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Inactive Side Blog - This is my blog for mental disorders and health, especially ADHD. You can also expect posts about things I don't relate to but do support and want to help spread awareness. - ADHD-PI | Anxiety | Depression | Psych Nerd - If you follow me and have a trigger (or any content that you don’t want to see) message me and I’ll do my best to tag. I usually tag stuff that I feel crosses an indefinable nsfw line. - Main: chatdomestique - Radfems, Nazis, Trumeds, Exclusionists, Pedos, and anyone who sexualizes LGBTQ folk can fuck off.

[chatdomestique]

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I just had a goddamn epiphany!

If you have this same issue, make yourself a Responsibilities To-Do List and a separate ADHD To-Do List for those distracting thoughts.

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[Image Description: iphone text message conversation.

Sender: “I’m a dumbass

Receiver: “Why”

Sender: “So you know how whenever I don’t do what I’m supposed to do it’s usually because I had a thought that my adhd convinces me is urgent because I can and will forget it so I act on the thought and snowball into the abyss?”

Receiver: “Yea”

Sender: “I just realized if I just kept a notebook on me to write those thoughts down for later, that wouldn’t fucking happen”

End Description]

[chatdomestique]

If I decide to do the YouTube thing, what would y’all be interested in me talking about?

I’d definitely like to do videos on psychological and queer topics, and I might get @pechaberi to talk about political and sociological topics with me as well. I do intend to make the videos well-researched and at least somewhat scripted as well.

For visuals, I’d like to do either animatics and/or speed draws depending on the topic and my mood.

Let me know what y’all think and if there’s anything in particular that you think I should do.

[rosswoodpark]

‪GOD I found another article about why ADHD kids say “I don’t know” so much. my entire childhood was getting yelled at for doing some ADHD shit and me not being able to offer an explanation when asked why I did something. ‬

[abcsofadhd]

Adding to this, its cause of our executive dysfunction and emotional dysregulation (naturally there’s more things at play than just these two but I’m naming main aspects).

We tend to have alexithymia, meaning we have difficulty identifying and describing own feelings. 

You can’t say how you feel if you legit don’t know.

Self monitoring is an executive function; our self awareness about how we are doing presently .. which is hampered in ADHDers. 

You can’t say what you think if you legit don’t know.

[gayvian]

oh my god

[theinvisiblecamel]

I know we like to talk about as autistic kids who’re geniuses with numbers, or beautiful musicians, or incredible artists. But that’s really not the norm. Autistic kids aren’t all savants. I have an autistic sister, and have worked with people on the spectrum, and most of the time you’ll find that autistic people are just autistic. And they don’t have to make up for it by having a brilliant mind. They don’t have to prove their value by being special in certain areas. They’re valuable because they’re people. Don’t spread the idea that autistic people have to be savants. That’s just perpetuating the idea that impairments are something to be ashamed of

[kipplekipple]

Hey jesus we found it, you guys

We found a post that says “my sister is autistic” and “I’ve worked with autistic people,” and it made a good and valid point instead of being full of trash

I never thought I’d see the day

[adhd-alien]

I think I’ve had identity issues most of my life because my ADHD would switch between extremes that made not much sense when paired up.

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

[beautyinthebelfry]

I am diagnosed with schizophrenia but I feel like I am an autistic person plus hallucination and voices. I can relate to the autistic community, and I have most of the traits. Realizing this has brought me progress with my self-care, which has helped me cope with my schizophrenia. I don’t feel like I need another diagnosis; everyone in my life already gives me all the accommodations I need, I’m the one that has trouble accepting my limitations. Thank you all for sharing your experiences.

[13faeinapenguinsuit]

I don’t know how much you know about autism, but about seventy years or so ago it was called, “childhood schizophrenia”. We know now that it isn’t a type of schizophrenia, but there are still a lot of shared traits; so much so that when many of us get a clinical diagnosis we test sub-clinical or even clinical for schizophrenia despite not having it. Some of us do have both (though I couldn’t tell you what the rate of comorbidity on that one is, as I’ve never looked it up specifically).

I am glad you can relate and that our experiences have helped you. I am of the personal opinion that even if you are not autistic, if our experiences help you then you should make use of our experiences.

