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lifeafterpsychiatry

"No one can love you until you love yourself" is like the worst possible way of articulating "if you don't respect and value yourself, it's very easy to become attracted to people who don't treat you right and then justify their mistreatment, so be careful."

amysubmits

So, I read this and then literally stared at the wall for a second while analyzing if this made sense. 🤣

I do get it. But I’m not convinced that most people who say the former mean the latter. I’ve always thought they are trying to literally say nobody can love you ‘properly’ unless you love yourself first. Like it just isn’t possible to love a person who doesn’t already love themselves. Not that it’s just potentially a risk to yourself if you don’t. Am I crazy? I don’t know if this is just another case of me being too literal or not.

gardensandghosts

I think it’s both, said the same, by different people with different interpretations. I think some people may conflate “love” with “self-respect”, and that makes sense.

You don’t have to love yourself to be loved. However, feeling unworthy of love and respect can make you choose some things that are a form of self-harm.

I’ll give personal examples because I DEFINITELY didn’t love or respect myself for a long time, and felt unworthy of healthy relationships (blame Catholic sex ed).

I was told that I would corrupt and ruin the life of a “good man” so I looked on purpose for the kind of controlling, angry man that would keep me away from everyone else, so I couldn’t hurt anybody. I was told I was already damaged, couldn’t ever make myself pure, and was useless for anything but being a whore, so I stayed with abusers, hoping and praying I could please them enough with whatever I could give them that I wouldn’t be hungry or homeless.

I threw away my teens and twenties because I was taught that loving myself and respecting myself were further proof that I was an awful human being.

Part of healing from that has been learning that even on days where my depression tries to speak in the voices of my past teachers, I am worth love and respect. I do not love myself every day, but I am practicing kindness to myself. I am respecting myself. I acknowledge that I am worthy, deserving of, and rightfully have the love and respect of others, and that anyone who doesn’t love or respect me isn’t worth my time or attention.

I will no longer justify my abuse.

danikajaye

I 100% agree with everything above.

I would also like to add a secret second thing about the “no one can love you until you love yourself” situation.

As someone who has experienced this first hand, it often does not matter how kind or loving someone is to you when you hate yourself. You can find any kind of way to justify their love as tolerating you or doing things out of obligation as opposed to the loving and thoughtful acts they really are.

To me, that phrase has always about first recognizing that you are worthy of love. When I truly and honestly hold in my heart the belief that I am not worthy of love, others’ love cannot reach me. I have to respect and value myself enough that I can comprehend the fact that others might also value me.

lifeafterpsychiatry

Don't ever compare the 3% you know about someone else to the 100% knowledge you have when it comes to yourself. That's not fair and it will always leave you feeling inferior. But you're not inferior to anyone just because you don't know their story as well as you know your own! They're not actually better than you - you just don't know the whole story.

binaryeclipse

I just wanna say, if you aren't American, definitely try setting a modern AU in your country. Fill it with the things you know, to breathe life into it. It's really nice to see new settings, to open up a fic and go 'oh wait, hold up, I know that place'. It might only apply to a few people who read your fic but it's really rewarding to get that feedback.

(Americans keep doing you, just trying to encourage the rest of us lol)

roach-works

also fics that localize the action to Not America are extremely interesting and show a lot of people something new and wonderful, while also letting the writer express their own love for their own place. it's a win/win.

is the borhap fandom dead because i honestly miss whatever the fuck we had in 2018 and 2019 😔

#borhap #im currently really sad