Bi the wayside

Romantic and gender content. Trans and nb friendly. bi, she/her, mid 20's feel free to say hi :) I'm hella inconsistent with tagging so shoot me a message if that could be an issue.

[victusinveritas]

Humphrey Bogart's lifts he wore during his scenes with Ingrid Bergman in Casablanca, 1942.

[michael-the-rouge]

Do I have to say it?

[alex51324]

I like how the photos are all serious and dramatic, but in the video you can see they're just fucking around.

[dumbpuppyfag]

smitten is such a great word :) omg he's so cute it feels like i'm being killed by god

[theterribletenno]

I was just thinking about the old Japanese censorship laws that gave birth to tentacle porn...

So for anyone not in the know, the Japanese government decided to fight perversion with censorship.

Specifically you weren't allowed to draw penises.

So they drew things that WEREN'T penises instead. Like tentacles. Fast forward to today and tentacle porn is an entire standalone genre with thousands upon thousands of examples and enjoyers.

The attempt at censorship did not quell perversion, it only caused it to mutate.

And now I'm thinking about tumblr's decision to ban porn and of all the people leaving captions under videos of heavy machinery and industrial accidents like "I need someone to do this to me" and "this wouldn't fix me but it would help" or "everything reminds me of her"

All this to say that without porn on Tumblr

The perverts are mutating again

[yuttikkele]

hey gamers I’ve started watching star trek does anyone else see the romantic tension between captain kirk and mr. spock

[self-made-purgatories]

watching the realization publicly dawn in real time in the comments is fucking amazing

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[yuttikkele]

I DIDN’T KNOWWWW

[alexis-royce]

I love how this functions as peer review. Modern researchers have still been able to replace past results. These bitches gay.

[thesilliestpotato]

I was looking for references and stumbled across a series of paintings from 1930s by Soviet painter Alexander Samokhvalov called "The young women of metro construction"

[unfavorableinstigation]

Growing up, my brother and I deeply dreaded going shoe shopping. It took hours, especially if it was for winter boots. My dad would examine the stitching, the brand reliability, the temperature recommendations, every piece of information he could get his hands on, and then when he'd finally found the right brand, it was on to making absolutely dead sure they fit properly - he had a particular way of poking the toe of the boot to ensure our foot was where it was supposed to be that always drove me nuts. This was always on a weekend, and it was about the worst punishment we could imagine.

Years later, I found out that he'd spent his entire childhood on the Canadian prairies with cold feet. My grandmother just bought whatever boots looked like the best value, regardless of whether they'd keep anyone warm. They'd kept him from frostbite, probably, but never, ever comfortable.

The reason my grandmother never had a thought about this was because she was buying her kids real boots. There was a sort of magical quality about real, purpose-made boots that meant that of course they'd work, because when she was growing up on the Canadian prairies, they had the kind of no money that meant you just stuffed some newspaper into your shoes and soldiered on.

The last pair of winter boots my dad bought for me was 15 years ago, in preparation for a three-month stint living in northern Quebec in midwinter. They cost $200 then, or something like it. I've worn them every year since, driving out to the remotest locations on the Canadian prairies and never once thinking about my feet.

When I read the Vimes Boots Theory for the first time, it rang a bell that reverberated back three generations.

[unfavorableinstigation]

Hmm. Okay. So. A lot of people have been tagging this with "the way men love", after that popular poem, or saying in the tags that this is the way my dad told us he loved us. And that was certainly a tangible way he showed it, and a legitimate one! In a society where we don't like to let men show their emotions openly, that's a thing men do. To be honest, I think telling us my grandmother's story was a way for him to show love as well - for us and for her.

But I want to say, for his sake but also for all of yours, that my dad told me he loved me every single day of my childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood. The phrase, repeated ad nauseam by both my parents, was that they loved me "always and forever, no matter what". My dad probably said that phrase, with its sentimental gooeyness, more than my mom. Even when we were mad, even when I was a teenager and absolutely everything was wildly embarrassing. He still says it, when we're having a Moment, eyes twinkly and kind of proto-teary. If we're not having a moment, if it's just a regular day, my dad just tells me he loves me every time he sees me.

I just want you to know that that's a thing men do, too.

[teaboot]

It’s weird how your parents can get younger as you age

[teaboot]

My mom’s out meeting guys. She’s getting her new degree soon. Just got a new puppy. Things are going well in therapy. She’s figuring out things I knew when I was fifteen and angry and nobody would listen to me, and now she says it back to me while we sit in the car listening to the radio and I just smile and tell her honestly that I’m glad she’s happy.

