Stackson trash with multishipping addiction

I’m a writer, artist, and professional wreck. Formerly known as fanfictionfridge. Teen Wolf pro-Sterek pro-Scott multishipper. Pfp and banner by me. Catch me being a 36yo white Jewish autistic agender aroace (he/him) --- You can find me as whatthefridge on AO3. More multifandom side-side blog at @fridge-full-of-feels

[adrianfridge]

For anyone stumbling upon my blog, or maybe you've been here a while and need a refresher, I'm...

a writer

an artist

a graphics maker

autistically hyperfixated on Teen Wolf

seriously, someone get me a PhD (only opens in browser)

one of the mods on the largest and oldest general Teen Wolf discord @teenwolflegacy

So basically I post everything plus Teen Wolf here (Teen Wolf stuff isn’t always tagged as #teen wolf unless I’m OP because I use character and ship names instead). If you wanna see me go feral for other fandoms (e.g. Heated Rivalry, Iron Lung, Dracula Daily, Dungeon Meshi, etc) then head over to @fridge-full-of-feels

[storm-of-feathers]

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

[storm-of-feathers]

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

[adrianfridge]

Greatest cooking lifehack is learning to salt based on weight. I don’t have the patience to keep tasting, nor do I trust my instincts. I love knowing that I can add 1% salt by weight and be in the ballpark of good enough. If there’s 500g of potatoes, then it’s 5g of salt (metric is your friend here). Just make sure you weigh AFTER cleaning it up. I oversalted my cabbage because I weighed it before cutting out the inedible middle part.

It will feel like extra work if you already got a good grip on how to eyeball salt. Keep doing what works for you! I’m expressing what works for me.

[stjohnstarling]

I think the battle is long since lost on what the “-coded” suffix means, but I (old movie guy specifically invested in queer coding) seem to be unable to let go of how annoying I find the fuzzy popular use of the term. This is probably a flaw in my character.

[stjohnstarling]

Coding is intentional, it’s a way of communicating indirectly with the audience through a shared language of signs. That’s why it’s called coding, because it’s communicating in code. It isn’t when a thing reminds you of another thing.

[chainofclovers]

Put in the tags the completely finished (whether cancelled or wrapped up on its own terms) TV series that has YOUR perfect ending, however you define that

Please don’t include huge spoilers for the specifics of the endings, and it would also make me happy if people don’t use this to talk about the shows whose endings they hated

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[haughtyraban]

sometimes u go to a ship’s ao3 page and the top 10 fics are like “what if these guys were 2 completely different guys but had the same actors’ faces and character names”

[kawuli]

random PSA, I know a lot of people use duckduckgo as a Google alternative search engine, but it always kind of annoyed me when I was using it because it felt like No Name Brand Google

I have switched to using Startpage.com and vastly prefer it. for one thing, instead of displaying an "AI summary" at the top of the search results (unless you turn it off, yes I know), it displays the first paragraph of the Wikipedia article, with link, whenever it finds one that's relevant.

also a waaayyyyy better sense of design than duckduckgo

also private, European based, least annoying search I've used lately (RIP old "don't be evil" Google)

[yomikoreadsbooks]

Keeping a list of Google alternatives just in case…

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

i have one of those, scraped from multiple different rec posts:

Search Engines

Infinity Search is an alternative search engine with a special focus on privacy

DuckDuckGo is a popular search engine for those who value their privacy and are put off by the thought of their every query being tracked and logged. Uses bangs, ![site] for in-page search (sells your data to microsoft and draws from fucking bing)

WolframAlpha is a privately owned search engine that allows you to “compute expert-level answers using Wolfram’s breakthrough algorithms, knowledgebase, and AI technology.” A data search engine.

Boardreader is a search engine for forums and message boards. It allows you to search forums and then filter down results by date and language.

Based in France, Qwant is a privacy-based search engine that won’t record your searches or use your personal details for advertising. Uses “&” as a bang search.

Another privacy-based search engine is Search Encrypt, which uses local encryption to ensure that users’ identifiable information cannot be tracked. Metasearch across multiple engines. 

Offering unbiased results from several sources, SearX is a metasearch engine that aims to present a free, decentralized view of the internet. Can be self-hosted. 

