because antifeminism is getting on my nerves

I like women, if that wasn't already obvious ⚢ header image by sapphos-darlings

[thatsonemorbidcorvid]

Found this interesting on IG

[woman-for-women]

Sari salesmen are frequently male because women aren’t given priority to inherit family businesses, are married at a young age, are prevented from going to college or getting a job by their fathers and husbands, and are sexually harassed when working. They are beneficiaries and enforcers of a system of male dominance and female submission (you know, patriarchy).

I remember getting fitted for a sari blouse at 11 and the male workers joking about my bust measurements and laughing about it to my face. I can’t even count the number of times sari salesmen have harassed me or said something misogynistic or creepy.

They are savvy salesmen who have adapted to sell a gendered product to female clientele, not brave patriarchy-defying, gender non-conformity heroes.

[cannabutch]

“lesbian/sapphic transwoman”

[cannabutch]

user who had been following me for several months, commented “right they’re just lesbians” or something on this and then blocked me lol girl where have you been? no they are heterosexual males. if the sex you’re having can result in pregnancy it isn’t gay. hope this helps!

[aphroditeslesbian]

If the sex you're having includes someone of the opposite sex... It's not homosexual sex. Obviously.

[sarahconnorjr]

[cloverhighfive]

[scarf-it-box]

In case you’re uninitiated:

These are the current female volleyball uniforms

The Norwegian team on the left got fined a ridiculous amount of money for wearing shorts to the games

When you compare the men and women, it becomes very clear how sexist the uniforms are.

[ssjdebusk]

“Sexism is dead women are so annoying to keep talking about it”

*professional athletes get fined for wearing shorts*

[unlikelyrunawayfest]

[erikaforreal]

That’s fucking ridiculous, man

[selkie-on-land]

Same thing with gymnastics/Rhythmic gymnastics uniforms.

And we are not allowed to have visible hair or underwear btw, or to replace our body if it gets inside our butt or labia. WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO REPLACE IT IF IT SHOWS OUR GENITALS.

I hated it when I was 6 ! I asked to completely stop the sport since we didn’t had a choice about competing or not.

[benyw]

It’s for the benefit of men in two ways:

Allows them to see near naked bodies of the most athletic women in the world (and worse: little girls doing sports)

Puts women and girls off doing sports, or causes them to quit before going pro. Not facing rampant sexualisation and constantly having to keep a mental check on whether their uniform is riding up their butt (or worse!) while doing a mentally taxing and potentially dangerous sport seems like the better choice for a lot of women and girls.

It’s all about accessing and controlling women and girls.

[uncertainwaters]

tbh i think non autistic people have such a rosy view of autism from the way its presented as just quirky interests and awkwardness online. for reference here i am high functioning, previously would have been diagnosed with aspergers. lets just describe one symptom here to try and give some perspective on what autism is.

my brain cannot filter sensory input. you have no idea how much noise your typically functioning brain is able to tune out for the sake of your sanity. i can see my own eyelashes. i can feel where my breasts touch the skin of my chest. i can at times feel and hear my own breathing and heartbeat. i am constantly aware of my hair touching my neck. and that's just my body! every fiber of my clothing, the hum of appliances, lights, sounds, smells. it is a constant assault, and when it gets bad it gets bad.

"sensory overload" isnt a cutesy little thing where youre just a little tired. it hurts. normal volume sounds feel like someone is driving an icepick through my eardrums over and over again. lights and movement feel like someone is sandpapering my eyes and brain. my skin feels itchy and on fire and slimy all at once. it is physically painful. when i see non verbal autistics slamming their own head against walls and tables i know exactly how that feels, and i've headbanged myself when i'm alone and know i won't have to deal with the reactions of "spaz" and "freak". your brain is so stressed by the unfiltered raw input that bashing your skull against something feels like the only thing you can do about it.

when i ask for people to reconsider how they treat autistic people i am not talking about shit like teehee we had a little misunderstanding. i am talking about the severe abuse and ostracization of a legitimately disabled demographic of women. did you know autistic women are one of the only female demographics with no sex difference in our suicide rate? did you know nine out of ten autistic women have been sexually abused? did you know we are abused verbally and physically with an alarmingly unisex trend of perpetrators? we matter. we do not "just want everyone to be nice to us". fucking no one is nice to us. it isnt even about niceness. it is about treating us like we are human.

