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Hi!! I'm Skunk, I'm eighteen years old, autistic, a wheelchair user, and a little!! I'm mostly gonna post about day to day stuff, so, crocheting, plushies, cartoons, my kitties, and everyday experiences with ableism. I'm also hoping I can build up some better self esteem by posting my selfies!! ^w^My Pinterest

[autisticskunk-blog]

I’m Like Literally Two Seconds Away From A Panic Attack So

I just....I’m done.  I can’t stop shaking.

I’ve read at least two responses to that Jewish Graves post that are directed at me, idk if any of the others are, cuz I can’t tell.  I know there’s at least one more I was @ ed at in, but I’m still figuring out Tumblr, and can’t figure out how tf to actually read it, I just know a whole bunch of ppl (I’m assuming all in that thread) were @ ed in it.

I am literally seconds away from crying.  My mast cells are flaring, too, so my whole face is just /hot/.  I don’t fucking get it.  I don’t know how I could’ve been any fucking clearer.

I don’t know how I could’ve been any fucking clearer that /all/ I was trying to do was acknowledge that, while the person saying it (I do not have the energy to look up names right now) def seemed out of line to me (a bystander), one part (just one!!  literally just one!!) aspect of ppl’s response seemed also out of line.

I have tried as hard as possible to avoid discourse of any kind, cuz frankly, I have nowhere near the mental health or spoons necessary to endure it.  I’m frankly completely and utterly sick of all the discourse, ace discourse, kink discourse, all of it, cuz it all boils down to ppl being exclusionists, which I am actively against.

But I don’t have the energy to actively discuss it, cuz, as I’m sure all of you know, it’s a fucking dumpster fire.  Ppl are nasty and terrifying.  See: Me, in that post, probably over emphasizing how uninvolved I am and would like to stay, cuz I’m fucking terrified of getting utterly destroyed over the tiniest possible misstep.

But I saw something, one /fucking/ thing, that seemed clear cut to me, that seemed easy enough to address without potentially bringing down fucking hellfire on myself for it.  One thing that seems frankly completely unrelated to the actual discussion, and therefore safe for me (a bystander) to speak up about.

I still don’t get it.  I don’t /fucking/ get it.  I still don’t fucking see how a comparison that boils down to ‘rectangle vs square’ is so fucking awful.  Is comparing jewish ppl to dogs (which as far as I can see it clearly wasn’t, more like comparing /ppl in general/ to dogs, and different groups of ppl to different /breeds/ of dogs) really that widespread of a thing?  Like, that, specifically, comparing jewish ppl to dogs?

Cuz if so, okay, I can get being upset about things similar to that, even if they aren’t actually the same.  And I could get that, combined with that person’s overall statements, coming off as very antisemitic (which I never even put into doubt, I literally just spoke on that specific statement).

And I also absolutely get that using ‘normal’ to mean ‘non jewish’ is kinda shitty.  I’m not gonna argue that it’s utterly horrible, cuz as shitty as it is, using ‘normal’ as a term at all can be shitty, and is still something the general public (esp those who aren’t used to/familiar with oppression and marginalized identities) tends to use as a default.  But I get that’s there’s justified anger there.

I was /not/ trying to derail anything.  I literally don’t understand how it seems like everything I said is somehow being taken as a hell of a lot more underhanded than it is.  I tried my absolute fucking best to make it clear that I was not weighing in on /anything/ but the dogs vs ppl topic, and that I did /not/ want to get involved in, really, any of it.  I even considered just making a separate post for it, but that didn’t seem like it made sense.

I’m just....idfk, I’m done.  Thank you to that person (again, can’t remember names, but the person I defended, them) for being so nice.  I def don’t agree with you on some of these things, and obvs there are other ppl directly hurt by them who can decide for themselves whether you’re forgiven and all that (again, I am /not/ interested in getting involved), but I at least appreciate your shoutout, esp in the midst of all this stress.

I’m just done.  I’m crying, I’ve probably taken 15 minutes or more to write this and I still can’t stop shaking.  I never expected it to be ppl whose side I’m on to be the ones that made Tumblr too fucking much for me, but there it is.

Consider this blog officially back on hiatus (even tho I never ‘officially’ came back from my last one).  It’s too fucking much.  I can’t stop crying, I can’t stop shaking, and I’m utterly exhausted by how scared and tense I am just from anti kink bullshit right now, let alone getting directly targeted and torn to fucking shreds.

