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sky | 21+ | he/they felt like making a chronic illness side blog because why not carrd “I don’t know why but the arms are so very difficult”

[thecripchronicals]

Made these about a month ago, figured other spoonies might want to use them

[clawcakes]

every time i remember most people think gaining weight is bad i get scared. like, what if sunrises and flowers and clean air were bad

[sycamorality]

shoutout all my neurodivergent folk who Dont have autism or adhd

[sycamorality]

hey fellow autistic folk and adhders. this post isn't about you. this post is about all the other neurodivergence that is specifically Not autism or adhd. maybe the clearest post on the site about that actually. i'm autistic and have adhd too, but this post is specifically not about that. stop making it about your autism or your adhd.

it's about npd, bpd, psychosis, schizophrenia, dyslexia, dyscalculia, dyspraxia, dysgraphia, epilepsy, DLD, did, osdd (and any other plurality/multiplicity), depression, brain damage, anxiety, tourettes, down syndrome, ptsd, and everything else. it's specifically about neurodivergence that ISNT autism or adhd.

[cranberry-branflakes]

me (in barely any pain): ITS CANCER IM DYING

me (in severe pain): pfftt nahhh im fine thats just the old friend we go way back

[serial-unaliver-deactivated2024]

HELPPPPP

[charlesoberonn]

Reminds me of Jason Kander, former Missouri Secretary of State. When he went to the VA hospital to treat his PTSD, he told the nurse that Obama told him he should run for president, and she thought he was delusional.

[charlesoberonn]

Correction: It was worse. She asked him how long he's been hearing voices.

[therapyhorrorstories]

I think I'm gonna make this my go-to story. It's not the worst I've ever heard, which is an asset because people won't believe you if you tell them the actual bad stuff those people do. And it just perfectly sums up the casual arrogance everyone working in mental health seems to have. The way they treat you as inherently Lesser for being in their care.

[therapyhorrorstories]

If they can't even handle basic, easily verified shit like "I'm a lawyer" they are never going to believe you when you tell them that you know how to manage a condition you've been dealing with for decades better than they can or will.

[homoqueerjewhobbit]

And then there's Alexander Morris, who was put in a straitjacket, called racial slurs, and denied treatment for his potentially life-threatening heart condition when he told them he was the lead singer of the band he was lead singer of.

Four Tops singer sues hospital alleging racial discrimination after he says he was placed in a ‘restraining jacket’ | CNN

The lead singer of the Motown group the Four Tops has filed a federal lawsuit against Ascension Macomb Oakland Hospital in Warren, Michigan,

[plum-soup]

There are multiple parts of that article that are Jae droppingly awful but this one really gets me:

They almost let this man die in a straight jacket simply because they were too racist. And then when they realize their "mistake", they tell him that his life is worth a 25$ supermarket gift card. Of course he's suing them for $75,000 as he should but like. Can you imagine how insulted he must've been. The 4 Tops were one of the top Motown bands of all time. You can be at the top of the music scene and still, they'll kill you because you're black. And they'll use fake claims about mental illness and "aggression" to justify it

[genderkoolaid]

& to be clear: none of this is good for anyone. actually delusional people, people who actually hear voices or see things, do not deserve to be treated like this. there is nothing about a person harmlessly believing something fantastical (or which sounds fantastical to you) that requires you to put them in a straightjacket and drug them or deny them necessary drugs. Black mentally ill people do not deserve to be tortured and murdered in a hospital for being Black and mentally ill.

this kind of system is a weapon which can be pointed at anyone. in order to prevent shit like this from happening, we also need to deconstruct how we view mentally ill people, including people who are delusional and hallucinate, and what we view as "reasonable" or "necessary" when it comes to such people.

[doberbutts]

Black people- including famous black people- have been arrested for "breaking and entering" their own homes due to a neighbor witnessing them unlocking their own house door with their own house key and calling the cops. College professors, celebrities, politicians, and everyday people such as my own father.

It's common enough that young black kids are told to keep any identifying information on them at all times just in case someone reports a black kid breaking and entering by walking into the house they've lived at since they were born. Because that has happened.

When you add mental illness and the healthcare industry into the mix, things only get worse from there. To be clear, you don't need to be black or mentally ill to be treated poorly by a doctor or nurse that's decided they know you better than you do. But it sure doesn't make things easier.

And people have died as a result- or have we already forgotten the death of Adriana Smith who went to THE HOSPITAL SHE WORKED AT AS A NURSE reporting severe headaches and was dismissed as exaggerating and imagining the severity, only to be declared brain dead upon arrival less than 24 hours later and artificially kept alive to force her dead body to carry her baby to term- which couldn't even happen and they had to remove him via C-section anyway.