[votedami]

The thing I hate most about depression is that it tricks you into thinking you don’t have depression. It makes you think that nothing is wrong with you, that you just feel this way because you lack value as a person. Whether that’s in your relationships, your academics, or a view of yourself, it makes you think you aren’t good enough for any of that.

“It’s not the illness,” it says, “You feel this way because it’s who you are.”

[adhdedrn]

“Mental illness is like fighting a war where the enemy’s strategy is to convince you that the war isn’t actually happening.”

[disease-danger-darkness-silence]

Me: I can’t get out of bed today, what is wrong with me. I’m so lazy and terrible and I am a huge flake and there has got to be something wrong with me. My brain: There is no war in Ba Sing Se.

[adhd-alien]

‪The incorrect and negative beliefs we can get from years of negative feedback not knowing we have ADHD or how it affects our lives. While not everything is solely caused by ADHD, it can affect us and our comorbidities in many, many ways. Good news is, treating ADHD can do wonders for Anxiety and Depression!

[chatdistraite]

This hit hard

[geniusoflove]

at level 20 of adhd you can read a book and listen to a podcast at the same time

[geniusoflove]

at level 40 you can read a transcript of a podcast while listening to an audiobook

[grimeygruel]

And you don't process any of it

[geniusoflove]

well of course not im thinking about something someone said to me 3 years ago that triggered my rejection sensitive dysphoria

[kestrel-tree]

Ridiculous yet effective ways to deal with Executive Dysfunction

Dealing with executive dysfunction and ADHD becomes so much easier when you stop trying to do things the way you feel like you should be able to do them (like everyone else) and start finding ways that actually work for you, no matter how “silly” or “unnecessary” they seem.

For years my floor was constantly covered in laundry. Clean laundry got mixed in with dirty and I had to wash things twice, just making more work for myself. Now I just have 3 laundry bins: dirty (wash it later), clean (put it away later), and mystery (figure it out later). Sure, theoretically I could sort my clothes into dirty or clean as soon as I take them off and put them away straight out of the dryer, but realistically that’s never going to be a sustainable strategy for me.

How many garbage bins do you need in a bedroom? One? WRONG! The correct answer is one within arms reach at all times. Which for me is three. Because am I really going to get up to blow my nose when I’m hyperfocusing? NO. In allergy season I even have an empty kleenex box for “used tissues I can use again.” Kinda gross? Yeah. But less gross than a snowy winter landscape of dusty germs on my desk.

I used to be late all the time because I couldn’t find my house key. But it costs $2.50 and 3 minutes to copy a key, so now there’s one in my backpack, my purse, my gym bag, my wallet, my desk, and hanging on my door. Problem solved.

I’m like a ninja for getting pout the door past reminder notes without noticing. If I really don’t want to forget something, I make a physical barrier in front of my door. A sticky note is a lot easier to walk past than a two foot high cardboard box with my wallet on top of it.

Executive dysfunction is always going to cause challenges, but often half the struggle is trying to cope by pretending not to have executive dysfunction, instead of finding actual solutions.

[kasettetape]

Wow actual stuff about executive dysfunction on here, this is so helpful thank you

[adhighdefinition]

no one ever talks about the part of adhd where everyone in your class has got their group of friends and you’re just there, mindlessly tagging along with anyone who is willing to put up with you for a few minutes. either you’re too loud or too quiet. if you’re lucky, it won’t affect you much. you’re a loner, so what? but then the moments come around where you find yourself yearning to be like the others. you’re not depressed, why would you be? you’re a child who just happens to be a little different. sure, you’re usually the last choice when it comes to groups and you’re rarely, if ever, invited to birthday parties but… it’s alright. everything is fine. or is it?

[adhighdefinition]

for the people questioning whether this really is part of adhd or not

[thatgirlwithadhd]

In case anyone was wondering, this is Dr. Russell Barkley, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and expert on ADHD. 

This quote comes from his lecture “30 Essential Ideas You Should Know about ADHD,” which you can find on YouTube as a 27-video playlist. This part is specifically in the second video of that playlist (about 8 minutes in).

I highly recommend watching these videos. If you can’t focus that long (I can’t, lol), then open the transcripts and read through them. Lots of info.

[the-bright-path-deactivated2021]

THAT’S AN ADHD THING??

