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@booabugina
re ehrc guidance. which is not legally binding.
āshould I do this for people of all ages?ā
that's a very good addition actually, a solid "you want me to ask people's kids about their genitals? can i have that in writing?" should make upper echelons very uncomfortable.
something something the poetry of science etc
woah
yeah
heās sitting in his discomfort and interrogating whether his actions were worth the consequencesā¦ a great many of u could take notes
ādonāt take it personallyā how would you like me to take it then? professionally? romantically? academically?
Beaded Rainbow Odenwald Shawl!
Lost my mind a little and added (if my math is correct) 5,615 beads to Nim Teasdale's Odenwald pattern. Anything worth doing is worth overdoing!
The goal was āsoothingly weighted but not uncomfortable to wear, even as someone with chronic pain.ā It could have been a little heavier, so maybe Iāll make a shawl with larger beads another time, but Iām very pleased with this one. I used size 6/0 seed beads, applied as I go with a .6mm crochet hook.
Yarn-wise, used 2 cakes of YarnArt Flowers. I knitted the fully purple sections from both, then knitted all the way through the yellow-oranges with a single ball. When I hit the beginning of red-oranges, I used yarn from both cakes, alternating between them. (Not the entirety of both, I played it by ear to make sure I made it through the full rainbow.)
I do have edited charts with bead placements. I will only share them with Nim's permission.
I've done A LOT of knitting/crochet this year while chronic illness kept me from my sewing machine, but I'm feeling much better now. There will be new quilts to look forward to soon, plus a few more yarn crafts to share in the meantime!
i know the way people talk about their pets now is probably how weāve been doing it for all of history. a cat owner in ancient rome saw their cat lounging on the dining pillows and commented āhe thinks himself to be the senator claudius š¤£ā
The first attested cat in Japan was given to a young 9th century emperor and his diary about it includes such gems as 'I affixed a bow about its neck, but it did not remain for long.", "The color of the fur is peerless. None could find the words to describe it, although one said it was reminiscent of the deepest ink.", "When it lies down, it curls in a circle like a coin. You cannot see its feet. Itās as if it were circular Bi disk." and "I am convinced it is superior to all other cats.ā Basically posting about how his void is the best little void and so good at getting really round
"my life isn't a crime, I'm not one of those people -"
"you sure? new parameters for Those People just dropped. check again."
And if you truly cannot imagine this, if you're convinced that it will never happen to you, consider this one thing.
Would you want scammers to know the state of your loved one's dementia?
Oh. Shit.
I need a āhumans are space orcsā thing where all sentient species are weird like that, but in their own unique ways
And a lot of them are aware of this (like we are when we make these āhumans are space orcsā stories)
Maybe one species enjoys getting bit by something equivalent to mosquitoes. Maybe one actively avoids the hospitable places on their planet because itās boring without a challenge. You get the gist.
I want to see a bunch of aliens (+humans) sitting around a table talking about how their own species is a bunch of freaks
Everyone is space orcs
Best possible addition. This is a top-tier insight
@hotcheetohatred
The thing about "humans are space orcs" is it was originally conceived of as a response to science fiction tropes in which every alien species had its own special thing except humans, whose special thing was either Most Generic, Most Adaptable, or Most Je Ne Sais Quoi. Like, in a lot of science fiction, Klingons are Honorable Warriors, Vulcans are Logical Scientists, Romulans are Cunning Strategists, and humans are all of the above in a way that leaves us slightly less good than any of them at their shtick but better overall and able to triumph because of our lack of specialization and the assumption that we are, somehow, just destined to be the best. See this scene from Enterprise for what I'm talking about. There's a similar scene in Mass Effect where Mordin talks about how humans are more variable and adaptable and less predictable than all the other races in that setting, which is super annoying if you know anything about how much our species is defined by the genetic bottleneck we suffered during the Ice Age -- the generic bottleneck that has left us all so genetically similar to each other that we can do crazy things like donate blood and organs to each other, things other species can't tolerate.
