A Library in My Head

32/nonbinary/she/her This is all @thebluejayawe's fault. They have better content too.

[macgyvermedical]

Happy Pride Month everyone!

I’m trans and it’s an important part of my life. I lost a job over it in late 2024, but that experience inspired my wife and I to move across the country to a safer state.

If you are trans and stuck somewhere unsafe, I volunteer with an organization called Traction (Project Open Arms) that helps people move from red states to places that are more safe and accepting. Message me for more info.

[alliemackenzie28]

Get you a man who will make you tylenol suppositories at 1 am after spending eight hours in the ER with you. Jk he’s taken…

@macgyvermedical

[a-mel0n]

reblog if you’ve had an online friendship that’s lasted more than 2 years

[thereddestglass]

@natrasharomanova

[alliemackenzie28]

Hi! Every other Tuesday I make lunch for about 30 unhoused people in my neighborhood. I’m currently entirely self funded. I’m able to contribute about $50/month; meals are under 75 cents each. Last week (pictured) we had potato tomato curry, banana bread, and a small salad, and the week before that we had pb&j sandwiches and baked potatoes. I’ve had people tell me they haven’t eaten since the day before or that they didn’t think they were getting food that day. We are in the middle of a free food and services desert.

Every donation is welcome, even a dollar.. If you’re north of Seattle, message me if you’d like to make a donation of food, clothing, shoes, socks, underwear, personal hygene items, or anything else. Every little bit helps. At the moment I also have one lady who could really use an old cell phone.

https://gofund.me/7525e45b3

[bardic-tales]

Be careful of the double-speak in the Update Post.

Staff has officially posted an update regarding the reblog decoupling, and while they are reversing the change for now, we need to look closely at the language they are using. This is a classic example of corporate "double speak" designed to de-escalate a PR crisis while keeping the door open for the same harmful features later.

The Post: Reblog Update: We’re Reversing the Change

The Red Flag:

"We still believe there's a better version of how reblogs can work. One that gives every voice in a chain the credit it deserves. But we want to get there with you."

The Breakdown: When they say they want to give every voice the credit it deserves, they are still justifying the decoupling of notes. They are framing the destruction of the original creator's attribution as a feature for the rebloggers or the loss of community. Their goal hasn't changed. They just realized their current execution was a technical and social disaster.

They also mention working "directly with some of you." This often means selecting a small, curated group of "power users" who may not prioritize the accessibility or safety needs that we have been fighting for.

Viral Hell & The Power of the Call to Arms

To my friends and followers: my condolences for going viral are accepted. I love you. Let’s look at the numbers. My original post on this has cleared 24,000 notes. This is exactly why a Call to Arms was necessary. When we first saw the decoupling, we saw the immediate theft of credit.

In my case, over 10,000 notes were stolen or hidden by the uncoupling before I even realized the extent of the damage. This isn't just a UI preference. It is the systematic erasing of a creator’s reach and legacy.

Why we cannot stop now:

Staff’s reversal is a tactical retreat, not a surrender. Their language proves they still intend to push for a version of decoupling in the future. We forced their hand because:

The volume of feedback was undeniable. 24k notes on a single advocacy post is a massive indicator of user dissatisfaction.

Emails and Support Tickets work. They specifically cited emails as a reason for the reversal.

Public pressure creates friction. By making this a PR nightmare on Bluesky and X, we made the cost of the update too high for them to maintain.

The Mission Moving Forward:

We have won the first battle, but the Double Speak in their post tells us the war isn't over. They are going to try to rebrand a change like this in a few weeks or months.

Keep the pressure on: Continue to reblog your concerns when they surface.

Stay Vocal: They are betting on us getting tired and going back to business as usual. We need to show them that our safety and our creative credit are non-negotiable. Continue to voice concerns when they surface.

We’ve seen that we can move the needle. Let's make sure they don't try to move it back when they think we aren't looking.

