Also Carefully Aggressive

The left is dead. Nuance is dead. I'm sick of being a polite Jew. Die mad about it.

[aggressivelycareful]

There is this unique discomfort when you can feel the other person's objection to your very existence straight through their veneer of politeness

[chutzpahchesed]

saw this really horrible comment today about how “Jewish women love to lie about rape,” and yesterday I saw what’s basically the inverse, “Jewish men love sexual assault, the majority of them are predators and rapists” along with the “61% of Israeli men” disinformation, and none of this is new - both are actually very, very old, both Jewish women being portrayed as liars and “harlots,” and Jewish men being portrayed as innately predatory - but it’s so disturbing seeing the way it’s gaining traction, and knowing that quite a bit of it in these awful posts is stemming from denial of the atrocities of 10/7 and of what was inflicted on the hostages (and those crimes were perpetrated against Israeli victims regardless of gender).

I was looking something up the other day and got a result from the 1930s subreddit, and there was a comment that had been removed by the moderators, but to which someone had replied (and that was still up) telling them they were an antisemite for saying that Jews are the cause of all the abuses in Hollywood and that they’d never generalize like that about any other group of people. this doesn’t mean there haven’t been abusive Jewish men, especially in positions of power, there certainly have been, and we know who they are, and the Jewish community as a whole overwhelmingly condemns them, but their individual behavior is used to smear and demonize world Jewry in a particular way. it’s scary seeing the stereotypes and suspicions and vitriolic attitudes continue to grow.

I’m not really going anywhere useful with this, but it occurred to me how often we mention that Jews are only 0.2% of the world population, and how few people ever really know or even interact with Jewish people. sometimes I wonder if it wouldn’t be more useful to point out that the majority, 99.8% of the world is non-Jewish. of course it’s easy to believe such terrible things and to scapegoat such a small group, and of course it’s almost impossible to combat it or to remove it from centuries’ worth of ingrained culture.

[aggressivelycareful]

they can't have it both ways. If the majority of Jewish men are rapists, then Jewish women are probably being raped; if Jewish women are lying about being raped, then most Jewish men are probably not out there raping them.

What dumbfuckery.

[zaprowsdower27]

Don't be silly, everybody knows we have no interiority or culture of our and only exist in interactions with nonjews where we maliciously manipulate them for no coherent reason

[aggressivelycareful]

You know what, that's very fair.

[jewish-hot-takes]

A hot take for frum people only, please.

We should be able to hold traditional halachic opinions on sexuality without treating the people oriented that way badly. I am still frum. But the bullying and the fear I experienced because in my ignorance I did something was not okay. I had to learn on my own to reconcile my sexuality with being frum and it's a very real problem. Are you really surprised when so many end up just leaving and feeling resentful? I live a life any unmarried chareidi would be unashamed of today. Don't act like my existence is an inevitable sin.

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[aggressivelycareful]

I'll do you one better: We should be able to accept that halacha says one thing about sexuality, and our common sense says another, and be able to rule in favor of common sense.

Is it against halacha to live a fully gay life? yes.

Can you be frum and still do that? Also yes.

No one is checking my מוץ דחוק or my count of שבעה נקיים or making sure that there's no זרע לבטלה in my bedroom, because there's a very real common sense understanding that you can't police that shit, and it's worse חילול ה to try than it is to just let someone live a frum life even if you're sure they're not keeping all the precepts exactly as they should be kept. There's no reason for that not to be the norm around sexuality—and that's without even getting into the very legitimate arguments for why homosexuality is actually not as forbidden as we are all taught to believe.

"Sodomy is between God and me"

[jewishgay4il]

Is it against halacha to live a fully gay life? yes

no its not?? it is against halacha to have male on male sex. that says absolutely nothing about lifestyle.

[aggressivelycareful]

Romantic partnership where there is desire but not sex is not leading a fully gay life. "you guys can live together but not have sex" isn't really a very welcoming stance.

[chutzpahchesed]

saw this really horrible comment today about how “Jewish women love to lie about rape,” and yesterday I saw what’s basically the inverse, “Jewish men love sexual assault, the majority of them are predators and rapists” along with the “61% of Israeli men” disinformation, and none of this is new - both are actually very, very old, both Jewish women being portrayed as liars and “harlots,” and Jewish men being portrayed as innately predatory - but it’s so disturbing seeing the way it’s gaining traction, and knowing that quite a bit of it in these awful posts is stemming from denial of the atrocities of 10/7 and of what was inflicted on the hostages (and those crimes were perpetrated against Israeli victims regardless of gender).

I was looking something up the other day and got a result from the 1930s subreddit, and there was a comment that had been removed by the moderators, but to which someone had replied (and that was still up) telling them they were an antisemite for saying that Jews are the cause of all the abuses in Hollywood and that they’d never generalize like that about any other group of people. this doesn’t mean there haven’t been abusive Jewish men, especially in positions of power, there certainly have been, and we know who they are, and the Jewish community as a whole overwhelmingly condemns them, but their individual behavior is used to smear and demonize world Jewry in a particular way. it’s scary seeing the stereotypes and suspicions and vitriolic attitudes continue to grow.

I’m not really going anywhere useful with this, but it occurred to me how often we mention that Jews are only 0.2% of the world population, and how few people ever really know or even interact with Jewish people. sometimes I wonder if it wouldn’t be more useful to point out that the majority, 99.8% of the world is non-Jewish. of course it’s easy to believe such terrible things and to scapegoat such a small group, and of course it’s almost impossible to combat it or to remove it from centuries’ worth of ingrained culture.

