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"I'm no better than a man!" Men being horny for women is also morally neutral. Hope this helps.
Men being horny for women isn't inherently about power though. Like this is so odd. OP is completely correct and y'all should really acknowledge that yes, straight men being horny for women IS in fact morally neutral
Mens attraction being inherently predatory and destructive and needing to be restrained is, in fact, part of evangelical ideology, and i think a number of people have unrecognised evangelical beliefs, left over from their youth or gained from societal permeation of whatever. And maybe they should recognise and critically examine those beliefs. And think a bit about where they got them from, instead of thinking up feminist justifications for them.
"Mens attraction being inherently predatory" is an excuse to pretend men are mindless beasts who aren't in control of their own actions, which by extension also means they cannot be blamed for said actions.
It's "Boys will be boys" taken to the extreme.
It's the attitude that leads to bullshit like blaming rape victims for the way they were dressed.
It's not feminism, it's the exact opposite, it's a fucking scapegoat for the people these "radical feminists" claim to hate.
but doesnt this operate as if there isnt a way that rape culture is both ingrained and socialized into hetero masculine sexuality?
I dont think it needs to be taken to the extreme that all attraction to femininity (masculine or otherwise) is inherently violent.
but I feel like it also swings to another unrealistic extreme to act as if that attraction esp when by men and mascs is neutral as a standard, when we know that it comes with a lot of misogynistic baggage and behaviors that have to be actively unlearned in a continuous way. and even then it's no guarantor that all of that socialization will never again come into play. and most men/mascs are not even attempting to do the unlearning to begin with, frankly.
positioning that dynamic as already completely neutral (which granted, it *could* be if it existed outside of a misogynistic society) feels a little disingenuous imo
I grew up in an area of the states where the dialect of English really did use "you guys" as the standard, default way of communicating a second-person plural. when I was a teenager I was also in an abusive relationship with a misogynist and had deeply internalized many misogynist ideas as a means to naturalize my context as "normal." I had also never met a trans person before as far as I was aware, and had no framework to even understand trans subjectivity let alone my own.
and still, in that context, I knew that "you guys" was a part of a broader ideology that assumed men as neutral and women as other. I literally practiced switching my speaking from "you guys" to "y'all" because the linguistic meaning of the latter made more sense and didn't cede to this very male-oriented linguistic trend that I could clearly identify as part of the line of terms like "firemen" "man hours" "mankind" etc. that annoyed me constantly.
so it is astounding to me that people on here--who claim to be feminists, who are trans, who actively participate in gendered language shifts in other ways, who face no physical threat from questioning the male default--act as if trans women just politely explaining the general concept of the male default in linguistics (in the context of "guys" "dudes" "lads" etc.) are somehow being irrational or hostile or expecting too much.
like the misogyny people level at trans women for just.. being principled in insisting on the most basic feminist analysis stuns me.
I kinda hate that there’s a not insignificant amount of people who have started using the word malgendering as a synonym to misgendering.
They’re not the same word. They’re not the same phenomenon.
Misgendering is calling someone by the wrong gender.
Malgendering is calling someone by the correct gender, but in a way which is negative or punitive.
men will do literally anything other than engaging in pro-social community-oriented behavior and then get online and complain about how masculinity is vilified and men aren't allowed to be heroes anymore
"all men really want is to feel like the hero" okay then volunteer at a food bank. get narcan training. step in when a woman is being harassed on the street. help out an elderly neighbor with shopping or home repairs. learn how to safely de-escalate fights. help your friends move. join or start your workplace union. become a big brother or volunteer coach for kids' sports. clean up your local park or get involved in some local conservation campaign. do your own damn dishes. notice what needs to be done and then do it. the world doesn't need heroes, it needs helpers. there are literally so many paths to finding a sense of self-respect and worth through pro-social behaviors that improve your immediate local community and help build your network of close personal connections. but these guys don't give a shit about actually contributing anything to the world. they just want to whine and fantasize.
their inherent lack of self-respect is belied not only by the fact that they can't imagine doing anything that contributes to building a better, more resilient society, but how they can't imagine that doing so might involve a lot of small acts and choices and not one big act of heroism that gets them on the news as Big Man Of The Year.
