Abhinay

Positivity, Experiences, Turnarounds, Advice

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What a minimalist life doesn’t look like: “So much to do! All these accounts to take care of! So many friends to deal with!” *Has mental and emotional breakdown*.

Is this happening to you too? I hope not, but if it is then like me you need to take up the minimalist life.

I had a breakdown yesterday and I took a step back and looked at my life from a distance.

It was chaos, it looked like some adventure park – a hundred rides going on together at the same time, a thousand people screaming and shouting.

From today I have temporarily put a hold on two of the five business/work activities I do, and even the two out of the three that continue need the least of my involvement.

And yes, a total stop to outings for now, unless they are soul enriching ones.

Too many friends can cause chaos as well. So let them live their life for the time being and you make sure you’re going in the right direction yourself.

I have also decided to give my all to the most loved activity of my day. I better be good at it!!!

For once I am going to be done with my to-do list (which should have 3 tasks at max now), and I’m going to enjoy the time I have left over.

There is also a minimalist challenge which allows you to own only 100 things (50 if you want to really go for it). I am going to try that challenge, starting today.

This is a temporary route I will be taking. It is going to be a way to get my life on track.

But it can be permanent for you. There are people who have become minimalist and have a great life.

All the best if you are going this way too. Let me know in the comments the changes you made.

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The following phrase sums up what i mean by “Vibes”.

“If you love something with all your heart the whole universe will conspire with you to make it happen.” Don’t know who said it originally but I got it from Bollywood – not the best source for inspiration actually.

I don’t think that was the best segue to my topic, anyways, swiftly moving on. Wait, maybe it is. I’ll let you decide.

There have been days when I’ve just gone about my work and life with all my focus and dedication.

Have a great morning routine, be happy working with people who I hate being with, tick things off my to-do lists successfully, smile at people, make someone laugh, just have a positive aura through the day.

And on days like these, I almost always have good news flowing in and have happier evenings.

The point being that when you let out good vibes, you get nothing but good vibes delivered back to you. It is like a “return to sender” scenario with vibes.

The universe pays its debts – Game of Thrones pun intended – just let out good vibes into the universe and it will return the favor, at least with a 100% interest added to it.

Likewise, when I crib about how bad my day is, it generally gets more miserable.

The best thing to do is just be happy, do your part with dedication and love whatever you’re doing.

This happens to us all but most of the times you tend to not notice it, because you’re either too happy and enjoy all of it or, think that shit keeps happening to you because you have a bad life.

For the people falling in the latter category, you now know that you can take small steps to be happy, and happiness will follow.

Have a great weekend and invest in good vibes and get it back with the added return on investment. 😇

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I am a Blogger, Interior Design student, Car and Bike enthusiast, and Amateur Photographer. Let’s see what my perspective looks like then.

Yes it looks like a “jack of all trades, master on none” scenario. But ‘Enthusiast’ and ‘Amateur’ are key words.

Wait there’s more, I’m a big Manchester United fan too. I also have two family businesses. Shit I’m bragging now. Moving on to the topic of discussion.

So when I see the world, there is a certain lens through which I see it:-

I see a story in every experience and emotional change I go through, always trying to notice how things occur in the journey of life. That is the blogging lens.

Since I’ve started the interior designing course I notice how the place makes me feel and what are the elements that help evoke that feeling. This is my other perspective because of the knowledge I have on the topic.

Now we come to one of my all time favorite passion – Cars and Bikes. I never drive a car or ride a bike without realizing how much fuel is being burnt when I accelerate my bike or all the science that happens when I apply the brakes. Even things like when I should shift up or down a gear exactly and the technology of it all.

“The horizon isn’t straight”, “Follow the rule of thirds”, “Are they leading lines to this scene”. These are the things I think about when I see a photogenic view or a beautiful landscape. That’s the photographer in me. Even without a camera sometimes.

This is my perspective of life and almost every other task in life goes unnoticed or is a muscle memory and I just do it without second thoughts.

We go through life just day after day without really giving too much thought to things.

I love doing anything based on one of my five likes/passions/skills. But recently I have tried to notice more things, think about how good food tastes, how something works, how expansive this universe is!

