Cohabitation and Learning

°Polyfrag System° °Collective Name & Pronouns are Garden and It/They° °Body is an Adult° °White, Queer, Physically Disabled, and Neurodivergent°

[companionplanting]

🌾🍄Companion Planting Intro🌻🌺

Hey hey! We are the system known as Companion Planting, or Garden System!

I made this blog originally parroting a lot of the toxic positivity and general non helpful rhetoric I learned from the system community on here, as well as to desperately get along with anyone I could. Didn't help that my chronically online brain rot made those worse. That has changed.

We just want to foster a community around DID/OSDD/DDNOS that involves learning from each other. We wanna share our experiences and grow into a system that can not only survive, but thrive too.

Since there is a lot of us, and some of us are shy, we may not all post on here. We will list the most common fronters to our system who will most likely interact on here.

As an FYI, unless otherwise stated, everyone is free to reblog any post on our blog.

If you like to see a specific kind of alter's post, just look up either the name, emoji, or both in tags on our blog.

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- Snails 🍂 (it/moons)

- Bunni 💖 (they/buns)

- ghost 🦷 (it/rots)

- Rosemary ❄️ (they>it)

- Danny 🪐 (he/him)

- Rocky ☣️ (they/them)

- Angel 💫 (ae/aer > xey/xem > they/them | she/her)

- Maravilla 🏵️ (hir/hirs)

We will definitely be making intros for these and other alters in the future!

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I hope we can grow and learn together

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

It can be easy to confuse the two, but you don't actually "wish you were more disabled", you wish your disability was taken seriously and was properly accommodated and that you had access to the support and resources you need - and that desire is so valid. You deserve more. But the sad truth is that no level of disability actually guarantees a sufficient level of support. So you have to work to separate your very understandable desire for more support from the incorrect assumption that other disabled people are consistently receiving what you aren't. All of us are getting fucked over in this society, and no group of disabled people actually has it easy.

[companionplanting]

local white boy alter can't cook so relies on two separate alters to finish cooking meal for him

- 💖

[companionplanting]

you and your partner both systems with complicated polyamorous relationships between said systems?

call that poly²

-🦷 & ☣️

[companionplanting]

I really don't care what anyone says, things like SimplyPlural, Octocon, Pluralkit, and any other similar app/device for systems are accessibility tools.

There's this weird internalized ableism in the community (especially with non-physically disabled systems) who view these ways as being too much or "taking up space" in some aspects.

"Oh I can't have all my friends download this just to know who's fronting," if it helps you then it shouldn't be a problem for your friends. "I have other methods to track switches," well if this is the easiest way for you to do that then that's okay. "DID/OSDD doesn't need accomodations like other mental illnesses/disabilities," but it does and if meeting those accommodations helps you function better, then it's an accessibility tool.

For some people I understand it's not much of an accessibility tool, sometimes when it conflicts with other disabilities. I saw once someone say that the way Pluralkit and Tupperbox work on Discord causes a sort of flashing problem with how it replaces messages, and this can be a lot in large servers with multiple people using it. I get that and similar complaints. Something should either be done to fix it or (unfortunately) have one of two groups suffer from the use or loss of it.

Downloading a small app to know who is fronting, however, is not a big ask for friends or staff whose job is to care for you. I have all my trusted friends download SimplyPlural. It wasn't that hard to set up so they can get notifications of us switching. I did this because to us it is an accessibility tool. We cannot function properly without it.

Our switches can be erratic and very fluid, and it makes day to day living hard. With these apps, we can not only track who is fronting, but also it literally makes us feel better. I feel like a blurry mess without it, headaches galore, unable to untangle thoughts and feelings the longer I go without it. When we use it, our communication is literally better with it. We can track events and things better in our lives with it. It makes living in a world not made for us easier to handle.

It's also important to our identities. Snails is not ghost, ghost is not Rocky, and we will not be treated as the same person simply for living in the same body. It's upsetting and makes us feel like we purposely have to hide parts of ourselves, resorting back to masking around our own peers. We hate that.

If it doesn't work for you, if it's too much and complicated for your own use, if it conflicts with other disabilities or issues you face, that's fine to not call it an accessibility tool for yourself.

But these are my accessibility tools just as much as our crutches or other mobility aids are. This world was not made for systems, and there is no time soon of that changing. There are other ways of doing this without an app or online tool, I understand, and I have implemented that too. But this is what works easiest for me, and if I don't have that accessibility then it is literally harder for us to live our own lives.

