you can take your complaints straight to the Lord

[solanasfem]

no matter how insufferable i find a woman, i am careful to never make fun of her in front of a man because a man's contempt for women inevitably turns into misogyny and i wouldn't wish misogyny upon any woman regardless of how much i might dislike her.

[boyfriend-beater]

the one thing that pisses me off truly madly deeply to the point where i cant take it in stride and is when something happens to women and people are like "how will this affect (xyz)?" as though the purpose of women in society is to be a canary in the coalmine of bigotry rather than a group whose rights are worth fighting for. like when roe v wade got rolled back and people were like "wow i bet this means marginalized groups will start to suffer soon" ok so they literally already are it's just that you dont care about women. like its so transparent they misogyny is nothing but an acceptable level of background chatter to people that it makes me want to sit down and cry

[euphonism]

If they’re going after women, how long until Real People are affected?

[uncertainwaters]

it was all fun and games going further and further into postmodern gender until you reach a point where once you have played all these games and rendered it meaningless and no longer even assume gender based on presentation, sex based oppression remains. and the same sex based dynamics that plagued me before i engaged in this philosophical free for all remained visible. my relationship was a merrily gender fucked kinky queer navel gazing "t4t" relationship.

and my male partner expected sex whether or not i found it pleasurable, degraded my female anatomy as though it were disgusting even as it was being used for his pleasure, expected pregnancy would be a given, denied that he would support me through said pregnancy despite my obligation to provide him with children, dismissed my dreams of completing university, expected that i would do all of the housework and childrearing while he cheated on me via unprotected sex, found my fear of exposure to STDs as a result of this cheating to be oppressive because heaven forbid you wear a condom, belittled and ridiculed my feelings, felt entitled to verbally abuse me and humiliate me publicly. and to name this dynamic- even to just neutrally describe what was happening, preferred pronouns and careful language intact, was in itself considered more violent than what i was suffering.

it was a wonderful fantasy, that toying with the construction of gender could erase sex. but it did not achieve that. it failed.

[annie-ave]

and to name this dynamic- even to just neutrally describe what was happening, preferred pronouns and careful language intact, was in itself considered more violent than what i was suffering.

FUCK. its this exactly, you put it into words so perfectly.

[knightsickness]

[capacity2]

I’m going to die today

[janicevaranus]

[chadradfem]

[nongunktional]

when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

[unhingedcherhorowitz]

Notice 99.99% of the time the question is "what is a woman". Nobody is asking “what is a man”.  The reason for that is because staying close to the reality of who is biologically male and who is not is a life or death assessment. A miscalculation could literally kill you. Even other males knows this. Transwomen know this. A bus of 50 trans men and a bus of 50 “cis” males is not an equivalent bus in terms of risk and harm if you’re a member of a vulnerable population. Hence people’s willingness to muse endlessly and "deconstruct" woman as a concept or aesthetic yet they somehow sober up when it comes to discussing men and indulge much less in such fanciful musings.

Men have no worries about sharing their prisons, bathrooms, clubs, and gyms because everybody is terrified of being in closed spaces with them alone. There’s zero effort from men in practice or policy to make their spaces welcoming for trans and non-binary people. Nobody dares to even suggest it. Men’s outright rejection of and intolerance of trans people is accepted like a weather report yet they’ll shout, scream, cry, throw up and act like it’s the New Jim Crow if a woman says “hey that’s fine but self Id laws don’t provide enough protection for women can we come up with another solution”. Men’s social dominance is protecting them from being “deconstructed” the way women are. So we have a social phenomenon where only women are disrupted, imposed on, challenged, and re-defined and men are for the most part completely undisturbed/untouched? And that's supposed to be "breaking gender barriers". The only barriers being broken is women's boundaries and ability to assert their needs. Which is a reproduction of the oldest gender paradigm ever. You're "disrupting gender" but the main benefactors of gender hierarchies are totally untouched/unbothered/undisturbed? lol k.

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[quinntheestallion]

Queer Theories be like: Anything you can purchase with money (clothes, surgery, a hairstyle, hormones) is valid and relevant. Anything that you're born with (the natural body you need to live and breathe & the mechanism by which literal harm and violence is meted out to you) that's irrelevant and it's bio essentialist to bring it up.