We should observe instead of just seeing, listen instead of just hearing, even feel and smell more deeply.

It makes life more interesting and enjoyable.

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I know I know, getting up early and going through the morning routine is dreadful for most people.

But it doesn’t have to be, in fact morning routines can be the opposite.

Getting up early and getting through that morning routine like a boss will in turn make you feel like one.

In my humble opinion (and experience), getting up early helps me pull through my entire day like a machine.

And still have loads of energy and mental capacity left to do more, or better yet party or go out for a drink.

It is also an example of how you can get the most difficult tasks of your day done early.

This sets the mood nicely for a productive and content day, letting you enjoy your free time even more.

I’ve talked about starting with habits in my earlier post. Using that method you can slowly get into the rhythm of rising early and killing it with your morning routine.

Personally, I also get one task from my hobbies (or favoured businesses) done with before leaving for work.

So even if that ambience and work load tries to pull me down, I will still have the satisfaction guaranteed about living the life I want.

You don’t have to change in a day, but trust me once you start doing this you will surely immediately see the results and start loving your life.

I have over the course of the same week seen the difference between getting up early and getting up late and rushing through it all.

I haven’t even added exercise to this whole topic. That would be too much happiness to handle at once.

I suggest you try this out and do let me know what changes you see in productivity and mood.

Enjoy the morning freshness, talk to you again soon!

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My unnecessary opinions to a mother – “Why are you getting your daughter married so soon!”

You should have seen the look on her face after I dropped this bag of opinions on her. I had literally shit my pants. It was totally my fault to be honest.

So I have an advice I’d like to give to people who are talkative and highly opinionated like me – “Shut the f*** up.”

This is what happened, I had an ex-neighbor meet me to give me an invitation card for her daughter’s wedding (who was also my childhood friend).

So a regular human being accepts the invitation and says congratulations right?

Not me! I stand there and start lecturing her about how her daughter is too young to get married and should maybe follow her career. Blah blah bullshit.

And she has this look in her eyes like – “You dumbass I’m giving you the wedding invitation which means it’s a done deal, and do YOU like my daughter and is this some wicked way to stop her from marrying someone else.”

I see that look and that’s when I realize that I’ve screwed up big time and need to shut up.

It is funny now in hindsight. That woman did love me when I was a little kid though. She probably despises me now. *LOL*

Since that day I have a rule to stop myself by immediately thinking of a sentence like, “They are not your friends, please stop talking!”

We have to realize that others have their own opinions, their own thoughts, their own ways of life. We have to respect that.

I still over do my share of free consultations and extra talkativeness every now and then. I need to Heed My Own Advice.

Do you have any such experience? Any ‘foot in mouth’ moment? Do share in the comments and let me know.

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They say “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.”

That’s the same for the brilliant thoughts and ideas of the bathroom. What I ideate in the bathroom stays in the bathroom.

Let’s not follow that trend.

Like the “Eureka” moment of the ancient Greek scholar Archimedes many of our inventions and ideas were surely envisioned in the bathroom or the toilet.

I personally see my life’s whole picture clearly in the bathroom. Everything from exactly what I need to do to achieve my goals to super easy ways to complete my tasks.

Hell! Even a couple of my blog posts were thought about in the bathroom. At least the initial idea.

Many a times, I be in there like, “okay, this is the plan of action for when I get out”.

But 99% of the times I get out, sit down in front of the computer and before I know it I’m watching my favorite sitcom or movie.

A couple of hours later I’m like damn! another idea goes down the drain – pun intended – and I’m back to feeling wasteful.

So what I do some times is that I take my phone with me, I try to get my ideas down on it and come out and get to work on it until I complete them.

To be honest I wish I can turn it into a room itself. But I’m sure our productivity lasts for a limited time in there as well.

Share any ideas you might have had whilst in there or if you know about anyone who actually worked on their ideas outside as well.

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Listen to yourself. Give yourself that much-needed advice.

Yes! That is the best type of advice. Unless you’re a negative self-talker with low self-confidence levels, in that case cheer up, get busy and go win at life.