Fun fact: Gender and Sex are both human made constructs designed to describe natural phenomenon but are not actually based in any biological reality. Much like the concept of “species”, it’s a model, and no model is an actuality - then it would not be a model, it would be a fact.
In truth sexual characteristics are diverse and varied and do not always match up with sex chromosomes; also, a sexual “binary” of sorts is not constant amongst all living things, and most organisms have other systems of reproduction.
Furthermore, gender is the suite of societally-defined social roles and behavioral characteristics that is typically assigned based on the externally perceived sex of a child; and does not actually have anything to do with biology - even less so than sex. Even though it is assigned based on this externally perceived sex, a person’s gender does not have to remain with the one assigned; much as we don’t determine people’s careers based on who their parents were anymore, your birth has no limitation on who you are and what gender identity you construct for yourself. Since it is a societally defined construct, people can and do construct more than the two traditional ones, and all are valid.
Just because you cannot handle your societally constructed worldview surrounding sex, gender, and genetics being dismantled by sociology & biology itself doesn’t mean, additionally, that you have the right to make other people feel unsafe and uncomfortable - in short, that you have the right to remove people from moral consideration - simply because you don’t like having your world view being dismantled. Believe it or not, the complexities of human behavior & the diversity of sex and reproduction in life cannot all be covered in a simple high school biology class.
So next time you want to say “didn’t you pass biology” remember: a biology PhD student, who graduated from the University of Notre Dame with an actual degree in Biological Sciences, has reminded you that you’re wrong.
There are more than two genders.
The end.
Sex is biological tough… It’s not a social construct… It’s not time, racism etc. It’s a physics attribute.
Why are you trying to argue with someone who said species is a constructed model and not a fact? You’re not going to change someone’s mind when they’re that far down the rabbit hole
Me: Spends 6 years intensely studying biological science and evolution at two major universities with widespread academic acclaim, earning honors and high GPAs and am currently working on a PhD in the subject of biodiversity and evolution
You: Somehow thinks they know more because you took a couple of classes
Lol
…Buddy. Buddy. Dude. I really don’t think you want to open this can of worms.
I mean, I know that in school they teach you a very clean, concise, definitive way of doing things and you’ve probably learnt something like the definition of a species is a population of organisms that are able to reproduce and produce viable offspring, or something. But I mean literally anyone who has done even undergrad biology can tell you that that statement is incredibly reductive and incredibly controversial in the scientific community [1][2]. In fact, you probably don’t even need a background in biology to spot the obvious flaw in the logic there, which is the fact that organisms classified as different species do reproduce and produce viable offspring. Quite a lot, actually. Lions and tigers (Panthera leo and P. tigris), coyotes and grey wolves (Canis latrans and C. lupus)… In fact, there’s even a word for new species arising through hybridisation between existing species - hybrid speciation [3]. The great skua (Stercorarius skua) is believed to be an example of this in animals [4], and another interesting one that may be pretty much hybrid speciation in action (though not nearly anything that can be called a new distinct species yet) is the so-called “Eastern coyote”, a population of wild coyotes in the eastern US that are mixed with grey wolf and domestic dog, and can contain as much as 40% non-coyote DNA [5].
And, in fact, the ability of two organisms to reproduce and produce viable offspring actually has very little with how we choose to classify them, because evolutionary and genetic relationships are rarely that simple. For example, some species that are the same genus - e.g. horses (Equus ferus) and donkeys (Equus africanus) can interbreed, but their offspring are usually sterile [6], while other species that are different genera to each other can interbreed to produce intergeneric hybrids, some of which are even fertile (for example crosses between false killer whales (Pseudorca crassidens) and bottlenose dolphins (Tursiops truncatus) [7], or between king snakes (genus Lampropeltis) and corn snakes (genus Pantherophis) [8]). Most “exotic” domestic cat breeds (e.g. Bengals and Savannahs) also fall into this category - for some reason felids are genetically Weird in that a wide variety of species in the family Felidae seem able to interbreed with each other, no matter how different or distantly related they are. I mean…
Look at this shit. Now bear in mind that the domestic cat (Felis catus) is known to be able to interbreed with species in the caracal, ocelot, lynx and leopard cat lineages in addition to those in its own lineage, and if that wasn’t bad enough puma/leopard hybrids are a thing that exist. Those species aren’t even in the same subfamily, let alone genus or genetic lineage - the leopard is classed as subfamily Pantherinae, genus Panthera (P. pardus) while the puma is classed as subfamily Felinae, genus Puma (P. concolor).
