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he/him | 20s (tired of changing it every birthday) | this blog is an archive; i often reblog things i don't agree with in order to save them for posterity (i have ocd) | secretly a system 🤫 | from usa

[bellaswansong]

you say "dont go in the notes" and i hear "free blocklist to keep my tumblr experience bearable"

[huariqueje]

An ego dissolved in blue over the landscape - Elena Degenhardt , 2025 .

Russian-German , b. 1977 -

Pastel on paper , 25.4 x 24 cm

[bumblingbabooshka]

Vulcan teen on Vulcan [tiktok] saying "I have just lost track of my father in the grocery store." The camera turns to show the viewers the grocery store in which almost every single older middle-aged man has a bowlcut and long robes. Camera turns back to show the teen's face which is expressionless and yet communicates all it needs to.

[couch-of-friendship]

Tags by @eggtrolls

[despazito]

[shabbytigers]

[mellophiliac]

i love matsuda fans they're some of the most dedicated people ever they really love that man

[tianshiis]

NERF THIS!!

[tsuchikokusha]

[every-kabu]

[romanceyourdemons]

good kid-centric horror is so hard for me to watch. like. you’re a kid and you’re in danger. adults can protect themselves but kids aren’t allowed to. so you can make yourself as likable and believable as possible and hope an adult likes and believes you enough to protect you (but trauma makes you nasty) (so the longer you try the worse your chances are) (and there’s no guarantee anyone will come). or else you start protecting yourself and become a Bad Kid (now you’ve lost any privileges a child has) (and if anyone was allowed to do anything they want to you before) (now they’re encouraged to do it)

[imjunebitch]

it really is disappointing how much leftist talking points and criticisms of individuals are directly drawn from critique of the appearences of individuals or oppressing factors related to them. people who can't critique Elon musk without critiquing his social inadequacy when he's autistic, people who can't critique graham linehan without calling him ugly, people who can't critique Donald Trump without bringing up that he wears diapers, or is ugly, etc. etc. etc. idk bro the fact that these people are fascists who directly get people killed feels a bit more important!

[creatingblackcharacters]

It also deeply bothers me how many people pull the "okay now ask the average African American how they feel about gay and trans people" as a gotcha, to try to act as though Black people specifically hate and are oppressing queer and trans people (and as if we just, AREN'T those things too).

Buddy ask the average White American how they feel about gay and trans people, since we're taking the census and the piss. Hell, look at the people in charge currently pushing anti trans and anti queer legislation and tell me how they identify. Look at the racial demographics of our last election and tell me who you think is out here going rah rah for the gays and theys.

The audacity to suggest that my entire community is homophobic (I.e., you spend zero time around Black queer and trans folk) but somehow yours is worthy of a closer, more nuanced look... Really some OG white supremacy, actually! "Those savages, they don't understand things like gender and sexuality, they're just angry uncultured brutes!" -mentality shared between 1700s race scientists and 2026 You, apparently.

Some folks was really out here lying with those #BLM pins 😭

[dgen1ko]

[13eyond13]

Here are the specific types of chatty/talkative I think some of the DN genius characters are:

Near: interested in discussing ideas and opinions and emotions most of all, needs to talk to figure out and express his feelings and plans, thinks he can only fully figure some of that out by verbalizing his thoughts. Wants other people to chime in and collaborate with him on his thoughts more than the others do. More nostalgic and more people-focused in his conversations than some of the other characters, in that he tends to mull over the past more and worry and wonder about what makes other people tick quite a bit. Asks other people how they feel and what they think maybe more than any of the other characters listed here do.

Light: mostly interested in discussing big ideas and his strategies above all, not so much in a collaborative way but in a way where he presents his point of view on something and then figures out where the other people also stand on the same issues / how competent he thinks they are. Gets the most chatty when he's teaching somebody something / trying to get something he wants / showing off his intelligence / defending himself when he's under suspicion or feeling disrespected somehow. Not very into emotional discussions or discussion of personal feelings about others. Good at small talk for politeness sake or for ulterior motives but not terribly ever genuinely interested in it. Doesn't often need to work out his plans or feelings about things by discussion with others, just reaches conclusions privately on his own and then carries out his decisions / tells other people how they can help him out. Actually does a lot of his talking privately within his own head