For others who just need that little push, do the aforementioned.

To be honest, not long before I started this blog I was from the negative talking/low self-confidence group.

I was as lost in life as a husband is when his wife takes him along for shopping.

I thought about shutting everything down, breaking all bonds and running off to the mountains.

The lack of an internet connection up there made me stay back.

I was tired of the monotony of life, checking my receding finances, my to-do lists (without doing any of it), my goals (that didn’t have any meaning) and just waiting for something to change.

Luckily for me I had written down a few topics of this very blog to post in the future, I sat there reading some of them.

Most of them, are about change, positivity, turnarounds and being happy in general.

That’s when I realized that instead of stressing out why don’t I listen to my own words and change.

If I could give you advice to do well for yourself why can’t I do it for myself.

All my posts are based on my experiences, proving that I have overcome sadness before, then why couldn’t I now.

Thank god for that day, after which I finally started this blog, signed up for an interior designing course and got my finances straight.

We know our own situation better than anybody else.

We find articles on the web about a certain topic relating to our lives but nothing comes close to living our own life.

Use those articles or advice but know that deep down inside only you know what’s best for yourself.

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Career Goals: I write blogs, I study interior designing, I sell photos online.

Do you know why these things are part of my career? Because I love doing them!

I want to do something meaningful, infact I have even gone from being a money minded person to being a happiness oriented one.

Like most people, I just didn’t know what I wanted from life, didn’t know what made me happy.

The way to finding my career path and the things I liked to do took quite some time. But in all that time I did everything I could, whatever came my way I took part in it.

I noticed every moment. These three things – Blogging, Interior Designing and Photography – made me lose track of time.

I would start doing one of them at two in the afternoon and not even realize when the sun would set.

That’s when I knew it! These are the things I want to do forever! These are the things that will be my source of income!

Important to notice that these eureka moments happened recently, at an age when people have a settled career (most of them hate their lives).

So it’s never too late. You could stumble upon it one fine day, just be prepared to embrace it and start with it, don’t let it be just a weekend hobby.

It could be absurd but that could be what you were born to do. Hell! You could be a porn star if you want; maybe all you love is having sex all the time. OBVIOUSLY JOKING!!!

Disclaimer: The above sentence is just as an example! I do not condone such activities.

Do you feel lost right now? Do you think you’re too old to change your life? Have you already found what you love doing? Share it in the comments below.

Have a fun-filled weekend!

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One thing I’ve become more interested in through learning about minimalism is zero-waste. I’m not sure how confident I am that I can be exactly zero waste. But in more holistically understanding the environmental impact of consumerism, I do want to be more conscious.

Those reusable grocery bags are 100x better than plastic bags anyway. That’s a start.

I haven’t learned much about that yet I just know it’s a thing.

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I thank thee on behalf of the environment. Keeo it up. 😊

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“The more you have, the more occupied you are. The less you have the more free you are.”

-Mother Theresa

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What a minimalist life doesn’t look like: “So much to do! All these accounts to take care of! So many friends to deal with!” *Has mental and emotional breakdown*.

Is this happening to you too? I hope not, but if it is then like me you need to take up the minimalist life.

I had a breakdown yesterday and I took a step back and looked at my life from a distance.

It was chaos, it looked like some adventure park – a hundred rides going on together at the same time, a thousand people screaming and shouting.

From today I have temporarily put a hold on two of the five business/work activities I do, and even the two out of the three that continue need the least of my involvement.

And yes, a total stop to outings for now, unless they are soul enriching ones.

Too many friends can cause chaos as well. So let them live their life for the time being and you make sure you’re going in the right direction yourself.

I have also decided to give my all to the most loved activity of my day. I better be good at it!!!

For once I am going to be done with my to-do list (which should have 3 tasks at max now), and I’m going to enjoy the time I have left over.

There is also a minimalist challenge which allows you to own only 100 things (50 if you want to really go for it). I am going to try that challenge, starting today.

This is a temporary route I will be taking. It is going to be a way to get my life on track.

But it can be permanent for you. There are people who have become minimalist and have a great life.

