Aesir

Mixed origin system

[aesir01]

Hello everyone, I’m here to announce the official retirement of this blog.

Why? I received the intensive therapy I needed and realized in my case. Darkshipping was actually holding back my recovery instead of helping me though it.

That is not the case for everyone, but it is for me 👍 so for my own recovery I’m leaving the community so I can continue my trauma recovery.

Thank you everyone, bye bye ✨

-Aesir

[proshippers-against-censorship]

It pisses me off when antis say "you're literally getting off to MY trauma!!1!!" like... no I'm not getting off to your trauma, I don't fucking know you or your trauma. Fuck off with that stupid shit. You don't own the concept of rape because you got raped. Antis are so fucking selfish its insane like you don't own the intellectual property rights of trauma, you don't have a right to police everyone who wants to explore dark topics in fiction. Especially when many people who engage in dark fiction are survivors themselves, you have no right to tell people how they should be allowed to cope.

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[aesir01]

Also like you don’t own your trauma. It pmo because they just assume I have no trauma and am sexualizing theirs. No I am sexualizing my trauma who tf are you?

Like yes ofc you have your own trauma but someone else on this earth has similar trauma to you.

[aesir01]

Light vent but I got denied by a job I really wanted and it’s really upsetting.

They won’t even tell me why, but they said they had reports of “online activities” and my ex-anti friends said they would ruin my life. So. Lol.

[miraclegardencollective]

Tag game! /nf

Basically: You are on a road trip with the first 3 fictional characters in your camera roll.

I'll go first

This is not gonna go well and it's purely because of Miu. Like Kyoya and Mafuyu are fine it's Miu I'm worried about 😭

Tags! (NF): @xo-gravekandy @shinx-stardust @crystallizedmoon @proship-monomi @problematicclitcontroller and open tags!

Update: removed a tag because it wasn't tagging TwT

[xo-gravekandy]

Peter Griffin, Eugene Krabs, and Mick Mundy…

Oh this is gonna be hell.

I tag @averytiredbitch @aesir01 @damn-you-all-to-hell @winterleadd

[aesir01]

Diluc till and Ivan. No one in this car has a stable house life.

(I don’t have anyone else to tag I don’t have any other moots)

[aesir01]

I have never touched Overwatch myself but I would let a good chunk of the cast touch me instead

[6yuri0yaoi9]

This is going to get long. Beware😅

I'm not trying to hate on this person at all. I'm just giving my take on what they said since my whole thing is giving studies that help the proship belief(i tagged the ones that fit Most with this at the bottom)Most of the stuff I'm going to be replying to links back to the creator that was mentioned at the bottom since it looks that he got most of the views from them(I apologize if I am wrong on that)

The main claim: Darkshipping is not a good coping mechanism.

And to that I say: It is subjective.

Not everyone is the same, not everyone uses it the same.

Yes, they can see it as hot in fiction only without it affecting how they view the crimes in real life. Such studies go over "fictive pass" and "the affects of lolisho porn"(both tagged at the bottom). It goes over how fiction will not change attraction if the attraction is not already there, and how people will view circumstances differently if they believe it is fiction. And in the lolisho article it is told that the hentai watchers actually prefer fictional characters over real people.

And an important thing to add into your brain is desensitization ≠ belief. People with autism and aspd might not have a strong reaction to obviously wrong things. Does that mean that everyone who doesn't have a strong reaction thinks it's ok? No! Some things are based on sensibility and facts. Morals are not always based off feelings.

Most darkshippers have bpd, hypersexuality, and so on. Neither of those would make someone believe it would be ok in real life. Hypersexuality can give unwanted sexual thoughts, about things that would he horrid to act upon irl. Distress is common within it and fiction could be a safe outlet to get it out.

The part where it says "You have to understand that these crimes have/can happen" to a group of people who have most likely had these crimes happen to them and implying that they do not understand how real the crimes are, does seem a little out of touch. But I do understand where they're coming from.

Victims of these crimes will know better than anyone about how they feel interacting with such media. It is not uncommon that kink is used as a coping strategy. Many people develop a CNC kink after being sexually assaulted. They wish for that control back, and exploring these thoughts in a safe environment is healthy.

There are techniques in therapy specifically designed to desensitize you to your trauma. It's so the trauma holder has less of reaction when interacting with triggering topics. While I do not believe darkshipping should be a main coping mechanism, it could be the only thing keeping someone here.

The whole point of using fiction as a coping mechanism is to make your trauma seem like it didn't take over your life completely. So you don't have such a strong reaction to your own trauma, helps you can properly function in everyday life(basically desensitization)

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For the TikToker mentioned. I do not mean to discredit anything she says, but it does seem pretty biased. She is an anti and one of the first thing I see when I go onto her account is this.