[radicalmedusa]

i’ve seen a LOT of people say that artemis hates terfs or whatever and i always have to laugh purely bc of this myth in particular, about daphne & the huntresses of artemis: 

“Leukippos (Leucippus) fell in love with Daphne, but despaired of winning her to be his wife by an open courtship, as she avoided all the male sex. The following trick occurred to him by which to get her. Leukippos was growing his hair long for the river Alpheios (Alpheus). Brading his hair as though he were a maiden, and putting on woman’s clothes, he came to Daphne and said that he was a daughter of Oinomaos (Oenomaus), and would like to share her hunting. As he was thought to be a maiden, surpassed the other maidens in nobility of birth and skill in hunting, and was besides most assiduous in this attentions, he drew Daphne into a deep friendship. The poets who sing of Apollon’s love for Daphne make an addition to the tale; that Apollon became jealous of Leukippos because of his success in his love. Forthwith Daphne and the other maidens conceived a longing to swim in the Ladon, and stripped Leukippos in spite of his reluctance. Then, seeing that he was no maid, they killed him with their javelins and daggers.“  (Pausanias, Description of Greece 8. 20. 2 (trans. Jones) (Greek travelogue C2nd A.D.) (source) 

they literally killed this man for pretending to be a woman in order to infiltrate their female-only space. but please, tell me again how artemis would totally accept males as her huntresses. 

[prodigalwitch]

First of all, prostitution is not the oldest profession- it's the oldest form of slavery. The oldest profession is midwifery. So jot that down.

[backsoonwithyourregularprogram]

I've recently been checking out some of the better lesbian Reddits, and I believe there is so much of value to be found in these spaces, but there are so many things that I am fundamentally incapable of grasping.

I do not understand this weird, very current trend in trying to make "lesbian" a matter that is determined entirely by your specific ability to rightfully gauge and identify every little internal feeling, which are affected my trauma, culture, hormones, and a whole slew of other things. This aim at making sure no one calls themselves a lesbian unless they can fully prove, or at least believe beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they only ever have and only ever will experience attraction to women feels absurd and pointless.

I do understand that much of this has been born out of a direct pushback against bi women who do not seem to know this about themselves wrongfully telling lesbians that they MUST be willing to fuck live human dick, and a weird perception that bi women who wrongfully identified as lesbians in the past are to blame for men and trans women insisting that lesbians be chill with fucking them. Men are to blame for their refusal to take no as an answer. End of story, bottom line. Punishing women because they were stupid and/or wrong should not be the main focus when the issue is men and blaming women for it just feels like a more accessible goal than making men stop... acting the way men act. If a bi woman NEVER again called herself a lesbian only to be lying or later realize she was wrong, if that NEVER happened again anywhere on the whole planet, men would still feel entitled to sex from women who do not want them.

When I say I am a lesbian, the only fucking thing someone needs to know about me is that I am exclusively interested in the romancing and centering of women in my life. I am fucking autistic and grew up experiencing extreme abuse and making sexuality out to be a complete and truthful internal inventory that you're announcing to the world after careful cataloguing and inspection instead of a scramble in the dark to find whatever misshapen words you can to most accurately describe what you think is happening inside you to the very best of your ability. The only thing my sexuality label has to fucking do is announce present action and future intention. This feels like a weird extension of the move to microlabel every tiny identifiable facet of your sexuality with a new word or identity as if there is any internal aspect of the self that is completely immutable or exists as Pure Truth to be discovered. Mainly, I think the problem is every single body is spending too much time thinking about themselves and not enough time actually engaging in anything of use and it feels so fucking difficult to find and form community when so many people are gatekeeping shit that does NOT actually matter.

Like, yes, obviously I think it's an issue when people who are loudly not lesbians or who should be completely barred from identifying as such call themselves that and then position themselves as the arbiters and experts of lesbianism but if those people are being louder than actual lesbians it's still that we should be better organizing ourselves and picking our fucking fights better. If I want to be heard, it's my job to fucking speak, no one else can do it for me and no one else can be blamed if I am not being a loud enough self advocate or I'm not setting hard enough boundaries in the spaces I have control over.

I just. I very much don't understand why I still seem to find more animosity towards women than men in spaces that should be about celebrating all women, even if they aren't gay, or haven't passed whatever other imaginary purity test is being held up today. I don't understand why these spaces still treat other women as the enemy more than as, oh, I don't know, an occupied people who have more in common with you than they don't. It's so damn disappointing.

[men-iss-vess-ull-deactivated202]

[kissnride]

i feel like another tragedy that comes with the rise of liberal feminism and gender ideology is the bastardization of intersectionality in feminism. intersectionality was meant to acknowledge the combined bigotry that black women, lesbians, and disabled women face in the context of patriarchy, but since men can’t help themselves, now you have tras/mras screaming “if your feminism doesn’t include black men, trans women, disabled men, my brothers dog, my uncles truck it’s NOT feminism sweetie” and calling it progressive while attacking real feminists for actually caring about women.

