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duuuuuude you have GOT to come out tonight we're enacting cruelty upon those who have transgressed so badly that we can justify any act against them... and you KNOW we're interpreting our delight as moral righteousness... Yeah it's fucking crazyyyyyyy get an Uber
Come to think of it, it really is insane that my entire country is burning alive and literally no one in the rest of the world cares. Thousands of Indians are dying every day from the heat, it's 45+ degrees in multiple areas, the government couldn't give two fucks, we're getting severe warnings and red alerts, and not a soul outside of South Asia is speaking about it because why would you ever care about brown people
USA folks, that is a consistent temperature range hitting 113Ā°. Death Valley temperatures. In Banda, it hovered between 116Ā°-118Ā° (47Ā°-48Ā° C) for a week straight.
This has been happening all month with little to no international media attention. Here are a few organizations you can check out for resources or to support:
Maybe this is just a European thing, but something I notice if I ever watch documentary or interview-style TV from the 70s/80s/90s is how common it used to be for men with receding hairlines to grow their hair long.
It's not the only thing that's changed since then, ofc. There are so many ways in which what you might call "cosmetic non-conformity" has become much less common, but the reason the receding+long hair style is one that stands out so much to me is that I think it is related to gender in a way that's quite interesting.
There's a popular British comedian called Bill Bailey whose distinctive signature look for decades had been a bald crown with long hair brushed back (a look he called "the skullet"). A few years ago, though, he shaved it all off. The general reaction from the British public was, as usual in these situations, "Wow, he looks so much better!" but I couldn't help feeling a sense of loss when this happened, that I didn't really understand.
On reflection, I think the receding+long hair look is clearly a kind of gender non-conformity. Long hair in men is already somewhat GNC here, because hair length is one of the many attributes that contribute to perceived sex-gender in this particular culture. But receding+long hair is a style that incorporates features that are read as both very masculine and feminine simultaneously, and I think the instinctive revulsion people feel at seeing it comes from the same place that a lot of transmisogynistic revulsion also comes from.
There's something about how sufficient exposure to Testosterone closes off certain avenues of socially acceptable self-expression that makes me feel incredibly sad. The idea that it's particularly embarrassing for a man who has been hormonally masculinised (perhaps against his will) to attempt to appear in a manner that is read as feminine is pretty much a textbook example of the intersection of traditional and oppositional sexism, even if not necessarily transmisogyny.
Long hair in those perceived as boys is often a marker of the transmisogynised in itself: I'm thinking of the image of the sad, softly-spoken, long-haired uncracked egg, or the fairly common transfeminine experience of being forced to have your hair cut against your will. Long hair can be a small act of gender expression, even a shield, against a world that refuses to let you express yourself otherwise.
But then the idea that this form of self-expression is time-limited, that there will come a time when Nature takes away that shield and forces you to embrace manhood, and even if you persist in using that shield by wearing your hair long, the social cost of doing so gets higher and higher until finally you break and cut it off, and a group of men gathers round you to say "see, don't you feel so much better now?" That feels like such a clear example of gender being policed, and gender conformity being rewarded, that it kind-of shocks me how uncritically it is accepted as just normal, even in progressive circles.
There's a Youtuber I follow who has always given me eggy vibes. His hairline has been receding for years, and he has been increasingly getting comments saying "Shave your hair bro, it looks ridiculous". He recently did just that, and the comments have shifted to "You look so good now!"
From a purely aesthetic PoV, I don't even agree: I think the receding+long hair look is often really cool and I love seeing it on the rare occasions that I do. But also I felt an inexpressible sense of sadness in realising that these complimentary comments have an undertone of "I doubted your commitment to manhood before, but you've seen the light and definitively joined us, well done" that I find sinister and unsettling.
Transphobia is about to be signed into law in the UK. We can fight this.
I am begging the UK trans community and its allies to attend the Mass Lobby at Parliament on June 25th, 11am-4pm, organised by Trans Solidarity Alliance.
Last year we broke the record for an LGBT+ mass lobby of Parliament. Will you help us break it again? Join us on 25th June 2026 to demand be
The new EHRC Code of Practice pushes trans people out of toilets, hospital wards, and community spaces. It normalises gender policing based on appearance and stereotypes. It becomes statutory guidance in the UK by the end of June.