[tiktaalic]

I was born in the exact right generation I love being an unmarried woman in my twenties with my own bank account and no children

[tiktaalic]

This getting reblogged with “and my thirties” “and my forties” “and my fifties”

[liberate-women-now]

A wonderful example of the tu quoque fallacy; instead of having to defend HRT and cosmetic surgeries for children you point to other examples of children having their bodily autonomy violated as a form of validation itself. The conclusion you should be coming to from this is that children and the adults who take care of them should not be allowed to make decisions that drastically alter their body until they become adults and can properly decide for themselves.

This fallacy doesn't work on radfems, however, since we talk against children getting body piercings, shaving, laser hair removal, etc... and we are not anti-vax. (Also I want to assume you mean ballet or maybe football when talking about sports that can injure you for life. Radfems talk against ballet also. ) Maybe you would see that radfems actually do give a fuck if you ... didn't already have me blocked lol.

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[Image ID: Tumblr user @gender-trash says, "zero patience for "irreversible damage" rhetoric because like … parents are allowed to do all kinds of other irreversible body modification to their kids and nobody gives a fuck. you can pierce your kid's ears, you can sign them up for a sport that will injure them for life, you can provide or withhold medical care like vaccines according to whatever whims you like. i've mentioned this before but my mom forced me to get laser hair removal done on my legs when i was a teenager because my body wasn't mine, the way i chose to upkeep it was a reflection on her. "irreversible damage" is very much part and parcel of the broader belief that parents own their children's bodies."]

[belladonnaenymphe]

in my humble opinion, contraceptives must be considered as a hygienic necessity, not because sex is a human right, but because sex is used as a tool of oppression and women should have easy access to items that make sex a smaller threat. condoms might not be good pregnancy preventives, but they prevent you from possibly contacting STD's. birth control is not that good for your health, but it gives you possibility to control your reproductive abilities. emergency contraceptives imo should be always available because prevention of unwanted pregnancy in cases of rape should be held in attention. banning abortions is not the only form of reproductive oppression, making contraceptives less available falls under it too

[aftonfamilyvalues]

[preposterousblasphemy]

woman: that's fine. I'm not mad at you ☺️

man: I feared for my life. I had to kill that fucking bitch

[mihai-florescu]

This is a message for Paul, 25 yo, who has his mom come do his laundry weekly: your mom's friend is roasting the fuck out of you at this sushi restaurant bro

[apple-pie-42]

as she should

[roadhogsbigbelly]

"just because someone writes dark problematic subject doesn't mean they endorse said subject" is not only completely reasonable but also like common sense. The issue is that like a good 60 percent the person saying that is not actually interested in writing about taboo subjects with any sort of tact, they just want to not be criticized for anything they write ever.

[atwoodsfemalefantasy]

"just because someone writes dark problematic subject doesn't mean they endorse sad subject" is correct, except sometimes it DOES mean they endorse the subject. and you can typically tell by HOW they write that subject. i've seen shows that discuss rape where i can tell the writer had good intentions, and i've seen shows where it's CLEAR the writer is getting off to it. and THOSE are the writers that loveeeee to say that phrase.

[latinaradfem]

there’s a difference between men calling women “females” in a derogatory way vs women calling themselves female for scientific and medical purposes. the patriarchy has really convinced people that women are inferior for being female so now women are getting attacked for simply stating a biological fact about ourselves.

