ADHD

[fuckyeahyoga]

[rhynee]

people who dont experience it cannot comprehend how awful executive dysfunction is. I WANT to do the task, i have the resources TO do the task, i will feel better having DONE the task

but i cant fucking do the task

[adhd-and-sleepy]

How do I explain that I don't want to go to another continent for 10 weeks on my own to my dad. Bc I told him and he just went "you'll never have this opportunity again" which is not true bc I'm still in my teens and I have all the time in the world. But he keeps telling me I can't cancel, even though I am an adult and should be allowed to make my own choiced. And like I wouldn't even mind going on like a holiday for a week or 2, but 10 weeks the entire summer break. I'd not get to see my friends at all, and I barely see them anyways cause we all go to school far away from each other. But he doesn't get that cause he is trying to live vicariously through me or something idk.

[teathattast]

[teathattast]

I see the neurodivergent girlies are enjoying this

[duckbunny]

THIS IS YOUR FINAL WARNING TO GET YOUR MEDS BEFORE THE PHARMACIES CLOSE

they are going to be CLOSED OVER THE HOLIDAYS and so will the DOCTORS WHO SIGN YOUR PRESCRIPTIONS.

if you don’t have enough meds to last the next THREE WEEKS, put in for your repeats and refills tomorrow! that’s Wednesday! do it! don’t go to hospital at New Year because you ran out of stuff!

[duckbunny]

it’s that time of year again! get your meds!

[vriskakinnieaynrand]

“go to the doctor!” - guy who died of not going to the doctor

[brightlotusmoon]

Same here!

[naamahdarling]

Please care for yourself and try to get this done! Even if all you do is check what you need filled or send a portal message or make one call, do what you can do. It sucks to be a week in and be like “really should have done that”.

Text a friend and have them hold you humorously accountable, tell them to reward you with shark facts, anything. But try to do this.

Do it for Jasper and his curly ear:

[spaciebabie]

im seeing a lot of "queer people dont kill yourselves" posts and yes, i agree but also poc folks dont kill yourselves. you're needed in this space just as much as the white folks are. we will get through this hand in hand together

[hiveswap]

I hope none of you disappear in the coming days. Seriously don't do anything that can't be undone.

[hiveswap]

I know i'm just a random person you follow online but I mean it. People (all kinds of marginalised people too!) Have survived all types of horrible times and managed to find happiness eventually. If for no one else, survive for them. And also, try to survive because the people making you despair don't want you to live. Don't give this to them. Don't give your life. The best thing you can do is cling to it with everything you've got.

[adhd-and-sleepy]

Sometimes I just wanna do things but then I remember that my disabilities do in fact make me disabled

I still do them but just with regret yknow

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Twitch is gonna start kinda censoring queer people and it would be really helpful if you could read the next few sentences and then also go to a link and click the word vote.

They're implementing a new rule where if you discuss "sensitive social issues" at all you have to flag your streams as such, these issues include things like war and political unrest but also any lgbtq topics (once again our existence is political).

Essentially a streamer will have to choose between never ever mentioning anything queer (or even just discussing their own life if they're queer themselves) or flagging every stream with "sensitive social issues" and scaring away 90% of viewers.

If you have a twitch account you can go here and log in and click vote. They do listen. Please vote.

[thequantumranger01]

@demilypyro

[xenosaurus]

I turn 30 next month so here’s what I learned in my 20s:

—don’t work for startups, they’re always one ‘innovative idea’ away adding ‘sell your kidneys on the black market’ to your job description.

—keeping a collection of basic OTC medicine on you will save your life one day. I recommend Advil, Imodium, and TUMS.

—those little single-use glasses cleaning wipes are 1000% worth the money

—overly self-depreciating jokes just make people uncomfortable, wean yourself off of them

—you can buy dehydrated mini marshmallows in bulk online and they’re a godsend for hot cocoa

—people don’t care if you have fidget toys on your desk they just want to play with them

—try to go to bed BEFORE the existential ennui kicks in

[thelittleblackfox]

Also drink water and eat a plant

[liz-squids]

This is all GREAT. I turned 40 last week, so permit me to add what I learned in my 30s:

keep on not working for startups

sometimes there comes a point where the thing (fandom, hobby, friendship, romantic relationship) you loved no longer brings you joy. And that's okay. Try to mourn the loss, take joy in the memories, and don't burn any bridges in case ten years go by and you find yourself back in that fandom/hobby/relationship again

it turns out that (ugh) moderate regular exercise is (spit) good for you. The sooner you make it part of your life, the easier it'll be

related: if you throw yourself into a new exercise regime too hard and too fast, without stopping to rest or consider whether a particular move is good for you ... well, shoulder injuries are painful and consults with orthopedic surgeons are expensive

knees are bastards too

don't even get me started on ankles

there may come a time when your digestive system is too fragile for ibuprofin. I'm sorry

one day you're gonna wake up and realise you no longer give any fucks about some things that used to bother you

on the other hand, you might be alarmed to realise what you still give a fuck about

never get down on the floor without an exit strategy for getting back up

[covington-shenanigans]

I turn 50 this year. what I have learned in my 40s:

