Ace.Experience

I have full posts in my insta! @ace.experience Max/Seamair 🌟Biromantic asexual enby (demifluid)🌟 |ace and aro inclus| TERFS,MAPs (aka pedophiles) DDLG/CGL accounts, acephobes and lgbtphobes in general arent welcome here

[ace-experience]

So its non binary people's day ^^ and as someone who is non binary and demifluid I want to share my experience,even if not many people see it

Gender was always a complicated topic for me,since I was young I never fit in, Im afab but I never acted like society expected me to act I never knew why though this was just the way I always was,even if I was raised in a catholic and strict household with "traditional" gender roles

So I was called a tomboy,told I was always acting "like a boy", forced to wear dresses because I didnt like them and told to "act more like a girl"

There was a point that I said well fuck you I wanna act or be who I wanna be,fuck everyone else, and that is the idea that I have since then. When I found out what "gnc" meant I of course adopted the term but there was still something that didnt fit, I still felt out of place identifying as a gnc woman but also identifying or being addressed as a man. There was something about that binary that didnt feel right to me personally

At that moment I was already in lgbt+ circles because of my other identities (asexual and biromantic) so I knew about non binary but I had this misconception that non binary meant genderless/agender , androgynous ,people who used they/them pronouns and nobody else.

Thankfully I did more research on the non binary identity (after finding posts and memes talking about how being non binary was a really diverse experience) and I found the label "demifluid" which is part of the non binary spectrum under demigenders , and something really clicked, I finally felt complete . For those who dont know demifluid is an identity where a part of your gender is fluid and another part is static, the static part of my gender being non binary and the other part everything else (I cant always point out which gender that part is) this was also probably influenced by the fact that I am the host (or possibly a shell) of a (possibly OSDD) system and this made it more difficult for me to identify my gender because of passive influence from other alters

This is how everything was for me, I dont have much support irl since my family is really traditional so I can just share this here and in other social media they dont know about,but I want to thank my friends and my partner for being so supportive with me when I came out 💜

[childhoodruiner]

teamwork 🐝

[binghsien]

okay i’ll reblog that.

[flower-petal-pansexual]

A great chart I found on Reddit. Made by violetdragons of Reddit to my understanding.

[queercodedwizard]

in this house we show

bi/pan solidarity

or we get fucking

BLOCKED

[castlevolkihar]

pride bingus! posted these on my ig churchofbingus and have been getting harassed by tr*nsphobes for hours :)

[no-passaran]

I haven’t seen anyone talk about it on Tumblr yet but in Mexico they’re doing a huge step forward against conversion therapy for asexual people

5 Mexican ace people are suing Mexico’s health system for cataloguing asexuality as a psychiatric illness and for having forced them into conversion therapy which had the objective of turning ace people into allosexual (meaning non-asexual) people.

Translation:

Tweet by the organization Colectivo PTF Yucatán (Collective for the protection of all families in Yucatán): “📢 From the Colectivo Para la Protección de Todas las Familias en Yucatán, we will accompany 5 asexual people from the state [of Yucatán] in their recurso de amparo [a writ to protect the constitutional rights of a person] against the Mexican Secretary of Health and other authorities for cataloguing asexuality as a psychiatric illness. #NothingToCure 🖤💟💜 [hearts in the colours of the asexuality flag]

Translation:

ASEXUAL PEOPLE SUE THE [MEXICAN] HEALTH SYSTEM FOR THE CONVERSION THERAPY

Five asexual people from Yucatán have presented a writ of amparo against the federal Secretary of Health and other authorities of the National Health System for cataloguing asexuality as a psychiatric illness. They demand the protocols and internal practises be modified, as well as allowing healthcare, specially the psychiatric services, to access the right to healthcare without discrimination.

Asexuality is an orientation characterised for not feeling sexual attraction towards anyone or the lack of interest in sexual relations. It’s calculated that at least 1% of the population is asexual. This will be the first time that a writ of amparo is presented to defend the rights of asexual people in Mexico.

From the Collective for the Protection of All Families in Yucatán we accompany this law suit in which the plaintiff resorted to the Federal Justice after the federal authorities confirmed to them that asexuality is understood as a psychiatric problem under the National Healthcare System’s framework.

According to the Secretary of Health staff, if a person states that they don’t have sexual attraction towards anyone, first of all studies are done on this person to identify if [their asexuality] has a physiological origin. Once this option is ruled out, they [asexual people] are channelled to the psychiatry staff for therapy. This practise is in fact a conversion therapy, given that it seeks to cure people whose orientation is asexual. The healthcare authorities do not contemplate in their protocols the distinction between asexuality and physiological alterations.