I’m done, I’m gone.  Idk if I’m ever gonna come back on, but I highly doubt it’ll be to this blog.  And tbh at this point, it’s just straight up unlikely, period.  I’d like to think that /if/ I came back, I would at least link to the new blog here, but idk if that’ll be safe for me, so I wouldn’t count on it.

TL;DR I don’t fucking know why this is happening, I can’t even fucking read one of the posts I was @ ed in, but I’m done.  I’m gone, I’m on hiatus now, probably forever.

[bpd-dylan-hall-deactivated20190]

like a year ago I saw a trailer for Some Fucking Romcom where I thought for the first thirty seconds the plot was “bride asks her gay brother and his boyfriend to get heterosexual dates for her wedding”

turns out the plot actually was “bride asks her two Commitmentphobic ™ brothers to get dates for her wedding” which, lame

I like my idea, where two gay dudes and two lesbians have to pretend to be straight for an entire weekend 

“I can definitely pretend to be straight,” Lesbian One says, “I successfully pretended to be a straight man for twenty years.”

“No,” her girlfriend Lesbian Two says, “no you definitely didn’t.”

Lesbian Two, who is butch, discovers an eyelash curler. “What is this, a torture device?”

Gay Guy One hooks up with the DJ, the wedding planner, three caterers and the best man. Shenanigans happen as he narrowly avoids getting caught by the bride.

Gay Guy Two, of course, finds himself falling hopelessly in love with the groom.

At the climax of the movie Gay Guy One falls out of the closet where he’s making out with his latest conquest, the florist. The bride screams, eyeliner smearing from tears, about how he’s RUINING HER WEDDING and she didn’t choose to have a brother who was QUEER and why didn’t he ever think about HER and why couldn’t he just pretend to be NORMAL for her SPECIAL DAY–

the groom is like “honey, I’m bi”

the bride says “no, you’re not! you’re marrying me! you’re straight now!”

and then the wedding is called off and Gay Guy Two and the groom live happily ever after. the after-credits scene is Lesbian Two suspiciously poking her eyelids with an eyelash curler

[redshiftsinger]

Please write this movie.

[audiaphilios]

Play It Straight (2019)

[warriorsdebt]

@twistedkate

[typical-ingrid]

Been doodling a lot of Voltron in my down time!

[autisticskunk-blog]

Interesting Thing I Realized About Myself Recently

So, y’know how it’s pretty much a default suggestion when your self esteem is shit to try to make a list of positive things about yourself?  And lots of times ppl use them as a grounding technique, or something to cheer them up when they’re feeling sucky, etc.

Well, those have literally never worked for me.  Like, ever.  And I never really knew why, and it was always hella frustrating cuz they’re like the top suggestion for when you’re feeling down, and I obvs feel down a LOT.

But then I was chatting with my mom about how I like labels, and they make me feel nice, and somehow the fact that I like listing little traits about myself down somewhere came up.  And we discussed it some more and kinda figured out, I do actually like listing positive things about myself, it’s just....different.

There are two different types of lists I tend to make that help me as a grounding/cheering up practice.

The first one is only facts.  The problem with the ‘List everything positive about yourself’ model for me is that (similar to lots of ppl with low self esteem, I imagine) it’s not reliable.  My moods vary, so something I might say is a positive trait about me one day, I might think is negative, or maybe not even believe is true, the next day.

The other problem is that there can be things I consider fact, but don’t care about.  Like, ‘You’re an honest person’.  Yeah, it’s true, I’m pretty fucking honest, I rarely ever lie, and probably never do in important situations.  But I don’t really /care/ about that.  It feels so inane and unimportant, the statement has no weight to me.

So my first list types is only facts, and only facts I care about.  Generally it’s mostly things I consider part of my identity.  Being autistic, being nonbinary/agender, having a shaved head, being disabled, all of that.  And when I think about it, pretty much everything I consider an important fact about myself is something I like.

The second one is more about how I’m similar to something.  Like, one I’ve done in the past is ‘Reasons I Am Like A Baby Deer’.  I like baby deer, and framing it in that way, as opposed to ‘Things I Like About Myself’, framing it where I’m just drawing similarities, regardless of whether they’re inherently positive, works for me somehow.

