You Get However Many Snarky Comments You’re Worth

rose, 20, Proculromantic Asexual Vexegirl, and yes my about page will explain all of those words. anti truscum, terf, swerf, exclusionist,etc.~check out my art blog rosedoesadraw

[feitanswife]

Hey y’all I found a bastard!!!

[ultimatespider]

HELLO???????? TAIWAN HAS OFFICIALLY LEGALIZED SAME SEX MARRIAGE. AKA THE FIRST IN ASIA

[ultimatespider]

I SWEAR TO YALL PLEASE DON’T SLEEP ON THIS IT’S A HUGE STEP FOR NOT ONLY TAIWAN BUT ALSO THE ENTIRE ASIA. WE MADE IT AND THERE IS ONLY MORE TO COME

[griffinmcelroyspisskink-remade]

i made a generator for yall to see what ur genders are

[flaim-ita]

Yup

[aces-to-apples]

“ugly motherfucking ???”

[some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat]

when u see a tall girl

[officiallytox]

[posi-enby-tivity]

Well, it’s not wrong.

[aceroserade]

OH MOOD

[gaolerz]

why is like…everyone either an inclusionist OR an anti. why are the two never synonymous lmao

[furbearingbrick]

what alternate reality are you even in? i can name at least 10 inclusionist antis off the top of my head:

@ampledarling @dreamyluigi-anti @purgatorian-princess @trans-emoji @comickit @societalparasite @bio-hazardous @bobcourse @saitama-the-anti @queer-anna @aryens-against-nazis

[veemopusvulgaris]

*dabs, as i am both an inclus AND and anti*

[aceroserade]

I like, never use this blog anymore but I do exist

[aphobiceight]

i know its been said enough but since yall aceypoos are dumb as fuck and cant get shit through your thick skulls im gonna say it again. i really cant get over how laughable demisexuality is as an orientation like. imagine some book or movie or whatever where the main character is a cis straight woman and her best friend is a man. over time she begins to have feelings for this man after they form a close emotional bond right. and then they date. it doesnt mean shes demisexual or demiromantic or whatever the fuck you wanna call it. it doesnt make her lgbt, and most importantly, it doesnt make her oppressed. literally almost everyone ever only develops feelings for people they know well, otherwise how would they develop feelings for someone they dont know?? like sure some people can have crushes on people they dont really know but thats not the same as having genuine feelings for a person and wanting a serious relationship with them.

so tell me this: why would people feel the need to describe their sexuality as something defined as “only feeling attraction toward someone they have a close bond with” when that applies to everyone? you might as well make a sexuality that means “only attracted to human beings” its the same damn concept unless youre into beastiality or some shit

[aceroserade]

Yeah but consider this: nobody fucking asked you.

[fabulousfatcupcake-deactivated2]

Tim Gunn on Plus Size Clothing

“Have you seen most of the plus-size sections out there? It’s horrifying. Whoever’s designing for plus-size doesn’t get it. The entire garment needs to be reconceived. You can’t just take a size 8 and make it larger. In my travels, I’ve been an advocate for larger women. I’ve been talking to designers, but only a half-dozen make an effort. Most say, ‘I don’t want a woman who’s a size 10 or 11 wearing my clothes.’ Well, shame on you! It’s not realistic

[tiny-vessels]

Love him.

[cypheroftyr]

“You can’t just take a size 8 and make it larger.” Praise Jesus and all the saints for him saying this because damn, most “PLUS SIZED” clothing is fugly.

[nokki1]

Amen. The plus sized clothing out there is crazy and makes me just…

[trollprincess]

I’m not surprised he said this. Ever since the first season, when they’ve had to do garments for everyday people who aren’t models, there’s always one designer (at the very least) who flips out as though they’ve never in their life considered that people who aren’t a size 0 might wear their clothes. Tim always looks at them like he wants to drown them in a lake.

