If a man says he’s going to hurt himself unless you do what he says, let him. You aren’t responsible for his actions. You are not guilty for what he does to himself, you don’t owe him, you are not his thing to control, you don’t exist to serve him, you are allowed to go on living your life.
well, you could give him the suicide hotline and go.
Also you could baker act him. If he says hes gonna kill himself if you break up with him. Break up with him and call 911 saying you suspect this person at this address is going to kill themselves. Like chances are they are lying and trying to manipulate you but if you are scared and think you might feel guilty, you can do that.
Don’t stay woth anyone that pulls that shit. Drop em.
Dropping this here because abuse isn’t limited to straight people.
goes for anyone of any gender
People who hold themselves hostage do not get to be treated only as the hostage. They are the hostage-taker as well, and they are trying for a second hostage.
Also, the ideal wording for a 911 call after someone has threatened to kill themselves is that the person themselves has announced their intention to kill themselves, or said they were going to kill themselves, something like that. “I suspect that they’re going to kill themself” is subjective and vague; “they have said that they are going to kill themself” is a factual statement that communicates useful information about their stated intentions, and if there’s any suspicion that the person is being dishonest about those intentions as a manipulation tactic, it preserves, documents, and centers their dishonesty and releases you from the responsibility for sorting out the person’s true intentions.
Somebody threatening suicide or self-harm as a means of control is trying really hard to be your problem. Yours specifically. Punting that problem to the emergency services and medical system that is trained and equipped to deal with such problems is not only the proper thing to do, but makes it clear that you aren’t about to be guilted into assuming any responsibility that person wants to dump on you.
As a note, this is not limited to romantic relationships. Suicide threats are very common in toxic friendships.
The response should be the same, but I just wanted to point out it’s not limited to intimate partners.
Not just toxic romantic and friendly relationships. Parents, siblings, anybody who pulls this act. Do not be held hostage by blood relationships, either.