Like, I think it frees things up.  I don’t have to debate about whether I like a trait on the list or not, it just has to be vaguely similar to a baby deer.  And suddenly I have more things on my list, and comparing them to things a baby deer is/does is a really effective way to frame them as positive.

Idk where this post is going, tbh.  I’m hoping someday the things I /want/ to like about myself are someday solid enough for me that I can count them as facts, not conditional statements.  But for right now, the facts and comparisons actually work, and I finally get how much actual successful grounding techniques can do.

[jewish-mccoy]

belarus will be putting the bones of jews in dumpsters

let’s not kid ourselves. if jews desecrated a christian cemetery, there would be riots. jews would get murdered. but because it’s a jewish cemetery there is no uproar. the world could care less.

belarus is doing this shit for apartments. they’re disturbing jewish gravesites for apartments. karma is a fucking bitch and I hope they get to experience it in full force because this? this is beyond despicable. 

[dinnerollz-deactivated20181127]

additional info: https://www.jta.org/2017/08/25/news-opinion/world/belarus-court-clears-way-for-building-of-luxury-apartments-atop-former-jewish-cemeteries

[jewish-mccoy]

Goyim better reblog this because if this was happening to Christians y'all would be furious

[gluttonousgoddess]

They. Are bones? Why would you dump them? If you need the space so badly, at least give them a ceremonial fire or the pirate’s grave (a ceremonially send them out to sea.) Or you know, build over them?

[jewish-mccoy]

@parodiadissonantia

NO. that is very disrespectful. you do not do that to jews.

[gluttonousgoddess]

If you can do it to other bones you can do it to Jewish bones. Alternatively, if you can’t do it to Jewish bones, you can’t do it to normal bones. They are bones, not people. They have already gone to their equivalent of Heaven or Hell. Personally I’d do a ceremonial burning, as the bones might trap spirits, and flames are known to be sacred cleansers. Being Jewish doesn’t give your bones special privileges.

[jewish-mccoy]

Jews…don’t….believe….in….hell

And who the fuck asked you

[gluttonousgoddess]

Then where do the bad souls go? Do they roam the Earth?

Who asked you to get all up in arms over bones? I offered a legit option to make space without being offensive like dumping them in the trash.

[jewish-escalator]

“if you can’t do it to Jewish bones, you can’t do it to normal bones“ Did you just imply Jewish bones aren’t normal?

“Personally I’d do a ceremonial burning“ NO. NOOOO. NO. We don’t do that. We bury our dead. Research for once.

“Being Jewish doesn’t give your bones special privileges.“ We don’t want special privileges, we want to not be treated like TRASH.

“Who asked you to get all up in arms over bones?“ BECAUSE IT’S MY FAMILY. Grow some empathy and be a decent human being. Who are you to tell us what to be upset about? No one asked you. 

I’m getting real sick and tired of goyim like you shitting all over us.

[gluttonousgoddess]

A poodle is a dog, but not all dogs are poodles. If you don’t single them out, Jewish bones are normal bones. However, you have implied they are not normal by making a huge fuss over the suggested alternate course of action.

I never said Jewish people burn them, that’s just what I personally would do to spare bones. Another option is relocation.

My point was that I was offering alternatives for dumping the bones. I did not say you 100% should do what I said, but that they were options.

Wtf is a goyim? Sounds like a corrupted shortened version of misogynist to me.

[jewish-mccoy]

It means non jew. Goyim means non jew.

But the word for you is antisemite not goy

Comparing Jews to dogs? What is wrong with you?

[shofarsogood]

@parodiadissonantia Hey asshole, no one asked for your “alternatives.” There is not other options where graves are concerned. And in the US and most countries, tampering with graves is a crime.

The fucking solution is to not build apartments where people are buried.

Get a clue, shmuck.

[gluttonousgoddess]

@gemdersuperfuid Hey asshole, no one asked you to jump in. There is not other options where arguments are concerned. And in the US and most countries, tampering with graves can be illegal if not through certain channels.

The fucking solution is to not be like Frankenstein’s monster and get scared over a candle, causing a massive forest fire by trying to put it out but knocking it over instead.

Get a clue, jackass.

