[durbeyfiields]

kinda crazy that people are excusing lily collins’ use of a surrogate because of her ed. like yes eds can massively effect your fertility. no that doesn’t mean you’re allowed to outsource pregnancy to another woman 😭

[durbeyfiields]

so we’re still doing the “hide pro forced birth rhetoric behind disability activism” thing huh

[durbeyfiields]

ppl on here will call anything terfy jesus christ

[durbeyfiields]

women get soooooo mad about pamela anderson not wearing makeup. it’s reveals soooo starkly how insecure these ppl are. the very simple non-action of not glopping chemicals on her face and saying “i like my natural face i think it’s beautiful” is apparently “shaming” women who choose to wear makeup. dozens of comments by women saying “it’s ok to wear makeup ladies! do whatever makes you feel good!” women going so far as to say that appearing at a public event sans makeup is “rude.” a woman’s natural face is “disrespectful.” women saying she looks “old” and “tired”, that a little mascara and lipgloss is all she needs, how hard is that? what a lazy b*tch!

it’s literally the most basic least aggressive thing in the world. literal non action. she is not saying anything about the moral or ethical implications of makeup, the misogyny of the industry and the cultural expectation of female make up use, the health risk of untested chemicals, the capitalist consumption, the sourcing of material, the plastic and the wastefulness. there are 1 million more aggressive anti makeup stances she could take and all she’s doing is “i like my face” which she SHOULD and for every supportive women there’s 20 women tearing her down and taking major copium for their own inability to look at their own bare faces. embarrassing fucking behavior

[durbeyfiields]

i love how for so many people online like opposite of like a bdsm orgy is church. no nuance no in between. if you feel uncomfortable at all with any aspect of any type of sex you’re a right wing fear monger and you should join your nearest evangelical congregation. do not pass go!

[durbeyfiields]

some dude on twitter is talking about communal stations to hand wash clothes as a way to mitigate climate change and electricity use which is a nice idea in theory but women are rightfully taking him to task about how clothes washing was almost exclusively labor that women did, often unpaid, and that the invention of appliances like the washing machine were integral to women’s liberation from the home and that if we brought it back the task would inevitably fall to women again.

you know what would really cut down on electricity use and reverse climate change? starts with “killing”and ends with “all men”

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

I can feel concern for any woman that I want. "She doesn't need your pity." She doesn't have it. She has my concern. "She's rich, she's doing just fine." Great, she still has my concern. "She's sexually liberated, you're being weird." Dope. As she should be. She still has my concern. "You sound like a Karen." I've seen what you define as a Karen, so that doesn't mean anything. She still has my concern. "She wouldn't give a damn if you were the one going through it."

My feminism is not conditional. She has my concern.

[durbeyfiields]

the bad thing about earnestly engaging with the fandom of something you really love is you have to put up with all of their queerposting

[durbeyfiields]

can’t engage with the history side of tumblr lmao they think misandry is real

[sewercentipede]

women hating other women over a man makes me feel like ben-affleck-with-a-cigarette.jpg because not a single man on planet earth is was or ever will be worth that. it’s 2024 we need some class consciousness ladies

[kragehund-est]

hey there popular social justice poster, i see you're asking people to reflect on their biases against a marginalized group. nice! quick question. why did you make it into a jab about women? yeah, i was actually right there with you until you decided to finish your post up with a strawman of a woman prioritizing her own safety and calling her a bad person for it. good talk 👍

[soundcarvings]

Women’s pain in cinema is always at risk of being an erotic gift to the spectator, this is true about social media and the sharing of traumatic stories online as well. Where is this treatment of pain and suffering as a spectacle leading us?

[susansontag]

[drowsyjude]

[iinsectwoman]

Harris 2024

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

I love how people are against the idea of a female president because of what a woman would theoretically do in office, but nobody is against male presidents despite actual evidence about what men do when they're in office. Every single president has been male. That means every bad decision a president has ever made has been a man's bad decision. But sure, women can't be in power because uh. Because uh...

[andro-genesis]

Women’s triumphs are individual but our faults are collective.

Men’s triumphs are collective but their faults are individual.

[camomileapplesyrup]

one of my biggest gripes with bdsm & "taboo" kink discourse was the overused "coping mechanism" defense that i hear oh so much. especially on twitter, from women in heterosexual relationships.

i won't go into the "not all coping mechanisms are good coping mechanisms" argument, but i will propose this;

when you are allowing a man to engage in a non consensual fantasy, or incest fantasy, or otherwise violent and abusive fantasy, what trauma is he coping with and relieving?

is he getting off to helping you re-contextualise a situation where you lost all control, in a controlled and safe environment? or is he enjoying the power to hurt & abuse you that you are offering to him on a silver platter?

and do you think, that at the end of the day, your safety & healing is what turns him on? or the fact that he can freely abuse a traumatised woman, under the guise of "fantasy" and "sexual liberation"?

[radicallycooljewishgirl]

No you sound like a completely normal feminist, just the way you called women “cumsluts” and “cock worshippers” threw me off.

[durbeyfiields]

like at this point i’m getting radicalized against the entire fertility industry including ivf. it’s misogynistic and anti-child. no one is entitled to biological offspring. if you’re infertile or in a relationship in which pregnancy can’t occur naturally that’s just too fucking bad. life sucks sometimes. i think one of the ways to address this need to have kids and feel like you’re ~passing something on~ is to reframe our understanding of the family and develop a more communal approach to child rearing where appropriate. if we all learn to consider the ways we contribute to the development and growth of the children in our lives maybe we won’t feel as compelled to have our own. there is so much about the fertility industry, the adoption industry, abortion bans and restrictions on birth control, poor maternal health care, poverty, lack of access to mental health and addiction treatment that keep women in a subservient position re: her reproduction and turns children into commodities of which there is a surplus, because everyone wants babies but children are only babies for a short time. idk i’ve lost the plot of this post lol all this to say our approach to reproduction, parenthood, and family need to be radically realigned so that it honors the humanity of women and children because as it stands both are resources and things to acquire.