Trans people are now legally their assigned gender at birth and must join gendered spaces accordingly, but if they are perceived as their lived gender, they can also be ejected from those spaces. The guidance says: either break the law, or donāt pass too well.
A mass lobby is where you invite your MP to discuss your concerns with you in-person. Ask your MP to:
Demand full parliamentary scrutiny, debate, and use their free vote on the EHRC Code of Practice.
Support any motions rejecting the EHRC guidance. As of June 4th, Labour MP Nadia Whittome has submitted a prayer motion - Early Day Motion 240.
Write to Bridget Phillipson, the Minister for Women and Equalities about our concerns
Your MP does not have to be an ally, they do not have to respond to your email for you to show up and greencard them (details below the cut.) What matters is that as many people as possible show up.
I cannot stress this enough: Showing up in person matters. It is much more effective than petitions, emails, and letters.
It is a horrible, stressful time, and I am so sorry if you're trans and live in the UK. But I was at last year's mass lobby and the line for greencarding alone stretched around the back gates. It was a record breaking mass lobby and made us impossible to ignore. Let's do even better this time. Details under the cut:
Worried about what to say?
Bring your personal worries about transphobia being signed into law, and trans friends being excluded from public spaces. You are a living person who deserves dignity. Remind your MP of that. You will also get guidance and brochures from Trans Solidarity Alliance that outlines our demands. This is mine from last year.
Money issues?
Trans Solidarity Alliance provides a travel bursary that you can sign up for via the link.
Got a refusal or no response from your MP?Ā
Come anyway! You can request a same-day appointment with your MP through a process called greencarding. They will come and see you if theyāre already in Parliament. Even if they donāt, theyāre made acutely aware of your cause because you showed up in person. This is my greencard from last year.
Here is the EHRC Code of Practice in full. It's a tough read, but some highlights are:
Organisations canāt provide trans-inclusive, single-sex services, or they risk being sued for discrimination.
e.g. domestic violence support for women including trans women, menās rugby group including trans men (12.68).
Trans people will have nowhere safe to pee.
If youāre a trans man, businesses can't allow you to pee in the men's, and you can also be ejected from womenās bathrooms if youāre perceived as a man. Vice versa for trans women. EHRC suggests a āthird spaceā bathroom, which is discriminatory and unworkable for most businesses. (13.130-133)
Sports organisations must exclude trans people from single-sex competitions (13.73).Ā
A womenās only sports competition must exclude trans women because of their biological advantage or face potential lawsuits (13.74), but a trans man who has undergone testosterone treatment can also be excluded based on fairness rules (13.81).
Trans women are stripped of the legal definition of ālesbianā, and therefore no longer have legal protections if theyāre discriminated against on the basis of sexual orientation. (2.50, 2.92).
Here is the Good Law Project's better explanation of the EHRC Code.
I have also made a PDF printout of QR codes for the government petition, email your MP tool, and mass lobby link to pass around your communities. DM me and I'll send it to you.
you cannot comment on a strangerās feet being out in an image and then make a joke about victorian ankles. you are the victorian in that situation. its weird and kind of really entitled to do that like if you post an image of any body part someone is going to be into that. If thatās an issue for you donāt put the responsibility of that on the person who you are essentially sexualising? stop and ask yourself, are they being harassed by foot fetishists here or is it just you? idc if itās a joke
i think there is something to be said about this wave of white women made media that is so surface level with an underlying racist and/or insensitive bias and that refuses to engage with criticism. i'm talking taylor swift's the life of a showgirl, emerald fennell's wuthering heights, colleen hoover, the acotar series and booktok in general, etc. whenever you dare to raise concerns about the superficiality or the questionable writing or the treatment of poc in those pieces you get shut down with a "it's not that deep" or "let women have fun". this weaponisation of misogyny to justify slop made for mass consumption, especially considering how wide spread it is becoming, scares me quite a bit. to quote princess weekes, "the girlypopification of anti-intellectualism" is truly concerning, and i do believe it is linked to the rise of far right movements worldwide. if you refuse to engage with what you are being presented with, and exclusively consume brain smoothing content "for fun" then yeah you do become more susceptible to propaganda. it is that deep.
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