i think it's actually really horrifying and detrimental that it's considered socially unacceptable to tell parents when they are making mistakes while raising their kids
"don't tell me how to raise my kids" is seen as a good defense and it's so disturbing to me.
children are not your property that you can do whatever you like with.
giving birth or impregnating someone or adopting doesn't give you some inherent wisdom that means you can never fuck up.
and you shouldn't have the right to abuse or neglect or misinform a child just because you have legal guardianship of them.
they deserve to have others speak up on their behalf. i don't care if it hurts your ego.
the vast majority of the time, it is all about ego and control btw.
a staggering amount of parents view their children as their property and see advice as someone trying to take away their "deserved" control.
a ton of them are more concerned with being perceived as a good parent over actually being one.
fundamentally awful shit like corporal punishment, anti vaxxing, poor homeschooling, parentification, child stars, kids being kicked out of their homes or forced into cults... all of that is possible because:
parents are allowed to have legal and social domain over their children,
parents are seen as suddenly being imbued with innate childrearing knowledge just by virtue of having a child, and
it's socially stigmatized to voice concern over a child that isn't "yours."
so much of the world's suffering is caused by this shit it's crazy.