This shows she doesn't have a clear understanding of the proship belief. Proshippers believe every SHIP has the right to exist. Assuming she meant profic, that also wouldn't work out. We do not believe any FICTION should be censored. Just calling someone a slur is not fiction. If they mean stuff like the book "To kill a Mockingbird". Then yes, those books have the right to exist. Do I believe non-black people should be saying/writing the n-word though? No. But my personal comfort should not determine what should be censored.

I watched the 3 videos of "fiction affects reality" the first two have no studies and is complete opinion. During one of these she says "A predator who has lolisho content should be put in jail". Already losing the credibility. Lolisho content does not make someone a predator. They do not deserve to go to jail for having lolisho content. And if she is talking about an actual predator, then why is the main focus on lolisho content and not the fact that they were actively harming children?As well as implying that age play is paedophilic when she started going over the kink-tober list. Again, lost credibility. Age play is two consenting adults where nobody is harmed.

Other than that, the comments she agreed with. She liked one comment saying proshippers have low IQ and are "intellectual". She also liked anti-kink and radfem type comments. Yes, incest(FAUXCEST)can be a kink. Racism can be a kink. "Crime" can be a kink. As long as its in a safe, consenting environment then it doesn't matter. "It's an insult to actual kinky behaviors" but you hate on actual kinky behaviors. Taboo kinks are fine to explore, especially in fiction. Yes, women can be masochistic and can engage with consensual acts with their male partner. Yes other people can get off to that, especially when it's fictional because NOBODY is getting hurt. Lost credibility.

In one of these videos she says "I hope I didn't come off as too sympathizing to people who read and write rape fanfiction". What does that even mean? Why would you need to sympathize with them? They are exploring kinks in a safe environment with... basically obejcts. She also at no point showed that she felt bad for the people making those fics and didn't at all make it seem like having kinks were ok.

She also says in one of the videos "True crime is not about the "problematicness" but more so the mystery" The mystery of who did the problematic. Murder, rape, torture, are problematic. I highly doubt that people are watching true crime to find out who the murderer is. If they did, they could just look it up. They are watching it for the problematic. If people just posted videos naming a case and then the murderer, true crime wouldn't be as popular. She continued on by saying "People believing they are detectives after watching a Stephanie Soo video only furthers my point". It doesn't. The victims of those crimes are real, they aren't fiction. Yes, some people may feel a want to help real people after listening to real people getting murdered. Do they sometimes take it to far? Yes. But again, those are real cases. Again, lost credibility.

Again, she liked a comment about fiction affecting reality. But the example that was used WAS THE SLENDERMAN STABBING! The stabbing with two schizophrenic girls who actually believed slenderman was REAL. The two girls who couldn't tell the difference between fiction and reality. Lost credibility.

The last comment that she liked before moving onto the studies she sighted. She liked a comment saying "'Don't like, don't read' CHECK THAT HARD DRIVE!!!!". Implying that that statement was inherently pedophilic. The term "don't like, don't read" is in response to censorship. Again. Credibility has been lost.

Now for the studies she used. I can only find the abstracts for all them. If you have the full ones, please give them to me.

Movie: Here

Maybe it says something different in the full article, but in the video she says that female and male both had lower empathy for rape victims after watching the movies, while in the article it said that females were not affected by the film type. But the men were. This could easily be in result of environment. Males since the 1800's have been more accepting of rape. This isn't misandry, this is factual, and this study can be used to prove it. So for this study: It is most likely the environment, based on the fact that males were more accepting and females weren't affected by the film type.

Music: Here

This was the only good study they used in regards to "fiction" affecting reality. Since I can not find the full study, I have questions that aren't answered. Did they see it as fiction? Did they have some of these beliefs before? Could it be like the movie one? Little answered and I can't find the reasoning for this. However, I do believe that this can be compared to propaganda(not the study, the people listening to the music) where they only believe it because they want to (That's one of the main rules of propaganda) and this is one where you have to question yourself. If you are trans, would a song about hating trans people change your mind?

Lab experiment: Here

I'm going to use this from now on, I do not know if it said anything different in the full study(if you have it please give it to me) but it basically says at the bottom that "viewing it as fiction made it have a less effective stimulus"

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I'm not going to say that the original poster is wrong, because he might actually believe that stuff and it would be rude to deny his beliefs simply because I don't believe with them. However, his views and that post could very well give antis another reason to hate on darkshippers. "Even the darkshipper agrees" on stuff that isn't factually correct.

Using an anti who has no idea what the proship/profic belief is about to prove that darkshipping isn't a good coping mechanism does not look good for us. Especially when the stuff they're saying makes them lose credibility .