Oh btw, *no other, also I’d rather see houses people can use rather than places with bones, because then people can, you know, have houses. Have shelter. You’re basically saying “Our tradition of not accepting that bones are inanimate objects with no purpose beyond reminding us of past animals is more important than shelter that could literally save people from things like lightning, flooding, and lower the risks of getting mugged, dying of pneumonia, dying from heat-related illnesses, dying from lack of sleep, and other such issues.”

[shofarsogood]

I’m Jewish. Unlike you, this is my lane. Anti-Semitism concerns all of us.

And if this was a homeless shelter or tenement apartments, sure. I’d agree with putting lives over corpses.

But it’s not. It’s luxury apartments and I don’t give a flying fuck about the bourgeois. There’s other land that’s not used.

Speaking of, goyishe graves! Let’s use those instead. Somehow, you don’t think the graves of other religions/ethnicities should be desecrated, just ours. Personally, no graves should be desecrated, but goyim always put themselves first.

Shiksha.

[jewish-mccoy]

I agree with all of this except I don’t think any of the bodies should be desecrated. Even for homeless shelters. If they needed to be moved they can do that respectfully and not by dumping bodies in dumpsters.

[wetwareproblem]

“Hey asshole, no one asked you to jump in,” says the goy who jumped in when nobody asked, made terrible suggestions, and repeatedly ignored Jews asking them to stop. And I love how they’re ignoring reasonable alternatives like, say, shipping the bones to their families or to Israel. Because of course they are.

[autisticskunk-blog]

I’m not weighing in on literally any of the rest of this (I personally don’t have an empathy connection to graves in general, but I get that most ppl do, and either way it sounds like the whole situation def has loads of antisemitism, judging by a lot of the comments), but I wanna acknowledge that parodiadissonantia’s words do seem to be being twisted in regards to the dog comparison??

Like, in no way did that seem remotely intended to be some sort of comparison of jewish people to dogs, just an attempt to use a comparison of ‘poodles vs dogs’ to ‘jewish people vs non jewish* people’, because they used ‘normal people’ instead of ‘non jewish people’, and were trying to clarify??

Idk if they’re shitty in general, I’m gonna leave that up to other, much better qualified ppl to decide.  But that specific facet of this, and how quickly it was jumped on as ‘You just compared jewish people to dogs, wtf’ seems somewhat ridiculous.

It very much sounded like a basic ‘X group is a part of Y group, but when discussing X vs NonX, a separate term is necessary’, which is not in it of itself a particularly bad thing (even if it was probably not handled the best, what with using ‘normal’ as the default term instead of just ‘non jewish people’).

Basically, a square is a rectangle, but all rectangles aren’t squares, so if you’re discussing squares and how they relate to non-squares (within the rectangle category), one option (albeit probably not the best option) is to use rectangles to mean ‘rectangles who aren’t squares’.

It’s ableist to get pissed at people for using comparisons like that to clarify a point, cuz for quite a few people, that’s the most accessible way in which to communicate a concept effectively, is in comparisons and analogies.  Idk if that’s the case in this specific context, but it’s still not great to get pissed at ppl for, whatever the reason they’re utilizing it.

 *I don’t know if there’s a better term, but I get the feeling g*yim is something only jewish people are allowed to use??  I’ll censor it and go on the assumption that that’s the case.

[muppetlesbian]

Those people who constantly reblog your stuff but you never really talk:

[justforthearticles]

I do notice my regulars. You guys are the best.

[wishful-thinkment]

“Regulars” makes me feel like a bar-tender…

Wiping down my dash at the end of an evening, I see your read-more, over-hear your rant in the tags, so I pour you a drink.

“…what’s troubling you, kid?”

[walkingoutintherain]

It’s nine o’clock on a Saturday As the regular crowd tumbls by There’s an old fandom queen blogging next to me And her little gray tags catch my eye

She says tumblr I’m feeling like shit today can you send me some posts for a smile can we talk about slash, can you fill up my dash so I won’t have to think for a while

Laa dahdah didee dah La dahdah didee dah dadum

Fill up my dash, you’re my followers Fill it with pictures and fic Yeah we’re all in the mood for some memery And occasional pictures of dick

[ursavorpalis]

Now Jill is a centaur novelist And she writes of her girlfriend and wife She reblogs from Toni, who’s in My Little Pony, And probably will be for life.