[gatsbyswidow]

I love Tim Gunn so much and this is just one of the reasons. The other is that he is asexual and has copped a lot of flack for it in the media but he isn’t ashamed of what he is/is completely happy with who is. Next to Diane Von Furstenberg, he is one of my favourite people in the fashion industry.

[thesanityclause]

My mom got to take a class taught by him and I AM FOREVER JEALOUS.What a cool guy

[toxipop]

I DID NOT KNOW TIM GUNN WAS ASEXUAL

THIS IS SO WONDERFUL

IM GONNA CRY

[tasteoface]

WELCOME MY ACE BRETHREN

[trekkiepirate]

We do not, as a world, deserve the goodness that is Tim Gunn. My mom (a large woman in her late-fifties at the time) met him at a lecture and he spent several minutes complimenting her dress (which she made herself) and discussing why she’d had to start making ALL her own clothes (could no longer find nice, pretty things in her size) and then laughing over being the oldest people in the room (since it was a university lecture largely attended by students). My mom hasn’t felt good about her weight in years, but Tim Gunn made her proud of knowing how to dress for her shape and her taste in fabric patterns. According to my brother who witnessed all this, she was beaming.

I would die on a battlefield for Tim Gunn.

[finnicky-art]

Just confirmed the ace thing, I hadn’t heard about it but it looks like he came out in an interview!

[whitecatgeek]

Oh shit re blogging for ace role model!

[welcometothemusicandthemisery-d]

I love project runway and I love Tim Gunn

[vioislit]

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[aceroserade]

Exclus can’t watch project runway lmao

[fslut]

Y'ALL

[elementalheroneos]

I’m re rbing this cause

HELL YEAH BABEY THAT’S WHAT I WANNA SEE!!!!!!!!!!

[whyisthisfrenchguymasturbating]

[aceroserade]

Well we had to sacrifice a lot (like a certain jfashion tag I miss very much) but the end result... worth it.

[a-space-for-aspec]

i’m gunna do an experiment

reblog if u agree that aspec people belong in the lgbtq+ community

like if u think aspec people dont belong in the lgbtq+ community

it’s to prove a point :)

[aceroserade]

This post had 69 notes and I destroyed it. That’s how much I care.

[fox-the-anti]

I'm a transmed, and i'm totally against policing genders or purposely misgendering people. However, I think dysphoria is required to be trans and I don't believe in more than two genders. I respect people who do identify as something else than female or male, or people who say they're trans even though they don't have Dysphoria. I don't respect people who are purposely rude to me because of my beliefs. I think that all truscum/tucute people should just respect each other. Not hate each other.

Ok

[fox-the-anti]

Thanks for putting my exact mood into words I can’t words today but you got it

[enbundad-discourse]

Also you can’t say you believe that you need dysphoria to be trans yet respect people who are trans that don’t have dysphoria. Using their names and pronouns but not believing they’re actually trans is not respect.

[beanmed]

You can say that you think dysphoria is needed to be trans while respecting those who ID as trans without dysphoria. Surprise surprise you can disagree with someone and still respect one another!

[fox-the-anti]

“I respect your identity but you’re not who you say you are” isn’t respect, sweetie.

[beanmed]

So you’re saying that someone is unable to respect another person of a different faith?

[fox-the-anti]

If they don’t go around saying other people are lying/fake, sure.

You, on the other hand, straight up have “no dysphoria = cis” in your profile picture. That’s the equivalent, with your analogy, to having “non-Christian = sinner” plastered around for non-Christians to see. That’s not respectful.

[beanmed]

I agree, my pfp is not respectful. But that wasn’t what I was talking about. That person was saying that they disagree (i.e. have a different opinion) but they will not stand for misgendering or dead naming anyone, regardless of their veiws on dysphoria.

[fox-the-anti]

Having an “opinion” on someone’s existence is rarely ever respectful.

And it was exactly what you were talking about but whatever.

[aceroserade]

^^

Plus, if that’s really how they felt they wouldn’t be making mention of their stance on the matter in the first place since the first part of the message was about not making a big deal out of it and just moving forward with respect regardless of personal feeling (in the real world that’s called basic human decency but ya know)

Considering they felt the need to go out of their way to send a message about it... the stance is performative at best, even if they don’t realize it.