Gibiru’s tagline is “Unfiltered private search” and that’s exactly what it offers. Requires AnonymoX Firefox add-on for privacy. 

Disconnect allows you to conduct anonymous searches through a search engine of your choice.

Swisscows provides fully encrypted searches to protect your privacy and security. Built-in violence/porn filter cannot be overridden. 

MetaGer offers “Privacy Protected Search & Find” through its anonymised search. A plugin will allow it to be made a default.

Gigablast is a private search engine that indexes millions of websites and servers real-time information without tracking your data, keeping you hidden from marketers and spammers. Variety of filtration and refinement options for searching. 

Oscobo is a search engine that protects your privacy while you search the web. By not using any third-party tools or scripts, your data is protected from hacking and misuse. Has a Chrome extension to allow use in toolbar. 

https://search.marginalia.nu/ an independent DIY search engine that focuses on non-commercial content, and attempts to show you sites you perhaps weren't aware of in favor of the sort of sites you probably already knew existed. Use old-school searching rather than query-based for the best results. 

https://www.mojeek.com/ 

https://wiby.me/ - It’s goal is to index as many personalized websites as possible, and NOT commercial sites. 

https://4get.ca/ it works a lot like SearX, but honestly better. It doesn’t have its own index, but pulls from many others. I think it’s the best for research, since it allows you to search for answers from different indexes, is easy to configure, add free, and avoids censorship as much as it can.

https://www.searchenginemap.com/ for more on how search engines relate to each other.

https://yep.com/ is a crawler

https://www.etools.ch/ retrieves from Google, Mojeek, Bing, and Yandex, like Searx

https://www.dogpile.com/ 

https://searxng.org/ (next gen Searx)

https://luxxle.com/ - possibly conservative?

https://presearch.com/ - good for academic?

https://kagi.com/smallweb - free/randomised Kagi.

Other Searchers

www.refseek.com - Academic Resource Search. More than a billion sources: encyclopedia, monographies, magazines.

www.worldcat.org - a search for the contents of 20 thousand worldwide libraries. Find out where lies the nearest rare book you need.

https://link.springer.com - access to more than 10 million scientific documents: books, articles, research protocols.

www.bioline.org.br is a library of scientific bioscience journals published in developing countries.

http://repec.org - volunteers from 102 countries have collected almost 4 million publications on economics and related science.

www.science.gov is an American state search engine on 2200+ scientific sites. More than 200 million articles are indexed.

www.base-search.net is one of the most powerful researches on academic studies texts. More than 100 million scientific documents, 70% of them are free.https://cosine.club/ is an electronic music similarity search engine

[megacarapa]

ok so this is another long shot but a few years ago there was a twitter post (in japanese i think?) that had measurememts for how to make this book stand thing out of cardboard that you could use to double up books and use up more space on shelves

back then i made a bunch of these but by now i lost the pic and dont know how to find the original post anymore

if it comes down to it i can just take one apart and get the measurements from there but i would be very grateful if anyone happens to have the original post or something similar??

[megacarapa]

don't mind how long it's been since i made this post, anyway i realized that i don't even need to take one apart to get the measurements when i can literally just unfold it and refold it /FACEPALM

so anyway here is the diagram for anyone else who is interested!!

this requires pretty big carboard pieces, if you have a really big box or something you can make it from one piece, but if you don't, you can also just make each of the pieces individually and then tape them together

and then in the end you put it together like this!!

and then when you make a bunch you can put them all next to each other and stack your books like crazy

EVERYONE START GETTING MORE USE OUT OF YOUR SPACE NOW!!!!

[questionable-method]

no but im so tired of how self-deprecation is always more accepted than self-advocacy. if i say i can't drive because im autistic i get questioned on how exactly that works and given a million suggestions on how to do it anyway and i look like im trying to be special so it's easier to just say im a loser. yeah i don't drive because im kind of a loser lmao. oh well. and people say lmao back and we move on. at worst they say "oh im sure you'll figure it out haha." but no interrogation!! being a loser is more respectable than being disabled. being a loser is something that doesn't make other people feel uncomfortable about their own biases. so no, no im not disabled. i don't struggle to keep friends and do the laundry and make quick trivial decisions and clean my room and brush my teeth because im autistic. it's because im a loser. it's my fault. it is what it is. at least im funny now. do you think im funny? please think im funny

[adrianfridge]

I think the disconnect is because disability implies you could potentially overcome it with the proper tools whereas being a loser is a choice being made. With the former there’s an urge to help. With the latter there’s an acceptance of nothing to be done about it.