These are related problems. And until we fix the root cause, they will keep happening.

[pjackk]

The crazy part about pain is that it actually hurts alot

[perequiste]

i think that whenever you sleep you should wake up with a full health bar

[thebibliosphere]

They should make bodies that don't hurt.

[nitewrighter]

We talk a lot about "if you're sick stay home from work" but I feel like we also have a lot more control over "If you're sick stay away from that social function."

If you're sick, stay away from that social function.

If you're almost sick, and going to this social function is going to wear you out and probably push you over the line into actually sick, you should probably stay away from that social function and get some rest.

If your kids are sick, don't drag them to the function. Stay home. Put a funny movie on. We do not need to perpetuate this culture. We do not need to have our kid's cold turn into Grandma's pneumonia just to keep up appearances. We do not need to have our kid's cold turn into 20 other kids' colds just to participate in a craft at the library that you could easily replicate at home by googling for 2 seconds.

[wizardarchetypes]

genuinely and i’m so tired specifically of parents acting like kids with colds is like, baseline healthy. all the time adults who know i’m immunodeficient invite me over and when i ask if the house is healthy they say yes! and neglect to mention that actually their toddler is sneezing up green snot and their 6 year old has a cough. this happens all. the. time.

i know it’s normal for kids to have gunk all the time (although i do think we should take children’s immune health more seriously too but that’s another post)

and i love spending time with children and i get it sucks to have to raincheck every time your kid catches another bug but if your kid is sick you need to tell me. and if your kid is sick i don’t want to hang out with you one on one until your kid is better because you might have it too more mildly. i need to know if anyone in your household is sick and for some reason a lot of people think that doesn’t include kids.

sure we need to protect grandma ofc! but some of us are 32 and also prone to pneumonia. so unless you plan on covering my hospital bills, just reschedule!!

[8nin]

“what’s stopping you from-“ listen i am so so sleepy

[wishful-seeker]

When all you want to do is craft but you can't due to chronic pain:

[dumblr]

There will be a lot of posts soon from people sharing how much they achieved in 2025. But in case someone needs to hear this... it's okay if the only thing you did this year was just get through it.

[behaviornerdwithahat]

In case anyone finds it helpful because mobility aids are horrifically expensive and inaccessible…

And for those people who have access to mobility devices but might benefit from a second chair they can abuse without risking expensive damage…

Erik Kondo has made a website, Open Source Innovations, that details plans for DIY wheelchairs. These wheelchairs can be made from common materials like wood, plastic, and pvc. They are lightweight and can be custom fit to the user allowing from the same degree of movement you would get from a custom chair. And they are durable and easily repairable. (he has been stress testing his latest design by dropping it down stairs, dropping it out of a car, launching it across a driveway, and throwing it off a deck). Its 12lbs and I think he said its was in the $200 ish range for parts.

He also is working on cheap, open source, accessible designs for beach chairs, off road chairs, motorized attachments (think smart drive), and so on. Plus he skateboards in his wheelchair. Cool dude, helpful info, pass it on.

[sumi-sprite]

It's incredibly sad people have to resort to this, but it's a damn good resource. Use it. Spread awareness. Maybe one day people with physical disabilities won't need DIYs like this. But until then, reblog and share.

[dandorime]

After spending Thanksgiving with an aunt in a wheelchair who is trapped in her house because her mobility scooter needs a part replaced that they can't get for months, I agree that mobility aids are inordinately difficult to access and disgustingly overpriced. If you have money and want to change the world for a person, please donate to wheelchair charities.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"Psychiatry shouldn't have done that to me cause I'm not actually psychotic/suicidal/antisocial-" Actually psychiatry shouldn't do that to anyone!

[whoopsie-collective]

its really frustrating how trauma spaces have an incredibly narrow idea of what trauma can be. i think it leads to people thinking abuse and sexual trauma are always the most severe and only trauma, and downplaying everything else. also i feel like those spaces have an incredibly narrow understanding of those types of trauma can look like as well (eg with how little cocsa is talked about). i think theres something to be said about how trauma directly caused by systems of oppression are a lot more looked over. while abuse and sexual trauma are definitely influenced by systemic oppression, its easier to pretend they’re just caused by individual bad actors (or some group thats “““inherently evil””” or whatever), while its harder to say the same for stuff like school or psychiatric trauma

[anxiously-avoiding]

“You’ve already done the hardest thing”

Well you know maybe I’m tired from that. Maybe I don’t want to do more hard things for a while. I deserve rest.

[ingridverse]

"God never gives you more than you can handle" is survivorship bias. People who got more than they could handle are dead.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

Oh, dear. I can't reblog that fast enough.

[villainessbian]

people who couldn't reblog that fast enough are dead