@prokopetz proposed that humans ought to get something special of our own that isn't just "We are the bestest and specialist in some generic way that feels like a vague and unsettling metaphor for American superiority and manifest destiny amidst all the other cultures of the world," and settled on space orcs because "Pursuit predators with freakish endurance" was the ecological niche we occupied during our own evolutionary history up until we started doing the civilization thing. The assumption from the start was that every other sci-fi or fantasy species would each be freaks in their own way, and the point of humans are space orcs was to let us be our own sort of freak, too.
People who expanded on the humans are space orcs stories immediately turned it into a reason to write little stories where humans are the biggest freaks or the only freaks and we are, in fact, the specialest most manifest destinyest je ne sais quoi-laden metaphors for the superiority of American culture over all the other cultures of the world. I hate it I hate it I hate it.
Which is to say you've reinvented the point of humans are space orcs from first principles. That's pretty cool.
I think my mistake was failing to appreciate just how readily "humans have exceptionally high cardiovascular endurance due to our real-world evolutionary history as specialised persistence predators" could be twisted around into "humans have superior Will to Power", which is the other problematic special niche humans have historically been assigned in popular science fiction.
I've always been uncomfortable with the term 'emasculate' even when I was a kid. Like, why do men get to feel like certain types of disrespect are worse for them than for women, or that certain types of disrespect are okay against women but special and bad aka emasculation against men. Iām always stunned that men will complain about feeling emasculated and, not stop to think about it, about why this disrespect is somehow only bad or is especially bad against them because they're a man. Theyāll even complain about this to women. Not just feeling disrespected or anything like that but specifically emasculated. Their complaint is that they werenāt being treated like a man, but less than that. You know, like a woman. Because that type of disrespect is acceptable for a woman, just not a man.
When I was a teenager men would always tell me that they have it worse than women because they 'have to' hold open doors for women and pay for dates and other 'gentlemen' type of behaviors and use this as justification for sexism. But I noticed when I did these things for men, offering to pay for their dinner if I went out to get food with a guy, holding a door open for a guy, you know these 'chivalrous' types of behaviors they said means being a woman is easier, these guys would get fucking pissed. They'd be, you know, emasculated. Most of the time when I tried to hold doors open for men they'd actually physically grab the door from me and take it from me so that they'd be the one holding it open instead, and be really aggressive and pissy about it.
It made me not want men to do those little chivalrous things for me anymore like holding open doors, the fact that men would use these little chivalrous things as an excuse for why women apparently have it easier, but then they'd get infuriated if you tried to do it for them, it made me wonder what type of feelings they got just from little chivalrous gestures like holding open a door. So I started to get pissed when guys held doors open for me. If they thought it meant I had it easier in society, but then turned around and got pissed and offended when I did it for them, what does it mean to them? So I started refusing to let men do little chivalrous gestures like holding doors open for me, and that's how I got the reputation as the crazy femin*zi at my highschool. If it was insulting to them why did they want to do it for me so badly?
I stopped caring after a while. But I still wonder, why do so many men feel 'emasculated' by these little chivalrous gestures they insist on doing for women like holding a door? But then they also complain and get angry about how it's 'so unfair' that they 'have' to do these little chivalrous gestures? What does it all mean to them?
#it's also a way of excusing bad behavior#āour lives are hard so you can't blame us for being mean.ā#demonstrating that this martyrdom is totally unnecessary makes them look stupid#and exposes their cruelty as a choice they are making not an inevitable result of pressure women are supposedly putting on them#showing how thin that story is embarrasses them#it reveals that they were duped and all their struggles trying to fit the patriarchal mold were for nothing#nobody needs them to be that guy#and in an attempt to preserve the house of cards that is their ego they take it out on the messenger
I hope you don't mind me bringing this out of the tags @words-and-threads but this input is just so good.