And, like, I get the frustration. I’m autistic myself. And it’s often treated as an excuse. Because there’s always the chance there’s a lifehack or accessibility feature that could improve my chances of doing the thing.

But telling people I just don’t wanna? People have fewer ways to counter that.

[catnippackets]

the hardest pill to swallow about being in a fandom is that some people are only ankle-deep in it and aren't taking things too seriously and other people are up to their necks and taking it as seriously as a heart attack and yet everybody thinks that every other person is in it just as deep as they are and will get very upset to realize otherwise because they don't know how to engage with the different perspective

[witchofanguish]

There's a somewhat-unstated division in social progressive circles that goes "being socially inept for autism reasons is fine, but being socially inept for regular reasons is bad and mockable." And then in practice everyone assumes it's for regular reasons when it comes up

[geek-ramblings]

https://glaad.org/fcc/

[promptsforthesoul]

Reminder that continuing to mention a character’s injuries and how they impact their mobility, pain, thoughts, etc. moving forward is one of the coolest things you can do as a writer.

[fanfictionwriter2021]

To me, this sounds like it could be ableist. What do the rest of you think?

[heywriters]

The definitions being different between "injured" and "disabled" I think you're a touch off base there. One can be injured without being disabled, and one can become disabled without being injured.

How I interpreted OP: writing a character as suffering a serious injury then having them kick ass and go home without being hindered in any way makes the injury meaningless. An ignored injury as a spike in drama alone and not as a tool to raise the stakes or explore who the character is under this kind of duress is a wasted opportunity. If it happens enough, it cheapens the storytelling.

If you've ever been truly sick or injured, it tends to take up a lot of your mental energy as well as physical. If I had a gaping wound in my side while trying to escape zombies in a story, my character would be actively nursing the wound, anxious about getting it infected, moving slowly to keep the blood from gushing, and internally complaining all the way to safety. Unless my writer got lazy and chose to skip all that prime storytelling.

Since disability has been brought into this, writers often neglect these things with their disabled characters too. I once read a story where a group of friends were out on the town and went down a set of concrete stairs. The writer made absolutely no mention of how the character in the wheelchair achieved this. She made it to the bottom somehow!

Now, could OP's advice be applied in an ableist way? Yes, clearly. All advice—and stories—can be misunderstood by anyone. That does not make the advice bad. In fact, if you're intentionally writing a character that is ableist or simply rude as hell, misinterpreting this advice would be useful to your writing of that character!

Lastly, be careful not to misapply real life advice to writing. Irl we should rarely bring up people's personal details and even then only in certain contexts. In fiction, you have to be able to acknowledge things like disability, race, gender, etc. to both immerse the reader and speak to your audience.

[promptsforthesoul]

Well I was going to write a reply but the one above is better than anything I could have articulated.

I greatly appreciate the insight and your explanation. You are correct about what I meant.

Regardless, I appreciate opening this up for discussion, too. It is always worth having a conversation about to clarify intention and meaning.

[manuciruja]

I think it's insane that even in the most leftist and "progressive" spaces the idea of equating morality with looks is alive and present and no one fucking bats an eye at it. like racists and mysoginysts are always portrayed as fat and hairy and generally unkept, as a contrast to the morally good and attractive leftists of course; people will have no problem being genuinely fucking awful about someone's appearance if they're deemed to be a "bad person". and the worst part is you point all of this out and people act like you're reading too much into things like no dude you gotta start using your brain more

[ticklefart2]

the most unrealistic part of teen wolf is how they all graduated and went to college after missing damn near half of all their classes

[adrianfridge]

With the increasing number of student deaths, the administration had to graduate someone 😔☠️😭

[strangestmoons]

gender swapped stiles stilinski would also have a buzz cut and would dress the exact same and act the exact same and would still be called stiles and she'd still be played by dylan o'brien