[unrespectability]

i think the weirdest bit of anti-terf warriors' propaganda i've seen is this constant insistence that radfems are all feminine women who hate gender-nonconformity & despise masc lesbians and masc women in general 😭 i definitely get what purpose that lie Serves & it's serving it well but it's wild that people like. genuinely, sincerely believe that. to the point of finding it AMUSING to stumble upon a masc woman in radfem spaces. hello...

[probuccalfat]

girl the pattern you see is not divine or malevolent forces trying to reach you through the veil it’s just because you’re good at pattern recognition keep it moving

[hongrelmog]

I think masculine and feminine are consumer categories

[pusheen-the-radical]

you are correct

[87352257]

“i’m fluid” - you’re bi

“i’m pansexual” - you’re bi

“my sexuality fluctuates” - you’re bi

“i like the label queer because it’s unlimited” - you’re bi

“idk I just like people regardless of their gender” - you’re bi

[theangryman]

the most important thing is that everyone follows *your* rules for how they label themselves, because you are the most important and special person who decides everyone’s identity for them ❤️

[hexagon-club]

Hi tumblr user theangryman. I know this is something you find confusing, but the thing about categories is they arise out of a collective need for humans to identify and communicate distinct entities and concepts. This only works if there is some sort of collective agreement as to what the limits of those categories are.

Arbitrarily redefining categories to mean whatever you want them to mean is somewhat against the spirit of collective communication as an enterprise. Because if anyone can just invent new meanings for words just because they feel like it, then words no longer mean anything in particular and as such they cease to be useful as tools of communication.

The fact is that no matter what sort of semantic sophistry you engage in, there are still going to be people who are attracted to both sexes. So it is perfectly reasonable for humans to have a word that means “attracted to both sexes”. And if people who are attracted to both sexes feel that the word that means “attracted to both sexes” doesn’t fit their identity, well that’s too bad because the point of language is to identify concepts and communicate them. And if being described accurately hurts your feelings, that is what we would call a “you problem” and it’s unreasonable to expect that other people should lose the ability to communicate with one another over it.

[tennesseewillams]

every time a tumblr user mentions men on a post about women/lesbians a little baby puppy dies. did you know that. did you ever think about that. consider the consequences of your actions

[larkandkatydid]

One thing I’ve become a real extremist about is little girl’s clothing and hair styles because if your kid can’t get her hair wet, hang upside down, climb over a fence or run full out in the outfit/hair she is currently wearing then why not? And the answer better be both extremely fucking good and describe something temporary.

[poodletrain]

Hope you don't mind a story that also made me extremist about this issue.

Took my friends daughter (2.5yrs) to the park. Dressed her in practical clothing that's ok to get stained, brought an extra change of clothing. She sat in the mud at the water bank and played with rocks and mud. A little girl came over, couldn't be more than 3yrs. She was looking longingly at my friend's daughter. She has her hair in a perfect style and she's wearing a pretty dress with white socks and dressy shoes. The parents say "Sweetie don't go into the mud, you'll get your dress dirty" and pull her away, while giving me a judgmental look as they see the kid in my charge covered in mud and throwing rocks into the water. It felt really weird, like we saw eachother as aliens with completely different ideas on how to raise children. When my friends daughter was done playing, changed her into clean clothing and went back home. She had a lot of fun at the park and a day full of nature and play. The other little girl kept her dress clean.

[holyvomitus]

My mother let us play in mud as kids. I remember teachers asking if she would be upset I got my clothes dirty and one even called her about it to confirm she didn't care. This was George W era Texas, so I'm not surprised looking back.

My friends parents all did care though. When they'd come over, my ma would dig up extra clothes for them to change into so they could play in the mud too and made sure they'd wash up and go home just as clean as they came. Their parents still didn't like that they played in mud despite the fact ma found a work around for the stated "keep their clothes clean" reasoning. It was a lot of "I still don't like her playing in the dirt" and "that's too rowdy for little girls."

It's not just about the clothes.