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adrien / ange | 29 | they/he | nb bi (tme) | white | art tag: #ange draws | fandom blog: @permetscore

[anaryllis]

hi im adrien / ange (ahn-j) ! this is my personal blog, so u'll see mostly aesthetic posts, the occasional political post, and stuff abt my life

i'm a retired discourse warrior these days, but on the rare chance i do engage, it might b helpful to know my #stances & relevant ID's so that's under the cut

above all tho:

general info: white, TME*, nonbinary transmasc on T, audhd. i live in the US and work as a high school teacher

basic stances: leftist, ACAB, anti-generative AI broadly, pro-palestine. if ur curious abt smth else lemme know and i can add it

trans relevant stances:

i hate having to litigate all of this but i do think there's not a good shorthand for my stance and i want people to have a full picture when choosing whether to follow. so. here:

*regarding TME: i see TME & TMA as effective language to communicate my experience as an individual who is trans but is not transfeminized. i understand when some may not want to self-identify as TME, but for myself, i do find it accurate and effective to communicate.

regarding transandrophobia: i personally think "transandrophobia" is not the best word for navigating my experiences as a transmasculine person, so i tend to not use it. my preferred term for this phenomenon is "anti-transmasculinity". that said, if a post which is, in my opinion, otherwise accurate in discussing transmasc experience, but opts for the word "transandrophobia" i might rb it. all models are flawed, some are useful, etc.

i do not think trans women have privilege over trans men. i also do not think trans men have universal access to male privilege. i do not find these statements contradictory

my primary goal is trans solidarity with my trans siblings. i'm open to most good faith discussion on this. i'm not interested in bad faith arguing

ok yay lov u bye ❤️

[clawmarks]

The grammar of ornament - Owen Jones - 1856 - via Internet Archive

[squeakowl]

Linocut Art by Elina Adrshina (source)

[vulgarirex]

Flower frolicking harpy

[cobra-bubbles]

my life with ADHD

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[nothorses]

T/ERFs really love it when transmascs and transfems hate each other.

They want transmascs to see trans women as if they constantly speak over us, as if they control the narrative, and as if it’s transfems who are at fault for our erasure. It makes it really, really easy for them to convince us that transfems are “socialized male” and therefore love to speak over people & take the spotlight, holding “male privilege” even within the trans community.

Likewise, they love it when transfems see transmascs as upholding the patriarchy by betraying womanhood, taking up too much space, and throwing them under the bus rather than fighting with them against the system that oppresses both of us. It makes it really easy to frame masculinity as a poison; something that, once embodied, will eventually corrupt you and make you An Oppressor.

Both of these narratives contribute to transphobia & T/ERF ideology. It splits us up, it makes us more likely to buy into T/ERF rhetoric (part of why there are to many trans T/ERFs), and it perpetuates both ideas; that men are “inherently evil” and this is inescapable, that masculinity is is “inherently toxic” and should be punished. Both of these ideas hurt all trans people- and cis people, too, of a lot of different marginalized communities.

There are people who fall for it, and it’s important for us to recognize that these are people who have been mislead while trying to find a sense of community, acceptance, and belonging that we all struggle to find- even within the queer community. These are folks who are hurting, and looking for someone to blame.

Trans people are uniquely isolated and ostracized. Transmascs in particular lack a sense of community, and lack support systems due to erasure. Transfems come under fire from all sides due to hypervisibility.

Buying into this idea that we ourselves are the cause of our own community’s oppression & marginalization isn’t helping anyone, and we need to start recognizing the dangerous thought patterns- and narratives- within ourselves and our communities. We need to realize who the actual oppressor is, and start showing each other some compassion and understanding.

[kosmogrl]

everything is that serious but at the same time nothing is that serious

[imwiremother]

the post that goes "tumblr loves to subvert something thats already subverted and just end up with the thing again" is sadly what is being done on here among progressives about rape culture

[geopsych]

Another public service announcement. This time it’s air quality. Some of you are probably in it already if you’re in eastern Canada, New England or New York, but it’s sliding south, a huge mass of wildfire smoke. Please be careful. When it starts getting bad, especially, like when the sky gets orange or brownish, it’s best to run air purifiers in the house and wear N95 or KN95 masks when you have to go outside.

It harms your lungs and it’s especially bad for children (and pets!) or anyone with health problems. There are all kinds of chemicals in that smoke. It’s not only trees that are burning. The heat already makes it harder to breath. This makes it worse.

If any of you are experiencing it, feel free to tell about it in the comments. 💚

Also, throw out the mask every day and shower before you get in bed if you’ve been out or you’ll be breathing the particles all night. Stuff like that. It gets all over you, your skin, your hair, your clothes.

[so-i-did-this-thing]

It's a large smoke plume, so stay safe, folks. Look up how to make a "Corsi-Rosenthal Box" if you need an air purifier inside.

[greelin]

cptsd kind of annoying. Release me

[klapollo]

Washington Post is paywalling the article but it looks like Taylor Farms — a consumer bagged salad brand that also supplies produce to grocers and fast food chains like Taco Bell, Walmart, McDonald's, Chipotle, Burger King, KFC, and Meijer —may be at least one of the sources of the current cyclosporiasis outbreak.

Taylor makes bagged greens, salad kits, chopped salads, the works. Keep avoiding supermarket greens, but keep an especially close eye out for this brand/supplier. The above list of grocers and fast food chains is NOT exhaustive, so please continue getting lettuce and other raw produce taken off your burgers, sandwiches, etc.

[crescentalice]

girl with ptsd voice: hey, so something really bad is gonna happen, right? you guys are picking up on that too, yeah? The other shoe is about to drop, I just know it.

[legionforweare-many]

we're all obsessed with material conditions until a trans guy exists and then what really matters is his male soul and the body it might hypothetically have in any number of situations that are not reality and have no bearing on it. "if trans men were cis they'd be cis men" "if trans men were cis they'd be cis women" it literally does not matter because we're not fucking cis

[innerchildabortionclinic]

therapypilled deadbeat father: I really don't have the headspace for custody right now

[grendel-menz]

missing summer

[alnitaks]

starry.eyed.stitcher