All the best if you are going this way too. Let me know in the comments the changes you made.

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I’m doing everything I love. I’m on the road to success, happiness and contentment. Overcoming a ‘breakup’ – Completed it mate!

It didn’t start this way, this is a result of a long-running turnaround process I undertook after my breakup in 2013.

And in fact I’m in ‘Phase 2’ of said turnaround. Really long-running turnaround huh!

I split with my girlfriend of six years (ten years of knowing each other)

It was the worst time of my life, accompanied with total emotional breakdown, and all that typical drama.

This is not unnatural though; if you had a real thing it does become difficult to handle a breakup.

And to be honest, in my case it was the same, but after a couple of months I learned that the only damn way I am going to come out of this is if I concentrate on loving myself.

I started the best exercise routine of my life (Even now I don’t work that hard).

I teamed up with a good friend and we ventured into a business.

Started to fill my mind with all the knowledge I could.

Brought all the other aspects of my life in line; setting up better systems in my lifestyle than before.

Look, I’m not going to tell you that don’t be sad if you’re going through a breakup with the person you really loved.

Be sad, cry, but don’t stop loving the only person that really matters – YOU!

Write things down, make to-do lists, exercise, go out with your friends, have a good time – you deserve it.

A breakup is an opportunity, especially if you used to give your opposite number the majority of time and attention. It’s your turn now.

So get your act together and if you are half as loving to yourself as I was you’ll be back and running in no time.

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Me: Shit! I’m late… World around me: Hold our beer!

I recently noticed that on the very rare occasion that I’m late, all the powers in the world unite as one to help me – be even more late!

Just another day life tries to laugh at you. Being late attracts late vibes.

The alarm on my phone rings, and like every day I conveniently turn it off without even opening my eyes or even letting my dream sequence break.

But today it’s different; my body clock thinks it is alright to sleep for another half an hour or so, no problem at all.

My departure time is still achievable, but guess what, there are some more potential banana skins left to slip on.

I realize that I can’t use my bathroom because like everyday, my sister’s going to be in there for another hour, but exactly when I need to go.

Somehow I just about get my chores done, I get to my mode of transport – my bike – but it doesn’t want to move, because it wants to have a flat tire today of all days. So I push it to the tyre shop and get it fixed.

It is not over yet, on my way to work I meet my long-lost friend. And we obviously gotta catch up with everything that has happened in the last 10 years.

Finally I am able to reach work. Late but there nonetheless.

The whole point is life can be waiting to screw with you. Trust me, it is right there laughing at you.

But we gotta move on and try to be punctual like me. *Pats own back*

Has this kind of situation ever happened to you, asking the punctual people, because it obviously happens to the slowmo folks every day. Just kidding.

Share your experiences and have a punctual weekend.

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The following phrase sums up what i mean by “Vibes”.

“If you love something with all your heart the whole universe will conspire with you to make it happen.” Don’t know who said it originally but I got it from Bollywood – not the best source for inspiration actually.

I don’t think that was the best segue to my topic, anyways, swiftly moving on. Wait, maybe it is. I’ll let you decide.

There have been days when I’ve just gone about my work and life with all my focus and dedication.

Have a great morning routine, be happy working with people who I hate being with, tick things off my to-do lists successfully, smile at people, make someone laugh, just have a positive aura through the day.

And on days like these, I almost always have good news flowing in and have happier evenings.

The point being that when you let out good vibes, you get nothing but good vibes delivered back to you. It is like a “return to sender” scenario with vibes.

The universe pays its debts – Game of Thrones pun intended – just let out good vibes into the universe and it will return the favor, at least with a 100% interest added to it.

Likewise, when I crib about how bad my day is, it generally gets more miserable.

The best thing to do is just be happy, do your part with dedication and love whatever you’re doing.

This happens to us all but most of the times you tend to not notice it, because you’re either too happy and enjoy all of it or, think that shit keeps happening to you because you have a bad life.

For the people falling in the latter category, you now know that you can take small steps to be happy, and happiness will follow.

Have a great weekend and invest in good vibes and get it back with the added return on investment. 😇

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They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. I say it takes a bit of preparation before that to get habit-forming going in the first place.

