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[stillnaomi]

using violence to liberate people from sweatshops, unsafe mines, and grinding poverty isn't the same as using violence to impose those things on people. the idea that violence is morally repugnant regardless of context is a belief that every oppressor throughout history would love for the oppressed to hold

[quastions-i-dont-ask-on-main]

"Why there isn't more trans men in history, contributing to queer advancements?" damn I wonder why people who were previously women that were forced into marriages and into being property either of their fathers or husbands would have a hard time coming out as a trans man. Truly a mystery. Oh wait you're also telling me people that lived their whole lives as men but were outed after they died are actually lesbians that did that to scape sexism? That's so cool. What more are you wrong about.

[midnight-fox-boy]

It's like people forget that a lack of women's rights directly contributed to the majority of trans men being closeted or literally having 0 ability to be themselves.

It's almost like women's rights issues impact everyone.

It's almost like misogyny doesn't stop targeting trans men just because they come out and/or identify as men

The historic trans men we do have clear documentation of, either are STILL having their identities erased, or the history of those who weren't erased is shoved to the sidelines.

And to be fair, It *is* understandable that historically, trans women existing was a big deal. It was showing people that "wow men would throw their rights away??". It's much harder to ignore than someone who's just seen as a "crazy woman" aka hysterical.

But we should do our best to highlight the history we do have, trans men existing and being themselves is just as important as the trans people who advocated back in the day. Existing as yourself is always an achievement.

[caryflynn]

Assigned at birth language and other shorthand

There is are people online who try to police and nitpick anything a queer person has to say. Particularly, what a trans person has to say about their own marginalisation and the subsection of the community they belong to. It does not matter which words you use or new terms you come up with on the spot, they will find something to nag about, because the goal is to make you more reluctant to speak up or silence you altogether. And sadly there are fellow queer people who pull this as well. It is not just bigots who try to play divide and conquer with the LGBTQ community.

I try to avoid afab/amab language when possible, but I will use it when it applies or is the most convenient shorthand.

The fact remains that at this time we are all assigned a gender at birth by the attending doctor or midwife. This gender is then reported to the state and becomes part of our medical history whether we agree or not. No one can opt out. It is marked on every state ID we get issued. This system literally perpetuates systemic sexism, because it gives way too many individuals and organisations access to this piece of information about us. This includes clerks at a liquor store and waiters. Making it easier to change this marker is good, but the presence of said marker on IDs still perpetuates the notion that anyone with a smidgeon of authority is entitled to see this information.

Yes, this system is the worst for intersex people, but it affects everyone. Its original purpose was and is to control women and their fertility. Forcibly normalising intersex people was and is done to uphold the gender binary, because allowing exceptions or ways to opt out undermines a system where anyone who could potentially give birth is accounted for and access to male privilege is strictly gatekept.

I am very much in favour of stopping assigning people in this way at birth or severely restricting who has access to this information. This would mean M/F/X would no longer appear on IDs and would no longer be issued to schools and prospective employers etc. It would be strictly need to know in as few instances as possible. However, at this time, this is the system we live in and it has very real consequences for everyone, perisex people, intersex, cis and trans people. I am not going to deny the power these social constructs hold over us, because they can have literal life and death consequences. Moreover, I am not going to write an entire essay like this one every time when I want to write a 1-5 sentence comment when a simple abbreviation will do. All words are imperfect, but using them is better than not communicating at all.

[foone]

Important rules for the "age verification" era of the internet that we're living in:

1. Do not do age verification.

2. If you have to do age verification, cheat. Do not under any circumstances give them your real ID.

[very-gay-alkyrion]

Free Tool Says it Can Bypass Discord's Age Verification Check With a 3D Model

The tool presents users with a 3D model they can then manipulate to, the creator says, bypass Discord's age verification system.

Oh no I dropped my link, what a horrible thing! Sure hope this doesn't get reblogged until it reaches users from the UK and Brazil!

And remember to not make a second account just to test out what works best when verifying your identity

[asksanguinius40k]

A reminder that we still dont support Age Verification bullshit.

[flower-crowns-and-combat-boots]

Paywall removed here

[hungrymilliek]

Aaand here's the link to the project's Github.

GitHub - promptpirate-x/discord-id-bypass-tool: A verified tool that works on any potato computer that will let you bypass discord verificat

A verified tool that works on any potato computer that will let you bypass discord verification - promptpirate-x/discord-id-bypass-tool

[caryflynn]

Even if you can conclusively prove that a given group is more privileged than you are, that still does not entitle you to single out a random member of said group to harass or abuse. Nor does it entitle you to police the language the more privileged group uses to describe their own lived experiences with marginalisation and systemic issues they face. Where I live, well educated white cis gay men tend to be more privileged in some workplaces compared to equally well educated white cis women. Regardless, white cis gay men are certainly more privileged than the average trans person. That does not mean that I would under any circumstances be okay with someone bullying a cis man because he is gay or people think he is. Nor would I tell him to shut up when he discusses the marginalisation he and fellow gay men experience. There are no acceptable targets. Stop abusing your fellow humans. No, your marginalised status does not mean that you are incapable of being abusive or oppressive yourself.

[waterlilyworld]

Maybe going to kick the hornets nest here, but I wish people would specifically acknowledge which trans men and transmascs are the most likely to actually experience SA when talking about our SA statistics. Yes all trans men and mascs face higher rates of sexual violence compared to other people within their racial group (besides being about equal to AFAB non-binary people); but according to the USTS 2015, indigenous, Middle Eastern/North African, and Multiracial AFAB people are the most likely groups in the entire trans community to face sexual violence.