The demand was admitted last Friday [July 16th 2021] in the Third District Court in Yucatán, who will resolve the matter.

[rhythmic-idealist]

Transcripción en español (no lo hablo, lo siento):

Un tweet del Colectivo PTF Yucatán 🏳️‍🌈🇲🇽[bandera transgénero], @ColectivoPTFYuc.

📣 Desde el Colectivo por la Protección de Todas las Familias en Yucatán, acompañamos a 5 personas asexuales del estado en la demanda de amparo en contra de la @SSalud_mx y otras autoridades por catalogar la asexualidad como una enfermedad psiquiátrica. #NadaQueCurar 🖤♡💜

Un artículo.

Personas Asexuales Demandan Al Sistema De Salud Por Terapias De Conversión

Cinco personas asexuales de Yucatán presentaron una demanda de amparo en contra de la Secretaria de Salud federal y otras autoridades del Sistema Nacional de Salud por catalogar la asexualidad como una enfermedad psiquiátrica. Exigen se modifiquen los protocolos y servicios psiquiátricos, para ejercer su derecho a acceder a la salud sin discriminación.

La asexualidad es una orientación caracterizada por no sentir attracción sexual hacia ninguna persona o un desinterés por las relaciones sexuales. Se calcula que al menos 1% de la población es asexual. Esta sería la primera vez que se presenta un amparo para defender los derechos de las personas asexuales en México.

Desde el Colectivo por la Protección de Todas las Familias en Yucatán (Colectivo PTFY) acompañamos este litigio en el cual las personas demandantes acudieron a la Justicia Federal luego de que las autoridades federales les confirmaran que la asexualidad era entendida como un problema psiquiátrico en el marco del Sistema Nacional de Salud.

Según el personal de la Secretaría de Salud, si una persona afirma no tener atracción sexual hacia nadie, primero se le realizan estudios para identificar si tiene algún origen fisiológico. Descarto esto, son canalizados al personal de psiquiatría para terapia. Esta práctica es una terapia de conversión de hecho, debido a que busca curar a las personas con orientación asexual. Las autoridades de salud no contemplan en sus protocolos la posibilidad de distinguir entre la asexualidad y alteraciones fisiológicas.

La demanda fue admitida el viernes pasado por el Juzgado Tercero de Distrito en Yucatán, quien resolverá el asunto.

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My image description is pretty bad, anyone should feel free to add a better one instead. Thank you so much, OP, this is huge news.

[experiencinglifeagain]

I see microlabels as a beautiful form of creativity from queer people. An artistic expression to explain how one feels and navigates through our fucked up world.

[ohcorny]

happy pride fuck the police

happy pride fuck the police

[jayray01]

happy pride fuck the police

[salemruinseverything]

happy pride fuck the police

[gender-void-partially-stars]

happy pride fuck the police

[ainosukes-sadism]

happy pride fuck the police

[shipsarebeautiful]

Happy pride frick the police

[tiredartkid69-deactivated202302]

Happy pride fuck the police

[thatawkwardbookthing]

Happy pride fuck the police

[child-of-the-sea-and-sky]

Happy pride fuck the police

[feralgayemo]

Happy pride fck the police

[the-bubonic-plague]

happy pride fuck the police

[the-ghost-in-your-attic]

happy pride fuck the police

[seraphic-sapphic-safehaven]

Happy Pride. Fuck the police

[ace-experience]

happy pride fuck the police

[ace-experience]

I dont share my art here often so I'm gonna do it now lol , this is something I made for pride month (these are my ocs)

You can follow me on insta if you want to see more drawings/animations

https://instagram.com/seamair_wolf?utm_medium=copy_link

[verilybitchie]

“I am flirting with a friend of mine. I’ve always wondered what might have happened if Lisa and I had gone beyond gossiping and flirting to actually have an affair. She is a cute femme. Lisa flatters me, letting me know she thinks I’m smart and an ideal butch. “So, what are you doing this weekend?” she asks me, expecting to hear plans for misbehavior with the girls in town. I am blushing even before I answer. I mutter something about going to visit Victor in Los Angeles. “Who’s Victor? A friend?” “Well, no. Not exactly. He’s someone I’m playing with.” “A boy? A real boy? Oh, really? You top him, right?” “Actually, no.” There is a long and extremely painful pause while Lisa processes this. “Robin, I knew you played with boys, but having sex with one? You can’t be bi—you’re too butch.””

