Call Me Disgrace ♠️

I occasionally post internalized aphobia stuff, so be aware She/her|21|INFP|Aroace No TERFs, MAPs, or fujoshis Icon: @kevv

[valhamham]

I need to win an argument so it is weird to get root beer with a burger and fries

Yes

No (duh)

Voting ended onDec 10, 2023

[live-and-learn]

How did you realize you were queer?

Having a queer friend

Having a crush on someone

Celebrity crush

Crush on a fictional character

Identifying a little too much with a queer fictional character

I’ve just always known

Not queer (lame)

Other (tags)

Voting ended onSep 3, 2023

I’m actually kind of curious about this. I think that those are the main 7 ways, but lmk if there are any others.

You know the drill, reblog for a larger sample size please

[sapphling]

they should invent a desire to be wanted that doesn't feel grotesque and perverse

[eosofspades]

i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues

[catmask]

bro i get some ppl r like not experienced in real world gay romance but no way did i just see someone say wanting to kiss somebody is deserving of ‘horny jail’ what the fuck are you TALKING ABOUUUTT

[catmask]

like do you not see it do you not see how associating any desire for physical contact or intimacy as inherently horny is a bad thing do u also not see how the continuous mockery of gay sexuality is cruel even if you do not wish to partake in it yourself. do u not see how the lambasting of physical intimacy as always and inherently sexual would be cruel to ace people who DO enjoy those things in a way thats not sexual. they CAN BE AND THATS OKAY TOO but for the love of GOD you have got to unpack the catholic abstinence mindsets youve grown up with because ur fucking psychic brain blasting EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THE QUEER SPACES U OCCUPY. HELLO!!!!

[realpeoplefiction]

the real question is how many people have *you* admitted you have a crush on to

[nellothesugarsnail]

yaehh

[im-a-ramblr]

HAPPY FIRST EVER INTERNATIONAL AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY

[kenapiece-main]

THE INVISIBLE IS VISIBLE TODAY! LET'S GOOOO HAPPY AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY

[minipisi-is-dumb]

GUYS GUYS GUYS WE'RE GONNA HAVE AN AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY!!! IT'S BEING CREATED NOW !! IM SO EXCITED AHHHHH

[the-fab-fox-deactivated20250925]

@sunshineandteddybears

[sunshineandteddybears]

!!!!!!!!

[the-fab-fox-deactivated20250925]

Yess!!

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[nachosforfree]

Shout out to aro people who DO show little emotion, who do have low empathy, who are monotonous, who do relate to robotic characters on a level other than the fact robot characters often don't feel romantic attraction

[yardsards]

for people who id as aro: how do you feel about romance

repulsed in relation to myself and repulsed in relation to others/fiction

repulsed in relation to myself and neutral in relation to others/fiction

repulsed in relation to myself and favourable in relation to others/fiction

neutral in relation to myself and repulsed in relation to others/fiction

neutral in relation to myself and neutral in relation to others/fiction

neutral in relation to myself and favourable in relation to others/fiction

favourable in relation to myself and repulsed in relation to others/fict

favourable in relation to myself and neutral in relation to others/fict

favourable in relation to myself and favourable in relation to others/fict

see results

Voting ended onMay 16, 2023

(anyone who identifies themself as aromantic is allowed to answer this, regardless of sexual orientation or where exactly on the arospec you fall)

[sibyllina]

one of the things about being aromantic that for me hurts the most is spending years of my life addicted to the idea of love, wanting to feel feelings and have people feel feelings for me, only to one day realize that it’s never going to happen.

[aro-disgrace]

I can’t really relate to everything on the aroace tag cuz I feel like I’m like if a straight person just suddenly had their attraction taken away from them or something. Just like literally a straight person minus the ability to experience attraction.

[ao3commentoftheday]

yeah sex is fine and all, but you know what really gets me going? fictional characters having fictional sex

[darter-blue]

[cloud--atlas]

[tag ID: #this might be me just being ace #but reading about sex #is so much hotter than actually doing it for real]

[spacezeros]

wanting and not wanting at the same time

a comic for asexual awareness week

[spacezeros]

bringing this back today for the start of pride month. still overwhelmed by how well this comic went down and with how many people relate. it’s easy to think aro-ace people are all totally accepting of their identities and really proud of who they are. i guess on websites like this you see a lot of people proudly putting their identity in their bio, a flag in their profile picture.

in fact i think a lot of aro-ace people really hate that part of themselves, hide it, and struggle for a long time to ‘accept’ who they are and feel any sense of ‘pride’. that’s the feeling i wanted to capture here. the disappointment, the loneliness, upon realising that you can’t feel what is such a wonderful thing. the embarrassment of not being ‘normal’, of being some random sexuality that nobody irl has heard of, and letting down those around you because you can’t be who they want you to be. how desperately you want to change, how desperately you want to feel. but you just can’t.

i know not all aro-ace people feel like this. i know lots of aro and/or ace people feel able to be in relationships, to feel closeness and have partners in other ways. but i think it’s important to be aware that some aro-ace people do feel like this.

the comments on this comic have mostly been great but a few have been very frustrating. a comment it got a lot was along the lines of ‘aw!! you don’t need to have sex to be in a relationship!’. you completely missed the point, hah. this is not a comic about sex. it’s about a lack of feeling, the lack of something beautiful other people seem to have. another comment that popped up a few times was ‘maybe she’s a lesbian’. well maybe lesbians and aro/ace girls have more in common than people think - maybe they both often struggle to accept that they feel no attraction to men, even though society has conditioned them to do so, sometimes spending years trying to force themselves to like men in that way, when they just can’t.

this comic is called ‘wanting and not wanting at the same time’ because she wants to love. but when it comes down to the reality, she can’t fulfil the requirements of that. she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet. a sort of catch 22, i guess.

hope that makes sense. thanks for listening, and have a lovely pride month ❤️

[mypeculiarparadox]

Coucou c’est moi