I’ve finally started cultivating good habits, lasting longer than a week of having started it.

It isn’t the first time I’ve tried getting into a good habit or tried to be better at something. But this time it’s different, there’s a slightly unique method I’m using – I didn’t start with the changes at all!

There’s no point in trying to do the same thing again, falling into the same hole every time and going back to the bad habits.

So I decided to only concentrate on putting a stop to bad habits first.

To give you an example, I started to sleep earlier instead of planning to wake up early, I stopped doing things like checking social media before bed.

I started closing my eyes and laying there till I fell asleep. So in order to inculcate the habit of rising early I needed to make sure I wasn’t sleeping late.

I know it sounds obvious, but it isn’t to our body’s programming, so you should start programming yourself to undo a bad habit and make it easier to get into a rhythm for the good one to bed in (no pun intended).

This way if you temporarily stop on your good routine you’ll have a good base to start over again. That’s how I do it, hope you can put it to good use.

And begin the weekend by trying to stop your bad habits first, and hopefully by Monday you’ve started the run for a good habit.

Is there a method you use? Some strange and fun way you start off the good run and make sure it sticks? Do share it with me.

Check out my blog maybe 😉. www.bumsteerjournal.com

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Do negative comments pull you down, or depress you, make you feel like a failure?

Then you’re taking it all wrong. In my experience negative comments have helped me more than positive ones, unrealistic positive ones to be specific.

Surely positive comments do help. But sometimes people have unrealistic expectations from you.

People have this assumption about me that I’m going to do something great, or at least take my life to a very good level. I strive to, of course, but I don’t know how they get these ideas. This is the unnecessary pressure you do not need.

What I mean by negative comments being of help to me is that, the negative comments are the ones that encourage me. If you tell me I can’t do it, then I’m surely going to give it my all to do it and prove you wrong.

If someone tells me, for example, a certain girl is out of my league then I’m going to try harder. Just an example, no girl is out of my league by the way.

Jokes apart though, I want you to take these comments as motivation and turn your life around and make the people who try to pull you down eat their words, with some salt and pepper obviously.

Negative comments affected me too, but it is something you can learn to deflect, and I learnt it. Over time you can train yourself to do that.

Haters gonna hate, right! We’re always going to have negative people around us. You can either try to eliminate them from your life or show them how it’s done, prove them wrong. That’s fun to do in my opinion.

Share some stories of your successes – that most people thought you couldn’t achieve. Let’s laugh at them together.

Until next time. Stay positive through the weekend.

Check out my blog @ www.bumsteerjournal.com🤩😇

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400 kilometres away from home, 4 good friends, a place so far from the city that there is no cell reception, and yeah a bottle of the best rum we can afford.

The perfect setting for a peaceful night away from our chaotic lives.

Under the starry night, we crack open the bottle, but pour only three glasses. Yes, I don’t drink. Someone has to drive the damn car, right? But that isn’t the problem, it’s a good thing.

But as the night goes on, my friends begin to realize that we don’t have to go home, which means no facing parents, which in turn means only one thing. Drink till one can’t feel their face.

And I’m sitting there thinking to myself, “Heck, how am I going to handle three people alone.”

These guys are downing peg after peg, and eventually are so drunk that they don’t know anymore which country we’re in. *Facepalm*

The best part is when one of them realizes that I’m his best friend. The only one on the planet. And no, it’s not really the best part.

Let me tell you why it isn’t though: Firstly, we forget that ‘Hindi’ is the official means of communication between us, it’s all English, out of nowhere. And philosophies are in abundance. My personal life becomes a matter of discussion. And my shoulder is a place for venting all anger and crying on all the problems.

That was when I realized, I need to start drinking. But still haven’t been on a second trip, so let’s hope it doesn’t come down to that. All in all, a good trip though.

Share any travel stories you might have. Maybe you are like my friend, a pain in the bum.

Update: I have started drinking now, on special occasions only, it’s fun to be a nuisance to your friends then the other way around though!

Head on to my page or blog for more! Have a sober day😉