As the staff implements wretched changes And we think of how aliens bone We are writing a lot about loneliess: It’s much better than writing alone.

[kestrelfalcosparverious]

AND sometimes we blog about politics

And sometimes we blog with a beer

And when I proudly boast that I’m older than most, 

They say ‘gross, what are YOU doing here’. 

[journeyers-scrapbook]

*wild applause!!

[idonthavemywings]

@thebibliosphere

[autisticskunk-blog]

a simple self guide to knowing when it is time to get a haircut

family member: ahh your hair is getting to be just the perfect length :) very pretty

[golbatgender]

@itrhymeswithtable replied to your post “Age regression is not a kink. You’re thinking of age play. Your whole…”

do you still have plans for making a longer post about neurodivergence and kink? and a kinky nd person that sounds real interesting

Well, there is the small issue that I like not getting murdered by anti-kink tumblr. However…

Kinks break down into basically two categories, sensory and psychological. Obviously there is overlap; often a person will like a kink for a combination of both.

Stuff like waxplay or impact play (especially involving implements not commonly used in childhood corporal punishment) is more sensory, on the receiving end. (Unless you’re doing it to punish yourself, or as a not-fun punishment. Then it would be psychological.) You do it because you like the sensation, or the way the aftereffects look. Obviously if you’ve got unusual sensory stuff going on, like a lot of neurodivergent people do, you’re more likely to have a sensory kink.

Psychological kinks have to do with emotions. Power dynamics, praise, humiliation, probably most kinks involving uniforms or outfits, much of roleplay. Neurodivergent people experience very high rates of abuse, for various reasons that boil down to ableism and/or it being unusually easy to fuck with our realities. A good way to deal with abuse is to reenact it in a controlled environment where you get to change things. Sometimes that’s a therapist’s office, but a kink scene can also work pretty well. If you’re dealing with the kind of “depressurization” that’s like “if no one’s hurting me, something even more extra bad is about to happen,” being hit or humiliated but in a way so you can stop it whenever you need to, every once in a while, is a good way to deal with that feeling, for some people. If you feel compelled to obey orders and a bit lost without them, a kink scene or power exchange relationship is a lot healthier than getting sucked into a cult or abusive relationship while seeking that kind of direction. Or if you simply need to be overwhelmed until your brain shuts up, there’s that, too, though that starts to get into the sensory stuff as well, or if you want to be cared for more than adults usually are for a bit. On the other side of power dynamics, if you need to feel in control of your environment or of other people, kink can do that, and make sure that whoever you order around wants to be ordered around. Or similarly with aggression.

Did I mention how great safewords and so on are? Like, you’ve got a whole set of scripts for whether you like what’s going on and if you’re good, or if you want it to slow down or stop. If something goes wrong or you start to melt down, you don’t have to explain; you can just say your safeword and calm down and explain later, when you actually can. Additionally, a lot of us have been through some kind of compliance training or other situations where we weren’t allowed to say “no” or “stop”–often to the point of literally being unable to say those words as verbs, even years later–and getting to say “no” or “stop” without actually having to make ourselves say “no” or “stop” is a great way to get back that kind of control so that eventually we can say those words.

And sometimes people just make unusual psychological links of things -> sex without any trauma at all. Neurodivergent people are a bit more likely to do this, probably. (Particularly if you have something that causes hyperfixation and/or strong emotional responses, like OCD or autism. The line between disgust and arousal can be a damned three-dimensional squiggle. And then like as not it’s something horrifically embarrassing that six-year-old you was morbidly fixated on without even knowing that it could end up being about sex someday, and that is almost impossible to find porn of. Seriously, somebody go back in time and smack me with a hammer.)

And then there’s where psychological and sensory mix. This is really, really common. An example might be a bondage dominant who is turned on by both the look of the ropes on their partner and also the sense of control over another person. Another would be someone who’s turned on by the taste of boot leather but also by how humiliating it is to lick someone’s boots, or how they’re serving the dom with the boot-licking. And so on, and so on. Just mix the stuff about neurodivergence from above accordingly.

Well, this got long anyway :D I think I’m done struggling with tumblr’s laggy editor for one night. This is by no means a comprehensive reference, but it should give a general idea.

