Philosophy and Shit

[casyndrome]

I'm hopeful that when Gen Z gets into office, a lot of things will be fixed

Free healthcare, legal abortions, lgbt+ rights, women's right, better treatment of poc, etc.

But I'm not gonna lie, I feel it will come at a heavy cost because the majority of Gen Z is... immature to put it nicely

Im not a political guy but even I can tell yall can't do politics for shit. I would heavily recommend taking your social issue of interest and either take a college class on it, or study it some other way. Gain better perspectives and ideas

[casyndrome]

Remember when some of us tried to warn yall that the government was severely corrupt and running illegal operations and working against our best interests?

And remember when, instead of listening, you called us crazy conspiracy theorists?

And notice how you're still doing It even when the evidence is right in front of you?

But instead of learning yall will just keep letting shit happen and then cry about "if only we'd seen this sooner"

Yeah, if only

[alivehouse]

i think many people on this site would benefit from taking a step back and looking a the actual words theyre typing out once in a while

[alivehouse]

i think many people would also benefit from considering saying sth along the lines of "sorry, i said something in poor taste while i was mad" every once in a while instead of doubling down as well

[overclockedopossum]

If you tell neurodivergent people they need to "get comfortable with being uncomfortable" I am putting gravel in your shoes. No you can't take the gravel out. You have to deal with it. Dealing with it makes you a better person. What do you mean "pointless suffering".

[casyndrome]

"I'd be careful who you judge, Tisaanah. Maybe one day you'll stand where I do. You'll cut away every weakness. You'll make every sacrifice. And then the world will look at you and sneer at your inhumanity, as if you didn't just become everything they told you to be."

Nura

Carissa Broadbent

Children of Fallen Gods

[this-is-trans-joy]

everyone loves to hate terfs until they realise that it actually entails rejecting bioessentialism entirely and then suddenly you’re “taking things too seriously” and you “don’t have a sense of humour” like i’m sorry but saying protect the dolls doesn’t make you immune to terfism it has seeped into every corner of mainstream feminism and unless you’re actively searching it out and checking your own biases you will always be at risk of sharing a space with terfs

[this-is-trans-joy]

“Only women can—” nope. “But all men—” nah. “The divine femininity of—” gonna stop you right there. “Everyone born ama—” if you finish that sentence I’ll kill you. “Men don’t experience—” you’re wrong. “Gender isn’t real but sex is imm—” *loud incorrect buzzer*

It also goes without saying that bioessentialism inherently can’t be trans inclusive no matter how hard you try. “All men including trans men—” probably not. “This is only a woman’s issue—” is it really? “Afabs only—” why? “All trans men are like—” what? what are they like? finish the sentence i dare you.

[casyndrome]

Love how I've been saying this for a while and was only told repeatedly I was wrong and even had a few people tell me to kms for being "ant-feminist"

But what else is new? I named my blog after Cassandra for a reason

Nice that people are finally catching up tho

[homunculus-argument]

Fun fact: if you, as an adult, tell miserable children that their youth is the best that life will ever be, and that it's all just downhill from there, there's a percentage of them who will hear this and think "well, I guess I better kill myself before that happens." And a certain percentage of those will proceed to do that and succeed.

Anyway what I'm saying is that any time you feel tempted to say that, you should instead consider shutting the fuck up. Just because you peaked at 16 doesn't mean anyone else did. Most peoples' lives get better than that.

[casyndrome]

"But I only vent these feelings fully to those I know will understand, or try to understand, where I'm coming from. Because... if I'm in a situation where those I'm speaking to don't have any clue where I'm coming from, and don't care to, then speaking my mind will only make a bad situation worse."

Aiko

Six Questions of Socrates

Author: Christopher Phillips

[snapcracklepop-myjoints]

i dont CARE that its your special interest bitch whats your SOURCE !!!!!!