[cassioppeia-star]

- Depression/ is one of the most common mental illnesses in the world, and it’s also one of the most easily missed. While most people would describe it as a prolonged period of sadness, it’s much more than that, and it’s definitely not one you can “snap out of” as many people erroneously think. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working. To be diagnosed with depression, the symptoms must be present for at least two weeks. Depression can happen at any age, but often begins in adulthood. Depression is now recognized as occurring in children and adolescents, although it sometimes presents with more prominent irritability than low mood. Many chronic mood and anxiety disorders in adults begin as high levels of anxiety in children.

Here are 20 Unexpected Symptoms of Mental Illnesses You Probably Never Knew

- Meditation/ is a practice where an individual uses a technique – such as mindfulness, or focusing their mind on a particular object, thought or activity – to train attention and awareness, and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm and stable state.

Meditation offers time for relaxation and heightened awareness in a stressful world where our senses are often dulled. Research suggests that meditation has the potential for more than just temporary stress relief.

Educators, spiritual leaders, and mental health experts have developed dozens of forms of meditation. The variety suggests there is a form of meditation to suit most people, regardless of personality or lifestyle.

Here are a Few Guides to Meditation

[2helela2]

“Depressed people are less likely to post picture of their faces,”

Even the picture of me isn’t showing my face… that much. Oh and the “black and white filters?”?

I mean… I was diagnosed with depression…

[bisexualdemiqueen]

I haven’t been diagnosed with depression but I did go to therapy when I was in high school. I feel like I might need it again, I work and I went to school but I just don’t want to be around people. I will continue my education online and I will keep working but I wish I had more energy. I was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia and my engery levels are really low and I don’t have much time to be with my friends. I wish my mom understood better, she doesn’t and before I was officially diagnosed, she would tell me to stop whining. When I was in high school, she thought my depression was me being possessed and not actually depression even though she was depressed at some point in her life. When she realized before, sending me to therapy, she would tell me I had nothing to be depressed about. My depression isn’t being sad all the time, its about having no energy to do what I love and while half of that is also the fibromyalgia, I sometimes don’t feel like eating or sleeping. Sometimes I wonder what life would be like if I was in a mental institution or if I didn’t have to go to college and have a job which requires me to be around people. I love working with children but some days, I just don’t want to do anything. I used to write when I was deep in depression but now I don’t even want to write. I read fanfiction and I listen to music but sometimes I wish there was nothing I had to do, work, school, having a plan for the future. It’s too stressful.

[er0ses-deactivated20191114]

i feel weird cause all i post on my instagram are selfies but i think that may be cause i hate my body so much… i haven’t been diagnosed with depression but the intense periods of sadness and anxiety i experiment for even months on end can’t be normal…

[kathysannoying]

I got diagnosed with major depressive disorder almost a year ago in that time I’ve lost and gained more Weight than I ever have, self care is up and down and I deleted majority of my pictures of myself off my social media but I’ve been on anti depressants since my diagnosis and it definitely helps and when I’m more financially stable I’ll be going to therapy consistently but symptoms still linger it’s a very odd feeling you never just snap out of it and it’s not always sadness it kinda feels like your in limbo all the time it’s like that episode of spongebob when squidward finally moved away. I’m doing a lot better now and things like meds and meditating directly influenced that

[cheerful-blu]

If u please read and reblog this. U never know. Maybe it will help someone so please consider reading things before just scrolling by it like its a meme u already saw

[shoeboxgoblin]

Rejection sensitive dysphoria is wild. Someone will be like “hey just so you know the thing you did was a little bit loud/uncomfortable/insensitive but it’s ok I know you didn’t mean it” and my brain will instantly translate “you should be shot”

[yourkpopidolsucks]

“why do you talk so loud? you’re always yelling”. i swear to god every time i hear that i want to just run off and hang myself. it is THE WORST 

[jabberwockypie]

To the people in the notes saying “Don’t call it dysphoria, that’s just being insecure”

- “Dysphoria” is just the opposite of “euphoria”. It doesn’t have to mean gender dysphoria. Lots of things can cause different kinds of dysphoria - PMDD is Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (which is like PMS but much more severe, and causes intense depression and mood swings). Or, in this case, RSD - Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria

- When it’s mentioned at all, it’s almost always in relation to ADHD. (And it tends to be described as “this is exclusive to ADHD” but I don’t think that’s actually true.) It’s also a thing with C-PTSD and BPD. (And probably more. But a lot of this stuff co-occurs with ADHD so like …  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ )

- I suspect it’s actually more of a trauma thing that’s exacerbated by ADHD. (A lot of the way people respond to ADHD is inherently traumatic. Being told your whole life “Well you could do the thing if you really wanted to” when no, you actually CAN’T, etc, has the same effects as emotional abuse and gaslighting on your self-esteem. And well. Being shunned for your whole childhood for being too loud/too weird/etc tends to … yeah.)