[autisticskunk-blog]

!!!!!!!!  I just wanna say I am /incredibly/ excited that someone else is talking about this besides me, cuz I legit have a draft of a post in this vein of topic saved somewhere, and I’ve been feeling like nobody else ever talks about it!!  ^w^

Like????  I’m continually so pissed that the anti-kink movement has spread so easily to include stim blogs, not just cuz it’s mean and sex shaming, but cuz like!!!!  Stimming and kinks seem like such an obvious pair to me??  Like I know I’ve seen ppl talk about how yes, officially, masturbation could be a stim, but they only seem to talk about it when it’s convenient.

It pisses me off that anti-kink stim blogs are so common, esp cuz they’ll get all ‘Oh see, now they’re making kink friendly stim blogs, cuz they’re sexualizing stimming!!’  Like, no, we just know that stimming is p fucking useful if you have anxiety or trauma, and guess what a fuck ton of kinksters (especially littles) have??

Kinks are one of my special interests, too!!!!  I have a lot of my own, all tied up with neurodivergence and trauma and whatnot.  But I love to hear about and learn neat facts about kinks I’m not particularly into, too!!  I pressure stim all the time, and bondage is, yeah, /amazing/ for it.  Mild choking, too.

Also, I’m autistic, and loaded with mental illness and trauma and more physical illnesses.  And I’ve had this issue where I would probably benefit wildly from some type of low key caregiver, but I feel kind of uneasy about paying someone for those types of services, and the US is generally terrible about any ability for me to access those resources without surrendering any and all types of autonomy.

But!!!!!!!!  I’m also a little, and lemme tell you, it is so so so reassuring, like this huge weight has been fucking lifted, that there are ppl out there, ppl who I could be emotionally, intimately close to (which is infinitely more comfortable to me than paying someone), who actually /want/ to provide the care and support and structure I need!!!!  I can be taken care of in the ways I want and need, by ppl who want and need to take care of me.

Also yeah, safe words are great.  I managed to avoid any compliance training, but I still have lots of anxiety with speaking up about things I’m uncomfy about in the moment.  The fact that I could be in a dynamic where I have a script, and where my dom(s) could regularly /check in on me unprompted/, check if I remember my safe word, if I need to use it, is /phenomenal/.

Kink is such a safe, happy space for me, and it’s /so/ tied into being autistic, along with mental illnesses and physical disabilities, and I am so so happy someone else in the world recognizes that as a thing.  >w<

[hcneylesbian-archive]

hey if you’re LGBT reblog and say in the tags what you identify as and whether you prefer the front, middle, or back of a rollercoaster

edit: terfs don’t touch

[golbatgender]

“Wanting more queer spaces in addition to existing ones is gentrification now” is one of the top three most infuriatingly bizarre discourse ideas I’ve seen on this website, after “Saying I’m sexually harassing you is sexually harassing me” and “Asexuality and any orientation other than LGBT is white supremacist taxonimizing but those first four are somehow fine.”

[golbatgender]

I figured it out. It’s the homophobic “gay affluence” myth. Queer people are actually more likely to be poor than cishet people (actual ones), unsurprisingly, due to discrimination. You could have a queer cafe that’s like $6 for a 10-oz latte and $5 for a teacake, sure, and doubtless such a place exists somewhere, but you could instead have an all-night/24 hour queer-run cafe with coffee prices comparable to a gas station, maybe a bit more for fancier stuff, cups of soup for also like $2-3 (something like vegan+gf potato cabbage plus soup of the day), maybe fruit, with lots of tables and outlets and wheelchair accessibility—the kind of space where hanging out is encouraged and there’s no pressure to keep buying more stuff, and with a “pay it forward” option like that one pizzeria in Philly (Rosa’s I think it’s called?). Offer a fair wage to employees, and all profits go to local queer organizations.

Queer people have historically gathered in cheap cafes and all-night diners. (Look up the Compton’s Cafeteria Riot, incidentally. Happened before Stonewall!) Making such spaces explicitly for us and owned by us would be, without exaggeration, direct revolutionary praxis, would help establish queer people as visible and valued members of society while largely foregoing the usual respectability politics, and would create needed eating, study, shelter, and social spaces for queer and low-income people.