"loving yourself" is less of a feeling and more of an action. you can start doing it any time and it will make your life better and better as you go on

this will happen incrementally - be patient

along those lines, if you haven't started making an active effort to quit shit-talking yourself, suck it up and do it

no, shut up. do it. "but it's haaaaard!" don't care. do it.

whether you like it or not, you are mortal and you need to go to the doctor for an annual checkup

stretch regularly - your future self will thank you

at some point you will encounter people much younger than you arguing passionately and incorrectly about history you personally remember and experienced

this will be infuriating and annoying

otoh, most other things just... will not matter to you as much

at some point you will shift from wanting to go out to being like "eh" and deciding to stay in. this is okay.

you will have absolutely no idea what The Youth are talking about and you will not care

but if you keep your mind open to new ideas you'll never be irrelevant

your company still doesn't love you - don't give them more than they pay you for

get a fucking hobby, especially a hobby that involves physically creating/handling something and/or moving your body in physical space. it will do you more good than you can imagine

[atlinmerrick]

Just turned 60 and let me say:

Find joy, every kind, it's always worth it

I'm talking that massive, never-ending Discord chat with your bestie? The one that makes you giggle through the day? It's not a "waste of time," it's what time was made for

If that's fanfic for your favorite characters who never even met on screen celebrate that!

If that's building a tiny fleet of snake villagers for your snake town and they just cover your mantel hell yes!

If that's collecting pillows and making a fort of them every weekend I'll be right over

Feeling and sharing joy is the whole point

[thesilveregg]

Me watching my first goodtimeswithscar video: wow this guy is so good at building

Me watching my second goodtimeswithscar video: the American healthcare system must be abolished. Socialism is the only way.

[animentality]

[fairycosmos]

tips for acting like the grown woman i am and not like the stunted mentally ill freak that i also am

[thebibliosphere]

Chronic pain and illness really do skew what you consider to be normal.

I'm complaining to a friend about two separate pains I've got going on right now, pains which I would categorize as "annoying," and "distracting," and she's freaking out, like, "Go to the ER!!!!" and it's like, oh, that's right. Normal people go to the ER when it hurts to breathe.

Anyway...

(Just to clarify, I'm, like, 90% sure it's costochondritis, and I'm not actually struggling to breathe. It just feels blegh. The other pain is more distracting and potentially an issue but we'll cross that bridge if we get to it.)

[invisiblefoxfire]

Been telling my (young and abled) physiotherapist for years that I'm in pain all the time and when he asks me to tell him how bad something hurts from 1-10, I really don't know how to answer that. He'll say "tell me if it hurts" and I have to say, every time "you mean... in addition to how much it always hurts?" Anyway I love the guy, but he kept asking the same questions in the same way and not understanding why it was hard for me to answer.

Then I found this graphic here on tumler dot com (I do not remember the source but please add it in comments if you know) and I showed it to him at an appointment.

He started reading from the bottom to the top, reading each "normal" level followed by the "chronic" level next to it, and at first he was laughing. When he got to about 7/4 he stopped laughing and said "okay well this is getting less entertaining and more concerning." He went completely silent for a moment after he finished, then turned to look at me with real concern in his eyes and asked me if this chart was really accurate. And when I said "Yeah, dude" and gave him a big goofy grin and a shrug, I saw something click for the first time.

[thebibliosphere]

Oh, this chart just made me realize my migraines are a 12.

That's... yeah, okay. Printing this out.

[inkskinned]

“if you take medication for that, you’ll be taking medication all your life!!” yeah, and?? bud, i already put on my glasses every morning. it’s like. a condition of mine, not a side hobby i’m pursuing irresponsibly. 

[lady-harrowhark]

and the thrilling sequel: “taking meds for that is the easy way out!” right you are my dude, i’m a huge fan of not making things harder than they have to be

[horizonsstandstill]

They don’t say that to diabetics or people who have thyroid disorders. It’s nothing different. When a medicine helps a condition, it’s ableism to prevent people from getting help.

[closet-keys]

they absolutely do say that to people with diabetes and thyroid disorders. ableism is extremely pervasive and there is no disability that is free from the prejudice that all care, medicine, surgeries, accommodations, mobility aids, AAC devices, and other accessibility tools is “taking the easy way out” and that an individual should somehow “tough through it” because they don’t really need it. truly.

I guarantee no matter what “obviously sympathetic” disability you imagine, people with that disability have been disbelieved and denied care for it. This even happens to people who are actively dying in hospitals— they die because they are not believed and not given adequate care. It happens all the time.

[ambulation]

I read a study a long time ago about how rats could be trained via shocks through the floor of their cages. They were assigned an arbitrary behavior and were shocked every time they did it, and eventually they would stop. Pretty standard shit.

Other rats were shocked at random. There was no reason for why they got hurt, they were just hurt. Some of these rats would develop rituals to avoid the pain, spinning endlessly in circles in hopes of mercy. Others became hyper aggressive, lashing out at anything that could have possibly caused their suffering. Still others would become catatonic, curling into shaking balls on the floor and refusing to eat.

When my pain flares in my hands that have laid idle all day, when my legs hurt first thing in the morning I can only see myself as a rat in a cage, spinning endlessly in hopes of relief.

[whydidisavethistomyphone]