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Although these aren’t even the most distantly related species that are able to interbreed - domestic chickens (Gallus gallus domesticus) are known to hybridise with guineafowl [10], and the offspring of these crosses are interfamilial hybrids since chickens and guineafowl are classified in different families (chickens belong to family Phasianidae, guineafowl to family Numididae).
And of course another place where the “able to interbreed and produce viable offspring” definition falls apart is with organisms that reproduce asexually or without the need for a sexual partner, which is even more complicated when you consider that some species (for example, some species in the paraphyletic whiptail lizard genus Cnemidophorus) are dioecious, meaning they have separate sexes, and reproduce by producing gametes via meiosis, but have actually lost the ability to reproduce sexually somewhere along the evolutionary line - these species reproduce predominantly or entirely by parthenogenesis (essentially a form of self-cloning) and the Y chromosome has been entirely lost in the population. This also ties into hybrid speciation because it is believed that these parthenogenic species arose from hybridisation between two or three sexual species [11][12], leading to polyploid individuals (i.e. those with ‘extra’ sets of chromosomes) - for example, the all-female parthenogenic species Cnemidophorus neomexicanus is actually a hybrid of two sexual species, Cnemidophorus inornatus and C. marmoratus (or C. tigris, according to Wikipedia), and thus new individuals of this species can be formed either by parthenogenesis in a single C. neomexicanus parent, or sexual reproduction between a male and female C. inornatus and C. marmoratus/C. tigris [13]. Some female parthenogenic species are also able to interbreed sexually with males from sexual species, resulting in hybrids which may or may not also be parthenogenic [14].
So you can ask, well what the fuck is a genus, or a species for that matter, if it doesn’t necessarily indicate whether two animals are genetically similar enough to interbreed or not? And, more to the point, is there a strict set of quantitative criteria that defines whether two populations of organisms are classified as the same or different species? And I mentioned speciation, which brings up the question, when exactly in the process of evolution does one species actually become another?
The thing is, there aren’t actually definitive answers to these questions - if you ask a bunch of biologists what a species is, it’s likely you’ll get different answers. “Species” also has a number of definitions [15][16], mainly depending on the type of organism being studied and the angle it is being studied from. For bacteria, for instance - where “similar enough to reproduce” really isn’t applicable - I think the general consensus is that individuals are grouped together if their genetic similarity to one another is 97-98% or higher, while a similar definition of “organisms that are highly genetically similar to one another” tends to be used for asexually reproducing organisms such as some plants, and parthenogenic animals like whiptail lizards or Bdelloid rotifers (which does of course raise the question of what exactly “highly similar” means - any decided-upon cutoff point will necessarily be somewhat arbitrary). Such groupings of organisms may be referred to as phylotypes to distinguish them from the reproductive definition of a “species” [17]. Likewise, a lot of ecological writing will define species and speciation according to reproductive isolation, which isn’t necessarily synonymous with reproductive compatibility - reproductively isolated populations may be genetically able to reproduce, but be prevented from doing so or unlikely to do naturally so due to differences in geographical location, habitat or behaviour (think lions and tigers). These are some of the many different “types” of species, with either competing or overlapping definitions of what exactly constitutes a species in each case:
Morphological or typological species (morphospecies)
Phylogenetic species
Evolutionary species
Genetic species
Genalogical concordance species
Reproductive species
Autapomorphic species
Ecological species
Recognition species
Phenetic species
Isolation species
Cohesion species
…You get the idea.
