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[fluffysheeple]

christian bad driver: my guardian angel watches over me, I don't need to look before I merge

atheist bad driver: I will rely on my own skill to see myself safely home after a mere 8 drinks

agnostic bad driver: no one knows where all these dents and scratches came from

[sunflowers-and-scales]

“this character did not act in the most objectively logical way possible!” is not ! actually valid literary criticism

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

always some new bullshit in the ocean

[local-demon-in-your-area]

Why is it always orcas or dolphins

Why can't a salmon do some bullshit for once

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

worry not ☝️ they're doing coke

[byjove]

Movie about a depressed and rather morbid autistic man planning to commit suicide and picking up a number of odd jobs in an effort to raise enough money to meticulously plan and prepay for his funeral so his mother doesn’t have to worry about it after he is gone. He begins to connect with people and enjoy life for the first time while working part time as a greeter in the funeral home, helping an eccentric old lady organize her basement, walking 7 dogs and maintaining a feral cat colony for a guy with a broken foot, playing a number of bit parts in local ads and stocking the shelves at the convenience store at night. In the end, he has befriended many of his neighbors and he decides he does not want to die and goes back to school to become a funeral director instead.

[byjove]

He is popular at his funeral home gig because he keeps accidentally saying things that are very reassuring and death positive. Because he wants to die. He eventually donates his funeral fund to the old lady’s granddaughter after her sudden death so she does not have to sell her grandmother’s prized possessions to pay for her funeral.

[byjove]

The old lady gifts him one of her ceramic cats at the beginning of the film which he reluctantly accepts out of politeness. Near the end of the film, he adopts a friendly cat from the cat colony that looks remarkably like the ceramic cat and names it after her, signaling his commitment to surviving and caring for his cat the way the old woman lived for her ceramic collection.

[mementomauri]

I do have a fondness for how gothic and erotic lit had a certain barrier to entry. Like I do love more ppl getting into the vampire chronicles and I'll always be happy to have more Loustat fans but those books are weird and melancholic and erotic and philosophical and constantly testing boundaries and asking questions. And it feels like ppl are expecting or wanting "the vampire diaries but gay". The books have uncomfortable moments and the characters will do and say and believe things that make you double take but so much of the books are just "how moral can I be when nothing matters and I'm immortal?"

This isn't just a tale of gay vampires. It's a haunting philosophical treatise about life, mortality, morality, death, depression, incest, rape, love, regret, and the Pain Of Time. It can be fun and it can be gross and it can be wonderful but it's not for the timid.

[lovetheviking]

This

[hymnism]

happened to my good friend ass creed

[artistformerlyknownasbutttrumpet]

i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!

[fuck-customers]

[dorsalfinofmyfrontallobe]

My favorite part of any job

[innerchildabortionclinic]

getting kicked off love island for just swimming in the pool and not talking to anyone

[theashesofthefirststar]

[yellow-cat]

(voice of a person spiralling) its embarrassing but i still havent figured out if its ok for me to be alive

[ceruleanheaven]

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

[cursedpossums]

unrestrained summer fun

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[d0llar-store-aftercare]

if ur considering recovery/harm reducing for your eating disorder its so so worth it you can do it i love you

[self-harm-harm-reduction]

[Image description: a blue and white info graphic titled "EATING DISORDER HARM REDUCTION" in all caps. Below the title it says "This list was developed with input from ED specialists including nutritionists, dieticians, and dentists. It does not constitute medical advice, and should be discussed with a provider whenever possible. It is not intended for anyone currently at risk for re-feeding or under-feeding syndrome. It is non-exhaustive, and will be continually updated. To suggest a tip, email [email protected] with the subject line "ED HARM REDUCTION""

The first section is titled "VOMITING", and reads:

"DURING

Use your hand not a foreign object. If scarring is a concern, alternate with your non-dominant hand.

Watch for blood in your vomit, especially if anything you ate might resemble or conceal blood keeping in mind that blood brought up this way might appear more brown than red. If you do see blood, stop - it might signify a tear in your esophagus or stomach lining.

AFTER

Mix a little baking soda with water and rinse then spit. Fluoride works, too.

Wait at least an hour to brush your teeth or to consume any sugary or acidic foods.

