Fight Because You Don't Know How To Die Quietly

my moral compass is a roulette wheel

[beemovieerotica]

[thelegendofjenna]

I'm trying to take the high road but I'm like, dragging myself bleeding and sobbing along the high road while looking so so longingly at the low road

[rattyjol]

#AND that fucker taking the low road is going to get to Scotland afore me. very annoying.

[creekfiend]

I was in Mormon brain jail concurrently to when Elizabeth Smart was kidnapped and held, as it turned out, like 20 miles away from us. We would see billboards when we were driving past in our big white institution van, and we would see magazines in the checkout aisle, on the rare occasions we were allowed to enter shops accompanied, about Elizabeth Smart being held somewhere by some guy. This teenage girl who had been kidnapped and brainwashed and held basically in the next valley over. I don't remember how long she was with him, but this was when everyone was freshly looking for her and panicking about how she had been abducted and was being held against her will and brainwashed. Her picture was EVERYWHERE.

So. Imagine dozens of other teenage girls, being held against their will and brainwashed in Utah, seeing these billboards and going, "huh. I'm having a complicated emotional reaction to all of this. It's possible that I might unpack that in two to three decades."

Both of these situations arise from the same societal attitudes. This guy wanted a teenage girl to be trapped with him and unable to leave, regardless of her feelings on the matter, and for her to act a certain way and comply with his desires. He took her from her home and forced her to be somewhere she did not want to be and would not let her go, and he tried to turn her into a different thing. The difference in societal reactions to when one specific, unauthorized guy does this, compared to when someone's parents pay a fancy sounding institution to do it for them, tells you a lot about how we think about the autonomy of teenage girls.

In Utah, the reason these types of institutions are allowed is because their youth rights laws are abysmal even compared to the rest of the US. Children aren't people, they're the property of their parents. Elizabeth Smart's parents didn't want her to be kidnapped, so it was bad. Our parents did want us to be kidnapped, so it was fine.

Elizabeth Smart’s kidnapper’s crime was that he didn’t go through the established system for kidnapping and brainwashing teenage girls. This is not even a little bit hyperbolic.

[creekfiend]

Some ppl are confused about this, I recommend at the very least reading the Wikipedia article on the troubled teen industry. For more info, you can listen to Paris Hilton's podcast Trapped in Treatment or the Salt Lake Tribune's podcast Sent Away (or both). This is something you probably should know about if you have any interest in mental health treatment or youth rights in the USA. (Thanks Kuzu for the latter two recs!)

The types of institutions I'm referring to, which operate primarily in Utah, accept kids who have no criminal history or history of drug use, which is usually a requirement in other states, or that is my understanding of how it worked at the time I was imprisoned. And I am equally against them in both cases, to be clear. 👍

[homunculus-argument]

Not book smart or street smart but a secret third thing.

[luckyletd0wn]

supid

[homunculus-argument]

supid.

[andromedasstars]

so my little sister in law has spent the last 5 days living with me because home isn't safe for her and im glad i was able to offer a safe space until her oldest sister could take her. she's a wonderful kid and i love her dearly but im not used to having someone in my space 24/7 and it's made me re-think my desire to have children. she's 12 and as long as she has WiFi, snacks and i make sure she goes to bed at a reasonable time, she can entertain herself for the most part. but if i can't manage 5 days of a mostly functional kid in my space all the time, how would i manage with a baby or toddler or young child who relies on me for everything?? i know people say tos different when it's your own kids, but i was counting down the hours until she left, not because she was difficult or an inconvenience or anything negative but because i was just so so so burnt out. even with my fiancé i get a break from people because he goes to work and i have the flat to myself and can just exist without the drain of another human person in my space.

[mephostophilis]

thinking about how in the 1800s i would've just been able to leave my town, change my appearance and my name, and wander until no one knew who i was

[mephostophilis]

and then i would pretend to be a doctor and sell people fucked up little medicines

[andromedasstars]

so i don't actually watch hotd because imo it's badly written fanfic but i see clips on socials and atm it's all helaena being pregnant and i am lost?? she doesn't have any more children after maelor but i know they covered b&c in s2 so are they just creating an extra targ??

[andromedasstars]

why can my mother not take no as a fucking answer. she constantly pushes boundaries and ignores me when i tell her no and then cries when i get aggravated.

[bigassbowlingballhead]

you can make most fandom drama disappear with this one cool trick

[bigassbowlingballhead]

GET THE FUCK OFF TWITTER

[andromedasstars]

you can't keep needling at someone and then act the victim when they snap. you're the one in the wrong. guilt tripping someone because they reacted after you purposefully try to get them to react is shitty and manipulative. you chastise other people from doing it and call them names, and then in the next breath you do the same. im tired of the half assed "i didn't mean to upset you" because we both know you did. i know you'll never actually apologise and ive mostly accepted that. but even the "but i didn't mean to" gets tired fast when you don't make an effort to change.

apologies without concerted efforts to change are worthless.

[abortionado]

They’re calling me every slur under the sun over on twitter for this post

[throo]

Would you sell liquor to this baby

Yes

No

I don’t think life begins at contraception but I’d still sell liquor to baby

Voting ended onAug 6, 2025

Wait hold on rb canceled that’s the wrong word wait no stop

[ecrivainsolitaire]

Who just randomly leaves an embryo in the freezer for 30 years like it's a bag of brussels sprouts

[o-fortunate-adulescens-deactiva]

sometimes, people don’t understand that we are hated for being autistic. “But I don’t hate autistic people!”.

That’s right! Because you don’t know how autistic people are.

You know, people never bullied me for being autistic. Because neither me nor they had the terminology. Nah, they punished me for being weird. And what made me weird to their eyes? I spoke weird and often stumbled, and I spoke like a grownup anyway, and I wouldn’t shut up about Ancient Greece. I moved weird too, because I was (am) really clumsy, and I didn’t have any friends. I was boring and didn’t catch jokes (made at my expense) and I didn’t look them in the eye, and so on and on.

If you asked any of the people who bullied me for years whether they hate autistic people, they’d say “no!”. Because they don’t hate autistic people, but oh boy do they hate weird people. Perhaps they don’t hate autistic people, but surely they hated me for being obviously autistic.

[t0rnado0fs0uls]

I’ve been trying to explain this concept to a lot of people. You did a really good job summing it up.

[brawlite]

honestly sometimes there's no better feeling than rereading a fic you've written and coming out of it going, "yeah that actually this DOES slap. exactly what i wanted to read. fucking nailed it."

[anexperimentallife]

Hast thou thy morning meds consumed?

Off with ye, then, and do so! (And also should’st thou some water imbibe.)

[anexperimentallife]

And thine evening medications, as well?

Hast thou taken them? If not, and if it be at or past the time for thy medicines, I urge thee to take them in a timely manner, as well.

[anexperimentallife]

Art thou avoiding (as thou canst) those activities which exacerbate thine infirmities, and engaging in those (again, as thou canst) beneficial to thyself? Please, I urge thee to care for thyself.

[depsidase]

[andromedasstars]

fiancé is late home from work because he's trying to lure the cat who lives at his warehouse with food so she'll take him to where she had her babies. i have never loved another human being as much as i love this man in this moment.

[andromedasstars]

THE GREYS WRITERS CAN GO TO HELL IN A BADLY DESIGNED HAND BASKET