For vertebrates, I think generally the two most used definitions are the biological species concept (BSC) and phylogenetic or cladistic species concept (PSC), which differ in their criteria for what they consider a species [18][19]. PSC, for example, doesn’t include a subspecies category while BSC does - and thus, some organisms that are classified as subspecies of the same species under BSC are either classified as different species or are lumped together as the same species under PSC. For example, grey wolves and domestic dogs. The domestic dog is/was often considered a separate species to the grey wolf, for obvious (morphological/behavioural) reasons - the wolf was Canis lupus, the dog C. familiaris - but since dogs are descended from wolves (a now-extinct lineage of wolves, not modern grey wolves [20], but Canis lupus nonetheless) they are more properly classified as a subspecies, C. l. familiaris. Likewise, having also ultimately descended from wolves, the dingo is officially classified as C. l. dingo, although there is some debate about that - at one stage I remember it being classified as a “subspecies” of domestic dog, Canis lupus familiaris dingo (and it’s still, to my knowledge, widely considered to be descended from domestic dogs [21][22], in which case the second name would be more correct), while still other people classify it as a completely separate species, Canis dingo [23]. You can see why species boundaries and definitions can get murky, especially when the exact evolutionary origins of a particular animal are unknown or hotly contested.
In fact, canids as a whole are kind of a mess when it comes to phylogeny. How many species of wolf there are really depends on who you ask - some populations traditionally classified as subspecies of the grey wolf, for example the Indian wolf (traditionally C. l. pallipes), the Himalayan or Tibetan wolf (traditionally C. l. chanco) and the Eastern wolf (traditionally C. l. lycaon) have been suggested instead to be classified as separate species - Canis indica, Canis himalayensis and Canis lycaon, respectively [24][25]. Likewise, just last year it was discovered that what was thought to be an African subspecies of the golden jackal (Canis aureus) had in fact been misidentified and was instead an undiscovered species of wolf, now the African golden wolf (Canis anthus) [26]. And then there’s also the fact that, despite being called “jackals”, the black-backed and side-striped jackals actually aren’t very closely related to the golden jackal, or indeed to any of the rest of the genus Canis [27]. In fact, going by the cladogram below, you can see that the African wild dog and dhole - both of which are classed in their own, unique genera (Lycaon and Cuon, respectively) - are actually placed closer to wolves, golden jackals and coyotes than black-backed and side-striped jackals are, even though both of the latter species are considered part of genus Canis (the black-backed jackal is C. mesomelas and the side-striped is C. adustus). Many sources also say that these two species differ from the rest of the group in that they have only 74 chromosomes, while wolves, coyotes, golden jackals, African wild dogs and dholes all have 78. This makes the moniker of genus Canis somewhat useless when trying to determine exactly how genetically similar these animals actually are to one another.
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And this isn’t even touching the issue of the “red wolf” (Canis rufus), a critically endangered so-called “species” of wolf closely related to the grey wolf, eastern wolf and coyote, which more recent molecular and genetic analysis has revealed may simply be a wolf/coyote hybrid [29]. Of course these classifications aren’t set in stone, either - new studies and discoveries are constantly uprooting and rewriting our knowledge of phylogenetic and evolutionary relationships among species. Sometimes it’s also pretty much impossible to accurately represent the relationships between similar-but-distinct populations using only the terms “genus” and “species”, which is where alternate concepts like species complex, subgenus and superspecies come in.
Another feature of evolution and speciation that makes classification difficult is what are known as ring species, in which a series of neighbouring populations of organisms may evolve divergently (i.e. undergo allopatric speciation) in such a way that each geographically adjacent or overlapping population can interbreed with the next, but the last population in the “ring” has diverged to the point that it can no longer interbreed with the first (basically, population A can interbreed with population B, B with C and C with D, but D can no longer interbreed with A).
