I was actually gonna scroll past this but no. Everyone needs to see and reblog this. I will never be desensitized to this act against humanity…40 CHILDREN…not on this Earth anymore…because of the United States
thats like saying a gun manufacture/seller is responsible for the deaths of all those people at PULSE nightclub.
I mean we can have a conversation about who we sell weapons to but come ON y’all going on about how we the United States deliberately aimed at a fucking bus by order of High Commander Trump.
@friendly-neighborhood-patriarch @nunyabizni Yall know that as a part of being allies w/ Saudi Arabia, the US military also conducts drone strikes and have killed thousands of Yemeni citizens themselves right?. I’m begging y’all to look this stuff up before you speak on it or try to absolve the US for killing innocent people.
The US sells weapons to Saudis KNOWING where these weapons will directly go (they go to Wahabi/Salafist terrorist orgs and to killing Yemenis) and who they’re targeting, the US military aids in strikes against Yemenis.
This isn’t “blame the manufacturer for what the people who buy it do with it”, or “they’re mad at the car factories for car accidents har har har!” It’s all extremely intentional on the Americans part of who they fund and sell weapons to and aid.
I’m begging Anti-SJW Centrists on my hands and knees to actually read instead of getting their geopolitics from knee jerk reactions to screencaps of tweets. People in the US know the Saudi government is bad, people know the House of Saud is corrupt, but most dont know exactly how complicit the US is in middle eastern destabilization and death.
“Did you know non-privileged sex workers are capable of using the Internet and speaking for themselves?”
Yes, and not all of them agree. Many of us do not feel empowered by this like you do. Many of us want to be free to criticize this industry. You are trying to silence the ones who are in the shadows and could face deportation by talking openly about this. You are privileged.
“ Did you know some successful sex workers started out being trafficked or doing street-based survival work? “
Are you arguing that because some successful sex workers started out being trafficked that sex trafficking is cool now? The industry is great because "hey you may have been forced into this industry, but one day you can make a good living off of it" Are you serious? So I guess we shouldn't try to give women more options if they are human trafficked, or working on the street, because eventually they may make a lot of money right? Cool, let's do nothing. So now we know you are pro- sex trafficking.
“ Do you keep some sex workers use sex work to get out of abusive relationships and households? “
Did you know that we should as a society should give resources to women who are in abusive relationships and households? But hey I guess I should tell members of my family who are in abusive families (some of them 16 to 14) that they should leave the house and sell themselves. That'll solve everything right?
“ Do you know many sex workers choose sex work because it's a job that allows for many types of physical and mental disability? “
Did you know that we should help those with physical and mental disabilities and treat them like everyone else. We shouldn't say that they are incapable in being in the regular workforce, and should do prostitution instead.
“ Do you know sex work is one of the very few jobs where women are paid more than men? Do you know sex work is one of the very few jobs where women can achieve upward mobility to lift themselves out of poverty and into financial stability? “
Well I guess if all women became prostitutes that would solve the wage gap problem and we would have gender equality right?
Sex work in one of the few jobs where women are paid more then men. What does that say about women's position in society? ... Think about it.
Prostitution is not the solution to everything. It is not welfare for women. You're arguments do not sound feminist to me at all. They sound like they are coming straight out of patriarchy. Prostitution was created by patriarchy, not feminism. Prostitution is not the thing that's going to create equality for all. It's not the solution to the problem, but rather a reflection of double standards, and of the patriarchal system itself. Sex workers should be allowed to criticize this industry without having you there to silence them.
‘There are a few women who apparently earn large amounts of money in Prostitution, these women are in an extreme minority. Prostitution is a route into poverty for most women. Even women in legal brothels report having to pay extortionate sums for rent and food. They also pay pimps inside and outside the brothels. They are not free to come and go as they wish. Women in prostitution must continually lie about their lives, their bodies, and their sexual responses. Lying is part of the job definition when the customer asks, “did you enjoy it?” The very edifice of prostitution is built on the lie that “women like it.” Some prostitution survivors have stated that it took them years after leaving prostitution to acknowledge that prostitution wasn’t a free choice because they had to lie to themselves in order to survive.’
