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bisexual-airforce

can someone tell me what the gay agenda was again I wasn't paying attention in the meeting

#lesbian #gay #bisexual #transgender #aroace #aromantic #nonbinary #queer #asexual #pansexual #intersex #demisexual

wizardshark

99% of queer discourse stops right before they define the true difference between bisexual and pansexual!

saspitite

FOR THE LAST FUCKING TIME

BISEXUALS GROW FROM THE GROUND

PANSEXUALS GROW FROM THE CEILING

elizapad

Happy Pride, cave dwellers 🦇

princesshamlet-deactivated20210

the first ever pride flag (1978) versus the TMP movie poster (1979)

happy pride month!

trekheritageposts

star trek heritage post (June 2nd, 2017)

podcastenthusiast

Not my posts but an interesting thought.

beatrice-otter

[image description: screengrab of a series of tweets from @ rootsworks: “When I was in college, part of our university’s graduation requirements had a community service component that they called service learning.

One of my service learning classes involved work at a local homeless community center, helping people write resumes and cleaning bathrooms.

Our instructor told us to expect to see the bathrooms trashed a lot–like you will clean the bathroom and immediately someone will wreck it.

And it’s not because they disrespect your work or don’t value having access to clean bathrooms or whatever, but because of control.

When you feel like you have no control over your life or your environment, your brain is going to want to assert control however it can.

Which results in trashed bathrooms. It’s control exercised over the one small part of your environment that you still have the power to affect.

I see kids on tumblr using the language of social justice as cudgels on people who actually do care about and listen to them

or holding the creators within their communities to an impossibly high standard that they never apply to mainstream media properties.

I just see trashed bathrooms. ‘These are the people my voice will reach,’ they rationalize, ‘so these are the people I’ll hurt.’

But the guiding principles of social justice are aimed at correcting and dismantling systems. Stop using them to dismantle people.”]

respectissexy

Having experienced a lot of it in my 20s, I think some of the worst, pettiest, most straight up this-is-just-bullying-you're-passing-off-as-praxis incidences of Queer Infighting endemic to young people can be best understood as attempts to exercise power by people with very little power.

Like you're 22, you're queer, you've just become a Marxist, the scope of World Suck is overwhelming and you have $30 in your bank account. What can you do to feel like you have any power? Well, you can try to get your frenemy cancelled for cosplaying a character from a problematic show. You can write a public callout post over someone's obviously friendly use of a slur you don't think they technically have the right to reclaim. Doing this stuff can make you feel like you have power and your actions have an impact. Unfortunately the impact in question is a negative impact on other marginalized people. But that often takes some maturity and self-reflection to notice.

drtanner

I'm reminded of this post from 2017. To paraphrase, OP took part in community service via their university and part of that was cleaning the bathrooms at the local homeless community centre, which would frequently get trashed, not because the homeless people using them disrespected the work of the people cleaning them but because they had so little control over other things that happened in their lives, and the bathroom was something they could affect.

This, too, is a trashed bathroom; young queer people living through hell and having precious little control over their circumstances or the world in which they exist can affect something by using the language of social justice as a cudgel on their would-be allies, as well as getting a brief feeling of power over someone else by doing it.

It's not worth it. Don't trash your community bathrooms.

draconym

Sorry, my what? My pronouns? Oh, yeah I'm between genders at the moment. No, it's cool, I quit my last gender a little while ago because it really wasn't working out. I don't know if I even have a dream gender anymore.

draconym

Oh yeah, it did come with benefits, but they weren't really worth it. The culture was really toxic. To be honest I think I'd prefer a part-time gender so I can just be self-described in my spare time.

draconym

I mean, in a perfect world we wouldn't need gender, you know? We could just voluntarily be perceived as much as we're able, as much as makes us feel fulfilled. Having a full-time gender shouldn't be a prerequisite for food, shelter, and healthcare.

lilmoguy

gayandconfusedmotherfucker

Our Flag Means Death has so much queer joy, and I'm absolutely positive thats why it was canceled.

evilestmonkey

thought the forcemasc people would like this

thotsandpreyers

partywithponies

I love vague labels that make people go "but that's confusing" or "but that could mean anything" Good. Keep guessing lol

partywithponies

"Queer doesn't actually tell me anything" who says I wanted to tell you anything. Who even are you.

livethrushit

liminalgayhorror

I fucking hate that every time a queer show blows up every fucking queer thing in existence gets compared to it for the next multiple years no matter how categorically different they actually are from each other

#“this is the next heartstopper’’#“this is heated rivalry but without hockey or sex and it’s not a romance’’#STFUUUUU #heated rivalry #lgbtqia

t1oui

i love heated rivalry but im ngl im really tired of people trying to make me liking hockey about me liking heated rivalry. "oh did hr make you start liking hockey" no. i like hockey because my mom is from minnesota and was raised on it and so she raised me on it too. i happened to start talking about hockey more the same year the hr tv show came out.

and i think the saddest part of it all is that this all comes down to internalized homophobia and transphobia towards myself. thanks to transphobia and homophobia (from other people) and societal gender norms i often stop and wonder if im "acting enough like a man". i know cis guys have those thoughts too. when you're a trans guy who doesn't pass perfectly, who everyone assumes is gay because of your voice (whether you're gay or not doesn't actually matter, and for the record, i'm bisexual), that am i man enough thought becomes your entire personality. so yeah, it sucks extra when people try to make your main interest - and, luckily enough for you, something "manly" - into something gay. and i know that's a bad thought to have. i know it is. but at the same time, like, really?

because part of it is that for the people saying heated rivalry is why i like hockey, the implication of my queerness is the punchline. it's funny because i'm a gay person who liked a gay sex show so much that i wanted to - shock horror! - start watching a sport. and it's funny because my being gay means they can take me less seriously for it.

and look. even if hockey, if sport in general, is "manly", i still get made fun of for liking hockey by itself. i'm too into it. it's nerdy, it's an obsession, it's another thing that can be turned into a punchline. like my voice is. like my liking men is. you see what i mean?

being gay is still a joke. so is being trans. so is being both of those things. it just looks different now sometimes.