deleted by Twitter.

not-saltrat88

Interesting.

mornington-the-crescent

Me, when these people start having criminal charges leveled against them:

nunyabizni

This is going to be super fun to watch unfold. Maybe if nothing else it will get people to look at the story instead of having to be first.

supreme-leader-stoat

I’m really hoping it winds up being a turning point in our culture like that, yeah.

Probably not, but I can hope.

peachy-political

Anyone got examples of these tweets

friendly-neighborhood-ehrhardt

@peachy-political ive got a few.

jack morrissey deleted the tweet & backpedaled the next day. just jokin guiz! heheh…

peachy-political

Im fucking disgusted.

If posting “far right” propaganda on Twitter or posting a joke about pugs on youtube is enough to get the jail I pray to god these people get some form of punishment.

ranty-mc-rantface

I can’t even fully process how vile these tweets are

kamiyu910

Apparently school was cancelled due to the threats as well

Here’s another threat:

buuuluska

I hope they sue.

nunyabizni

A few of those guys committed a crime there, especially the guy offering a reward for a video of the kid getting punched in the nuts.

mornington-the-crescent

These people need to go down, and HARD. Keep at it. Take screenshots. Archive their tweets and articles. This is evidence of criminal activity.

The Twitter Outrage Mob has the power of the bully. And how to do you deal with bullies? You hit back.

friendly-neighborhood-patriarch

This stuff has me steaming like broccoli.

In my experience you hit back harder then they ever hit you. So that it never happens again.

thetransmedtruscum

I am literally seeing red, how can these people say that about a kid. He is fucking 15 years old you disgusting degenerate wastes of skin and bone.

How dare these people, I feel sick to my stomach.

“We have to protect children”

“You disgusting racist little shit you deserve to die lol, I dont care how old you are you deserve it”

-TTMTS

a-lemon

He literally just stood there.

#lemon

knifefightscene

Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞

nerdymouse

Jesus, leave his ass.

iammyfather

We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.

pbrim

My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning. They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.

yekkes

This is so sad

w0rldweaver

This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user

jennikeatts

Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.

aria-jane-cherry

Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”

My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time

It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother

lettersfromeleanorrigby

Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.

After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:

The online banking password (dude, I left you, you should really change that)

Where I ordered his special-wecial organic underwear

Where the good cutting board was (my dad gave it to us at our wedding, genius, I took it with me along with the rest of the stuff from my family)

What brand butter we bought

What brand of local kielbasa we bought

Who his doctor was

What RMV office had the shortest lines

Where the old tax returns were (in the fucking box labeled tax returns)

The phone number for his best friend

I shit you not.

Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.

Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.

tarot-sybarite

Millennial women of Tumblr, please read this post.

And then please: make the decision for yourself to never stay with a man who expects you to be his mother and servant.

sherwolflovesrainbows

Straight women are doomed because of straight men that refuse to take care of themselves. We need to stop babying grown men.

disclaymore-deactivated20230920

Let me tell y'all a story.

These behaviors? They match my mother’s behavior.

My mother hasn’t paid a bill in the last 19 years of her life. My father always did them because she couldn’t remember to pay her credit card bill at the end of the month. My father, in trying to clean up her stuff because shes a horder, was yelled at for touching her things, but she refused to clean herself. She laid in bed all day while my father fed and took care of us. My mother even once said that she doesn’t see my father as a partner, she sees him as a superior.

When she kicked my father out of the house, my mother refused to go out shopping for grocreys, she rathered go out to the mall with her friends while the kids where home eating quesadillas because we literally only had cheese, tortillas, and rotting veggies in the fridge. That weekend my dad took us grocrey shopping, she was furious for undermining her.

She refused to work, refused to pay the bills, she refused to clean up her shit, and was seemingly incapable of taking care of the children. I was once so sick I was unable to fucking walk, and she didn’t believe me and made me take care of my sister while she went drinking.

And now that my parents are divorced, she found another man to do all this shit so she doesn’t have to be responsible. There’s another man raising her daughter because she doesn’t want to leave her bed.

This isn’t a “straight women” issue. Painting it as one can seriously harm people and their views on their own relationships. Everyone should be wary of people who cant function independently, dammit.

emeraldmercury

THANK YOU

dashaibo

And all I’m seeing are victims of parental emotional abuse who were deliberately not taught independence as a form of making them dependent on the abuser and lack of communication with their spouses.

thetransmedtruscum

My mom was the same exact way, she gets a new man every 5-6 years, goes out drinking, does drugs with her dumb ass friends, I practically raised my younger siblings. I quit school at 15 and worked my ass off to pay her bills and I didnt even get to keep my own debit card.

This bitch has like 9 kids and she had the audacity to kick me out of the house for being a tranny.

She keeps threatening to leave her current husband whenever she doesn’t get her way. She refuses to work but still says she can find a man who can pay for all her stuff because him having to pay child support is just to much for her.

This isnt a mens issue or a womens issue. This is an emotional abuse issue and everyone is capable of it.

((Sorry guys had to get that out, my mom is kind of a cunt))

-TTMTS

a-lemon

You can't blame men for not being taught how to function by their parents. I had to annoy my mom into teaching me how to use our washing machine. That was last year, I'm 18 now. I didn't want to just try it myself incase I ruined clothes and got shouted at for it. I can not go and buy things for myself because of crippling mental illness so scratch that. My mom won't teach me how to cook basic things, all I can cook is a curry and pancakes, and I learnt how to cook those 2 years ago in college. Instead of blaming men for being clueless about how to do basic things, blame the parents who couldn't be bothered to teach them those things. All my mom's taught me is how to make a cup of tea, how to wash clothes and how to get drunk and that isn't my fault. I can't leave home because I haven't been taught basic life skills by my own parent and I'm too scared to try them for myself incase I fuck up and get shouted at.

#lemon #just want to say my mom isnt an abusive alcoholic #but she does shout at me over the smallest things #not bc of alcohol tho she hardly drinks anything