- From http://www.prostitutionresearch.com/pdfs/Myths%20&%20Facts%20Legal%20&%20Illegal%20Prostitution%203-09.pdf
I’ve noticed that many sex worker have used the following two points to try to silence my criticisms of the industry.
a) You can’t be for a worker and against the industry
b) Love the sinner, hate the sin is bullshit.
This isn't like any other job. The fact that there is so much stigma, that they feel so defensive about saying anything bad about this industry, and are threatened when someone else says anything negative illustrates that this isn't like any other industry.
In other other industry people complain. They talk shit about their job. They are even against the industry sometimes. They hope the whole company goes to shit, and bad things happen to the boss sometimes. Why do so many sex workers (especially the ones who are most vocal online about it) feel they shouldn’t be free to do the same? Why aren't people allowed to talk negatively about aspects of the industry? Or be against the industry? It’s because of the stigma. And boy does it sting. It stings so bad that any criticism of the industry can feel to them like a personal attack on them personally.
Let’s get on things straight
I personally believe that people should do whatever they need to do to survive. That means stealing, drug dealing, and prostitution. However I do not condone stealing, or the drug/prostitution industry.
I can be anti-slavery and support slaves.
I can be anti-war and support veterans.
I can be anti-McDonald and support McDonald workers
I can be an atheist and support freedom of religion
etc.
Sex workers should be given the freedom to criticize, complain, talk shit about their industry and even be against it. Very often sex workers who try to do this online are attacked, ostracized, forced into silence, their suffering and critiques downplayed and dismissed by the very people who claim to defend them.
You can't know who worked in the sex industry. This isn't information that women who work/ed in the industry likes to volunteer online to strangers who clearly don't care about another point of view. Many people who talk passionately about this topic are actually ex- escorts or sex workers themselves, but don't want to expose themselves online.
Stop silencing their voices. They should be heard without exposing their dark secret that could cost them everything online.
I’ve been feeling really angry recently. I hate lying. I really do. I don’t feel right when I do. I wish I could be more honest. But I feel prostitution is definitely keeps me from being honest. Most of the time I fear that if I put myself out there too much then people will eventually find out and I’ll be “outted”. But then I think of all the amazing women who managed to do amazing things with their lives after being involved in prostitution. I don’t think that prostitution should define people, just like a past in drug dealing shouldn’t define someone. It’s a dark and lonely place to be in. And that’s the environment I grew up in.
I’ve been so all over the place because of family drama. My cousin who is pregnant and has been doing who knows what to get by is gone. I used to be in contact with her, but she just disappeared. She’s 16 and with an abusive boyfriend who impregnated her. Last time we spoke she was selling drugs to get by. I really hope she manages to get back in touch with me again.
It always annoys me when prostitutes compare their job to McDonalds. Women who push their “pro-sex” agenda would be ignored if they actually worked for McDonalds. Imagine giving so much attention and airtime to someone trying to sell McDonalds?
They come in and talk about how great and “empowering” working for McDonalds is, and how people who have negative experiences of McDonalds should be ignored. They go on about how any evidence, data, or testimonies from organizations that find McDonalds to be unhealthy, and a bad place to work should be discarded and ignored. Only they should be listened to.
That’s how the fuck they sound.
If an actual McDonalds employee acted like this, they would ignored. People would assume they are one of the few people who actually enjoys working there, are privileged, are lying, or are advertising for their store. No one in the right mind would take it seriously as the “truth” for the industry, or would take it as a testimony as the norm. No one in the right mind would take them seriously, or start a whole moment on how great and “empowering” McDonalds is based on this.
So why are people doing it for prostitution. My guess is that things that are hidden, and have a dark streak tend to be romanticized in our culture.
Right, so first of all, sex work and prostitution are the same thing; the term “sex work” was created to normalize the idea of prostitution and make it sound more acceptable.
As for your question, this type of thinking is very common and it’s problematic. I recently participated in a program where I heard a story of a beautiful woman who worked a brothel. Before, she had worked as a laborer in a textile factory, barely getting by. She switched occupations and her work as a prostitute allowed her to live well and send her children to private school.