[pangur-and-grim]

a core part of being on tumblr is watching the site kick itself in the dick

[thatlittleegyptologist]

Since some of you don't seem to understand how this 'new notes' thing works, I'll break it down:

I'm the OP. I'm making this post. If you like, comment, reblog (without comment) on this post, then I'm the one who will see all those notes in my activity page.

However...

If you reblog (with comment), I will get a notification that you did that, but any likes/comments/reblogs (without comment) you get on that reblog will only be shown to you. As OP I won't see them.

If someone adds a reblog (with comment) to your reblog...as OP I won't see that. I won't see any of those notes in my activity page.

Basically, if someone with a large following makes a comment, then they will get all the notes and OP will see nothing. If OP has said something silly because they're, y'know, 21 and it happens, and then someone reblogs it onto the dash of someone with a large following who then dunks on them for fun? OP doesn't see it, doesn't get notes for it, but they're gonna get the harrassment for it in their inbox.

If I, someone with a 5 digit follower count, reblog something to correct misinformation on Ancient Egypt, then OP will never see it unless it was on the original post, but I will continue to get notes on that post even though it's not my post. If I reblog fanart, or just art in general, with a comment like 'Oh this is so lovely!' then OP will not see any of the notes from people reblogging it from me. They'll only see my reblog. So it's possible for an art post by someone else to have 200 notes for them, but 9000 for someone who reblogs it with a comment, and the OP artist will have no idea it's been seen by that many people.

It's killing blow to the community we've built here, by someone higher up who doesn't understand that being able to see all the comments and reblogs is what makes this site the place I keep coming back to.

That's what sucks.

I encourage people to go to tumblr's support page, select contact support, and then in the dropdown menu select 'Feedback' and leave polite and constructive feedback (for those of you who enjoy 'emails worded politely but are a strong 'are you an idiot?', try that way of wording it). They're more likely to listen to you if you're not an asshole about it. I've already gone and done this, and I hope others will too.

[blessdunrest-deactivated2026042]

Hey OP, thank you explaining this for us. I'd like to also add to please submit all feedback by commenting on tumblr's CHANGES sideblog (link below). based on the tumblr support email i just received and many others have already received, tumblr engineers are monitoring their feedback more closely there.

You can access it here.

Please.

We need all the feedback we can. Support tickets, reblogs, but most importantly THE CHANGES SIDE BLOG.

[thatlittleegyptologist]

True! However, this is a boilerplate email, feedback is still important through whatever channel you can, and because of their new note changes, unless to comment on the original changes/tumblr/staff post about it, they won't see it. They've quite literally made it impossible to see unless you do it in a specific way (i.e. you can't add on to someone else's commentary, you have to make your own post). Changes is really meant for minor feedback or bugs. This is a much larger issue, so bothering them in any way you can, is going to make more of a difference.

[queerhomemaking]

Menu, March 1-7

I’m going to try publishing a menu each week in the month of March, and maybe more if you guys like it.  Each week’s menu will be unique, seasonal, and budget friendly.  Sunday menus are "special"- a little nicer, a little more expensive. I haven’t calculated it out, but when we eat like this we spend around $350/month for two people (Winco and Costco near Seattle, early 2026).  I’ll include a complete shopping list for each week as well; just cross off anything you already have, and replace what you don’t like or is too expensive.  You’ll end up with leftover food at the end of the week, so Saturday dinners are designated as a leftovers bonanza. I’ll incorporate unused leftover food components into the next week’s menu as well (for example, March week 1 uses half a block of tofu, so I’ll make sure to use up the other half in week 2 and not put it on the shopping list.).  I’ll also be putting out an extreme budget version that you can tweak to your needs.

Week 1

Sunday, 1st

Breakfast: Cinnamon rolls, milk, juice, coffee or tea

Lunch: 1  hamburger each, cheese, lettuce, tomato, pickles, soda or juice. Freeze the ½ lb of ground beef for next week.