[casyndrome]

Every time I've dug up sources I've been hit with the "I ain't reading that" or "I don't accept anything from google"

Ive started telling people to just do their own research instead of wasting my time 😭

[casyndrome]

Being anti self diagnosis, especially when the self diagnoses is "yeah I've done thorough research and it all lines up so I should probably get this checked" is just another form of mental health stigma btw

You don't see a vast majority of people saying "no, your throat doesn't hurt. A doctor didn't say it did, and youre stupid for even thinking that the very obvious symptoms could be a problem"

You don't see people saying "you can't just diagnose yourself with seasonal allergies. It's too common of an issue. You MUST be faking"

You don't see peope saying "you found a lump in your breast? Yeah right. Cancer is SERIOUS, you cant just make up symptoms. Don't bother seeking help, you're literally just overexaggerating"

Mental illness/disability is not some incomprehensible make believe thing with symptoms that only a magic doctor can see. It's actually incredibly easy to research, and doctors can only diagnose you if YOU notice something is wrong and then come to them. They aren't gonna climb through your window with a magic wand and give you mental issues. The symptoms and illness are there before the diagnosis. Just like with anything else.

Mental ailments deserve to be treated with same attitude and physical ailments

[prokopetz]

It's striking how much mental health advice directed at kids and teenagers boils down to saying "you have to be okay with people treating you like you're not fully human because they're right, but it's okay because one day you will be human", then being genuinely surprised when it doesn't help.

[status-quo-hater]

This might be a hot take but you absolutely need to learn the difference between someone who knowingly undermines and dismisses someone's boundaries, and someone who misinterprets where those boundaries are. These are not the same thing and treating them as equal is a disservice to your neurodivergent peers.

I have met a lot of autistic people who have said and done stuff that has made me uncomfortable. What I do about it is directly tell them what they did wrong and not to do it again because I don't like it. 99% of the time, it never happens again. Because the original action wasn't done out of disregard for my boundaries and autonomy, but due to obliviousness.

Being autistic doesn't make people turn into sexual harassers but it does make people more likely to miss, misinterpret, and misjudge more subtle social cues. Which can lead to behavior that bothers people and needs to be corrected.

Yes, if you're socially inept, and you're aware of that, you should be taking extra care to make sure you aren't doing something that makes someone uncomfortable. That doesn't diminish the importance of actually directly establishing when something is upsetting you, because it's not inherently obvious to everyone.

TL;DR, there's a difference between a guy who doesn't care about your discomfort and an autistic person who's really bad at flirting.

[casyndrome]

I'd like to add to this

People need to learn the difference between someone who is actually maliciously toxic, vs someone who just doesn't know

Give people some grace

A LOT of people are "toxic" purely by accident because they don't know better, or maybe they are aware and they're healing but they made a mistake or they just don't know everything yet

Maybe someone's opinion or take is truly malicious, or maybe they're hurting or misinformed and no one took the time to actually sit, talk, and explain.

Maybe your friend is "using you as a therapist" or maybe, they're just coming to you in trust because you're supposedly their friend and your boundaries are just shit, that's not their fault

Maybe your partner is using weaponized incompetence, or maybe they were just genuinely never taught a certain set of life skills cause some parents are shit

Taking the time to just hear someone out and see their point of view can do a lot, instead of immediately jumping to false pop psychology and cancel culture

Some people are malicious and horrid and don't wanna change. Some people aren't.

Im so sick of this bs going around just cause people are lazy, it's harming FAR more than it's helping

[luulapants]

I love when people get mad at explanations of why people do bad things, as if any explanation other than "they're evil and they want to" is endorsing that behavior. I'm sorry, was the idea of ontologically evil people load-bearing to your Neo-Calvinist worldview? Fuck off! Exploring the reasons behind a behavior is the ONLY first step in getting people to stop. Anything else is just virtue signaling.

[casyndrome]

Remember when some of us were saying for YEARS that the government couldn't be trusted, all these big wigs were working together with malicious intent, there was some shady shit going on, and CPS was actually a trafficking agency? Among other things.

Remeber how people were coming forth with personal experience and stories trying to warn everyone and put a stop to it?

Remember how we were called crazy conspiracy theorists for it?

Remember how the victims, or almost victims, were blatantly ignored because "people wouldn't risk their jobs and positions for that", "that's unrealistic", "you just want attention."

Yeah....

This blood is staining a lot of yalls hands too and you have to face that. Silence was compliance.

You could've listened and you didn't. It was easier to mock. You may feel bad now and wanna play good guy, but you need to sit with what you did, and if you really care, you'll own up and apologize

But no, the majority of people I confront about this Behavior just double down and say "quit pretending like you knew any of this before us. Trying to feel special 🙄". No. You're trying to avoid guilt.