So, what is objectionable in this situation?
She is successfully able to support herself through her work. What must be remembered, is that, at the moment, she is young and beautiful. She feels in control. However, like most who come into this line of “work”, she came from poverty. She chose this because she could not find another option.
Prostitution is not sometimes exploitative, it is always exploitative. By finding a situation to make it “acceptable” people are telling women, girls, children, men, whomever, that objectification of a person and self-objectification is alright.
In the situation you named above, one roommate(we’ll call him/her 1) offering the other(2) a night of casual sex in exchange for rent that month is objectifying him/herself. A person who feels the need to portray themselves as an object often does so because they do not feel they have another option (whether or not this is true is insignificant, if psychologically, the prostitute feels there is no better choice). By accepting the offer, 2 is effectively telling 1 that he/she views 1 as an object that 2 is willing to price.
Regardless of whether these two rational adults feel negatively impacted by this choice, the mindset that it can sometimes be acceptable to sell or buy a person, for an hour, a night, a lifetime, is the same mindset that makes slavery an acceptable trade.
Jess from http://freethoughtblogs.com/taslima/2012/04/11/prostitution/
Women do not always want sex. Women want security. MEN want sex. The male sex drive is seventeen times stronger than the female’s. You have no clue what it’s like to want sex the way men do because you literally can’t.
Manslation: I really wanna believe this is true, so I’ll pull a number out of my ass to make it sound official.
Alternate manslation: My baseless speculation clearly trumps your lived experience because I’m a man.
I fucking can’t today. My father gave me hell forever because he found out I did escorting in the past. But today he shamelessly went off on a story about going to a topless strip club. When I was a little girl he would tell me about the brothels he would go to, and even point them out as we walked in NYC. When I was teen I found out from my mom that he cheated on her with another woman. We never really talked about it, unless HE wanted to, and when he did he was bragging. He didn’t expect to be shamed for it, because he’s a man and he never will be. But he’ll shame me for needing the money while I was out on the streets, and he’ll verbally attack a woman’s very being for doing what she needs to do to survive. He’s laugh about talking to some topless woman but will also laugh about a woman being raped. “Really,” he’ll explain, “It’s a woman’s fault if she is raped”. Where did this women have all the control even over men’s actions idea come from? It must be great being a man, to be able to dictate what is right and wrong, and always be in the right. Women are the ones who are punished, and the punishment can never go far enough. I’ll be the one responsible always for the men who cheat on their wives with me, for the men who choose to buy an hour with me, for the men who coerce, and hold me down to rape me, for the men who molestate me as a child, for the countless men who will touch me, and stalk me, for the men who batter me, for the men who make me question my sanity, morality, intelligence, my very humanity, because I’m the crazy one, I’m the one who is to blame, and I’m the only one who must be punished. Men joke about their sins, while women pay for them.
By Kira Cochrane / The Guardian On the popular website Reddit, where users submit and share content, a member of a forum called “creepshots” was handing out advice last week. His subject? How to photograph women surreptitiously. “Don’t be nervous,” he wrote. “If you are, you’ll stand out. Don’t hover too much, get your shot and move … Continue reading “Creepshots” and revenge pornography latest frontiers in war against women →
On the popular website Reddit, where users submit and share content, a member of a forum called “creepshots” was handing out advice last week. His subject? How to photograph women surreptitiously. “Don’t be nervous,” he wrote. “If you are, you’ll stand out. Don’t hover too much, get your shot and move on if you can … You’ll look less like a creep if you have photos of things other than just hot chicks’ asses.”
He offered this advice in the comment stream attached to a gallery of photos of women snapped unawares at airports. Those images joined hundreds posted by group members of women waiting for trains, packing groceries, standing on escalators; the camera homing in on their bottom, crotch or breasts. And they joined thousands more on creep websites as a whole, a large, thriving online subculture. The point is to catch women unawares, lay claim to something off-limits, then share it around for bragging rights and comment.