- Just being insecure or even anxious isn’t the same as Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria. RSD - to me, at least - feels like being slapped or getting stabbed in the chest. It’s going from “Everything’s pretty much fine” to, upon a mild correction, being “I’m the worst. I should die. Nothing will ever ever get better.“  And even when I rationally know that’s not true, I’m having physiological responses that I can’t just turn off. (It’s a lot like an emotional flashback in that regard, honestly.)  You’re responding to the thing as if it’s a threat.

- It doesn’t help, though, that ADHD brains are will focus exclusively on one thing to the exclusion of all else, at the least convenient time. So we hyperfocus on “that stupid thing I said” and the perceived rejection and and the pain, and it kind of becomes a feedback loop of suck.

[ethanrayne]

I usually describe the feeling as being like… going from a normal, good, or even great day to suddenly feeling like the world is ending. And it seems to be worst when you were really excited about something and someone’s response- to the thing, or, more often, to your excitement for it- manages to hit that button that trips the world-ending feeling.

[rosswoodpark]

‪GOD I found another article about why ADHD kids say “I don’t know” so much. my entire childhood was getting yelled at for doing some ADHD shit and me not being able to offer an explanation when asked why I did something. ‬

[zeldaspeaks]

cleaning with ADHD is a nightmare. it’s an endless cycle of finding a half-finished chore and stopping the one you were already working on, then remembering that something else needs to be done and getting started on that, then finding half-finished chore and

[jumpingjacktrash]

i have the solution! i call it ‘junebugging’.

have you ever seen a junebug get to grips with a window screen? it’s remarkably persistent, but not very focused. all that matters is location.

how to junebug: choose the location you feel you can probably get some shit done on today. be specific. not ‘the bathroom’ but ‘the bathroom sink’. you are not choosing a range, you are choosing a center; you will move around, but your location is where you’ll keep coming back to. mentally stick a pin in it. consider yourself tethered to that spot by a long mental bungee cord.

go to your location. look at stuff. move stuff around. do a thing. get distracted. remember you’re junebugging the bathroom sink and go back there. look at it some more. do a different thing. get distracted. get a sandwich. remember you’re junebugging and go back to the bathroom sink.

nt’s will go crazy watching you, and if they demand to know When You Will Be Done you will probably have to roll them in a carpet and stuff them up the chimney. you’re done when you feel done, or you’re too bored to live, or it’s bedtime, or any number of other markers, you get to pick. but the thing is, by returning repeatedly to that one spot, you harness the ‘hyperactivity’ part instead of wasting all that energy battling with the ‘attention deficit’ part.

not only will the bathroom sink almost certainly be clean, and probably the mirror and soap dish too, you might’ve swapped in a fresh toothbrush, a new soap, you might’ve unclogged the drain – you will probably also have cleaned or fixed up several things in the near vicinity, or in the path between the sink and where you get the fresh toothbrush, or maybe you did your grocery shopping cuz you were out of soap, or maybe you couldn’t find a clean hand towel and ended up doing laundry.

this is good. you got shit done! it wasn’t necessarily Cleaned The Bathroom in the way nt’s think of it, but screw ‘em. things are better than they were.

plus you worked off enough energy to be able to sleep. which is not small potatoes when living the ADHD life. :D

[spoonie-living]

Don’t let the adorable name fool you—this is some Seriously Good Advice. May be useful for brain fog and depression, too!

[flavoracle]

Reblogging to save my fellow ADHD peeps from the Sisyphusian curse of cleaning with no focus.

[dresdoodles]

anxiety cycles🌀

[ashenprincx]

this is important, because a lot of people dont realize that anxiety is heavily physical, and you can be feeling the physical impact before the mental pricessing starts!

its important to tune into your body and learb what your physical indicators are like when it comes to mood, because it can helps so so much with understanding and coping with it.