Dinner: 1 pork chop each, mashed potatoes, roast green beans, cranberry sauce

Monday, 2nd

Breakfast: 2 Eggs each, toast with jam and butter, juice, coffee or tea

Lunch: tuna salad sandwiches, sliced tomato, sliced apple

Dinner: baked potato bar w/ bacon, cheese, and sour cream, green beans

Tuesday, 3rd

Breakfast: Oatmeal with raisins, brown sugar, and butter, milk, coffee or tea

Lunch: veggie sandwich w/ carrot, sweet pepper, tomato, hummus, chips

Dinner: chicken/ bacon/ ranch wraps w/ lettuce and tomato

Wednesday, 4th

Breakfast: Fried potatoes and onions, canned fruit, milk, coffee or tea

Lunch:Egg salad sandwiches, sliced carrots and dressing

Dinner: baked chicken ziti

Thursday, 5th

Breakfast: toast with nut butter, milk, juice, coffee or tea

Lunch: devilled eggs, carrot-cabbage slaw, sliced apples

Dinner: chicken and roast carrots

Friday, 6th

Breakfast: Oatmeal with apples and cinnamon, sugar, butter, milk, coffee or tea

Lunch:sushi made with canned tuna, miso soup with tofu

Dinner: pizza, apples and nut butter

Saturday, 7th

Breakfast: 2 Egg each in leftover veggie frittata, canned fruit, milk, coffee and tea

Lunch: grated cheese and mayo sandwich, canned fruit, chips

Dinner: leftovers from the week (maybe rotisserie chicken) including cabbage-carrot salad

Week 1 Grocery List

Cinnamon rolls

Milk

Orange juice

Coffee and/ or tea

Ground beef 1 lb

1 lb block of Cheddar cheese

Lettuce 1 head

3 slicing tomatoes

Jar of pickles

2 cans of soda or special drinks

Pork chops 2

Potatoes 3 lb bag

Green beans 1 lb

Cranberry sauce 1 can

Eggs 8

Bread

Jam

Butter

Oatmeal

Raisins

Brown sugar

1 onion

3 cans of fruit

Nut butter

Apples

Cinnamon

4 cans tuna

4 Chips servings

Carrots

1 sweet pepper

Hummus

1 cabbage

Mayo

Vinegar (optional for the carrot-cabbage slaw)

Sushi rice

Nori

Miso

Dashi

Seaweed shreds?

Block of tofu

Bacon

plain yogurt (use as sour cream with the baked potatoes.  Keeps longer and you can use it in more things this month)

Pizza crust

Rotisserie chicken

1 lb pasta

2 cans tomato sauce

Shredded mozzarella

tortillas

[bipolar4autistic]

Will you disappoint them?

[queerhomemaking]

Hi! New blog here! This blog is for all the stuff about home that you want to know. How to organize without breaking the spoon bank. How to eat healthy food on a budget. How to budget. How to get that weird stain out of your carpet.

I’m queer (pan, nonbinary, and my husband is trans) and disabled (depression, ADHD, gastroparesis, hypermobility, 27 food allergies). My husband and I live in a moderate to high cost of living area on one income.

We’re able to make that work because of all the skills I learned as a teen and young adult. I was in the christian church at the time, and had the benefit of tons of generational knowlege passed down to me by the older women I interacted with. Although I’m no longer christian (I’m a firm agnostic), and I definitely don’t subscribe to the idea that homemaking is a woman’s ideal job, I will forever be grateful to the women who taught me all these skills.

So, humans of all kinds, ask me questions! This blog is for all genders, all family structures, all ages. What do you wish you knew about homemaking?

[alliemackenzie28]

I started a homemaking blog! Come ask me questions!

[victusinveritas]

[jackscarab]

"You cannot misgender me in a way that matters."

[nattousan]

*doom music starts to play* I actually kindof like scheduling these kinds of appointments now...

but seriously Fellas, don't forget to schedule a pap smear every couple of years just in case. If you still have a cervix you can still get cervical cancer. ilu

this has been a psa

[nattousan]

i've had this as an idea since 2017 btw

[nattousan]

damn, tumblr says my art is ass and trans people is eye strain so no blaze for me :\

it'd be a shame if this...

blazed the old fashion way...