[aggressivelycareful]

they can't have it both ways. If the majority of Jewish men are rapists, then Jewish women are probably being raped; if Jewish women are lying about being raped, then most Jewish men are probably not out there raping them.

What dumbfuckery.

[jewish-hot-takes]

A hot take for frum people only, please.

We should be able to hold traditional halachic opinions on sexuality without treating the people oriented that way badly. I am still frum. But the bullying and the fear I experienced because in my ignorance I did something was not okay. I had to learn on my own to reconcile my sexuality with being frum and it's a very real problem. Are you really surprised when so many end up just leaving and feeling resentful? I live a life any unmarried chareidi would be unashamed of today. Don't act like my existence is an inevitable sin.

.

[aggressivelycareful]

I'll do you one better: We should be able to accept that halacha says one thing about sexuality, and our common sense says another, and be able to rule in favor of common sense.

Is it against halacha to live a fully gay life? yes.

Can you be frum and still do that? Also yes.

No one is checking my מוץ דחוק or my count of שבעה נקיים or making sure that there's no זרע לבטלה in my bedroom, because there's a very real common sense understanding that you can't police that shit, and it's worse חילול ה to try than it is to just let someone live a frum life even if you're sure they're not keeping all the precepts exactly as they should be kept. There's no reason for that not to be the norm around sexuality—and that's without even getting into the very legitimate arguments for why homosexuality is actually not as forbidden as we are all taught to believe.

"Sodomy is between God and me"

[tvirusresearchlabs]

Ah, the "greater Israel" conspiracy. Otherwise known as the paranoid conviction that the Jews are itching to take over the very places many Jews had to flee to Israel from due to the level of severe, violent antisemitism present there.

[aggressivelycareful]

Jew and what army?

The IDF is great, I guess, but the thought that 8 million Jews, including the elderly, middle aged women, babies, and toddlers, can take over Iran, Lebanon, and Syria? What's the plan, Phil? all the Jews in Israel could "occupy" Iran and Iran probably wouldn't even notice.

[therationaldispatch]

Israeli rapper Idan Nimtso:

[femalegothic]

also Argentina's ties to Israel are that they refused to extradite Nazis after the holocaust so Mossad agents had to covertly capture and smuggle them out of Argentina to stand trial

[aggressivelycareful]

☝️

Which, I'd like to delicately point out, earned Israel a condemnation from the UN.

[sputnikcentury]

What is the fetish that fan creators have for making Jewish characters eat pork

[sputnikcentury]

They’re always so smug about it too like “tee hee it’s a sign that he’s conflicted in his faith! He’s assimilated!”

Shut up, he would not fucking eat that.

[aggressivelycareful]

On the other hand, the parts of the Jewish MCU fandom twisted its panties into an atomic wedgie over the fact that Marc Spector/Steven Grant (it's been a minute, I forget which) pulled off his kippah at his abusive mom's shiva as a sign that he's conflicted in his faith. I can't really fault creators for going for the low hanging, even-non-Jews-will-get-it fruit of "eating pork" when anything more thoughtful gets them backlash for being inconsiderate because I personally have never thrown off a kippah as a sign of conflicted faith.

[byjove]

if you adopt two dogs who are littermates, they will team up on you to undermine your authority. if you adopt two cats that are littermates, they will constantly try to narc on each other to you

[aggressivelycareful]

any two children who aren't littermates will do both at the same time

[indecisiveavocado]

chabad no one on the planet has ever confused heaven and iowa.

[girlactionfigure]

[aggressivelycareful]

omg I love him so much

[jewish-hot-takes]

We should not let anti-Zionists convert to Judaism. I mean that. Every stream of Judaism needs a blanket ban on anti-Zionist converts, block all in-progress conversion, and all of us to collectively agree there’s no place there for anti-Zionists. No person who joins the Jewish people should be advocating for the mass displacement and ethnic cleansing of nearly half our number.

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[aggressivelycareful]

I'm pretty sure that's baked in to the system, anyway. There's no blanket ban because no one who's doing conversions is going to divorce Judaism from Israel.

[benepla-deactivated20180521]

male entitlement in academic spaces is so boring. can’t tell you how many times i’ve been in a class and a girl gives a short, insightful analysis, and then a dude raises his hand and says “jumping off of that…” then says literally the same thing she said but longer and worse.

[zurizaldun-deactivated20241104]

I hate to be that guy, but it doesn’t just happen to women. The assholes who do that will do that to anyone who’s analysis isn’t sufficiently complex and long winded for them. 

Been done to me by people of both genders. 

Also I have been guilty of doing this, so I apologize. Because I was overly excited and just couldn’t wait to talk…. yeah. 

(Nothing is ever clear cut eh….) 

[benepla-deactivated20180521]

dude.

[221cbakerstreet]

this is art

[korra-of-the-watertribe]

#a fun fact about tumblr is that if you dare to complain about a mundanely frustrating type of person#that exact type of person will appear in your notes as if summoned via a ouija board

[aggressivelycareful]

During Covid we had a graduate seminar thing on Zoom. One (mediocre) guy kept doing this over and over again. I, by far the oldest of the group at 35, eventually got to use my favorite line from Pride and Prejudice in context:

"Oh, I just want to add to what Esther was saying—"

"Thank you, Billy. You have delighted us long enough. Why don't we give some of the young ladies a chance to exhibit?"

Considering it was the English Literature graduate program, it got a good laugh, especially from the girls.

[rootlessmargarita]

[golem-brigadier]

New conspiracy just drop.

[aggressivelycareful]

This is kinda funny because the Enterprise is something of a Jewish Enterprise

[agam-shel-barvadim]

but at what cost

[snissel613]

two zuzim

[aggressivelycareful]