Erin Gloria Ryan, a writer for popular women’s website Jezebel.com, was alerted to the forum by concerned Reddit users who are trying to get it closed, partly because some of the pictures appear to have been taken in schools. The content on the creepshot forum isn’t pornography, says Ryan, “but it is using people’s images in ways they definitely wouldn’t want authorised”. For group members, she says, it seems to be precisely women’s lack of consent – the violation of their privacy and agency – that is appealing.
The issue of women’s pictures being taken and shared without their consent has been in the spotlight for more than a week now because of the furore around topless images of the Duchess of Cambridge. I suspect the most arresting photograph of the scandal will actually prove to be the one that shows where the photographer was apparently standing. An ‘x’ marks a spot on a public road, so far from the chateau where the couple were staying that you can barely make out the building itself. The perspective makes any argument against the right to privacy seem laughable, yet they continue. The editor-in-chief of Denmark’s Se og Hør magazine, which published a 16-page supplement of the photos, has implied Kate must accept some responsibility for “willingly revealing her breasts towards a public road”.
The story prompts questions about why there is such a market, and therefore audience, for these pictures. As others have pointed out, it is not as though there is any dearth of bare breasts, consensually exposed and shared, on the internet. The answer involves a familiar combination of desire and humiliation. There is an interest in seeing not just any breasts, but all breasts, a sense that female bodies are public property, fair game – to be claimed, admired and mocked.
Paparazzi culture has been a problem for decades, but it has taken on an especially sinister, sexualised hue in recent years. In 2008, for instance, a photo agency announced that Britney Spears definitely wasn’t pregnant – by posting pictures of her in period-stained knickers. Emma Watson has said that on her 18th birthday she realised that “overnight I’d become fair game … One photographer lay down on the floor to get a shot up my skirt. The night it was legal for them to do it, they did it. I woke up the next day and felt completely violated.” At the Leveson inquiry, towards the end of 2011, Sienna Miller said that for years she was “relentlessly pursued by 10 to 15 men, almost daily … spat at, verbally abused … I would often find myself, at the age of 21, at midnight, running down a dark street on my own with 10 men chasing me”.
While we associate this experience specifically with celebrities, we arguably all live in a paparazzi culture now. Cameras are ubiquitous, as is the technology to share and publicise pictures instantly. The throb of surveillance plays out in different ways. On the more benign side are the mild nerves many people feel when an email pops up to tell them they have been tagged in a Facebook photo, an image that could be from any moment in their life – recent or historical – now public, and open for comments.
But it also plays out in more insidious ways. This includes the creepshot websites, and others where people collect images of ordinary women they have culled from around the internet. Julia Gray, co-founder of anti-street harassment group Hollaback London, says she was horrified when a picture of her ended up in one of these groups, an image of her at her best friend’s birthday party. “We were really drunk, I fell over, and my friend took a picture that happened to capture my boobs down my shirt.” When she saw it in her friend’s Flickr album online, she was completely relaxed about it; in that setting it was just an innocent, funny image. But then it was appropriated, “and in the context of all the other pictures – upskirt shots and down-top shots – it became incredibly creepy. All of a sudden it was this weird, voyeuristic thing, and I felt really preyed upon.”
Then there is the evidence that young women are being coerced into taking suggestive pictures by their male peers, badgered in a way that is distinctly paparazzi-like. Teenagers today have grown up in an environment filled with both paparazzi pictures and images of ordinary women with their tops off. We live in the land built by gossip and lads’ magazines over the past decade. Heat magazine ran its Circle of Shame feature for years, encouraging young women to look at their female peers, deride them for ugliness, and simultaneously police their own appearance. Nuts magazine went into nightclubs and asked women to flash for them. Zoo magazine asked readers, “What kind of tits do you want for YOUR girlfriend?” in a 2005 competition that offered £4,000 worth of surgery in return for pictures of readers’ girlfriend’s breasts.
This has been the formative environment for today’s teenagers, and in a small-scale but fascinating NSPCC study published this year, researchers spoke to 35 students at two London schools, and found “peer surveillance and recording was normalised to the extent that many young people felt they had few friends they really ‘trusted'”.