L Lawliet: talks mostly to share or obtain useful information / prove himself correct / get into arguments he finds interesting or entertaining or useful somehow. Only really chats to people he finds important to his current goals if he can help it, and probably has an internal hierarchy of sorts in his mind that he slots people he will converse with into mentally based on this stuff. Doesn't care for small talk at all and isn't very good at it, but will make it if necessary and if he actually cares about the other person's comfort levels. Not actually a big opinion sharer or big ideas debater most times - he keeps most of his true opinions a little bit under wraps and he maybe doesn't even particularly care about discussing and contemplating grander scheme ideas and scenarios as much as some of the other characters here do. Strategic with his silences, good at using them to make other people either leave him alone or wonder or squirm

Mello: I feel he's emotionally intelligent and quick to reach opinions and decisions internally without needing to discuss them too much with others, but also SO quick to form his own opinions and feel things that he is often frustrated by people who need to talk a lot at length about these things and figure things out and revisit them over and over again in their heads or in conversation as well. He's actually maybe the least chatty of the bunch to me unless he's lost his temper about something and having an angry outburst of sorts. Gives orders to others very readily, and discusses his motives with others pretty frankly as well. Normally needs to have a good reason to engage somebody else in conversation though? Not the type to just chatter on for the sake of chattering at all, in my eyes (something I can picture Matt doing around him quite a bit, though)

Beyond: if he's not talking to you then he's talking to himself. Very rarely silent, always coming up with something bizarre and likely somewhat off-putting to discuss. Pretty darn concerned with sharing his opinions and his taste in things, and almost always being something of a manipulative indirect person in conversation in one way or another (throwing himself a pity party, fishing for exploitable information, dropping hints he obviously wants you to notice and then pretending he was doing nothing of the sort, attempting a guilt trip or sneaky power play of sorts)

[blondiest]

I love this breakdown immensely. I was spinning this in my brain for a little bit and want to add a few thoughts of my own because I tend to think that Near's talkativeness in canon— and Mello's lack thereof— are at least partly situational.

(I don't think anything I'm going to say here is in disagreement with or contradictory to your points at all so I hope this is not unbearably annoying!! It just got me thinking 👀)

After the death of half the SPK members, Near is the head of a small team of people he trusts and who he wants to communicate effectively with. It's important to him that the SPK members understand what he's asking them to do and why he's asking them to do it (in this way I think Near was probably the best of the Wammy's kids to work for, even if he expects a lot from his staff). For these reasons, there is both room for him to opine aloud on his thoughts and feelings and an incentive to do so.

Playing things out with his toys seems to be a part of his thinking process when he's working through things on his own, too, so one could perhaps argue that the act of explaining himself aloud is another method of giving his thoughts a more definite shape / another way he works through deductions 🤔

Mello, on the other hand, I think gets the most page-time (or at least page-time with other characters) while he's in the mafia. While he and Rod are clearly on the same wavelength w/ respect to their goals, and Rod seems to keep up with Mello relatively well, I find it hard to imagine that Mello truly trusted anyone in the mob, so I feel it makes sense for him to have been playing his cards close to his chest.

Obviously it's impossible to say exactly what they would be like in different contexts, but I think it's interesting to ponder — for me it's hard to picture Mello ever being as verbose / open as Near is, even if their situations were flipped.

[13eyond13]

Near looking really cool and serious.

I knew exactly which panel I wanted to choose for this one!

[desultory-suggestions]

Often, our trauma comes from the actions of people who had no ill intentions but caused immense harm. It's okay to admit that the trauma you have endured did not come from someone's intent to abuse you. This doesn't lessen the reality of your trauma or make them any less responsible for their actions.

[lexsreadingcorner]

So many people hate their own body so much and are so casually fatphobia toward themself and the thing is, when you're not, when you've healed yourself enough that you can look at yourself and say "my body is just a body that does body things" it becomes nearly impossible to be around people who openly hate their bodies. It feels like they're flinging their muck all over you, and you gotta shake yourself out so it doesn't stick. And misery really does love company. They'll talk about how fat they are and how they can't eat this or that or wear certain clothes or cut their hair short, and they want you to lament with them. And you gotta not, okay? You gotta not. You gotta walk away from that shit.

And you HAVE to pay attention to the things you say about your own body in front of other people, lest you become the person flinging your muck onto others.