[madeline-kahn]

Heated Rivalry 1.02 Olympians

[lotstradamus]

[vegas2014]

[polartss]

’tis heated I guess

[miraculouspaon]

GBBO: “A s’more is basically just an Italian merengue sandwiched between two ganache-covered digestives”

Americans:

[flange5]

in case anyone in wondering, this is Paul Hollywood's idea of a s'more

[theequeerstrian]

You know what, their absolute inability to grasp Mexican foods makes more sense every day

[ennairea]

[starlightshadowsworld]

Nodding my head in support of the Americans despite having no clue what a s’more is.

[mankillercalledbunny]

Okay, American immigrant to the UK here to explain all the mistakes from Paul Hollywood happening here: there is one fundamentally American ingredient required to make a s'more correctly but which is basically not available anywhere at all in the UK, and that is graham crackers. A plain digestive biscuit close-ish, but still a very different beast.

From Wikipedia: A graham cracker is a sweet flavored cracker made with graham flour.

The next ingredient (which is also extremely traditionally American but slightly more variable) is typically Hershey's chocolate, but you could probably swap this out in the UK with any plain chocolate bar.

Last ingredient is big marshmallows, the kind you do the chubby bunny challenge with, like the size of your thumb and twice as thick.

A proper s'more, the most traditional possible variety, involves to graham cracker squares, two slab segments of Hershey's chocolate, and one to two marshmallows depending on your preference for filling and gooeyness. You put a slab of chocolate on one of the graham cracker squares. Your marshmallows should be toasted, usually over a campfire but if you're doing them at home over a gas stove burner is fine, but the fire part is critical. You can toast them to whatever degree you like, some people like them nice and golden brown but still kind of firm in the middle, me personally? I want that bitch to CATCH ON FIRE, I want it gooey and sticky as hell in the middle, crispy and burnt on the outside. Slap that motherfucker on your graham cracker and chocolate square, top with the other one so your marshmallow and chocolate are sandwiched together by graham cracker on the outside. You do this with your freshly toasted marshmallow because ideally it will be hot enough to start to melt the chocolate so it sticks to the marshmallow and the graham cracker and, combined with the gooey marshmallow, it keeps the whole thing together, and for that reason some people will let them sit for a hot second to let the melting process happen (especially if like me you have chocolate on BOTH graham cracker squares, not just one, because you're a sugar fiend), but if you are a young child you do not have that degree of patience and you eat that shit immediately, unmelted chocolate and all. Consume your summer camp delight like a tiny club sandwich, get gooey sticky marshmallow and chocolate all over your hands, and enjoy.

Important note: this is a kids treat. It is a traditional summer camping trip dessert. It should be something any ten year old with adult supervision and access to the ingredients can make (and make a mess of). They're called s'mores because kids always "want s'more". If you are using a blowtorch, chocolate biscuits, and merengue, you are so far beyond the bounds of s'more-hood that you have thoroughly lost the plot. If you offered Paul Hollywood's concoction to an American child and called it a s'more, they'd tell you flat out that not only is it not a s'more, it looks dumb and you didn't do it right because it's not gooey.

[roach-works]

the point is the mess. the point is getting to make a food, at age seven, whose two basic food groups are 'sugar' and 'fire'. the other point is that this food item is so crumbly, chaotic, sticky, on fire, and prone to being dropped (outside, in the dark, while you are surrounded by other children who are also sticky and on fire) that your supervisors cannot accurately monitor how many smores you personally have consumed. the point is also that you may get away with a smore that is five blocks of chocolate and two marshmallows if you move fast and let nothing stop you.

if you haven't accidentally yet unrepentantly eaten a chunk of twigs or dirt or a bug that got enmeshed in the creative process around smore number 3st, you are too old to have any legitimate input into what makes a smore.