A girl in her second year at secondary school whom the researchers spoke to reported that the demand “Can I have a picture of your tits?” occurred daily. If boys managed to get these photos, they immediately became a form of currency for them, and potential humiliation for the girls. Male interviewees spoke about posting these pictures to “exposure sites” on Facebook, profiles set up especially for this purpose.
Allyson Pereira, an anti-bullying advocate from New Jersey, has had that experience first-hand. Now in her 20s, she was 16 when her ex-boyfriend – the first boy she had dated – said he would get back together with her if she sent him a topless picture. She did, and he immediately “sent it to everybody in his contact list,” she says, “and it just went viral”. She found out when everyone started laughing at her, and calling her a whore. Her mother initially said they would have to move, former friends called her disgusting and teachers made jokes about it. Six months later, Pereira felt so lonely that she attempted suicide. Having planned to become a teacher herself, she abandoned the ambition, because: “I would have had to explain to every single [employer] about my past, because you never know when a picture like that is going to resurface.” She didn’t go to university, because she felt too vulnerable. The photo is still out there, she’s sure, and although her anti-bullying work gives her pride, feels her life will always be tainted. “I don’t like public places,” she says, “I’m still bullied sometimes now if I go out. I have people who call me a whore.”
In recent years a genre of websites dedicated to sharing humiliating pictures of women – and occasionally men – has cropped up, known as “revenge porn” sites. The idea is that vengeful people can post humiliating, sexual pictures of former partners, photos often clearly intended for personal use only, if they were taken with consent at all.
Charlotte Laws first encountered these sites in January this year, after her daughter Kayla, who is in her mid-20s, had her computer hacked. In Kayla’s email account was one topless photo she had taken of herself – it hadn’t been shared with anyone – which was then posted on a notorious revenge porn site, Is Anyone Up. She was distraught, and Charlotte, an author and former private investigator, spent 11 days, non-stop, working to get the picture taken down. One of the nastiest aspects of the site, which has since closed, was that humiliating photographs would be posted alongside details of the person’s social media accounts, so they were immediately identifiable.
Laws wanted to find out more about the experiences of those whose images ended up on the site, so began an informal study. She called 40 people – a few men, but mainly women, reflecting the site’s make-up – and says that 40% had had accounts hacked, while others were victims of vengeful exes. She spoke to three teachers, one of whom had lost her job due to the site, and another whose job hung in the balance. One woman was terrified the photos would be used against her in a custody battle. Another had seen her business ruined – even though the nude images the site ran alongside her social media profiles weren’t actually of her. There was a woman who had taken pictures for her doctor, of her breasts bandaged after surgery, and those had been hacked from her computer and posted. All the pictures were open to biting discussion of looks and desirability.
Laws has been researching possible legal routes for victims of such sites, which has brought her into contact with Mary Anne Franks, associate professor of law at the University of Miami. “What unites creepshots, the Middleton photographs, the revenge porn websites,” says Franks, “is that they all feature the same fetishisation of non-consensual sexual activity with women who either you don’t have any access to, or have been denied future access to. And it’s really this product of rage and entitlement.”
Franks finds it interesting that the response to these situations is so often to blame the woman involved. Ali Sargent, a 19-year-old student and activist, says in her school years there were a few incidents of girls being filmed in sexual situations, without their knowledge or consent, and the attitude of other girls was dismissive at best – displaying that dearth of sympathy that distances people from the thought that it could ever happen to them. “It was mostly just, ‘well, she was pretty stupid,‘” says Sargent.
Franks echoes this. She says the argument goes: “‘You shouldn’t have given those pictures to that person’, or ‘You shouldn’t have been sunbathing in a private residence’, or ‘You should never, as a woman, take off your clothes in any context where anybody could possibly ever have a camera’. That’s been shocking to me, that people aren’t just outraged and furious about this, but they’re actually making excuses for this behaviour, and blaming women for ever being sexual any time, at all.
“Even in a completely private setting, within a marriage – it couldn’t be any more innocuous than the Middleton situation – and yet people are still saying things like: what was she expecting, she’s famous and she’s got breasts, and therefore she’s got to keep them covered up all the time. I do think it’s a rage against women being sexual on their own terms. We’re perfectly fine with women being sexual, as long as they are objects and they’re passive, and we can turn them on, turn them off, download them, delete them, whatever it is. But as soon as it’s women who want to have any kind of exclusionary rights about their intimacy, we hate that. We say, ‘No, we’re going to make a whore out of you’.”