Shame on you.

[thepplprty]

Part of the reason why I'm so passionate about being against the whole 'kill all men' mindset is because it does affect me directly as a trans woman.

If you're the type of person who automatically assumes men are bad people, then I have news for you. That assumption isn't going to wait until I tell you I'm trans. You're going to—whether subconsciously or consciously—assume I am just a man, and even after I tell you I am a trans woman your perception of me will still be permanently altered.

Discriminatatory beliefs aren't going to wait for me to tell you my pronouns.

I grew up in Florida, where at the age of twelve I was a victim of terror campaigns telling adults that I was going to sexually assault their children in the bathrooms, specifically because of the reason that 'men are all evil.'

I went through way too much at the hands of those people to see practically every ""leftist"" online continuing to push that ideology. Unlearn it. Please. It directly affects us trans women, too.

I still, to this day, have internalized this ideology, and I cannot look at myself in the fucking mirror because I think to myself people see me as a threat, no one feels safe around me. As a direct result of 'all men are evil.'

It doesn't matter whether or not transfemmes are your intended target. You are hurting us just as much as you're hurting everyone else.

[thepplprty]

We can't just hide this statement in the tags.

[casyndrome]

(adding questionable Tags to get this to those who need to see it)

[sodapillz]

If you’re really a “mental health advocate”, you’ll have to acknowledge people who lack empathy, people who can’t physically care about other people, people who are narcissistic and/or self serving, people who have homicidal thoughts, people who are extreme attention seekers, people who have unstable and erratic emotions, etc etc…

Mental health advocacy doesn’t stop at disorders you “just don’t like”.

[casyndrome]

yes, thank, omfg

I can't tell you how many times I have seen someone Proclaim themselves to be a mental health advocate but then when put to the test they fail horribly. Like you can tell they cheated on every answer and still somehow got it wrong

You are not a mental health Advocate just because you made one post on the internet 5 years ago saying that suicide is bad, especially if you then turn around and start misusing mental health terms or bullying people who aren't exhibiting symptoms of mental illness that you can fetishize

You are not a mental health advocate if you just told someone with depression that "crying it out is ok" but then shamed them for forgetting to brush their teeth

Telling people to just be more positive and get good does not make you a mental health advocate

Knowing more than just two types of anxiety does not make you a mental health advocate

Being a mental health Advocate means that you understand, or at the very least are trying to learn and understand, mental health in all its forms and knowing all of its side effects and being comfortable talking about the ugly side of it as well

Being a mental health Advocate means that you educate yourself properly and educate others properly to the absolute best of your ability

If the extent of your mental health advocacy is saying that the social anxiety and depression are big uwu no-nos but then you turn around and bully people with the more stigmatized mental illnesses like BPD or npd, you're not a mental health Advocate you're just looking to feel important and you are only performing and you're doing a bad job at it for that matter

[what-even-is-thiss]

Seeing people say that trans men don’t experience specific oppression because “women don’t have power over men” wow boy do I have a long list of things you could be made aware of my friend

[what-even-is-thiss]

A blanket statement that “women don’t have power over men” is crazy like have you been taught in school about white women owning slaves? Straight women going on massive campaigns against gay men? Are you aware of how cis women treat trans men? Have you been taught nothing in school or your personal life of how white women use their perceived fragility to harm black men even today? Have you noticed how differently people tend to view women teachers who sleep with their students as opposed to men?

Intersectional feminism can and should look at the ways that privileged women use their positions to harm people around them, including underprivileged men. If you make that kind of blanket statement, like where have you been for the past five hundred years?

[what-even-is-thiss]

Like especially if you’re an American saying that. That gets me so pissed off. White women regularly got black men lynched on purpose using their position as white women to do it. There is a long, long history of white cis women in the United States using their position in society to hurt people. Learn your own damn history.

[what-even-is-thiss]

I’m just so pissed off after seeing that, dude. Just because you experience oppression doesn’t mean that you can’t also be an oppressor because of your position. Learn some self awareness. You’re an adult. Come to terms with your capacity for harm. Learn some fucking nuance.