I’m trans/nonbinary/whatever you want to call it. I’m not offended by my womanhood, or ashamed of it. I’m offended by the system that categorized and raised me as such because I believe it is inexorably linked to misogynistic oppression. My takeaway from being a gnc female person who is often mistaken for a man is that no one is entitled to know or presume what is in my pants, and no one is entitled to demand that I refer to myself as the oppressive social role of “woman” that I was assigned on the basis of being born with a vulva. I do not think that all female people should draw the same conclusion that I have drawn, and I like and respect people who have drawn other conclusions for themselves and chosen to remain as women and define their resistance in other ways. I would like if my decision was not treated as intrinsically shallow, confused, self hating, misogynistic.
"I would like if my decision was not treated as intrinsically shallow, confused, self hating, misogynistic."
That is categorically what it is, though. And I'm not saying that to be cruel but any time a person opts to hide or deny a part of themselves, that is intrinsically self-hating. A person who straightens their curly hair has some level of self-hate. A person who bleaches their dark skin has a level of self-hate. A person who starves themself and hides in baggy clothes hates themselves.
And, yes, a woman who hides behind labels like non-binary because she can't stand being just 'a woman with a personality' is exercising a level of misogynistic self-hate.
As yourself this, WHY are you so vehemently opposed to being a woman? If the reason is oppression, would you not agree that the solution would be to fight for yourself and others instead of pretending it can't affect you when, let's be so for real, it still will even if you refuse to called a woman? Is it because of the stereotypes you've ingested from society surrounding your sex? If so, wouldn't it be a better fuck-you to reject those stereotypes BUT embrace your sex regardless?
There is not progressive, self-loving, feminist way to be 'non-binary' because, at its core, it tries to avoid and refuse womanhood. Something that is intrinsic, undeniable, and worth sharing.
As a woman, you are far superior to a man in most regards. You have the potential to make life. Your pleasure receptors are leagues better than any man's. You are built for survival in ways men can't even fathom. You are intrinsically more intelligent, emotionally conscious, caring, and instinctually wise than a man could ever be.
Don't let some negative stereotypes about some already-made up concept like gender hold you back. Fight those stereotypes and be the woman you're meant to be. Woman, after all, is literally one of two of the largest/broadest/most diverse categorizations for humans out there. Every woman presents differently. Every woman is valid. The only requirement is to be a woman which you are.
Love yourself. Don't let the patriarchy convince you there's shame in femininity, womanhood, or identity. Please.
andulkaphoto
areudirty
origamiaround
dailybridgerton
blakekathryn