Drink Pedialyte, Gatorade or something similar. Sip slowly.

THROUGHOUT THE DAY

Drink fluids. Doesn't have to be water - just non-alcoholic and non-caffeinated.

Use high-fluoride and/or enamel-buliding toothpaste.

Use a soft toothbrush.

Chew sugar-free gum to help promote saliva production.

Ask if your provider advises potassium chloride tablets.

If you regularly take Advil or a similar medicine processed through the kidneys try switching to acetaminophen (Tylenol) or another medication that's processed through the liver, purging can strain your kidneys, so you want to ease their workload.

Get your electrolyte levels, vitals, heart function, and kidney function checked as regularly as your provider recommends."

The next section is titled "RESTRICTING", and reads:

"Take a multivitamin, plus calcium, and vitamin D supplements.

To the extent that your body can safely handle, engage in 10-minute sessions of resistance or weight-bearing exercise (stair-climbing, lifting weights) to help keep your bones strong. Avoid contact sports, motions that twist/bend your spine and any exercise that involves risk of falling.

If eating solid food is difficult, try different forms of liquid nutrition - meal replacement shakes, medical supplements, pudding.

If you have a dietician or similar provider you trust ask for help establishing some baseline in-take/nutrition goals, and discuss them in the context of specific foods you feel safe eating."

The next section is titled "LAXATIVE USE", and reads:

"Try to not use more than a few days in a row and not in larger quantities due to increasing tolerance If you use stimulant laxatives (Ex-Lax, Senakot), try switching osmotic/non-stimulant ones (milk of magnesia, MiraLAX) which are less harmful. Pay no mind to whether the label vibe is natural vs artificial, you care only about the ingredient list.

Drink Pedialyte, Gatorade or something similar after you purge.

If you regularly use Advil or a similar medication that's processed through the kidneys try switching to acetaminophen.

There is no conclusive evidence for tapering vs stopping cold. What matters is that however you proceed is what best fits your pattern of use and your main concerns over changing it. Give your body a few weeks before judging progress. More than two poops/week during this time, you're doing great."

The next section is titled "BINGEING", and reads:

Go slow bingeing is usually done in a dissociated state - take your time and try to notice the foods as you're eating them.

Take a short walk (5-10 minutes) afterward to help with digestion.

Try a hot water bottle on your stomach if you're in pain while digesting. Avoid curling into a ball or lying on your back.

At the onset of a binge, have a large meal and explore eating to fullness rather than extreme pain."

The next section is titled "OVER-EXERCISING", and reads:

"Take the time to thoroughly stretch and warm up first.

When possible, work out with someone supportive who's been in conversation with you and your doctor about helpful/hurtful exercise habits. Try to reduce exercising alone.

Try exercises that involve slower movements, like walking or swimming (somewhere with a lifeguard). When no one's available to join you try walking outside when/where safe to do so - see if you can make that the primary form of exercise you do alone. Stick to familiar terrain close to your home."

The final section is titled "ALL", and reads:

"Take all medications and supplements at the time of day furthest from any purging.

Try reducing a harmful behaviours frequency - from several times a day to once a day or from once a day to a few times a week.

"Drink enough water" means different things for different people, so although eight glasses of non-alcoholic non-caffeinated fluids a day can be a starting point, ask your provider's input here if you can.

Get your electrolyte levels, vitals, heart function, and kidney function checked as regularly as your provider recommends." /end id]

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[disabilityreminders]

It’s normal for symptoms to vary day to day. This does not invalidate you or mean you are faking when you’re having a “better” day.

[borderlinereminders]

Hey. If you’re trying to resist an urge/impulse right now and having a hard time, I just want to remind that you can do this. You can resist that urge/impulse.

Sometimes I tell myself, “you can do it later” instead of telling my brain “no” and it helps ease the discomfort of the urge. (And then later comes and it’s passed completely.)

Either way, just remember, this feeling is going to pass. This discomfort isn’t forever. You can do this.

[tordenvejr]

don't glorify neglect and lack of support. surviving alone isn't an indicator of strength, it just means you're alone. don't make your life about how much you can endure or for how long you can sustain yourself with bites of yourself. you are not less for recognizing you don't want to do this on your own