Heterosexual male pedophiles do this too. During my summer vacations in Poland as a kid, adult-figures have always warned us of pedophile men attempting to take creepshots of little girls, and that if we notice it happening we need to run away as fast as we can to get home. Not just creepshots, but photographing us playing on playgrounds b/c they may photoshop little girls faces on pornography photos or screenshots.
I remember in primary school, there was a metal gate that opened up to housing estate or something so people could literally just walk by and see us.
In like, year 4 or 5, we used to do handstands and stuff and one day the teachers made a rule that you either had to be wearing trousers or shorts under your skirt. It seemed kind of weird at the time because we’d been doing it for ages with no issues until we found out that some guy had started standing outside of the gate taking pictures. We saw him a few times after the new rule had been made but he eventually gave up and left. It was super creepy because he looked like he was in his 50s or 60s.
Yeah, I’m a sex-work critical feminist. I’ve asked about how legalizing sex work affects trafficked/unwilling people and been sexually and otherwise harassed by sex workers for asking a fucking question. I’ve seen sex workers and pro-sex work people literally tell people to ignore any negative accounts of other former sex workers/people sold into sexual slavery.
I think the idea of prostitution could hypothetically work if it were in a society where we didn’t have thousands of years of sexism still affecting us but that’s just not the case. And even then the very idea of it still treats sex like a commodity.
I’m not anti-sex work because EEW SEX, I’m anti-sex work because I don’t think our society is capable of practicing it in a way that’s ethical and safe. I don’t want to see vulnerable people harmed and I don’t want men getting the idea that sex is something women have that men must “get” from them in exchange for something else.
I like this post a lot. Thank you. You’re right, with the way the West operates, the already-safe will just be safer, and marginalized workers (e.g. trans WOC, people sold into human trafficking) won’t see one ounce of their struggles alleviated.
Fucking beautiful post.
I’ve met women during my counselling career who are in sex-work as a choice. I’ve met women who are stuck there without hope of getting out. I’ve met women who enjoy it because it sexually fulfills them, and women who hate themselves and their clients. (Trans people too, and that’s a whole other ballgame in terms of privilege.)
There is no one-step answer, and being shouted down - constantly - by people who call themselves pro-sex is unhelpful. I’m not sex negative for believing that every human has a unique psyche and some people are simply not emotionally healthy enough to be selling their body. To me, that’s not even a judgement, it’s just a fact.
Even for the women who enjoy their work in the sex industry, they need to understand that it is not empowering for everyone, it is not always fun, and all sex employers are not equal. Even in NZ we have severely marginalized sex workers who end up paying more to their employer than what they end up with, and the scene is often intertwined with drug abuse, eating disorders and mental health issues.
For the women who enjoy their work - brilliant, go you, don’t forget to use contraception and stay safe, please don’t let anything or any person force you away from doing what you want. But when I talk about the negatives of sex-work, and the effect it has on our society, please do NOT derail the conversation by talking about how your feelings and anecdotes negate all the others.
I found out my girlfriend Fiance was a prostitute working out of a massage 'Spa'. All the time she was working prostitution and coming home and sleeping with me. She gave me an STD and the betrayal and hurt is immeassurable. I found a bank statement of $10,000 while she was living with me for FREE. All I did was LOVE her. But she told me it is not prostitution if the man give her a tip and she likes him if she is single. Her view is cruel and distorted. And I am terribly hurt by this profession. She had to go, so I let her go. But my heart is still destroyed by this. How heartless and cruel. I worshipped her. :(
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Boboo Vman • a year ago
You are a weak sap. Let her be the woman she wants to be instead of trying to control her. You do not have the right to tell her what profession to have or judge her world view. Healthy partners do not worship one another. The fact that you worshipped her and are whining about this on the internet suggests a deeper problem, maybe that she was using you, maybe that you are a loser that let yourself be used. Something is wrong with you.
