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I'd rather be in outer space 🛸
Lint Roller? I Barely Know Her
2025 on Tumblr: Trends That Defined the Year
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I made some artwork in support of #IBelieveSurvivors. We need to stop doubting survivors. We need to hear their stories and value their courage. We need to stop siding with a flawed justice system that protects abusers. We need to listen to the stories of survivors of sexual violence with open hearts and minds. We need to end victim-blaming and shaming, and replace it with compassion and empathy. It was not your fault. Your feelings are valid. And I believe you.
When I say “believe survivors,” I do not mean “accept every story a person tells about themselves in every detail without question,” because traumatic memory is complicated, people do all kinds of things for all kinds of reasons, and sure, sometimes people lie. When I say “believe survivors” I am not saying “throw every person accused of a crime in jail immediately,” because I also don’t believe that carceral systems are a form of justice (they are both insufficient and radically unjust in themselves). When I say “believe survivors,” I am saying, “operate first from the premise that the stories people tell about themselves are significant. Ask yourself what you understand to be sufficient evidence of an event or experience, ask yourself about the model of knowledge you bring to bear when evaluating another’s story, especially stories reflecting systemic forces of oppression, ask yourself about all the ways that the law cannot presume to exhaust the question of justice and can indeed at times actively obscure what justice means”
Miriam Novick (March 24, 2016)
This is still one of the only things that is helping me make sense of yesterday.
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The official NDP twitter account posted this in response to the Jian Ghomeshi verdict.
Kesha’s countersuit against Dr. Luke has been thrown out of New York court
The fight to #FreeKesha suffered another blow Wednesday, as most of her counterclaims against producer Dr. Luke were thrown out of court. Most significantly, New York Supreme Court Justice Shirley Kornreich dismissed the singer’s hate crime claim against Dr. Luke. According to the Hollywood Reporter, she cited a lack of evidence of Dr. Luke’s actual hatred for women. This was a severe setback to her case, but the legal battle is not over yet.
!!!!!!! BREAKING NEWS !!!!!!!
A New York judge on Wednesday decimated Kesha’s lawsuit against Dr. Luke, throwing out all seven claims against the music producer she alleges drugged, raped, and abused her.
And people wonder why fewer than 1 in 5 Sexual Assault victims ever report it
#StayWoke
Ever participated in these ways of making social justice communities exclusive? They're pretty common, but this author's got some ways to include everyone – and some really good points about why it matters.
Is the pressure to KEEP THE BRO CODE really a bully/criminal pressuring your silence?
YOUR silence is PERMITTING VIOLENCE?
This is the full length commercial
It's hard to know how to speak up about a potentially harmful situation you are witnessing. That's why #ConsentMcGill has an Active Bystander Workshop to teach students intervention strategies. Join our fb group for more info!
Margaret Cho opens up about being sexually abused in powerful interview
In an interview with Billboard, Cho discussed her difficult history of victimization as a young girl. According to Cho, the molestation began when she was 5 years old and lasted until the age of 12. Cho said she was abused again by another family friend at 14. Cho is taking back the power by releasing a darkly comedic song about her experience, the she hope will help millions of survivors.
People are demanding #FreedomForKesha: Here’s what accusing a powerful producer of rape has cost her
The Basics:
What is Rape?/Types of Rape
Common Responses to Rape/Sexual Assault(ppt)
But How Do I Get Over It?
Processing New Information on Old Hurts.
Traumaversaries
Why You Aren’t Bad for Loving Your Abuser.
Finding Coping Mechanisms that Work
How to Talk About Trauma:
Talking About Trauma (ppt)
Talking About Trauma (to others)
What if they don’t believe me?
Need Help With:
Sleep
Nightmares
Surviving the Holidays (ppt)
Overstimulated Nerves
Self-Injury (ppt)
Flashbacks (ppt)
Making Peace With the Emotion Monster
On Holding Anger for Attackers
Disordered Eating, What it is and What you can do about it.
Admitting Weakness
Hygiene.
Regression
The Follower Collaborative Series:
Coping With Flashbacks
Triggers:
I’m triggered- Now What?
More On Triggers
On Purposely Triggering Yourself
Getting Over Triggers
De-triggering Abuser Names.