We need to speak up against all sexual violence against trans men and enbies but I feel like we're doing a disservice to Indigenous, MENA, and Multiracial TM and enbies to not include that they're the one's who are facing these things at the highest rates. ESPECIALLY indigenous TM and enbies who face rates of sexual violence at almost 3 out if ever 4 people. It would be like talking about the rates of violence that trans women and fems face without bringing up that Black and Indigenous trans women/fems are at the highest risk.

SA rates for trans men and AFAB non-binary people averaged together for each of the racial/ethnic groups featured in the USTS 2015 btw.

American Indian: 72.5%

ME/NA: 64.5%

Multiracial: 62.5%

Black: 58%

White: 55.5%

Latine: 51.5%

Asian: 44.5%

yes !! i’ve been meaning to make a more in depth post about this for ages, i’m really glad you brought it up, the statistics for brown and black people are fucking horrifying. it’s one of the entire reasons i get so frustrated with all of this stupid fuckin gender war shit about who has it worse when the only area of real difference in severity and outcome are with black and brown trans people, it all comes down to race not gender. and for some reason no one ever seems to want to talk about it. i hear constantly that trans men don’t want to acknowledge our privilege but i am well comfortable with acknowledging the privilege i hold as a white passing trans person, i have no issue with seeing where i’ve got it easier, and where i can use that power to help others. i just refuse to acknowledge privilege that isn’t there only so people can feel more comfortable in their worldviews with a nice bow tied around their cis centric feminism, without us irritating trans men mucking it all up. i don’t know about you but i for one plan to muck it all up constantly until i blink out [salute]

thank you again for bringing this up, and i sure hope we haven’t degraded enough as a society that saying something like this would be kicking a hornets nest. this is just, factual, accurate, and incredibly necessary information, and i’m very glad you said something.

link to the survey if anyone wants to go read it.

[iwilleatyourenglish]

i think it's actually really horrifying and detrimental that it's considered socially unacceptable to tell parents when they are making mistakes while raising their kids

[caryflynn]

Feedback in regards to child rearing from the community and schools should be normal. It should not only happen when there are severe issues. A lot of abuse and neglect can be prevented if parents are offered help and if they know that the community will not accept child abuse. Children should be taught certain life skills in school including hygiene and be informed about their rights to compensate for both oversight and neglect on their parents' part.

[caryflynn]

You are not the Language Police

You do not get to dictate what language members of other marginalised groups are allowed to use when they discuss their own lived experience with oppression and other marginalisation. Doing so is oppressive behaviour. Please, stop. No, this behaviour does not become magically alright by claiming that your own identity is more oppressed than the group you are trying to police. The fact that you feel entitled to repeatedly go up to these people and tell them what words they can and cannot use for their own experiences strongly implies that you are not less privileged than them and that you know this very well. This particularly applies to adjacent groups that you share an umbrella with. Examples include most instances of respectability politics: men of from a given marginalised ethnic group who try to silence or police women and LGBTQ people from their own ethnic group. Feminist groups where white straight women try to silence women of colour and queer women. Within the LGBTQ community, it is cis gays, lezzes and bis trying to silence or police trans people and queers. Within the trans community, it is talking over and trying to silence other subcategories of trans people one does not belong to and disregarding intersections such as race, class and disability within one's own group.

[crippled-peeper]

“people won’t be friends with you if you’re mean to them” is something you have GOT to learn in adulthood if you never learned it as a shut-in internet-socialized youth. you can’t just go up and say to ppl to shut the fuck up and kill themselves all the time and then expect people to genuinely care for you.

[caryflynn]

In general, you cannot have healthy relationships as an adult, if you have not unpacked growing up in an abusive household or spent time being part of a toxic community or peer group.

You cannot randomly raise your voice in anger, call people names or casually threaten them. No, that is not “all in good fun”; you are bullying someone. This is abusive and possibly a crime. Self-respecting people do not put up with that crap. If you are lucky, people will explain this to you, but usually they will simply avoid you and warn others about you behind your back.

[caryflynn]

Hate-groups & bigots are bullies.

It is important to recognise that hate-groups and bigots are bullies. You should take their aggression and harmful intentions seriously, but not their stated beliefs. They want to hurt people that they have designated as "acceptable targets". They use their stated ideology to dress up and defend their bullying of said "acceptable targets". This is why they reason in bad faith and hop from one argument or justification to another when you debate them. The goal is hating and hurting their intended victims; not their stated principles or a coherent world view. This is why they act in bad faith and why you cannot truly politically compromise with them. They want to hurt others and to take away all measures that protect their intended victims from them. So a compromise means making other people less safe from them, which to them is a win and will embolden them to tear down even more safety measures and basic human rights of the people they want to hurt. This is why there is no true single issue / target / victim just a "favoured victim". Racists are also misogynists who hate queer people no matter how much they claim otherwise and vice versa. When certain target groups become too well protected the hate-groups will rebrand and choose new targets until they have removed enough protections to go after their previous targets again as well. Examples include European Rightwing Extremist parties swapping out anti-Semitism for both Pro-Zionism and Islamophobia and the GOP swapping out hatred against Gays & Lesbians for scaremongering about trans people. It does not take much to scratch their veneer and make them admit that they still hate and want to hurt the Jews & the Gays and of course uppity women and other minorities. They love to use religion as a shield, because that is a protected category, not because they take their supposed faith seriously in and of itself. This is why most of them do not know their own scriptures and often casually violate the basic tenets of their faith. Their religion is not supposed to interfere with their own fun. Their faith is just a tool to oppress and hurt others. They do not take it seriously outside those goals. This is why they mostly laugh it off, when outsiders point out their hypocrisy. They do not care about those parts of their faith and they never will.