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I think the reason this made me sad is because I’ve heard this before from some feminists. It doesn’t matter how bad the situation might be, they will twist it to be something “empowering” that the woman is doing that we have no right to judge. STDs are real concern when it comes to the sex industry. To deny it or minimize it is really a manipulation of the facts, and of severe lack of empathy. Another story was from a girl whose father went to prostitutes and he gave his wife an STD because of it. This is an issue feminists should speak about, instead of denying the existence of this important issue that is happening everyday. Even worse is the fact that they have enough common sense to know that this happens but don’t really care that it happens.
Prostitution is not natural or inevitable; it is abuse and exploitation of women and girls that results from structural inequality between women and men on a world scale. Prostitution commodifies women and girls and markets their bodies for whatever acts men have sexualized and want to buy. Rarely are adult men treated this way.
Donna Hughes-http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/demand.htm (via vaginal-power)
Wanted to add this:
I honestly don't think prostitution is a healthy option. Women claim that it makes them sexually empowered. But it actually goes against all ideas of feminism and sexual empowerment. Sexual freedom is when you choose who you want to have sex with. Prostitutes and porn stars do not choose who they want to sleep with, they're basically objects used for sex and paid. It's like using a vending machine and putting some money in it for immediate satisfaction. I don't think I would ever encourage prostitution simply because I believe women are more than objects. They're people not products for sale. It's funny how people immediately suggest poor attractive women to become prostitutes and strippers...nobody suggests that for a male. It's inherently sexist. And if you think prostitution should be supported, would you really recommend it as a valid option for your daughter or sister?
I have been in the escorting world for the last five years and it is not a profession I would recommend to anyone. Although I have met lovely people along my journey and the fast money has assisted in fulfilling financial goals, the emotional toll of this profession is immensely high and albeit, very difficult to put into words. All my life I had aspired to be a wife and work in the health industry so failing so miserably at 2 major life ambitions before age 25 was devastating. I still can't identify how or why, but a short time later I ended up dabbling in the escorting industry. At first I was elated as it seemed that this was the first thing in my life where I actually attained success-clients seemed to enjoy my company (despite what some people still believe, there is much more to escorting than mere sex), I got a great flow of regulars, travelled around Australia on tours and for the first time, actually felt like what I was doing was making a difference in people's lives. I developed a holistic bond with many of my clients, many of whom had endured health conditions and marriage break - ups themselves. Not surprisingly, I found I connected better with clients at least decade older than me. It was all rosy at first and escorting facilitated a few, namely financial goals. However, five years later I want more than anything to leave the industry, I'm completely warn out, feel used and abused, watched my friends get married, have babies, fulfil career aspirations whilst vicariously wishing that was me. I have not had a partner in over 5 years, I guess I just want to protect people I love from this world- it would not be fair to drag a partner into it. However, depression issues, feeling completely directionless with my life, not to mention an incomplete education, has left me feeling that there is no way forward. I have no idea what the future holds or how I will get out of the rut I'm in now....I dream of being happy, one day married with children and in a fulfilling career....right now I feel like I'm at the end of road and I don't know how to cultivate the energy or even where to start in fulfilling other endeavours- I guess I just feel like everything has been taken from me and I have nothing left to give. Although escorting may seem like a quick fix, or even like a glamorous alternative to the norm I urge anyone who is considering this profession to please, please seek an alternative path. Escorting causes inextricable damage and your life will never be the same again-trust me I know xx
Not sure why old men like to prey on me. It’s really so sad. I’m 22, they’re married with kids, but will try to flirt with me and make uncomfortable comments. I used to think I was crazy and it was all my head. Now that I’m older I realize they do this on purpose. They know how uncomfortable this make a girl/woman feel. They are purposely trying to pressure me, follow me online and off, find ways to get me alone, make comments, and “accidentally” invade my space, and otherwise push themselves on to me.
It makes me lose faith in marriage and love. I don’t want to marry and have to worry that my husband is preying on other women, especially young ones.
It’s not in your head, trust your gut. You know when someone’s making you uncomfortable, and someone is treating you like an object or prey.
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