[fox-the-anti]

Here’s the thing.

Pronouns do not equal gender, no. A cisgender girl can still use he/him and a cisgender guy can still use she/her. And it happens all the time.

“But how can I be misgendering someone if gender doesn’t equal pronouns?”

Because those pronouns are what that person wants to be called in relation to their gender. If a nonbinary person wants to be called “she” and you call her “they” simply because she’s nonbinary, that’s still misgendering.

“Then calling people ‘they’ when you don’t know their pronouns is also misgendering!”

Simply put, no. If you don’t know someone’s gender or pronouns, you can’t really misgender them. Yes, even if someone you knew years ago is trans and you don’t know they’re trans. However, if they correct you and you continue, you are now misgendering them.

“But those pronouns are too hard, I’ll never be able to use them!”

That’s how I used to feel about neopronouns, too. Then I found this handy website that basically teaches you how to use any pronouns you plug into it. You can even make up your own with this tool! Now I’m able to use fae/faer pronouns correctly and my partner is happy.

“I shouldn’t be expected to use pronouns that don’t correlate to the gender I perceive you as, or pronouns that I don’t like.”

Then you’re a transphobic asshole.

[maxximonstre]

I mean misgendering even when done on accident/unknowingly is still misgendering so this isn’t worded quite right, but I agree w the spirit of the post

[fox-the-anti]

Well of course. I guess I meant more that there’s no malicious intent so it’s not the same as purposely misgendering someone.

[tranmeds]

I don’t even have the time to unpack this

If someone else can please do lmao

[nb-jesus]

@tucuteforyou

if pronouns are not gendered, you cannot misgender someone. bc even if someone uses a specific set of pronouns, other pronouns are not gendered which means they cant make someone uncomfortable bc theyre not correlated w a gender that someone is not.

neopronouns only have a place in the english language. & english is not the most widely spoken language. technically, the most widely spoken language is mandarin chinese. but my point is, one cannot expect ppl whose first language is not english, or ppl who just simply dont understand neopronouns, to use them. like, personally, i cant use neopronouns bc theyre too difficult for me to understand. thats why ppl have an auxiliary set of pronouns.

i will use someones pronouns to the best of my ability as long as i have the capacity to understand them & know how to use them in regards to simple english.

also, neopronouns dont translate to sign language as far as i know.

if you respond to this, please be civil.

[fox-the-anti]

“If pronouns are not gendered, you cannot misgender someone”

No. I literally explained why. “Those pronouns are what that person wants to be called in relation to their gender”

But because you obviously ignored that, I’m ignoring the rest of your reblog~

[aceroserade]

I mean the point is despite pronouns not being innately gendered, they still have the connotation of presentation. Perhaps one day, far into the future, there won’t be so much cultural relevance to it, or maybe the system gets re-booted entirely, but fact of the matter is, today it matters. The pronoun someone uses brings up a connotation, and it’s an integral part of our current system, good or bad.

In hindsight, maybe it would have been easier if the word “misgendering” wasn’t so easy to misconstrue, perhaps in some other universe it’s called “misprounouning” and they didn’t have to have this conversation, but it’s a little late for that here.

[aro-punkwave]

arospecs, qplspecs and aplspecs whats your wisdom

mine is just lose your shit, bake cake and t-pose

[actuallyfuckamatonormativity]

Kiss a frog. The whole thing about it turning into a prince is a myth. It’s already a prince and just wants some platonic affection.

[a-specvoid]

Popcorn is a dinner food, always appreciate the rain, take time to watch the stars.

[aceroserade]

Being great at Pictionary doesn’t matter if the word generator hates you. But it’s ok, sometimes the best memes come out of absurd bad luck.