[kedreeva]

There's 2 other points that I think are important.

The first is that you don't pull the marshmallow off the roasting stick and somehow put it on the chocolate. Your staging area will look something like this, with the graham crackers and chocolate already set out (though not usually on the fire like this, for us it was always someone's lap or a picnic table or something)

And when your marshmallow has reached appropriate roasting perfection, you use the graham crackers to slide it off the stick.

and ideally, as a CHILD you are using a literal stick. Like you walked around and spent time looking for The Perfect Stick off the ground while the adults set up the fire. It has to be thin enough the marshmallow will fit, sturdy enough that it won't bow, long enough that you won't burn yourself roasting your marshmallow. And preferably doesn't have a lot of bark that's sloughing off, OR so much bar sloughing off you can peel it all back and get to the clean stick under it. If you're smart, you might stick the tip into the fire first to "wash" it/burn off anything that was still lingering, but. well, most kids don't.

When you bite in, the marshmallow and chocolate SHOULD ooze out all over you. If you don't kinda look like this eating it, you've probably done it wrong:

[figmentera]

The description of the marshmallows as being either brown on the outside but still firm on the inside or fully melted but burned on the outside is missing the true art: fully molten in the middle, without the black burns. Not to say OP is wrong for preferring the burn! But there is a technique for perfection and it goes like this:

You find a spot, not above all the logs where everyone sticks their marshmallows by default, but at the heart of the fire. Ideally between a couple logs already glowing gold. Something like here:

Below the leaping flame. Near the logs. There's probably only one or two spots good enough for this on any given fire, but that's okay because everyone else is up above. They will get their marshmallows faster. They will be either firm or burned or both. That's not your goal.

Rotate the marshmallow slowly. Ideally come in at an angle so the part closest to the flame is the side, not the tip. The spot closest to the fire is the spot that turns a crispy golden brown, and you want that everywhere, on the tip and around the circle.

You keep going, slowly turning, for several minutes. Several people will rotate in and out of the higher sections, getting their fast delight. Eventually, your marshmallow will start sagging badly, risking falling. Maybe it does fall and got start over. But eventually it will be golden brown all over, and so liquid it no longer clings to the stick. It is ready, finally.

You say "who hasn't gotten one yet?" And deposit it onto their waiting graham crackers and chocolate. You've made an excellent marshmallow. It isn't for you. Get another while you're over by the bags and go back to the heart of the fire.

That's your evening. One, slow, perfect marshmallow at a time, given to whomever still wants s'more. You're making art for children to stuff into their mouths cheerfully. You're watching the movement of the fire and the heat of the logs, like you would if you were maintaining it — maybe you would be, maybe you were the one who built it — but right now that's not the goal. Let someone else put more logs on, while you take only the one stick and find the best spot for it to live.

You will, eventually, finish a marshmallow and find that nobody moves to accept it. Maybe they're all eating right now, or maybe they've gone through so many they're hesitating. Eat your masterpiece then. Enjoy it, the hardest and most perfect result from a fun and beautiful moment. Go back in for another, until you've run out of marshmallows and the fire is too low or until even you are done with s'mores, until you have made enough.

"We don't want a gooey mess" pfft even the artistry studied at the feet of my father is inherently a gooey mess. That's the whole point!

[lajulie24]

To add two things to this excellent analysis and discussion of the joy of s’mores:

- Another great stick option is a plain wire coat hanger twisted into a marshmallow roasting stick

- another favorite trick was to set the marshmallow on fire, blow on it to put it out, use the “pull the gooey part of the marshmallow off the stick with the chocolate and graham cracker stack” method, then take the remaining bit of marshmallow and re-roast it in the fire.

[alliemackenzie28]

Having sex with an asexual person (@macgyvermedical) who isn’t attracted to me is like seeing that it’s nice outside and going to go outside and running into a glass door. Thunk. Ok, it’s nice inside too.