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- Slut non-sam ace - Not LGBT(qia+) - Adult tranzgender man - He/him - I like talking about sex favorabilty and sex posi sometimes, if that makes you uncomfortable you can block me /nm -

[helminth-hrt]

The amount of openly anti-kink, anti-ship and paramisic rhetoric I've seen in the transandrophobia tag lately is disheartening and disgusting, quite frankly.

Trans men and mascs with taboo kinks: I love you. Profic trans men and mascs: I love you. Paraphile trans men and mascs: I love you.

Anyone who treats weird/"gross" sexuality as some inherent danger to society is not my ally, even if they happened to arrive at the correct-but-unrelated conclusion that transandrophobia is bad.

You deserve a space to talk about your oppression and struggles without having to compromise parts of who you are for the sake of others' comfort. You are valued and your perspectives matter, and I promise there are other people out there who feel the same way and will accept you without caveats. I'm proud of you.

(Any of the aforementioned bullshit rhetoric in the notes is getting insta-blocked btw 👍)

[velvetvexations]

"forcemasc is yet another example of transfems having things stolen from them" is wrong enough on the face of it but the very premise that transfems created forcefem is glaringly incorrect and to this day the majority of people into it are cis men

[fuckyourpresident]

This makes me fucking rabid like no! You didnt invent it! And the worst part is they claim that shit while actively excluding the originators of the kink. The "dni sissies, dni cd/tv" is on like half the blogs that say this, like you cant ignore that cis men are the majority of ppl doing this kink

[entrowopy]

I saw someone defending PT today with a post that basically read like "I knowww she was transphobic to you, but really, its your fault for trying to explain your marginalization to her after she was transphobic to you because she was really going through it guys she was being harassed and abused at the time by kiwifarmers. :( so actually, you're the evil ones for putting all that pressure to not hate trans men on her when she was being harassed by people pitting trans men against her!" No fuck you I don't give one single shit what you're going through at any point in time. Being transphobic is never okay. It doesn't matter what external stimulus you're getting if someone is genuinely good faith explaining that what you're doing is transphobic to them, and its a real fact of what you're doing, you are required to stop. Period! If you didn't do anything then clarify what actually happened and if you did do something fucking stop doing it and apologize! You don't get excuses for actively being a bigot. Not being a bigot is easy and its free and is always possible even while you are stressed, actually. Bigotry is a very specific deliberate negative pattern. Not something you can do on accident or for a legitimate reason. Fuck.

[sodomit]

I think we need to talk about a specific type of exorsexism, where someone's personhood and gender are reduced to pronouns.

I'm talking about referring to people as "a they/them", "a they", "a he/they".

It's something that's not typically done to people who prefer (or are assumed to prefer) a single normative pronoun set. You can actually encounter a sentence that includes "he/theys" and "trans women" next to each other like this:

I don't know how to name this phenomenon yet, but I think it's fucked up.

[sodomit]

Right now, trans youth need support, advice, financial and material help, and just random regular friendship from trans adults.

Trans adults need to step up and include trans youth in their communities, or many of them won't even get a chance to grow up.

Stop making everything 18+. Stop going along with the society that wants to kill us all and helping them enforce this separation. Just be there for your community for once.

[chronicallyleggless]

Anti AGAB + TME/TMA (Full pack)

[ravenlynclemens]

have you read any radical lesbian/radical feminist literature? it seems like it would really interest you.

i'd rather bash my forehead with a hammer for an hour

[sodomit]

Way too much stuff trans people on this site say stinks of the RETVRN shit.

There was never a trans utopia to go back to, stop trying to imagine one. There was never a situation where trans people were just magically radical and on the same wavelength.

And I'm tired of y'all digging up some old trans label and posting it with "THIS IDENTITY would OBLITERATE a TikTok queer zoomer!". I think your hate boner against 15 year olds online is deeply embarrassing and reactionary.

I'm gonna have my disembodied sterile annoying tar pit discussions with nounself xenogender nontransitioning trans people, and if it makes you feel like you lost touch with the queer community, good.

[respectissexy]

"I'm no better than a man!" Men being horny for women is also morally neutral. Hope this helps.

[cheshirelipstick]

[adulthumanproblem-deactivated20]

Men being horny for women isn't inherently about power though. Like this is so odd. OP is completely correct and y'all should really acknowledge that yes, straight men being horny for women IS in fact morally neutral

[mx-macintosh]

calling nonbinary people "they/thems" is the same as calling women "females." send post

[mx-macintosh]

"calling nonbinary people 'theys' is bad because not all nonbinary people use they/them" no it's bad because it's disrespectful and dehumanizing.

[transsexualfiend]

"This is fetish art" WOOHOOOOO YAYYYYY AWESOME👏👏👏

[agrebel18]

i love you polyamorous relationships, open relationships, friends with benefits/friends that have sex with each other, queerplatonic relationships, friendships that have some weird queer element to it, relationship anarchy, staying single and i love anything that doesn't match what society considers "normal"

[pansyfemme]

i keep seeing tiktoks being like “what it’s like to be the only lesbian who isn’t poly” “it feels like im the only monogamous queer person left” “i don’t want to be poly guyssss’ like its crazy how little i care. please stop inventing a universe where every queer person is forced to live under big polycule and monogamous people must live in secret. no one cares that one person you wanted to date didn’t want to be monogamous. you will survive

[castielfucks]

theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

[uncannine]

something i’ve been thinking about lately time and time again is that a lot of people love the concept and aesthetic of multigender individuals (genderfluid and more) but cannot fathom the real-life multigender experience.

like how can you be so on board with a man who is also a woman and then complain that they describe themselves in - what YOU consider - contradicting ways???? how can you comprehend a person who is sometimes a man, sometimes a woman, sometimes neither, and then police what words fit their lived experience??????? what happened

it can make you confused and it can even make you uncomfortable, but you can’t go knock on that person’s house and be like “uhmm you’re actually doing it wrong” LIKE WHAT. that’s the Actual Life and Existence of someone. what is going on

[rynchoso]

we need to acknowledge more plural people's complicated relationship with gender and attraction

[orchidvioletindigo]

Hey as a genderfluid person I think it would be cool if more people would acknowledge that breast forms and gaffs are not exclusive to transfem people and binders and packers are not exclusive to transmasc people

For a lot of genderfluid people, transition goals are a question of what's the least bothersome/most advantageous "default" body to have. That might require medically transitioning but then having cosmetic transition gear to "walk back" sometimes. Maybe a transfem person wants to grow their own breasts with HRT but keep a binder in a drawer for when they aren't feeling busty. Or maybe a transmasc person wants top surgery so they can go out shirtless, but they also want breast forms to fill out dresses

Obviously whether or not this type of transition is attainable is a question of money and privilege, but that doesn't change the fact that these are real, valid, and seldom acknowledged transition goals that a lot of people in my community have