[asexualadvice]

Hello in an earlier ask I saw you mention autochorisexuality is a paraphilia and not a sexuality. I understand why its not a sexuality as it does not (directly) deal with attraction but I think the term paraphilia is an even less logical way to categorize it? I’m under the impression the term "paraphilia" is almost synonymous with "fetish" and autochorisexuality is more about the way someone experiences sexuality rather than what turns them on. I was hoping to get more of your thoughts on this?

So, this is just my experience with autochorissexualism, and my understanding of the terminology, but.

The reason that autochorissexualism is termed as a paraphilia is because it has to do with the way that a person fantasizes about things, and what they find arousing.

A paraphilia is defined as “an unusual or uncommon source of sexual excitement or pleasure”. Most frequently, people recognize this as kinks or fetishes - sources of sexual excitement or pleasure that are less common. However, sexual fantasies are also a very common source of sexual excitement or pleasure - and autochorissexualism is describing an uncommon form that those fantasies take.

Autochorissexualism says that when someone is fantasizing about situations, it is not about them being involved in the situation. It is finding arousal through fantasies of situations in which they are expressly not involved. Nothing about how they are or are not attracted to people, or what they would or would not actually do with someone. It simply says that fantasies in which the person in question is not involved are arousing to them.

As I briefly mentioned, I say this as someone who experiences autochorissexualism. For me, I was always genuinely confused by descriptions in stories of characters imagining that the person they liked was doing things directly to them and finding it arousing - because I could never relate to that. That wasn’t ever something I found arousing in my personal experience. However, reading about a fictional character’s personal experience would be. Reading about two fictional characters would be. And imagining two characters together would be. Imagining characters in situations would be. My fantasies never involved myself. (For contrast - I very much frequently imagine myself in non-sexual romantic or even sensual situations. But never sexual ones.)

It’s not about behavior, what you would or wouldn’t do in real life, although someone who experiences autochorissexualism may also be sex repulsed, sex averse, or sex indifferent and have no interest in or choose not to have sex, the same as someone who finds bondage arousing in fantasy may or may not want to actually experiment with it in an actual physical way. And it’s not about attraction, because it says nothing about who you are or are not attracted to. It’s solely about fantasy - a form of sexual excitement - and what you find arousing, which is why it was coined and is used as a paraphilia.

- Di

[mad-dyspunktional]

As someone else who is ‘autochorissexual’ I am… super uncomfortable with this. And this is in part why I support the move away from the term ‘autochorissexual’ to ‘aegosexual’. I am not at all comfortable with this being catagorized as a ‘paraphilia’.

People who aren’t ace absolutely do experience the kind of fantasies and attraction described in autochorissexualism. Ask anyone if they’ve fantasized about their favorite ship… chances are they have. They just also frequently experience sexual fantasies where they are a participant.

I don’t think it can be considered a paraphilia if the majority of people experience it?

Also, I’ve run into people who do consider it their orientation and I think they’re entitled to that.

[mad-dyspunktional]

I was under the impression that aegosexual was coined specifically because so many people in the ace community were uncomfortable with an allo person (Bogart) coining the term autochorissexualism and categorizing it as a paraphilia?

I consider my aegosexuality just a way of experiencing my asexuality. It just describes my asexual experience. I don’t consider it a paraphilia and I don’t wish to.

[aceroserade]

I really went back and forth over whether to use one of the aforementioned terms or the one in my bio or both, it really ended up boiling down to the definition of “self” and theoretically it simultaneously applies and doesn’t apply to me, it all depends on how much stock I put into my connections to fictional characters, how much I relate to any given one, and all that.

And frankly? It’s strange to even think of it as not an orientation related term because... this isn’t just a matter of fantasy and attraction, it’s pretty much the only hold I have as far as attraction goes! In regards to actual humanity I’m fully aromantic and any and all crushes are fully just me admiring someone with no desire for reciprocation. And in that sense I fall in love so easy, but I don’t WANT anything. I just think people are cool! People are great! But not like “I wanna date you” great, more like “wow you’re super interesting” great.