Heās a character who gets very passionate about certain things. And I think he needs to be in an environment with a partner who he finds can encourage, enjoy, and embrace that about him. [...] I think he needs to feel, I guess, as we all do, safe in a relationship and appreciated for who he is. āĀ OLIVER STARK
And if Buck were to present anything else [to him other than friendship], I havenāt even wrapped my head around how Eddie would understand how to move forward with that ā other than being caught off guard, I guess. Itās almost like when somethingās so close, you canāt see [the bigger picture]. Itās right under your nose, but you canāt see it. I think thatās how itās meant to be played. āĀ RYAN GUZMAN
EVAN BUCKLEY AND EDDIE DIAZ THROUGH THE SEASONS (original)
9-1-1 on FOX / ABC (2018 ā ...)
I think what I love most about mythology is that the āTrickster God/Spiritā is an archetypical character found in almost every body of folklore. Itās like āOh, hereās our God of the Sun, our God of the Sea, our God of Fertility, and our God of Being A Wretched Little Gremlin Who Causes Problems On Purposeā
You Have More Power Than You Think You Do: A Case Study In Getting Shit Done
I don't live in a walkable city.
I live in a mid-sized Texas town that only realizes that there are people who don't drive when TXDoT gives them money for active transportation infrastructure.
People constantly tell me that you just cannot walk or ride a bike in this city. It's impossible!
I do it anyway, because I firmly believe that solarpunk is a useless aesthetic if you aren't living it as best you can. We don't need technology to solve our problems we need will.
Also I do volunteer work on the political side of the local animal shelter and so I find myself at city hall several times a year and there's no bike rack.
Or rather there wasn't a bike rack.
I complained to someone, politely, informing them that I am doing this volunteer work and I don't have any safe place to lock my bike and that locking it to a handrail is inconvenient for everyone and also hideous.
A few months later a single staple-style bike rack was installed at city hall. It's not much, but I got sent a photo of someone else who got to use it before I did, clearly there was a need, if small.
Then I turned my gaze to the local grocery store, which had a bike rack, but the bike rack was terrible. It was too short for modern tire sizes, it was placed too close to the wall so one side was useless, and it was generally pretty cramped.
It took some time, but an advocate friend told me to contact the property owner instead of banging my head against the wall contacting HEB itself, and so I sent another polite complaint with a photo, explaining why it wasn't a very good bike rack and it would be really cool if we had a different one with better placement.
And about two months later, we have new staple-style racks at the grocery store, properly placed for maximum parking.
It's not a new bike lane. It's not a removal of parking minimums. It's not infill development or an active transportation advisory board.
They're just bike racks.
But that's the beauty of it. I, a person with an email address, some basic "how to be firm but polite while making an argument" skills, and a willingness to work out who to contact, fixed two problems for the local community. Trust me, I have had people wait on me to unlock my bike so they could have the "good spot." I was not the only person annoyed at the old rack.
It can be done. You're not powerless. Solarpunk doesn't have to be a wishful aesthetic.
Technology will not save us.
We have to save us.
who up in a kafka-esque rut sleep deprived, casually malnourished, socially awkward, painfully self-conscious, struggling financially, lacking community, altogether anhedonic
Ok so my kid had an ear infection, right? As kids often do.
The doctor scraped out a bit of earwax to have a better look inside.
I was sent a bill for $200 PER EAR for this 5 second procedure which I did not give permission for them to do.
That was key- they did not ASK me if they could do this "procedure". And, as I OWN a medical practice (it's me. The medical practice is me, sitting in my house on video calls) I knew to call them when this bill came in to be like "You did not obtain informed consent for this procedure, and it was not en emergency procedure. You had full ability to gain my consent and didn't. I'm not paying."
And the massive hospital who owned the bill said "yuh-huh you do have to pay."
And I said "I own a practice. I know these laws. I do not owe you money for this."
And they conducted an "internal review" and SURPRISE! Decided I totally owed them money and they had never done anything wrong ever.
And so I called my state's Attorney General office, and explained the situation because, as I mentioned, I know the law. The AG got in touch within a couple days to say they were taking the case and would send the massive hospital conglomerate a knock it off, guys letter.
Lo and Behold, today I have a letter where said hospital graciously has agreed to forfeit the payment.