- 🍂, 🦷, ❄️, & ☣️

[syscourse-misinfo]

A LOT OF THINGS CAN BE TRAUMATIC FOR CHILDREN UNDER THE AGE OF 10

I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH

WATCHING YOUR PARENTS FIGHT ALMOST EVERYDAY CAN BE TRAUMATIC

BULLYING CAN BE TRAUMATIC

BEING YELLED AT FOR DOING MINOR MISTAKE CAN BE TRAUMATIC

NOT GETTING PROPER ACCOMODATION AND COPING MECHANISM FOR YOUR MENTAL ILLNESS CAN BE TRAUMATIC

NEGLECT CAN BE TRAUMATIC

STRESSED OUT FROM BEING "GIFTED CHILD" CAN BE TRAUMATIC

YOU WERE A CHILD

[companionplanting]

eat dirt period okay and post. post now. Post mow. Post hoddammit

- 🦷

[companionplanting]

"RAMCOA isn't real!"

"Endogenic isn't real!"

"Fictives aren't real!"

None of it is real! We just made up terms to describe our experiences because we wanted to explain it to the best of our abilities. We're just very traumatized parts of the universe experiencing themselves. We will never have the right words but we can make up guesstimations.

Doesn't mean these things don't matter. They do matter. Time isn't real, but it still matters. Especially to the people who use these terms to describe their experiences. Just let people describe their own lives in their own way without inserting your beliefs on other people for no fucking reason.

- 🍂 + 🦷 (🌺)

[companionplanting]

i literally do not understand why transphobes call being trans an ideology. i just identify as trans, my gender is different than my assigned gender at birth, and if you can't accept that then sucks to suck.

it's literally not a belief or anything like that, i just know who i am and what i want. my own existence is not an opinion for debate.

-🦷

[companionplanting]

A friend of mine recently came to me over her wife leaving her over a cheating incident. But she was saying that it was her alter using her body, which she says she gave permission to. I feel funny about it and idk how to think and idk if it's cuz I don't have did, but I wanted to hear multiple ideas about it ig.

You may have to clarify a few things because I'm a bit lost. Let me know if I'm getting this wrong here.

Your friend fell out with her wife after an alter fronted and had sex with someone outside of the relationship.

If you mean your friend gave permission for the alter to front, that's not really a thing. Sometimes switches happen voluntarily but a good chunk of the time they aren't. If you mean they gave the alter permission to front and have sex with the other person, that is definitely cheating.

If you mean your friend's wife gave permission for the alter to have sex with someone else, that seems like a whole different problem I am not sure how to answer.

But if you're asking if your friend cheated or not, they did. It doesn't matter if it's another alter or the alter has no attraction to the wife, that is a conversation to be had with the alter who did it and the rest of the system as well as the wife way before this incident.

It's normal to have alters who have different attractions (rn we have one alter who is aromantic asexual and another panromantic pansexual fronting), but if that causes conflicts that discussion needs to happen as soon as possible. Especially if the wife was aware of the system to begin with.

But I also don't know your friend personally. We personally feel like blaming your alters for it feels like an excuse and avoiding blame, but again I'm not sure how they're communication with their system is or any information about the relationship in general.

Sorry this was a very strange question to get, and sorry if you expected a better answer. I think if your friend wants to fix things, they should speak with a therapist and work on their system. I don't think they should expect their wife to forgive them (at least easily) because it very much was cheating and the wife has every reason to be hurt and upset.

I hope things work out for you and your friend, anon.

-🍂 + 🦷

[companionplanting]

Hi I was looking for someone with did to give me some clarity on a situation if that's ok

Sure anon, go ahead

-🍂 + 🦷

[companionplanting]

"So after almost a full year of therapy with me, where multiple sessions you have acted drastically different compared to most times, explained how you forgot sessions or complete periods of time, having your partner explain how you show signs of DID repeatedly at home during sessions, and doing a full assessment where you scored scarily high on, we are proud to finally announce you with a diagnosis of..... Unspecified Personality Disorder!"

-🍂 (🌺)

[animentality]

[thoughtportal]

some sobriety ideas

[mygeekcorner]

[tolovaj-escaped-deactivated2025]

Sick sick sick of possibility of being fucking recorded every waking second by tiktok obsessed quasi celebs. Video titled something like "Caught him thinking he's the main character" but it was just a kid wearing headphones, looking out the bus window. Of course it was posted without his knowledge. Stop recording strangers and everything you see, nobody gives a shit and not everyone is happy to be on tiktok or youtube because of a moron with no braincells and an account. What could be a forgettable awkward moment is now permanently there for the victim of lackabrainis infested idiot to get anxious about forever.