[backsoonwithyourregularprogram]

Maybe it's just me, but it just seems TO ME that it would be easier for the girlies to not fall into the tradwife uwu just a girl bullshit if there were any toothful movements that celebrated them at all but instead we have a feminism that is more concerned with telling men its about them too than it is concerned with improving women's lives, and the current left take on women seems to be that you're only allowed to celebrate any aspect of your own body if its been surgically altered in some way or you're showing it in an excessively sexual light, otherwise you're being exclusive to anyone who might feel some type of way about not having what you have. Like. Damn, I wonder why they might fall for the allure of dumb shit that has the appearance of celebrating being a woman at all because all other avenues have been completely slammed.

Like everyone skipped straight to pretending we were a post female oppression society the second everyone had to find ways to dance around talking issues of sex because a trans person to whom what you're saying does not apply might get caught in the crossfires or feel left out, and now no one can say anything true about the issues plagueing or affecting either sex either way. And then everyone wonders.... why we're seeing a rise in regressive movements centered around gender? There stopped being anything progressive of value or truth and nothing truly strong enough combat the bullshit. In the absence of something compelling and true, a sham of it will do in a pinch.

[unsentimentaltranslator]

I have been SCREAMING this for months. Oh, you think “I’m just a girl” is degrading? Well, porn studios force women and underage girls, who are either there due to extreme poverty or outright fucking trafficked, to do things that are a million times more degrading and you assholes called that liberation, so maybe y’all can sit with your shame and then fucking do better.

The left wants Just A Girl girlies to be like me but treats me like a fucking servant and demonises me when I speak up about my rights and those of more vulnerable women and girls. I am 0% surprised some women don’t want to occupy my status in the mainstream left.

[backsoonwithyourregularprogram]

Literally. Every major position on the left currently is just as hateful to and dismissive of and oppressive to women as the shit on the right, but the right at least pretends they're allowed to like being women. The current left position seems to be "if you like it too much, you're being phobic, but if you hate it, you must be a man," and like. That's fucking nothing. Like. That is no position to thrive from, and you better not ever dare question the current trends, or you're acting in bad faith or again being some kind of phobic. I wouldn't be drawn to "liberation" either if this is what I thought it looked like.

[backsoonwithyourregularprogram]

Maybe it's just me, but it just seems TO ME that it would be easier for the girlies to not fall into the tradwife uwu just a girl bullshit if there were any toothful movements that celebrated them at all but instead we have a feminism that is more concerned with telling men its about them too than it is concerned with improving women's lives, and the current left take on women seems to be that you're only allowed to celebrate any aspect of your own body if its been surgically altered in some way or you're showing it in an excessively sexual light, otherwise you're being exclusive to anyone who might feel some type of way about not having what you have. Like. Damn, I wonder why they might fall for the allure of dumb shit that has the appearance of celebrating being a woman at all because all other avenues have been completely slammed.

Like everyone skipped straight to pretending we were a post female oppression society the second everyone had to find ways to dance around talking issues of sex because a trans person to whom what you're saying does not apply might get caught in the crossfires or feel left out, and now no one can say anything true about the issues plagueing or affecting either sex either way. And then everyone wonders.... why we're seeing a rise in regressive movements centered around gender? There stopped being anything progressive of value or truth and nothing truly strong enough combat the bullshit. In the absence of something compelling and true, a sham of it will do in a pinch.

[estradiol]

Imo the “bad boy who’s only nice secretly/after you get through his layers” trope in media functions as propaganda designed to get you to second guess yourself and your experiences in order to give bad men a chance. Some things need to be taken at face value and if he treats people like shit he is in fact a bad person even if he’s nice to you sometimes. Stop looking for hidden meaning and depth in his actions. He’s not misunderstood he’s just an asshole and it’s not your job to shovel through the shit to get to the disappointing “good” parts

[womyn-inherits-the-earth-deacti]

joins tumblr to pass time

becomes a radical feminist

[genderisareligion]

Happy IWD please note how many notes this post from 2014 has from back when being a radical feminist wasn’t a cardinal sin on par with Nazism

[pibin]

“If a movement declares that a man can define what it means to be a woman based on his feelings, but a woman cannot define being a woman based on her material reality, then it is a movement for the interests of men.”

—Tasia Aránguez