🍎Loveless But Still Human🍏

Aplatonic (Noun / Adj): 1. Experiencing little to no platonic attraction 2. Having difficulty starting and/or maintaining friendships [Header ID: An aesthetic image of green apples with the overlayed text "aplatonic" written in yellow, and the aplatonic flag on the side borders of the image. Icon ID: Twyla from Monster High (Generation one) against the aplatonic flag. End Descriptions]

[aplatonic-alpaca]

aplatonicgryphon -> aplatonic-alpaca

The "gryphon" was always just a placeholder, borrowed from aro culture and bc I like fantasy creatures, but I wanted something more independently aplatonic and I like the way it sounds :)

[aplatonicism]

I say this as an aro alloplatonic who loves his friends.

FRIENDSHIP IS 100% A COMMITMENT YOU SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO OPT OUT OF WITHOUT RIDICULE AND OSTRACISATION!!

Happy pride aplatonics !! Keep fighting for your right to dictate the relationships you want/don't want in your life.

Thank you so much, anon! It means a lot.

Honestly one of my biggest thoughts about all this has consistently been "this lack of clarity over friendship must also be hell for aromantics who rely on deep platonic relationships."

Aromantic + alplatonic solidarity forever. 🤝

[the-aspec-enby]

a-spec flags in hearts bc im bored!

afamilial 🖤🩶🤍❤️ asexual 🖤🩶🤍💜 aromantic 🖤🩶🤍💚🤎 aplatonic 💜💙💚🤍 aqueerplatonic 🖤🩶🤍💛💛 analterous 🖤🩶🤍🩵 ansthetic 🖤🩶🤍🩷

[falliien]

Being aplatonic/loveless

I have a lot of questions about the concept of being aplatonic and furthermore about lovelessness

There’s so much research about how friendships are necessary for positive mental health, so what do people do instead? Especially if the person is also aroace etc.

Doesn’t it detriment someone’s mental health to have no close bonds or connections?

Where do people go when they have problems or aren’t doing well? Do they just cope?

I know people used to think romance/sex was necessary but that was based in misogyny, and what would the benefit be to spreading misinfo about friendships?

I’m not saying people who don’t feel this way are broken, btw. I’m just wondering how it works since I want to support everyone but I can’t when from my POV it seems harmful, if that makes sense?

Note: I’m aroace and I’m pretty sure afamilial, not sure if that’s relevant though

Edit: If my comment replies seem quite samey it’s because I’m trying not to be biased towards any comment, but I do genuinely mean everything I say! (:

[lexisrants]

we need to get more normal about rejecting people who want to be friends with you at any degree. no the person who turned your friendship down politely isn't an asshole you just werent compatible. it's completely okay to tell you I Don't Want To Be Your Friend or Hey I Won't Be That Close To You. i refuse to have new friendships where we talk daily and respond immediately and i shouldn't have to excuse that with anything but I just dont like you that way

[the-aspec-enby]

drawing of an experience i had when i was 8

so one time when i was 8 this random kid acted like me and him have been friends for a while (remember im aplflexible HE WAS NOT MY FRIEND) and i just generally went along with it because i didnt wanna be rude so he thought i was his friend for a whole year!. i have problems with saying no to people

[jamiieeez]

Some alternative A- flags

simplified aromantic and anattractional flags to fit most A- flags

Alternative flags of most A- terms to fit the aromantic flag

Asexual | Asensual | Aplatonic

A-aesthetic | Analterous

Atertiary | Aemotional | Aphysical

Afamilial v.1 | Afamilial v.2

[fallenfromthedeadstars]

If you're on the aplatonic-spectrum I highly recommand getting an aspec educated friend who understand and respect and listen to you without taking offense when you say things like "I never miss you and I could easily live lonely but I really like you".

[maelkisser]

“we’re all friends here.” is such a sickening phrase as an aplatonic i fear.

[vo1d-ed1ts]

alloromantic aplatonic/alloapl userboxes, requested by no one

[cha0tic-userb0xes]

A-spec collection / Pride month collection 3

this user is greyromantic

This user is friendship-repulsed

This user is aplflexible

No bazingas

Requested by @fishblablabla

Art by Rebecca Chapman and @/smoluglies

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[the-aspec-enby]

aplatonic bazinga

[xyl0n-z0mb1e]

I wish I could make sense of why friendships are too much and not really enjoyable for me but romantic relationship are

The best I can think is that i really only need 1 or 2 people forever and the rules of romantic relationships make more sense to me. Like in romantic relationships it's kinda expected to ask before touching whereas with friendships you are supposed to be ok with them touching you and if you're not you're a bad person.

I wish I could make sense of me being aplatonic, demiromantic, and allosexual. This apparently isn't common. If I do come across like alloro apls they're usually ace. Most aplatonic posts I come across are aroace related as well and I am not those things.

I don't like being called gross for liking romantic and sexual relationships but not platonic ones (mainly friendship, coworkers is a dynamic I'm fine with)

[jeffheadcannons]

Could you do aplatonic nickel (ii)? No force ofc :)

He’s telling you to put the money in the bag , or something

[bee24cha]

hate amatonormativity bc in a perfect world I can call everybody "acquaintances" but no, that's weird. you're a joyless stinky loser if you don't have friends. what do you mean, you don't feel platonic attraction? is there something seriously wrong in your head??? I'm tired.

also family I swear, it's not that I hate my family but simply I do not feel familial love. I can't love my family in the way others do. it doesn't have to be from trauma & honestly I don't care if anybody is aplatonic or familial or aromantic or asexual from trauma i'm just tired I guess???

[vo1d-ed1ts]

oops! all aspec! requested by no one, just our main headcanons for these guys. in order we got afamilial edd, aromantic tord, aplatonic matt, and asocial tom, cheers!

-kin/id/me tags: go for it -f/o tags: have at 'er

bonus aspec flag, alt flag, and specific -spec flag variants under the cut!

[my-cat-is-ensign-chekov]

All this talk about all the different a-spec identities (aromantic, asexual, aplatonic, afamilial ect.) and how allo people treat them is making me wonder, like... How do allos even live? Are all the relationships in their lives really based on whether or not their brain produces a dopamine hit at the right moment? Because like, the concept of only developing relationships with people just because of some chemical reactions seems so much more sad to be than being able to decide which relationships to maintain based on your logical human mind...