But the third-person fantasy is really all I’ve got other than that. Like not to get weird but I’ve got a ridiculously high sex drive, but even to masturbate I sort of have to use a work around cause I can’t even touch myself directly! There has to be something between my hand and me or else... I can’t get anywhere with it. And even then I can’t think about myself. I have to literally “become” someone else. The disconnect was so bad when I was younger that I literally couldn’t imagine anyone with the same biology as me because even the thought of a vagina would make me just... lose it. That’s how repulsed I am of even the concept of people touching me! So the only way I know how to feel attraction is looking through someone else’s eyes. And it’s not like, a pity party, I’m doing fine! It’s just that I don’t want it to be seen as like a kink or some shit when it’s a fundamental building block of my identity (what little identity I actually have)

[crimsxnflxwerz]

i was thinking of ways to redesign the demisexual flag because the triangle apparently makes some people unconfortable. What do you guy think of these?

[lgbt-askthetics]

I made some demiromantic edits of these, I hope you don’t mind :) Personally I like the second one better :0c OP do you mind if I use these in edits?

[aceroserade]

They’re rly pretty! Love the half-and-half sort of design of the first one

[aceroserade]

Hey I’m still alive!

So I may or may not be 1/4 of the way through designs for a webcomic surrounding immortal superhuman (or human adjacent might be better) people who have spent the better part of human history being controlled by humans who’ve supposedly figured out the source of their power and thus the only way to kill them.

But they were wrong and now the immortals are refusing to be used to ruin the world and are fighting back.

And the designs miiight be way too complicated

Aaaand it might all be a re-hash if a different comic that got fucked over supremely cause it was never meant to be serious but got super popular.

Yeah.

[gendergenius]

simple as that

[ginger-ale-official]

Hohoho!

[the-anti-nonbinary]

Tumblr’s recommendations gave me such a goodie

Where do I fucking start? I have not switched the place of any of these things.

So, you claim to be “genderqueer”, “agender”, “nonbinary”, and male. You also claim to be trans, but only the last gender on your self-contradictory list could classify as trans, assuming you’re afab(and boy howdy call it a hunch but I do in fact think you are). Later onwards, however, you claim to be gay. Gay for “cute trans boys” specifically(there was no comma between cute and trans boys). I do believe I’m detecting a soft uwu boi fetish. Also, if you are… “nonbinary”, as you very much insist on above, you cannot be gay. Gay is a term for men attracted to men and sometimes used for women attracted to women.

Now onto the likes and dislikes. I don’t think I need to expand on your fetish for trans men. However, you seem to be stating that you like antifa. Glad to know those middle-class commies are out there doing good in the world while people struggle to free themselves from that very style of fascist government. Do I even need to touch the father son and holy spirit of trends of the interests of transtumblrs lmfao.

Moving on… you say that you dislike “people scared of goths and emos”, aka people you have made up to seem more unique, women(so you’re a misogynist), fellow queers(a homophobe/transphobe, then?), and… “non-queer-identifying”(cishet)”non-cishet”(how contradictory)friends. You hate your friends no matter what their sexuality is or whether or not they’re cis/trans then? At least you’re an egalitarian, I suppose. But then I guess you must also hate yourself, because according to your own post, you hate bigots.

And you know I’ve saved the worst for last: “anyone acting wary of me and my queerness”. Shut up. Stop fucking talking. Maybe people wouldn’t be wary of people who are actually lesbians, gays, bis, trans, and even aces/aros if people like you would just stop. If you would stop invading our spaces, pushing us “out of the closet and into the streets”, proceeding to speak over us, and ostracize us when we fucking have dissenting opinions, people wouldn’t envision us to be like you. To be what makes lgbt look like this fucking hivemind that will UWU DESTWOY THE NON-KWEERS.

[trainwreckbisexual]

this is so poorly edited im SCREAMING

[trainwreckbisexual]

[aceroserade]

THE WORDS ARENT EVEN LEVEL IM....

[unlimited-nice-works]

this should be punishable by death

[aceroserade]

As someone who has lost several good community made rpg maker assets to the fact that I have no feasible way of fixing this, BIG MOOD.