— “Too Butch to Be Bi (or You Can’t Judge a Boy by Her Lover)” by Robin Sweeney, Bisexual Politics, edited by Naomi Tucker, 1995

[officialaspec]

Every time I see an exclusionist say "aros and aces are valid but they need to make their own community and stay out of the LGBT" I want to scream.

WE DID. Aspec people did make "our own" community. We had our own tags on Tumblr; we had our own terms and symbols and safe spaces and jokes. We had our own areas for us to express ourselves and come to terms with our feelings. We had a place to talk to others who were like us. We had a place to exist.

Want to know what happened to it?

EXCLUSIONISTS HAPPENED.

You exclusionists tore it apart. You shoved your way in and lied and manipulated and threatened and bullied a marginalized group back into the closet. You made fun of our terms, and the words we use to describe ourselves.

And now that aspec people are fighting back? All of you cowards are back to "oh well you're valid just not elgeebeetee!!!!! make your own community uwu"

Shut the fuck up. If you don't even know our fucking history, then you have no say in where we do or don't belong. Aspec people have shown you the historical accounts that mention ace people, we've told you about the things we face, we've told you about how we tried to make our own spaces, we've told you all of it and yet there are still exclusionists who will see all this and still not give a fuck.

Exclusionism is hatred and bigotry. That's it. If you're an exclusionist, you're a hateful bigoted aphobic asshole. You're part of a group that proudly bullies and threatens and straight up posts hateful shit about aro and ace people and states it proudly and if you can read those words and not think that something is wrong with that then fuck you.

[genderqueerpositivity]

Respectability politics will not save us.

Throwing other members of our communities under the bus will not save us.

Bullying those with uncommon labels or pronouns will not save us.

Assimilation will not save us.

Denial and erasure of queer history will not save us.

Shaming polyamorous and/or kinky queer people for celebrating the overlap between our communities, histories, and cultures won't save us.

Erasing all identities beyond those deemed acceptable to our oppressors will not save us.

Limiting the acronym to four letters won't save us.

The rejection of asexual and aromantic people will not save us.

Beating pansexual people back into the closet or under the bisexual label will not save us.

Speaking over the intersex community and intersex activists will not save us.

Demeaning those of us who dare to imagine new ways of forming (queerplatonic) relationships won't save us.

Shaming people within our communities for creating new labels and terms won't save us.

The medicalization of transness will not save us.

Nonbinary exclusionism will not save us.

Queerphobia will not save us.

None of these things combats heteronormativity or cisnormativity or patriarchy. The infighting makes our communities less organized and less united.

Attacking our own will only ever benefit our oppressors.

(ID: white text over a red and black gradient that reads "respectability politics will never protect you from our oppressors".)

[ihavegaysex42069]

[system-lgbt]

Galactian System (Expanded!)

I couldn’t get in contact with the original person who coined the Galactian System (and also can’t tag them for some reason?) and some of the terms were a little confusing (sollunarian = novarian, but both terms exist?) while others were missing (no demi-solstellarian, for example). 

The original chart only covered the firstly coined types. (Singularian was not coined by the same person who coined the rest.)

(( This chart’s wrong as hell, btw. Solarian + Stellarian is Eclipsian, Solarian + Lunarian is Novarian. ))

Unfortunately this chart doesn’t account for demi-alignments with those in the center trifecta. Or even a fluid alignment.

So I made some!

Dawnian, Duskian, and Celestian (with new flags to match the rest of them)

Singularian (with a new flag to match the rest), Twilightian, and Equinian

Solstician, Constellian, and Aurorian!

(( Sorry @nonbinarywiki, I was working on this when you asked me for permission to use my chart, I know I whipped this out so quick after your post, I forgot to warn you!))

So what are these new alignments? Let me introduce the first three and the demi- definitions so you can get an idea.

Solarian: In many cultures and religious systems, the sun is associated with masculinity, and male energy. As a result, a Solar Nonbinary Person, or Solarian, would be someone who has similarities in identity or experience with men. The term functions as a less easily abused form of “male aligned.”

Lunarian: In equally many cultures, where the sun is man, the moon is woman and feminine energy. As a result, a Lunar Nonbinary Person, or Lunarian, would be someone who has similarities in identity or experience with women. It functions as a less easily abused term for “female aligned".

Stellarian: With as many possible identities and presentations as there are stars in the sky, a Stellar Nonbinary Person, or Stellarian, would be someone who does not experience strong alignment with either binary gender, or who rejects such alignment.