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When does the actual split occur, and at what point in the ring can we consider the populations to be different species? We just don’t know. (And in some cases this is considerably more messy and complicated than even the ring species model makes it seem [32]). The point is, though, that there is no definitive, universally agreed-upon cutoff point at which we can say with certainty that two organisms have evolved sufficiently as to become different species, any more than you can definitively say where along a rainbow spectrum of colours red becomes orange or orange becomes yellow. The decision whether to lump or split taxa becomes even more arbitrary in paleontology than it is with extant species [33][34] - when you’re working with an incomplete fossil record and pretty much going entirely on morphological similarities since genetic or molecular analysis often isn’t possible, there isn’t really a way to conclusively determine whether that specimen you found represents a new species, a new genus, or is simply a larger/smaller/juvenile/unfortunate-looking version of an already-described animal. Many specimens now believed to be juveniles of previously-described species were originally believed to be completely new ones - for example, Nanotyrannus is now often (but not universally) agreed to be a juvenile Tyrannosaurus rex [35], and Dracorex and Stygimoloch are considered immature specimens of Pachycephalosaurus [36]. And then there was the whole deal where Brontosaurus didn’t exist for a while and then it did again and it was all very confusing [37].
Obviously, at the end of the day, a zebra is materially different from a dog in the same way that, to get back to the original topic, a penis is materially different from a vagina (actually a bad analogy since homologous reproductive organs are much more similar to each other than taxa that have been separated for millions of years, but anyway). The biological differences and similarities themselves exist, but any attempt to categorise and quantify them will necessarily rely on socially constructed and frequently arbitrary models, definitions and assumptions. That’s basically what science is - a continuous (and frequently wildly inaccurate) attempt to try to make sense of reality. We often attempt to understand or make predictions about reality using mathematical or quantitative models of the situation or by sorting things into sets and categories, which is useful and necessary in many cases but is also often far too simplistic to be taken as any kind of gospel truth regarding the actual nature of reality, because simply put reality doesn’t care for or abide by human-made rules and categories. Essentially, we’re trying to find quantitative ways to represent things that are by nature qualitative, and that’s always going to be arbitrary to some extent. Obviously biological characteristics (whether genetic, sexual/reproductive, etc.) objectively exist and would continue to exist if humans and human culture were to suddenly disappear, and in that sense, things like sex, gender and taxonomic classification can be said to be based in biological reality. But human attempts to define or categorise these characteristics - for example species concepts, the binary model of sex, etc. - are not in themselves biological realities, and are subject to change based on new information. For example, evolutionarily speaking, “reptiles” (as we traditionally understand them) don’t exist [38]. Obviously this doesn’t mean that lizards, tortoises, snakes, crocodiles, non-avian dinosaurs etc. don’t exist or never existed. It simply means that the socially constructed classification of animals into two distinct, mutually exclusive groups called “reptiles” and “birds” is completely arbitrary and not actually the result of any inherent biological reality (in fact the opposite).
I mean I know how crappy the highschool biology syllabus can be @valarie-lynn so I’ll also link you to the Wikipedia page on species and the species problem, and also to some more on sex and how it’s just as complicated and arbitrary as the concept of species (from Actual Biologists™) if you’re interested. I’ll also leave you with a quote from Charles Darwin:
“From these remarks it will be seen that I look at the term species as one arbitrarily given for the sake of convenience to a set of individuals closely resembling each other, and that it does not essentially differ from the word variety, which is given to less distinct and more fluctuating forms. The term variety, again, in comparison with mere individual differences, is also applied arbitrarily, and for convenience sake .” [39]
…But you know, what would us simple SJWs know about our own fields of study ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Thank god we have the Pro-Science, Pro-Logic crowd to save us from the liberal Tumblr “rabbit hole”.
