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#yes this #exactly

I was never gatekept

I was a girl who wanted in on comics, video games and tabletop. In the 90s/00′s, where supposedly women were ‘gatekept’ out of the hobbies.

I was never gatekept. Not once. Not IRL, not online.

If anyone tried to talk shit about me being a woman, I’d put them in their place by citing trivia, showing them my work, beating them in the game, etc. I integrated into the culture instead of complaining about it because I wanted to be part of that culture.

Nerds don’t give a fuck about gatekeeping if you accept the culture and prove you’re earnest about being involved in the hobby. Nerds in this period were always meritocratic, they wanted to test your nerdiness to prove you belonged there and nothing else.

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I grew up in the 90s/early 00s and this idea that nerds hate women being involved in their hobbies is so ignorant. Do you have any idea how happy a nerd back then was when a girl showed interest in their Magic cards or D&D? If anything, they’d embarrass themselves being too eager to welcome any girls who wanted to share their hobbies. “Gamers/nerds hate women” is solely a modern feminist invention used as a cudgel so these non-fans can rewrite fan spaces to fit their politics.

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To be completely honest I do agree to an extent, a lot of communities are friendly towards women!!

However I have been in internet fandom (mainly gaming) communities where being a girl is an instant cry for harassment. Ive had this happen to me more than three times in 3 seperate communities. Instantly bombarded with people trying to quiz me on what I know, or instantly trying to hit on me because “gamer girls are hard to find” (which is a lie, most girls I know are gamers).

The problem is still there; its not just me, other women I know have been harassed in the gaming/nerd community. Yes, its up to you, as a woman, how you respond. But it is a real problem and it shouldn’t have to be one

Harassment happens to everyone. Especially in gaming. If you have any indication that you’re not ‘the norm’ people will attempt to troll you, which isn’t a ‘hobby’ issue, it’s an anonymity issue. It’s just that they have a more focused method of trolling you rather than making comments about your mom.

Generally speaking, studies have found men receive as much, if not more harassment overall online. Women only beat men out in that regard in two categories; stalking and sexual harassment, but I believe men are the target of SWATing more often.

The difference is how each group handles it. Men underreport harassment and accept it more as a price of being on the internet, which means it looks like women are overrepresented in harassment.

Both men and women suffer harassment, trolling and abuse. So this really isn’t a gendered issue, much like how most people don’t think spousal abuse, sexual assault and rape are primarily committed against women when, in reality, the numbers are much more even.

I’m not saying any time you were harassed isn’t significant to you. But talking about it like it is a gendered issue isn’t right.

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Not to be abrasive in any way, but could you link/dm the sources? This is interesting

Also I think there is a BIG problem if making it known youre a girl makes you into a target for harassment? As I said earlier, Ive seen gaming communities and they don’t question it if you appear to be a man or anonymous. This is still a problem, even if the statistics say that men are bullied as well

“Also I think there is a BIG problem if making it known youre a girl makes you into a target for harassment?”

I never said that. Reread what I said. Everyone is going to get harassed. But anything that trolls can pick up on will become the target of their harassment.

Making it known you’re a girl doesn’t make YOU a target for harassment. It makes you being a woman the attack vector.

And I don’t care if you’ve seen gaming communities and they don’t question things. The Pew data confirms that men get more harassment than women. Maybe you’re just not as well tuned to picking it up because it’s being directed at someone else.

And yes, it’s still a problem. But it’s not a problem explicitly for women. And attempting to do so is self centered and short sighted. It, also, is never going to stop so long as the internet remains anonymous.

https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2021/01/13/the-state-of-online-harassment/

It’s a long document but:

Women feel more upset about the harassment they get compared to men.

Men experience more harassment overall. The only clear places where women are harassed more is sexual harassment and stalking, while men get way more physical threats.

(Note from me, not article: I believe that men underreport sexual harassment and women may overreport harassment because, technically, calling a man a virgin, gay or mocking his penis size is sexual harassment)

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Now that we agree that everyone get shit on, maybe instead of fighting on who’s getting more harassed than the other, we could focus on how to stop it from happening ? I’ve seen people speaking up in game like Overwatch when a fellow player got harassed bc he wasn’t playing ‘good enough’, and it works. We need to stop to be afraid to protect one another in face of harassment. And if you don’t like that, fine, but remember dividing ourselves in face of the threat isn’t exactly going to make it go away.

Harassment is going to happen. You can’t stop it. You can’t rely on other people to stop it.

Unless you want to strip anonymity from all aspects of the internet it will never stop. Studies have been done and the human brain just has trouble empathizing with a random person online. There’s no face, no connection, so people don’t feel bad (or as bad) trolling, harassing or being mean to others online.

Harassment is never going away. While it might be good to encourage people to step in and stop harassment, that’s never going to stop the people who are dedicated to it and it won’t stop it from starting.

The only actual solution, the only real option, in this case is to change yourself. You have to toughen your skin and learn to not let it bother you because it’s going to happen at some point and you need to be able to handle it without being thrown off.

I get suicide baited and harassed in my inbox constantly. If I turn off my anons that limits the good people who send me asks on anon. And turning off anons doesn’t help because if someone is dedicated they’re going to make a new account for it. I grew up in the era of dial-up and I was exposed to the ‘wild west’ of the internet, so my digital ‘skin’ is tough and thick and so I just accept it for what it is: people being assholes.