Demi-Alignments, like duskian, have a partial connection to their alignment. Example: Duskians have only a partial connection to lunarian, with the other part being something else. So they’re sorta like demigender versions of the main three, since it’s a partial connection to one of the alignments, instead of being both stellarian and one of the other two. 

So if you are both male- and female-aligned, you’d use Novarian. However, if you only partially feel female-aligned, and the other part is ambiguous/undefined, you’d consider yourself Duskian. 

**Keep in mind, the ‘other part’ IS NOT part of Singularian. Singularian is rejecting the binary completely, in fact reducing gender alignment to zero/a single point. It’s not agender, or gender neutral, or gendervoid - it’s the absence of the gender alignment completely.**

Here’s each flag and what they mean!

Demi-sollunarian, or Twilightian! (Optional: Twilian)

Twilightian is to identify partially with male-aligned, partially identify with female-aligned, and partially identify with something else. 

Demi-stellunarian, or Equinoxian! (Optional: Equinian)

Equinoxian is to identify partially with female-aligned, partially identify with non-binary alignment, and partially identify with something else. 

Demi-solstellarian, or Solstian! (Optional: Solstacian)

Solstian is to identify partially with male-aligned, partially identify with non-binary alignment, and partially identify with something else.

Demi-solstellunarian, or Constellian! (Optional: Constellatien, intentionally misspelled)

Constellian is to identify partially with male-aligned, female-aligned, non-binary alignment, and partially something else. 

Fluidity between alignments, also known as Aurorian!

Aurorian is to identify as one alignment, that changes (fluidly or suddenly) to another alignment. What these alignments are doesn’t matter, but you can list them as well!

So now the chart should look like this!

**NOTE: While I do coin these terms, you DO NOT have to use them. If you prefer stellunarian, that’s okay. If you don’t want to use the new singularian flag, you DO NOT have to. These are in place for optional use, and are in no way meant to REPLACE anything from the original creator’s creation.**

More info (and the new dawnian/duskian/singularian/celestian flags underneath!

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[cowardly-bisexual]

Do you have thoughts on the doe, stag, tomcat (femme bisexual/butch bisexual) labels that have been coming up the last couple years? They seem ahistorical to me

Yeah, they’re the result of this ahistorical trend of biphobic, terminally online lesbians spreading a narrative that bisexuals were never a part of the lesbian community and therefore “aren’t allowed” to use stuff like butch and femme, the double venus symbol (lol), reclaim certain slurs etc. If you’ve ever researched actual history or talked to an older lesbian you’ll know that of course that’s not true and that bisexuals have always been a part of the lesbian community so in that light doe, stag and tomcat are at best unnecessary and at worst feeding into a certain narrative. To be clear, I don’t care if people keep using them or not but I think there’s a reason they’re not really catching on when there is already established terminology with the same function.

(Claiming that femme and butch are lesbian only terms is also pretty hilarious in the light of the fact that everyone in the LGBT community uses them, including gay men.)

I think doe, stag and tomcat are also a part of this interesting online phenomena of bisexuals who are not in touch with offline bi communities and don’t know anything about bisexual history artificially trying to create a bisexual culture from scratch (think finger guns, cuffing your jeans, lemon bars and other arbitrary shit) when more meaningful and older bisexual culture already exists. 

[yourfavisasystem]

So! I mentioned that I was considering making specific flags for each part of the system overall flag! Host, Protector, Little, Caretaker, Trauma Holder, Gatekeeper, and Persecutor.

If you want a request with one of these flags all you have to do is ask! 

[mindflamer]

bi ace flag!

ok here is take 2 of this because i messed up the colors before. don’t do design when you have blue light turned down on your computer! i also added hearts because, cute. and because we have so much love to give as bi ace people.

i made this just for fun but feel free to use it if you like it! my experience being bi is heavily influenced by being ace and vice versa, so i though it only fitting to make a flag representing both aspects of my sexuality.

this flag is for all bi ace people, which is why it includes men, women, and nonbinary stripes. if not all of those fit you that’s okay!

[image description: a pride flag with four horizontal stripes. in order from top: navy blue with a purple heart, light pink with a white heart, white with a light pink heart, and purple with a navy blue heart. the second image has the meanings overlaid, which are romantic attraction to men, romantic attraction to women, romantic attraction to nonbinary people, and love for self. the final image is a simplified version of the flag without the hearts.]

[ace-experience]

Ok I totally love this flag