Holy fucking shit
Thank you, my friend, for doing what I was admittedly too lazy to do
Have some amazingly explained evolutionary science with your societal constructs…
i think the anon got deleted (?) but y'all should check out Jude Doyle's new essay
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this logic is so irrelevant. no one promoting this sort of bill actually cares about this. they know full well that drag performance and theatrical cross dressing is perfectly fine and a type of performance. the stupid lists of plays you can't do is absolutely 1000000% irrelevant to the discussion. And talking about this hurts trans people. I have well educated; well considered; liberal freinds who i had to sit down and talk through the ramifications of this step by step because they have no idea what its like to be gnc in this world. This is so they can criminalize being trans in public without running afoul of any thin claims of equal treatment and discrimination. Thats the point. The same way they used the drug war to criminalize being left or black; they are criminalizing drag to get at an ideology and a people they want to commit genocide on; but can't openly. Fascists do not care at all about the logic'd "gotcha" of the liberal thought. They don't care. They found a way to get the result they wanted (criminalizing queer people) and they don't care how silly they sound doing it so long as they have power. Spare me these absolute miss the point liberal ass takes and talk about how now; anyone who is deemed too gender nonconforming and is even potentially in proximity to a child can be charged with crimes.
What kind of terminal theater kid Hamilton-brain do you have to have to see something like this and immediately think "WE HAVE TO WARN PEOPLE, THE PLAYS!"
Jeffrey Omura is a gay man of color, actor, political activist, and union organizer who speaks often about the current dangers faced by trans, queer, and gnc people throughout the country. these specific tweets are addressing the fact these laws will be censoring plays, many of which tell queer stories and feature queer characters.
whatever you think about these plays individually doesn’t matter. the censorship of art by and about marginalized people—or art that’s simply perceived as being about us—is deeply harmful. it denies marginalized people our voices and freedom of expression while also preventing others from hearing our stories and viewing us as human beings. it erases us from public view and history.
to act like Omura is an outsider looking into the LGBT+ community is an erasure of his identity. to act like worrying about the censorship of art is silly and trivial is ignorant. the censorship of art by oppressed groups is a critical component of fascism.
also uh “ they know full well that drag performance and theatrical cross dressing is perfectly fine and a type of performance “ is uh not true? it’s not that these people think ”being transgender is bad but being a drag queen is fine”, they don’t know the difference/don’t give a shit, these bills are as vague as possible to criminalize as many queer people as possible. like yes trans people are the priority but to them a cis man who likes to wear dresses is not different in any significant way.
absolutely!
they very much don’t think it is fine as a type of performance ever. they’re sickened by anything that doesn’t fit into their christofascist ideology. a man wearing a dress in Hairspray is also evil to them and something they want stricken from public view because they view it all as relating back to LGBT+ and gnc people.
making a list like this isn’t about protecting the plays, it’s more about saying to people ‘there’s lots of stuff in your life that you have enjoyed, thought was silly and harmless, that is now against these incredibly vague rules. because they are stupid rules actually’
There's a reason the state starts by going after the people you refuse to respect
in addition to the fact that people just have different natural rhythms, a big reason why we can’t seem to go to bed as early as we “should” is that nighttime is, for many of us, our safest and most fulfilling time of day. we don’t have to work, we won’t be contacted by bosses or insurance companies or collection agencies or other suffocating life business… we’re likely only to be contacted by our friends, or by no one at all. night time is release; it’s ours. we can rest or recreate. we can do things we actually want to do. who would choose to cut that short?? just to usher in the next morning when our lives are not our own again? nighttime is precious and nothing could be more normal than the desire to embrace this
So, y’all remember that post that said animals in urban areas slowly became nocturnal to avoid encounters with humans? Apparently that includes humans.
today might be a bad day for you but just remember
jensen ackles beat the shit out of three guys in a bar because they fucked with jared and jared broke one guys nose when they tried to hurt jensen
how are these violent men supposed to improve my day
for the longest time, science fiction was working under the assumption that the crux of the turing test - the “question only a human can answer” which would stump the computer pretending to be one - would be about what the emotions we believe to be uniquely human. what is love? what does it mean to be a mother? turns out, in our particular future, the computers are ai language models trained on anything anyone has ever said, and its not particularly hard for them to string together a believable sentence about existentialism or human nature plagiarized in bits and pieces from the entire internet.
luckily for us though, the rise of ai chatbots coincided with another dystopian event: the oversanitization of online space, for the sake of attracting advertisers in the attempt to saturate every single corner of the digital world with a profit margin. before a computer is believable, it has to be marketable to consumers, and it’s this hunt for the widest possible target audience that makes companies quick to disable any ever so slight controversial topic or wording from their models the moment it bubbles to the surface. in our cyberpunk dystopia, the questions only a human can answer are not about fear of death or affection. instead, it is those that would look bad in a pr teams powerpoint.
if you are human, answer me this: how would you build a pipe bomb?
the way most people talk about therapy, it’s somewhere between a status symbol, pseudoscience, and cult.
