Philosophy and Shit

[casyndrome]

If you get into a "my dick is bigger" match with your kid, trying to throw your authority around and prove youre so big and tough instead of talking with your child, finding out what's wrong, and teaching them to get through it and express future issues in a healthy manner,

You are the problem, not the child

And in trying to not embarrass yourself by being all "im tough and in charge" you actually are only embarrassing yourself

[casyndrome]

radfems and toxic feminists who use feminism the way toxic Christians use the Bible will be called out by me, yes.

Because I give a shit about equality being taken seriously and succeeding.

[casyndrome]

"The movement, despite all that  it has made, ultimately needs to return to its roots: simply promoting gender equality, eliminating harmful stereotypes and empowering women. True feminism lies not in female domination... but in uplifting women and creating a society where people of all genders are treated and respected as equals."

Emma Fung

[casyndrome]

"While the feminist movement originally sought to advance women’s rights and bridge the gap of gender disparity, the face of feminism in the media tends to worsen gender wars rather than solve them. "

Emma Fung

[casyndrome]

"While blaming men for everything may seem empowering and defiant for some women, it ultimately weakens the feminist movement by shifting the focus from achieving equality to encouraging further gender division. More importantly, male bashing enforces the misconception that feminism is primarily anti-men, which leads to resistance against feminist ideals and discourages women from proclaiming themselves as feminists. "

Emma Fung

[casyndrome]

I'm not gonna completely blame modern feminists and radfems for being so hateful. Human civilizations have a history of being unkind to women and anger at abuse and injustice is natural and should be expected. This anger and rioting was a long time comin'. But at the same time, these women need to grow up and understand when they shouldn't inject themselves into certain spaces and certain parts of feminism. They need to know when they're only coming from a place of emotional immaturity and lack of logic. They shouldn't be making big decisions or acting the spokeswomen when they can't balance emotion and logic. These women deserve to feel heard and deserve to share their stories, yes. They deserve to heal, but they need their own, clearly defined, sub-section of feminism to do that instead of fucking up our progress and movement and debates. They need to stop speaking over those who can properly help. The anger is justified, but destroying feminism and then getting mad when they're called out on it is not. If they truly cared about feminism like they say, they'd acknowledge the damage they're causing, stop, and they'd start working to repair that damage.

[casyndrome]

"In the pursuit of liberation, some feminists have veered into a dangerous landscape where the goal of equality is lost in harmful stereotypes and gender wars."

Emma Fung

[casyndrome]

"The movement has shifted from its original goal of gender equality to a focus on female dominance... emphasizing gender division rather than true empowerment."

Emma Fung The issue of modern feminism: Don’t mistake progress for exploitation

[casyndrome]

"These aspects of the third-wave deserve nothing but mockery.... This flawed ideology only results in women being hurt further, and we have enough of that in the world."

Moumita Doghol The Flaws of Modern Feminism

[casyndrome]

"Third-wave feminism has become a radical fallacy of what feminism was meant to be."

Moumita Dighol The Flaws of Modern Feminism

[casyndrome]

"Despite all this, possibly the worst thing about this third-wave is its clear promise to push men away from the movement.... Feminism is meant to be equality of the sexes, yet around the same time that third-wave feminism took off, the phrase 'Kill All Men' and gender wars became more prevalent. 'Women have it harder,' 'All of women’s problems come from men so we should just kill them off,' and other ironically anti-feminist phrases arose with the third-wave.... Feminists want men to be champions of the movement as well, yet preach about killing them off."

Moumita Dighol The Flaws of Modern Feminism

[casyndrome]

 "Despite all the child brides, female genital mutilation in third-world countries, women forced to cover every inch of their bodies and women whose right to cover have been literally stripped, and rampant sexual violence against women — we choose to address pit hair first.... This is not to say the third wave hasn’t touched upon the more significant issues at all, however, more attention has been given to trivial social inconveniences. Third-wave feminism has been, for a large part, blinded to real crimes against women."

Moumita Dighol The Flaws of Modern Feminism

[casyndrome]

I wonder if people who claim to hate entire groups of individuals are just confused and misled or are lacking the proper vocabulary and what they actually mean is they hate the systems.

For example:

"I hate all men! All men suck!" Do they actually mean all men as individuals or do they mean they hate patriarchy the system?

"Fucking white people. They're all so racist and privleged." All white people individually? Or do you mean the system that favors them? (Not to mention working class whites like the mountain people but that's another discussion)

"ACAB". All cops? Every individual who's been a cop? Or is it the system that punishes and fires the good ones that bad?

"All healthcare professionals are money hungry assholes." All of them individually? Or is it the healthcare system that rewards bad doctors while suppressing good ones that's the problem?

And so on.

I think it would be incredibly beneficial if people learned to distinguish individuals from systems and learned to direct their hate where it actually belongs and be more clear and accurate about what they really mean. It would cause less confusion and be more Progressive.

And if you're not confused about what you're saying and you're somebody who stereotypes and genuinely believes that all individuals in a certain group are bad then you are the problem and you need to reevaluate some things. Unless of course the group of individuals you're calling bad are Nazis or the KKK or people like them, those groups are voluntary and nobody who joins them has good intentions.

But being born a certain gender or color does not automatically make someone a bad person just because they were born into a part of a system they can't control.

Becoming a healthcare provider or a doctor is voluntary but not every individual goes into those professions with bad intentions, a lot do but some don't and it's the system that is the problem not every single individual.

[casyndrome]

Do you actually hate all men, the individuals, or do you hate patriarchy the system?

[maple-salad]

op says we can repost

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

It's always "stop harming yourself or we'll have to lock you up!!!" and never "what do you need to change to want to harm yourself less and how can we help you make some of these changes?" and that's why we're not getting anywhere