[autisticskunk-blog]

Yo, why have I never seen anybody talking about why Shiro has white hair?  Cuz like, it’s obvs not cannily confirmed, but I’d bet quite a bit of money that it’s supposed to be a trauma thing.  Like they tried to do in Tokyo Ghoul, but failed at cuz it was wildly exaggerated.  If you go through enough trauma (physical, emotional, you name it), your body will legit stop producing hair color to sort of conserve energy.  And I’m betting so much that that’s the whole deal with Shiro’s white shock.

[autisticskunk-blog]

Okay So I Say This In Literally The Nicest Possible Way

But mainstream fashion is /really/ fucking boring.  Now, I am a /very/ firm believer that fashion is always in the category of ‘Not okay to criticize, make fun of, or be mean to people over’.  Like, period.  Unless bigotry is involved (like a Trump hat), or you are explicitly being asked by someone to give critique of their fashion, just be nice.  Find something nice to say about it, if asked for an opinion.  If you really can’t avoid expressing your dislike, keep it very ‘Not my thing, but you do you’.  All of this is like, in my official moral code.

That being said, mainstream fashion is /so boring/.  Like, I get that there are plenty of people who are not interested in fashion.  Who are perfectly happy with minimal effort in that realm, or who like comfy clothes and nothing else, etc, etc.  This is not what I’m talking about.  And I’m also not talking about people who have to deal with a very strict dress code (as far as I’m concerned, uniforms are much more effective at creating a sense of unity than dress codes, and much more inclusive too, but that’s another post).

No, I’m talking about what’s considered /fashionable/.  I’m talking about runways, and fashion weeks, and trends, and all the things that are considered fashion /by fashionistas/ (is fashionista a gendered term??  idk).  I just....it’s boring!!  So boring!!  If people like it, sure, wear it, go for it, but??  With how much love I see alternative fashion getting, I’m skeptical to believe people actually genuinely love things that boring.

Like, I /love/ alternative fashion.  And I don’t just mean the punk, goth, tattooed and pierced type of alternative (altho I def love that).  I’m talking Jfashion, too!!  Lolita, Fairy Kei, Decora, Cult Party Kei, Shironuri, Uchuu Kei, Visual Kei, Mori/Strega, Mahou Kei, Menhera, etc!!  (Google any of those and tell me they are not exciting at the least.  Fairy Kei is my top fav.)  Other, more obscure ones, too.  Rave Kids, Rainbowcore, Kidcore, all of it!! And I see them get a lot of love, but nobody willing to actually wear them!!  Countless people adding comments like ‘Oh, I love that!!  But I would/could never wear it’.

Guess what!!  You can!!!!  You clearly like it!!  Wear it!!!!  And like, okay, I get that dress codes at jobs and general financial issues are a factor here.  But it’s not even really about specific individuals wearing or not wearing things.  It’s about the /culture/.  The culture that doesn’t just say that color and excitement are ‘unprofessional’ and ‘age inappropriate’ and other bullshit made up things, but that can look at a basic tank dress and decide that it’s somehow more fashionable and creative than an oversized hair bow or fur leg warmers!!!!

Just??  I don’t????  Understand????????  Like, people like lots of different things, sure.  But I find it hard to believe that the majority of people genuinely prefer neutrals to neon pastels.  They’re so pretty!!!!  Like so pretty I get legitimately emotional thinking about them!!!!  And people just??  Don’t wear them????  In this age of internet shopping, you can’t tell me that no one can find anywhere to buy colorful clothes.

And we’re getting there!!  Unicorns and mermaids and holographic things are trending.  Not quite in the mainstream, and not quite in generic everyday clothes, but it’s something.  Plus, we’re on the way to a much less gendered approach to fashion as a whole.  Guys are wearing skirts and rompers, that’s a good sign!!!!  I’m just tired of constantly envying after the little girl’s clothes, and of all the fashion on Pinterest being boring colors and boring silhouettes and boring accessories and just boring all around!!!!!!!!

I really don’t mean to talk shit about fashion.  I think that people can wear whatever they want, and if they like it, then that’s the best possible thing for them to wear.  But we, as a society, have this whole fuck ton of completely bullshit ideals for fashion.  It’s ridiculously gendered (altho one could argue that anything gendered is ridiculously so).  And it’s very toned down, very ‘professional’ and ‘mature’ and other boring, stupid things.