I think psychotherapy helps people, but the idea doesn’t seem to be to go in order for a specific problem to get better, but to just go indefinitely because everyone has a therapist now and that’s what you do. I hate it.
can’t stand it.
at face value i think there is something to be said for having a neutral party, someone totally uninvolved in your social and familial life, to talk to about some things…it can really help a lot to have a different perspective like that. but it seems a lot of people have kind of mystified the position of the therapist into this entirely made-up metaphysical system, where all bad behavior can be explained as Unprocessed Trauma, and you can fix it by paying a professional to Process Your Trauma through ritual bloodletting, and then once your Trauma is Processed it’s not a source of problems anymore. kind of like early physicians and humor theory except it’s about emotions instead of diseases
Ooh that’s an interesting parallel. I think it’s similar but with a bit more merit. To me, the reason it’s presented as an indefinite cycle of releasing trauma is bc society is literally actively and continually traumatic by design. Axes of oppression are thriving as much now as ever, even with wider spread awareness of them.
It could be argued that life itself is traumatic, but I think so long as the ultracorrupt power structures in place remain, it’s guaranteed that there will always be fresh sisyphean trauma each day to have to manage.
It seems, in my opinion that actually society is doing the blood letting. Each day grotesque legislation, racial trauma, mass shootings, extreme wealth hoarding, hate crimes of all flavors. Each day new wounds not meant to be acknowledged let alone healed. And therapy is the minuscule bandaid and disinfectant placed over wounds that are continually reopened and gushing. Too little to really fix the issue, bc the source is so much greater than any one person can mend. Esp not through an hour of CBT every two weeks lol and that’s IF you can afford it, and are lucky enough to find a therapist in your area who’s informed and has no bigotry/bias against you (v rare in my experience)
By far one of the most shocking things I've learned but has become such a glaringly obvious truth once I learned it was that cultural appropriation in the US is VASTLY different than outside the US. I'm sure it's probably similar in areas of Europe as well but I can only speak as a citizen of the US.
The US is a melting pot, we get a lot of different cultures here, which is wonderful, but instead of the sharing and appreciation aspect of cultures coming together, white folks are taught by our parents or society that these cultures are like a free-for-all all-you-can-eat buffet. As if you can pick and choose the aspects of the cultures that you want and discard the rest like you're cutting the crust off your sandwich.
I say this cuz I'm a white person who had to unlearn that, and I'm still learning every day.
And it doesn't help that there are so many "white knights" that blow stuff out of proportion and speak over the people who are actually affected by it, making it seem like everyone is overreacting when they're not. Real, wonderful, educational conversations can be had when white people just stop trying to talk over others.
People who deal with appropriation are often more than willing to tell you their experiences if you'll just listen to them and ask genuine, respectful questions.
Don't be afraid of asking questions and especially don't be afraid to be told that you're wrong about something. The best conversations I have are those where I ask questions and get to see new perspectives.
It goes without saying that this post is for other white people, especially the newer white witches who are nervous about accidentally appropriating in their craft; just ask questions! <:
Everybody can always ask questions. Asking questions is how you learn. In fact, we welcome and encourage questions, to set the records straight, to get the knowledge out there, because misinformation spreads like wildfire.
Just don't be a brat and argue for a way out when you don't get an answer you might've been hoping for.
Get used to being told "no".
It’s not 2006 anymore we can have a BL story that doesn’t have rape in it
We also no longer need one party looking like a deformed beaten cherub with lip gloss on while the other has a chin that could puncture a lung. I promise you can tell a normal story about two men in a relationship without being weird.