My father’s been seeing someone seriously for five or six years now. She’s nice. He’s loosened up quite a bit. They adopted a dog together, and when he takes it outside he horses around with it like I’ve never seen him do before. He despises brussels sprouts and feels awkward in crowds.

My bio dad is two years sober, and just moved cities for the first time in decades. He says he’s making friends at his new job, that he didn’t realize how stagnant and unkind his old one was. He enjoys puzzles and card games and old audio equipment.

My exfather is going to jail. It sucks, but he’s dug his own grave and burned his own bridges and maybe this is what it’s gonna take for him to learn some humility and remorse. Probably not, though.

It’s wild. I looked up to YOU, I was terrified of YOU, nobody was cooler than YOU, and YOU were an adult with your life together. And now I’m older, and look at us now.

Still fucking up like kids, still learning like kids, still nervous and trying and doing our best like kids. Ignorant in different ways and still kinda fumbling around.

My mother and I wander around cities together and she feels more like my younger sister than someone twice my age.

It’s weird. It’s so fucking weird

[a-gay-possum]

Reblog if you are ace, support aces or were knee deep in that Dragonology: The Complete Book Of Dragons book as a kid.

[machine-unlearning]

When I (M29) was a young boy (M7) my father (M35) took me into the city (X167) to see a marching band (M23, M21, M22, F22, M24, M25, F21, M

[machine-unlearning]

He said “Son (M7) when you grow up (F33) would you be — wait what”

[thekidsfromyestergay]

Despite it's flaws I still love Tumblr. Pussy cunt cock and balls tits bitch fuck shit faggot dyke cunt cunt cunt. What other website could you post this on

[ryan-sometimes]

One of my favorite things about having a degree in biochemistry is going undercover at a store like Sephora. I can read the composition of the cosmetics and actually understand them. There’s no words to describe how great it feels. It’s like being in on an inside joke or secret

[ryan-sometimes]

The main thing I observe is that a lot of employees recommend makeup that is chemically incompatible. For example, if you ask them to recommend you a foundation and concealer, a lot of times they’ll pick two products that are chemically immiscible, so they’ll NEVER blend together successfully.

Generally foundation/concealer is either water or silicone based. There are upsides to each based on your needs. However, water and silicone are immiscible, and so if your foundation is water based but your concealer is silicone based, you will never get a good blend between these products. You’ll have to go back to switch to something that works.

[ryan-sometimes]

If you want to test for this in-store, mix the two on the back of your hand. If they form a uniform mixture, they’re miscible. If they separate, they’re chemically incompatible, and should not be used together. You can do this for any number of skin products. Primers, moisturizers, foundations, concealers, contour sticks, etc etc. Anything that comes in liquid or paste form.

You don’t need to understand all the chemicals on the label to run this experiment!

[qualitysigns]

Buffalo, New York, USA

[our-queer-experience]

helen “trans people are perpetuating gender steriotypes” joyce is now upset that the scientific american is writing about how women were hunters too back in the day, not just mothers and caretakers. feminist win!

[the-gummy-worms-have-me]

I think I found the article!

The Theory That Men Evolved to Hunt and Women Evolved to Gather Is Wrong

The influential idea that in the past men were hunters and women were not isn’t supported by the available evidence

Read it if you have the time, it's very interesting.

[mikkeneko]

Reading the article I see why TERFs are mad about it; it explicitly makes the distinction between gender as a social entity and sex as a biological category, and defines biological sex having multiple factors, both of which are anathema to TERF philosophy.

It also includes these fascinating paragraphs about the role of estrogen in different types of physical activity, directly debunking the widespread notion that estrogen is the weak human's hormone and only does weak human things:

Given the fitness world's persistent touting of the hormone testosterone for athletic success, you'd be forgiven for not knowing that estrogen, which females typically produce more of than males, plays an incredibly important role in athletic performance… The estrogen receptor—the protein that estrogen binds to in order to do its work—is deeply ancient. Joseph Thornton of the University of Chicago and his colleagues have estimated that it is around 1.2 billion to 600 million years old—roughly twice as old as the testosterone receptor. In addition to helping regulate the reproductive system, estrogen influences fine-motor control and memory, enhances the growth and development of neurons, and helps to prevent hardening of the arteries. Important for the purposes of this discussion, estrogen also improves fat metabolism. During exercise, estrogen seems to encourage the body to use stored fat for energy before stored carbohydrates. Fat contains more calories per gram than carbohydrates do, so it burns more slowly, which can delay fatigue during endurance activity. Not only does estrogen encourage fat burning, but it also promotes greater fat storage within muscles… which makes that fat's energy more readily available. Adiponectin, another hormone that is typically present in higher amounts in females than in males, further enhances fat metabolism while sparing carbohydrates for future use, and it protects muscle from breakdown. Anne Friedlander of Stanford University and her colleagues found that females use as much as 70 percent more fat for energy during exercise than males. Estrogen's ability to increase fat metabolism and regulate the body's response to the hormone insulin can help prevent muscle breakdown during intense exercise. Furthermore, estrogen appears to have a stabilizing effect on cell membranes that might otherwise rupture from acute stress brought on by heat and exercise. Ruptured cells release enzymes called creatine kinases, which can damage tissues… Linda Lamont of the University of Rhode Island and her colleagues, as well as Michael Riddell of York University in Canada and his colleagues, found that females experienced less muscle breakdown than males after the same bouts of exercise. Tellingly, in a separate study, Mazen J. Hamadeh of York University and his colleagues found that males supplemented with estrogen suffered less muscle breakdown during cycling than those who didn't receive estrogen supplements.

The article also talks about sexual dimorphism in different species, concluding that "Modern humans have low sexual dimorphism compared with the other great apes," and that overemphasis on averages obscures the wide dispersal of individual traits, which is what I keep saying.

[aethersea]

Anthropologists also look at damage on our ancestors' skeletons for clues to their behavior. Neandertals are the best-studied extinct members of the human family because we have a rich fossil record of their remains. Neandertal females and males do not differ in their trauma patterns, nor do they exhibit sex differences in pathology from repetitive actions. Their skeletons show the same patterns of wear and tear. This finding suggests that they were doing the same things, from ambush-hunting large game animals to processing hides for leather. Yes, Neandertal women were spearing woolly rhinoceroses, and Neandertal men were making clothing.

I also thought this part was cool :)

[genderqueerdykes]

PLEASE read this article, this information is incredible for everyone looking to unlearn bioessentialism

[anti-terf-posts]

official anti terf post

[transsexual-experiences]

reading progressive sex ed caricatures with accurate and detailed and realistic diagrams of sexual organs + shows their variation, but all i can think about is how there is no discussion of what srs is besides the fact that it exists

[transsexual-experiences]

how may people know the before and afters of vaginoplasty? phalloplasty? meta? how it works at all?

[transsexual-experiences]

this one has been passed around recently from the mayo clinic and that actually makes me so happy because how many of transfeminine people are aware of what their options even look like?

there’s a diagram for phallo and meta from springer link(i believe) and. honestly i’d never seen these before and i dont think i’ve ever seen any diagrams. i know vaguely because of reading papers or listening to people talk about their experience but i’ve never seen it, yk? it makes me more confident in my choice to get meta when i’m older

[yooleebird]

There’s a website called Transbucket that has a whole archive of before and after photos, surgery costs, surgeon names and locations, and general feedback on complications, sensation, everything. It’s been around for at least a decade, and there are photos of some folks five or eight years down the line. It’s organized by procedure, and it’s very comprehensive. It’s NSFW of course but it’s an amazing resource!!!

Are you considering or have had transition care? | Transbucket.com

[catboybiologist]

Demystify transition! Break irrational medical fear!

[status-quo-hater]

[whereserpentswalk]

See the main problem is that we've been taught that penies and vaginas are completely alien organs to eachother and not just different shapes of the same parts. So it's hard for people to understand how something can be in between when they don't understand that they're the same base organ. This is also why most people have no understanding of bottom surgery.

[status-quo-hater]

Literally. I wish people would just look at HOW these things develop. This is not difficult to understand.

These are the same meat with different parts just being different sizes and shapes.

And sometimes it develops into something that isn't a penis or a vulva. When you actually know how this works its a lot easier to understand how this happens and what it roughly looks like.

[cowboyjen68]

Three butch friends of mine finishing the basement of my first house around 1996.   They worked for beer, and not even anything fancy. 

[butch-king-frankenstein]

babe are you okay you reblogged Three butch friends of mine finishing the basement of my first house around 1996 again