And honestly that’s probably tied into the gendered part, too, actually.  People talk about that concept of women in media who aren’t /girly/, but they’re still /feminine/.  That whole ‘They’re not so openly feminine as to be irritating or intimidating, but they’re still classically, /naturally/ pretty’ issue.  They’re ‘not like other girls’, but they still have long hair, and they do actually wear makeup, they just don’t make it too ‘over the top’, and of course they never /bore/ their boyfriend/love interest with any of the details of their hair and makeup.

If I really think about it, that’s probably a big factor in how boring a lot of fashion seems right now.  Because fashion is seen as feminine, so something men are bothered and irritated and threatened by, but it’s also seen as attractive to a certain extent.  So people want fashion that’s attractive to the male gaze, while not being ‘embarrassing’ or ‘intimidating’ or ‘annoying’ to that same male gaze.

Kind of like how, even with how statistically women still do more of the cooking and household chores, all the colors for kitchen and home appliances in the US (outside of pricey novelty brands) are Manly Colors, because god forbid Men have to deal with ~cute~ colors and patterns in Their home.  Never mind the fact that women are the ones actually /using/ said appliances.

This post has gone off on a tangent or two, but in summary, I want fashion to be a fuck ton more queer and ungendered and colorful and also glitter.

[bidoof]

alternate world where japan’s animation industry reached a point where shows can only succeed by grotesquely fetishizing the male characters’ testicles instead of the female characters’ breasts, to the point that all male characters have clearly visible testicles in all their outfits and there’s always at least one dude who has really huge balls and his skinny jeans are like vacuum sealed onto his legs so it’s like he’s basically bottomless and his balls are the focal point of every shot he’s present in and they sort of waft around unnaturally with every movement he makes and all the male characters openly compare testicle sizes and get jealous of the dudes with larger testicles and certain character archetypes are defined by their the size of their balls

[bogleech]

Frogs are hilarious I mean they’re mostly just a mouth but with just enough leg to throw the mouth at food

[boycub]

if a teenager is at your door and they are wearing a costume!! please give them candy!! they are still in it for the halloween spirit and it honestly no different from a little kid in a costume. they are just as excited and happy as all the other lil tykes and dont you dare tell them they are “too old for trick-or-treating” because that will literally break their hearts and that’s not cool.

[boycub]

Its getting close to Halloween again so I just thought I’d reblog this again

[archdemonsblood]

And if “don’t be rude to teenagers over a stupid jawbreaker” isn’t enough for you, consider 

You can’t tell how old a kid is just by looking. I’ve known multiple 5th graders who were taller than I am, and I’m 25 years old. With their faces hidden by masks, you won’t be able to tell they’re elementary schoolers, but they still are. 

Lots of older siblings are expected to take their younger siblings trick-or-treating, and they only get paid in candy. 

You don’t know if that teenager is developmentally disabled. 

You don’t know if that teenager spent most of their childhood in a hospital or sick and has never had the traditional trick-or-treat experience before.

You don’t know if this is that teenager’s first Halloween in America, and they just want to experience a piece of American culture.

You don’t know if that teenager ever gets candy any other day of the year. 

You don’t know if that teenager has eaten anything at all today. 

And those are just things I can think of off the top of my head. 

[saathiray]

I’ll give candy to 90-year old. It’s Halloween for fuck’s sake

[rogueoftimeywimeystuff-deactiva]

There are two kinds of abuse.

One is the “obvious” kind. It’s the covered bruises and stories of falling down and bumping into everything. It’s the already thin girl turning to bones. It’s the screaming and throwing things. It’s the loud, the cops have been called, in your face.

One is the “accepted” kind. It’s the spankings as a child. It’s the fat person constantly being told to go on a diet. It’s prioritizing your Significant Other over and over and over again while you let yourself be chipped away. It’s the “you’re not able to have friends when would you have time” kind of abuse as you’re isolated slowly from everyone and everything you cared about. It’s the “I accept you as you but I won’t stand by you while doing so.”

Of course there are shades; nothing is black and white after all. But outside of this site, it’s hard to get people to see how the later are abuse. Hell on this site it can be. But both abuses exist. Both happen. And both are horrifying. And we need to fight them and the societal ills that are the reasons they still happen.

[ruinedchildhood]