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…Say. Creeps that harm children are the kind of assholes that will always be there. Should the kids just ‘tough it up too ?’. Or should we speak up when we see a kid in danger ? I’m going to take a wild guess that you wouldn’t want kids toughen up with creeps. Same goes for adults. I’ll go with the latter thanks. I’ll do that with harassers too because incredibly enough, calling them out in public works. Also, sharing how to deal with harassers should be a thing too. See, I’m a 90′s kid too. I’ve been bullied IRL, and I had people to attempt to bully me online too. Numerous time. I never ‘toughened it up’ in the sense you’re using. Because putting up with it wasn’t a god damn option, coz I hate pain you see. And I know that standing for a beating doesn’t prevent the next one. So, one has to find solutions. I’ve learned to speak up when shit wasn’t right IRL, and received help. And on the internet, I’ve learned that I could prepare “firewalls” to adapt to fuckers who wanted to annoy me. You chose to keep yourself accessible for people. That’s your choice. But by doing that you give harassers a way to reach you. In your shoes, I would have done either of these : - Get anon asks off. Keeping on blocking assholes until they get tired first. That’s what I do when I have a rando starting a war with me. I publicly announce I close anon and calmly explain why, and wait. Never failed me. - Nuclear option : closing the askbox. For a few months if necessary. My mental health first, thank you. Assholes don’t deserve to have their messages to reach my eyes.

So your first instinct is to dredge up child rape/abuse. I don’t think you realize how much that trivializes CSA to compare it to internet harassment. That doesn’t really put you in the most flattering light.

In fact, it makes you look irrational and hysterical.

But let’s entertain this, shall we? It’s against the law to abuse, sexually or otherwise, a child.

So unless you’re demanding that internet harassment should have legal repercussions, you’re making a false comparison. I should note that several kinds of internet harassment IS illegal in many countries.

I legitimately cannot respect someone as weak and pathetic as you are to say what you just said. So here’s a meme, because that’s all you’re getting. And my contempt.

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“People should just toughen up” ... that’s your ultimate solution to online harassement ? Psychotherapists must hate you, you are gonna put them out of job with that advice. No really, just write a book about that or something, you are gonna make millions. I’m sure people crippled by anxiety and mental disorders are gonna love that.

More seriously, it’s like exactly the kind of thing an harraser would say to defend himself if someone calls him out. Really not saying you are one but you sure do talk like one.

“toughen up”, “ it makes you look irrational and hysterical”, “ someone as weak and pathetic as you are “. Yep...I saw that kind of talk elsewhere...

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Both are true

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#wizard of wor #C64

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Finally watched Star Wars VIII It was pretty good. It wasn’t a masterpiece, no. I…Really don’t get why people disliked it. Maybe it’s bc of Rey, because she’s a bit of a brat ? But it was the same with Luke when he started too, so uh ? The casino part was a bit meh, I’d agree with that. But so much to dislike the movie ? I don’t really get it. I don’t get how you’d dislike the moment when Holdo use the rebel ship as a batting ram with light speed ? Most beautiful shot of the movie in my pov. You’re alone in a big ass ship waiting for death ? Might as well do something with it . I mean personally I was waiting for her to shield them, but no, she does the next fucking smart thing you could do, alone in an empty big ass ship. She gets one hell of a bad ass death while doing one of the top ten most ball sacked moves in History. Attack is the best defense and fuck did the woman deliver. Also Luke’s last moments are fucking tight as fuck. The sun going down is a nice fucking wink for his first apparition omg the fucking FEELS, I’m still not dealing with that even when I was spoiled this would happen. Even the last shot of the movie is beautiful and heavy of sense. Kid with a broom looking at the sky, just after hearing about the legendary Luke Skywalker’s tale from his bro. He starts unconsciously to wield his broom like a laser saber. Like some of us did as kids, when hearing, ourselves, tales about Luke. Fucking sense of nostalgia right there. So not a masterpiece, but far from stupid.

listened to Bohemian Rhapsody today… i’m so very sorry

If this post gets 100 notes I’ll recreate the entire song through memes

OK so I’ll do my best to get this done soonish–it may be a week or two, but I’m doing it

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My masterpiece… is complete.

op did not put in this much work for 160 notes

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THIS IS AMAZING

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It is just fantasy, btw

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Trying to jump into Kingdom Hearts 3 like

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@katzirra

Except I enjoyed having more KH games to play ( for the most part), like most of KH fans actually...

#kingdom hearts

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Socialism in a nutshell

#socialism

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Watch: It’s your right to share your salary, not doing so could be holding you back.

annakie

At my last company, one day someone in accounting approached me at lunch and quietly told me I need to ask for a raise because I was way underpaid.

They gave me a number to shoot for. It was about twice than what I had been making at the time.

So I went online, did some research, found some figures backing up my claim, put it all together and went to my boss.

I got what I asked for.

If it hadn’t been for that person in accounting telling me I was way underpaid, I’d have never known. I went from barely scraping by to being able to have a savings account and getting all my debts paid thanks to them.

You should at least check sites like salary.com to start the process of seeing what you should be making.

brianadeshe

Because this is crucially important

#work #salary #pay #adam ruins everything

Actually, I read some weeks ago a message on one of the Kinja sites. The topic was approx. the same and the message was from someone who knew he was paid more than his coworkers and argued that this is normal as he thought he was working better and more than them. If they asked the same salary, he would ask a raise to maintain the gap or leave his job.

So there are people who really think that their coworkers deserve less than them and they are perfectly fine with being jerks. It is more important to them to make more money than to help coworker be better at their job.

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enecola

Hey guys, I know there’s lots of resquests for armor fixes already but… you can never have a big enough selection, so….

Who needs their armor fixed?