[ro-zden]

Okay, this seems like a relevant thing to share today: I've been in this position. Back in college while on that student lifestyle, I somehow ended up with a pretty bad iron deficiency. How bad? I was not only sleeping too much, I was falling asleep everywhere -- in class, in the library, in cafes five minutes after drinking coffee. It was terrible. Anyway, during a class I enjoyed, I was sat at a table with a few classmates, and I started falling asleep while taking notes; nodding off, dropping my pen, startling awake and falling asleep again, until my head was on the table. No one seemed to mind, we were all going through it I guess, and my lecturer was nice enough not to make a big deal out of it.

Cut to the next day and I was in the Students Union, when a friend came up to me and told me how funny that video was of me falling asleep in class was. What? I asked her about it, what did she mean, who made the video, and she realised I literally had no clue about it. Kindly, she told me who to talk to and I thanked her. I was already upset, but I knew it wasn't the messenger's fault. So, I took to Facebook and messaged the girl who made the video -- a girl on my table in the class from before. I asked her about it, and she admitted it right away -- she took the video on her phone during class and posted it to her snapchat. That's how the other girl saw it, not to mention countless others.

Sorting this out was an absolute toil. I felt betrayed and violated that someone would do that while I was obviously not in a position to have any say about it. I lost friendships with the people who took the girl's side, as if it was no big deal or "funny". I had to tell the lecturer about it, because let's face it, that's a shit thing to allow to happen during class itself, the department moved to be more alert and proactive about restricting phone use in class, and all that girl had to do was give a half-hearted apology. The next semester, she was still openly using her phone in another class we had.

For a long time, I couldn't trust anyone who held their phone up around me, as if to take photos or video. It would make me so anxious and put me on edge. I never did speak to the people who cosigned her behaviour, who acted like it wasn't their problem that their bff video-recorded a person in class over their health condition without their consent.

I did eventually grow out of my anxiety around phones, and I resisted the urge to break that girl's phone, but, I will absolutely bring back that energy if I see someone record a stranger in public without their consent. Take it from someone who's been that target -- if you think it's okay, you deserve to get your shit wrecked.

[ro-zden]

I just want to add, in case anyone reads this and isn't sure -- yes, it is absolutely fine to reblog this, and in fact I encourage you to. If testimony from a former target of this behaviour is the one thing that makes it click for anyone thinking of doing it, if it makes them reconsider before potentially ruining a stranger's life, then my experience will be worth it for me.

Don't record strangers and put that shit on the Internet or social media without their consent.

[angiethewitch]

a "friend" of mine posted a video of me online once when I was in a psychotic episode. I was actively struggling and she thought it was funny to film me while I was hallucinating and talking to thin air while in an active delusion. I still struggle when people hold their phones up. a few months ago I was out with my friend and I looked really good and I felt really confident and I was just sat having coffee outside when a man walked past obviously fucking filming me. I was immediately reminded of that tiktok thing "pov you're a girl in a skirt/you're a girl in public" where girls would show men filming them and staring at them. i went from feeling cool and confident to feeling like public property. and I remembered being filmed while in an episode and got paranoid my friend wasn't real and this man was filming me because I was the haha funny crazy person talking to an empty chair because that had fucking happened to me before.

you film that homeless man laughing to himself and talking to an empty space? yeah he's probably psychotic. you film someone having a meltdown and screaming at nothing? probably also psychotic. you are taking advantage of someone's most vulnerable state and you think its funny and you want to get Internet clout for filming them. youre a piece of shit if you do that. I went from feeling safe around my old friend, feeling unjudged, feeling supported, to feeling used and unsafe and judged.

this shit overwhelmingly affects disabled, sick and mentally ill people. cut it the fuck out. the next time you think it would be funny to film the weird old lady talking to the trees, take a second and consider: would you like to have your most vulnerable moments immortalised on camera?

[bpd-seikokimura]

You aren't foolish for missing the people who hurt you. Just remember that you deserve better

[goghing-up]

it’s okay if you were getting better but now you aren’t. it’s okay if today wasn’t as great as yesterday. it’s okay if you didn’t do a lot today. it’s okay if your day didn’t go the way you wanted it to. recovery isn’t easy. it’s slow and there is sooo many obstacles, it doesn’t happen over night. it will feel like you will never get better but that’s your mental illness talking. it does get better, it’s just a very slow, long journey to that recovery and honestly you can do it. the biggest part of recovery is not giving up. I believe in you