"How not to get screwed over by companies" should be part of civics class.
Know your rights and know who to call when they're infringed on. This whole process cost me $0 and honestly less effort than I would have expected.
May this knowledge find its way to someone else who can use it.
This post is super cute and all but like.... This isn't practical advice. I called the AG???? And they got involved over a $200 bill. Maybe because you yourself are a medical practitioner. Not just your knowledge but also your status.
Civics class wouldn't help most people in this case because the AG will not take on all these cases and most people cannot afford an attorney in this instance or more importantly, the hit to their credit.
The issue is not education over the system, it is the system
I agree the system is a mess but I think education does matter because people seem not to know that this is actually perfectly routine AG office stuff. Iām not the only person whoās done this- this is just what they do?
Were they going to get into a lawsuit over my $400 bill? No obviously not. But they printed up a letter on fancy letterhead to say to stop and it worked. They followed up with me the next day to be sure, and so ask how much money they had saved me.
They use dinky cases like mine to track habitual misbehavior of large scale companies to build cases they could actually go to court over.
And because people are shocked- I never spoke to the AG of my state directly. He operates mainly by overseeing a whole crew of people. And this is what those people do.
This didnāt happen because Iām special because of my tiny therapy practice.
This happened because this is what the AG office is for.
āThe problem is systemicā doesnāt mean āand thereās nothing you can doā.
This is a systemic problem but that doesnāt mean there are no resources to help.
Thank you for clapping back on this. I'm here to reinforce. Yes, you CAN call your state Attorney General office when an entity is doing something illegal, even if it's "only" for $400. You think they don't care a hospital is doing a crime because it's not a big enough crime?
Then you've been trained well by "The System".
Yes, that System you say can't be fought? Where did you get that idea, huh? Who taught you that "small" acts of illegality don't matter? Who made you think that there's no point in fighting back because it will all come to nothing?
Might it be the same entities that benefit if you believe all that?
Gonna pause and let you ponder.
Never. Ever. EVER.
EVER.
Let companies or corporations or hospitals or organizations or any business big or small get away with screwing you over without a fight. Maybe you personally don't win every fight, but you lose 100% of the time you don't try. You'll win more often than you think you will. I know cuz I've done it.
So have others. Attorneys General offices bring lawsuits against businesses all the time. They do so because citizens contacted them to say "someone is doing a crime" and the crime doers did not stop when told and got into way more trouble than if they'd just stopped. FAFO. The Find Out can't happen if you don't even bother to report the Fucking Around.
On that note, as OP said, please know your rights! And, in a situation where you don't but suspect something is hinky, ask! The people of the internet can help! So can librarians! So can many others. Find out what is and is not okay for them to do. If it's not okay, report them! See something, say something.
Don't let the System win by default.
Fight, damnit!
Additionally, pay attention to State Attorney elections! Here in Minnesota, our AG Keith Ellison has made it a POINT to go after slumlords, has created an entire UNIT in the AG office dedicated to wage theft, and gone after debt relief for people who were conned by those scummy fake universities. And despite MN being a blue state, one of his elections was a fucking NAIL-BITER.
Absolutely fight the system, absolutely go to your AG office if youāre being screwed over, and also pay attention to the people running for AG in the first place.
Government of the people, by the people, and for the people only works if the people make it work. That's you! You're the people.
"Don't bother doing anything because nothing will happen" confused cause with effect: it's really "Nothing will happen if you don't bother doing anything." Yeah, I know, it's a travesty that they don't hand you psychic powers when you take your oath as a civil servant, but until we fix that clear defect in our democracy: you're serving the public, too, when you report fuckers like this.
Not gonna leave this in the tags:
Suspicion of The Systemā¢ļø is one of the ways The Systemā¢ļø perpetuates itself.
If you believe The Systemā¢ļø is only for Themā¢ļø and not you, it will only ever be so.
Know the rules so you can make them work for you. Or better, how to break them in ways that hurt The Systemā¢ļø and help you.