Reclaiming a Space
Boundaries:
Boundaries (ppt)
Boundaries 101
Boundaries: How to set them
Survivor+Survivor: Boundaries
Self-Care:
What is Self Care Anyway?
BACE Method
Self Care When You Lack a Sense of Self
Interpersonal Self-Care
Emotional Self Care
Physical Self Care
How to Do Self Care When You Only Have A Little Bit of Time
Self Care For Cold Weather
Self Care + Trauma Work
Consent/sex:
Intimacy After Rape
Lets Talk Consent
Lets Talk Sex
Sexuality After Rape
Using Sex as Self Harm?
Posts about Suicide:
Talking about Suicide (why we want to blame the suicidal and why we shouldn’t)
Don’t Call Suicide Selfish
Suicidal Ideation
For Friends/Family/Partners of Survivors:
How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Raped.(ppt)
Avoiding Awkward- How to talk about rape when we talk to survivors.(ppt)
Sometimes the easiest thing to say is the worst.
Being Family/Friends isn’t an excuse.
A Friend is Self Harming (ppt)
Comfort In. Complain Out.
What Can I Do?
Reality Checks
There are many misconceptions about what it’s like to be a sexual assault survivor. One particularly harmful assumption is that survivors are affected by their experience only in the immediate wake of trauma. Every survivor’s experience is different, but many will agree that healing is an ongoing process. Media justice organizer and filmmaker Tani Ikeda is addressing this reality with her powerful new project and Tumblr, Survivor Love Letter.
The powerful truth about healing every letter reveals
Here’s some terminology about gender that many people get wrong! To learn more, go here: www.transstudent.org/gendergrammar
Consent is important in using the right language to describe people! If you aren’t sure, ask, but these terms are generally accepted. Keep learning and updating your vocab though, as language tends to evolve quickly in all cases as new, more compassionate ways of speaking are developed.
Very few survivors, particularly those on college campuses, choose to report sexual violence to the police. Many victims are assaulted by friends or intimate partners and, for many of these students, turning those individuals over to the cops isn’t a viable option. For others who are undocumented, gender nonconforming, or of color, going to the police often means risking suffering more violence, like deportation, police brutality, or criminalization themselves.
The ‘Safe’ Campus Act Is Anything But, by Zoe Ridolfi-Starr at RH Reality Check (via rhrealitycheck)
While it might be hurtful to you when a partner decides that the agreements they made with you no longer work for them, they always have that right to opt out or renegotiate, just like you always have the right to say you no longer wish to continue the relationship under the new paradigm. It seems that many of these types of structures are created to give the illusion that someone has security, that they will never lose a partner, that their life will always look predictable in certain ways, and that within certain parameters we can expect to get something out of someone else just for being in a relationship with them. In truth, we are not guaranteed these things. We could not be guaranteed these things without violating the consent of others. So while we can never be safe from being hurt, we can keep these things in mind and adjust our own expectations accordingly. By always being aware that the fellow human being you relate to is an autonomous individual, we can respect their decisions and take responsibility for our own. Within such a framework, it becomes much more likely that the relationships we engage in are mutually beneficial, and not a coercive structure where someone is only staying out of a sense of duty or obligation. While this can be a scary reality to face, it is incredibly important to own our fears, rather than attempting to use them to dictate or control the behavior of others.
Rules, Role Playing, and Consent | Our Better Natures (via brutereason)
Some more things to think about and reflect on after the campaign! Read this article about consent in polyamorous relationships.
Don’t Touch My Hair
Black women’s consent in particular is often taken for granted. This is not ok, especially given the historical legacies of white people’s violation of black women’s consent. For more articles about this topic, click here, and here.
Thanks so much to everyone who helped out with the campaign and who came and talked to us, attended events, and entered our raffle! We’ll be doing prize draws soon, but we have already given away 4 floors tickets and some consent giveaway bags. Still up for grabs are Roxanne Gay tickets as well as a massage voucher from SCCSpa and a mani/pedi voucher also from SCCSpa!
If you have any questions or want to help us make future programming better, look out for the feedback form on our fb page, coming soon. :)