I do recommend staying away from antis AND proshippers when you want to have an opinion on something. Do research of your own. Form your own opinion. I do post studies you can read on your own, antis post studies you can read on your own. Question yourself and see if it applies to you.

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Fiction not affecting beliefs:

Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. It's where your interests connect you with your

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Fictive Pass:

Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. It's where your interests connect you with your

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Using fiction as a coping mechanism:

Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. It's where your interests connect you with your

[aesir01]

I wanna add on as a rape, kidnapping, and incest survivor who darkships. I am putting these at the beginning as a content warning. You have been warned

As a child I was kidnapped by a family member and abused for 2-3 days before I was found.

It has left me with permanent scars, both physical and mental. The worse one has been hypersexuality. I do not want these thoughts about my family members, I feel ashamed of my self for having them. But fiction has genuinely helped in my trauma coping.

I’d rather force myself into fictional situations than my mind forcing me into situations with real family members. And my therapist agrees with me on that. And I trust the professionals more then “anti ship JimmyJimbo” on tumblr

[aesir01]

I do use dark shipping as a coping mechanism, others don’t. Both are fine, but to put down those who use it as a coping mechanism because “you don’t need to excuse to like dark media!??!?!?!” I just use it to cope that’s a genuine reason shut up 😭

[aesir01]

The fact you all feel the need to make queer labels “make sense” is fucking insane and goes against everything our elders fought against btw.

[aesir01]

Talking a lot about how the US is harming queer people ≠ us centerist ideals?

I can’t believe this has to be said but talking about how your country is actively falling into a dictatorship (Kansas literally just stripped the drivers license of thousands of trans people) is not US centrism and should be talked about in ALL queer spaces EVEN international ones.

No, I am not going to shut up about how I’m scared for my own safety because “well I’m not from the US and it’s annoying.” In the queer community when I as a queer person am actively scared for my life in the US

Edit: one of the most powerful countries in the world is doing this btw! That should terrify you!

[this-is-antikink]

Someone was trying to tell me about a fetish Vocaloid song or something?

I don’t have the full story here but they were saying stuff like “this is the most disgusting thing ever!! It should be nuked of the internet!!1!”

And idk I really don’t think it’s that bad, it’s just feeder stuff

Should it be on YouTube? Probably not, but calling it the most heinous thing ever is weird to me :/

this is antikink!

[aesir01]

This is the song they were talking about ^^ my only criticism is that they only made her stomach fat and made nearly everything else skinny lol.

When I say fat I want fat 😭

[aesir01]

The way people are talking about the D4VD case is pissing me off.

“Next diddy.” He murdered a child and took her finger, he left her to decompose then did a radio interview and went on tour.

He had CSEM not CP, he was a pedophile not “the next Epstein”, he was a groomer not “EDP”

Stop. Talking. About. Child. Murders. If. You. Can’t. Do. It. Seriously.

[macaroni-and-beans]

My state is banning "obscene depictions of minors in content (or someone that looks like one)"

It's safe to say that they don't care about protecting real kids. If they did, child marriage and child beauty pageants would be outlawed.

More than likely, they're using this to conveniently label LGBT content as obscene and then ban it, regardless of context. But of course, if I question this, I'll be called a pedophile.

[xo-gravekandy]

You’re absolutely right. Especially since lolisho is technically protected under the first amendment, since it falls under free speech. Even if they could enforce it, they wouldn’t want to. Because they don’t care about it enough. They just want a back door to banning any depictions of LGBTQ+ relationships.

Also ‘obscene’ is too broad a term in terms of legality and shit, and they know this. What is ‘obscene’ is entirely subjective. If they really wanted to ban lolisho, they would have said ‘depictions of children in sexually explicit situations’

But if we say any of that nooooooo we’re all evil pedophiles and we should die.

[aesir01]

Late but in my state I shit you not if you look up “lolicon” or “shotacon” you get this 😭😬 that’s cool where we’re y’all when I opened 10 cyber tip lines on my abuser and did nothing and let me live with my abuser for 10 years.

[aesir01]

“They look like a child” we often get mistaken for a child, does that make us a minor? Of course not, I am over 20. Sometimes even in real life, you just look young.

You are allowed to feel uncomfortable with any kind of content you want. But you shouldn’t compare it to real children suffering.

[aesir01]

Please do not dm me or send me an ask on an alt asking why you were blocked…

I blocked you for a reason, I don’t owe you an explanation to why I blocked you 😭

[aesir01]

It’s been a good few weeks for me (: nothing else, just wanted to say I feel good.

[aesir01]

Everytime someone says non-con is the same thing as irl rape. A kitten fucking dies

[aesir01]

I wish I could ship my abuser x victim without anti ship blimbo on tumblr calling me a pedophile