so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.
This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.
And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.
Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.
Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.
Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.
My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).
But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.
So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?
Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.
In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.
Commissioned art made by Rowein in twt, bsky and insta
Also, check out Office Tensions written by @rbundollie inspired on these commissions! Full course meal!
And while you are at it, please congratulate bun on her 100th fic!! Lovely that she picked jaytim for it!! <3
i became obsessed with jaytim over the weekend i don’t know what happened but here is a little sketch dump as i figure out how to draw (horns blaring) western comic fanart
As there wasn’t an official Kinktober prompt list last year, we’ve put together an unofficial one for 2025, along with an AO3 collection. The graphics were all made by @latte-cucumber, and she's also made a banner that you’re welcome to use for your Tumblr Kinktober posts:
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Kinktober is an October prompt challenge that’s been running in one form or another since 2016. There are three prompts for each day in October, and the challenge is to use one (or more!) of the prompts to create something for that day. If you don’t want to use any of the three daily prompts, you can swap them out for the bonus prompts at the bottom of the prompt list.
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Being a Batkid doesn’t mean pushing through pain just for the ego or superiority win. It means pushing through pain long enough to make it somewhere safe to get help. It means not giving anyone, even an ally, a chance to parse weakness.
Dick finishes a rough mission with the Titans where he got thrown hard into a wall, smiles and jokes with everyone, and then zetas back to the Cave where he promptly throws up and collapses because almost every bone in his left arm is broken and not a single person noticed.
I'm telling you, for people who traffic in shadows and secrets and world ending conspiracies, the most classified information, the most closely guarded secret, is the contents of the Bat-issued field medical kit.
In case of grievous injury (see: field medicine manual, triage: arterial bleeding, pneumothorax, blunt trauma): Open the foil packet in the top right and consume the entire contents. Count sixty seconds, then remove the aerosol tube from the bottom compartment, pull the tab to break the seal, and spray any wound still bleeding for no more than five seconds each. You may experience auditory noise and disorientation. Apply the field dressings as needed. Once your vision clears, immediately extract to a secure location, lie supine, and crack the capsule embedded in your left instep to activate the homing beacon and initiate removal. If extraction is delayed, at thirty minutes, use the inhaler located in the far left pocket: shake three seconds, spray into the mouth while inhaling, repeat four times. Repeat at one minute intervals until your pulse stabilizes.
And never tell anyone outside of the Batcave what it takes to fight gods and win.
Listen, I hear you, but I am stuck tripping over what could possibly be in that bag to treat arterial bleeding and a pneumothorax and blunt trauma.
There should be at least three bags. The pneumothorax one has a needle sharp enough to pierce through the densest portion of their chest armor. And a primary alert activates the minute you open the bag. You can hide from your peers but you can't hide from dad.
i know i joke about rent-lowering gunshots but i cannot emphasize enough that incest and rape kinks are extremely common. wildly popular. this is something that a lot of people fantasize about, because it’s an easily accessible taboo, it intrigues/scares/interests people and there’s a lot of content out there to absorb about it. it’s really not that out there or extreme to have those fetishes; we are talking top charters on pornhub of all places.
Also: sometimes the fetish is just window-dressing for something that IS deeply hungered for below the surface. Like I know people (both real ones and fictional ones) for whom a rape kink is about "What if I was INTENSELY DESIRED, so desired that nothing else mattered?" on one side, and on the other, "What if I could let loose and WANT THINGS without having to hold myself back? What if I didn't have to be afraid of the power of my own wanting?"
Like yeah, sometimes kinks do reveal something about our underlying psychological issues, but it's almost never "I literally want to do a real, violent crime against another person." It's way more interesting and deep and complicated and metaphorical than that.
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